changing habits

Changing Habits Of A Lifetime

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Changing Habits Of A Lifetime

Free WebinarMelanie Greene

Chartered Occupational Psychologist

Consultant, Trainer, Coach & Writer

www.inspiretransformation.co.uk

Melanie GreeneChartered Occupational

PsychologistConsultant, Trainer, Coach &

Writer

www.inspiretransformation.co.uk

Why Is It Important to Change Our

Habits?

My BackgroundMy Background Melanie Greene

Chartered Occupational Psychologist

NLP Master Practitioner

Buddhist

Set up my own business in 1991

Been a trainer, coach and consultant for 25 years

Free monthly coaching newsletter, Inspire, since January 2006

1st book: Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom published in 2008

2011: creating online programmes

Visit www.inspiretransformation.co.uk for lots of free resources

Melanie Greene

Chartered Occupational Psychologist

NLP Master Practitioner

Buddhist

Set up my own business in 1991

Been a trainer, coach and consultant for 25 years

Free monthly coaching newsletter, Inspire, since January 2006

1st book: Master Your Inner Critic, Release Your Inner Wisdom published in 2008

2011: creating online programmes

Visit www.inspiretransformation.co.uk for lots of free resources

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What do we mean by a habit? What habits do you have? Good or bad?

Input on a model of change to help you to change habits/create new positive ones.

What do we mean by a habit? What habits do you have? Good or bad?

Input on a model of change to help you to change habits/create new positive ones.

Six month Intensive Coaching For Excellence Programme

Intensive coaching to change your mindset related to achieving specific goals.

Monthly telephone coaching sessions.

One face to face catalytic coaching session.

Weekly personalised e-coaching.

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‘We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act,

but a habit’

Aristotle

‘We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act,

but a habit’

Aristotle

What ‘good’ habits do you have?

What ‘bad’ habits do you have?

Habit = a settled tendency or usual manner of behaviour, an acquired pattern or mode of behaviour.

Routine = a regular course of procedure; habitual or mechanical performance of an established procedure.

Why is it hard to change habits or create positive new ones?

Why is it hard to change habits or create positive new ones?

• Our motivation is coming from the wrong place - we think we ‘should’ or ‘ought’ to do it versus wanting to do it.

• We get something positive from our current behaviour.

• We know what to do, but something inside us stops us.

Logical Levels Of Change

Robert Dilts

Logical Levels Of Change

Robert Dilts

This is my version of Robert Dilts’ model

What do you want to change?

Logical Levels of ChangeWhere To Start To Change?

Spirit/Purpose What else?What else?

Identity Who?Who?

Beliefs Why?Why?

Competence How?How?

Behaviour What?What?

Environment Where/when?Where/when?

EnvironmentWhen? Where?EnvironmentWhen? Where?

Choosing the right time and place to…

• Talk to someone about a potentially difficult topic.

• Ask your boss for a raise.

• Exercise.

• Have a quiet moment (e.g. of parents getting up 15 minutes before everyone else).

• Re-organising your office or desk space to improve efficiency.

BehaviourWhat?

BehaviourWhat?

We often know how to behave but something inside us holds us back…

• Are you assertive in one situation but not another?

• Are you disciplined about exercise but not food or vice versa?

• Are you confident talking to a group of strangers rather than people you know?

CompetenceHow?

CompetenceHow?

This is about what goes on in your head when you think of something:

• What do you see, hear and feel?

• Is it positive or negative?

• How does this impact on your behaviour?

Competence in action

Close your eyes relax and think about something you don’t particularly like doing … see, hear and feel whatever there is to see, hear and feel.

Now open your eyes, how do you feel?

Competence in action

Close your eyes relax and think about something you really like doing, or take yourself back to a place you really like to be … see, hear and feel whatever there is to see, hear and feel.

Now open your eyes, how do you feel?

CompetenceHow?

CompetenceHow?

• How you represent things in your mind has a profound impact on how you feel, how you behave and your competence.

• Visualise success, transform your thoughts.

BeliefsBeliefsThink about what you want to change …..

• What are your beliefs about the situation?

• What are your beliefs about the other people involved?

• Will these beliefs help or hinder you in changing?

Identity What are your beliefs about yourself?

Identity What are your beliefs about yourself?

Complete the following statement at least 10 times…

I am …..

E.g. I am a woman

I am an occupational psychologist

I am caring

Spirit / PurposeSpirit / Purpose

Your purpose: What gets you up in the morning? What motivates you? What inspires you? What gives your life meaning?

Your spirit: What raises your spirits?

Your purpose: What gets you up in the morning? What motivates you? What inspires you? What gives your life meaning?

Your spirit: What raises your spirits?

Apply this to your life…..

What is it you want to change?

What might stop you from changing?

At what level in this model is the block at?

What can you do to overcome, find ways around or minimise the impact of this block?

Actions to take to overcome these blocks…

• Do activities which lift your spirit.

• Be clear about your purpose.

• Challenge and change your beliefs about yourself (your identify), about others and the situation.

• Change the pictures and messages in your head - visualise success.

• Behaviour: is it really a new behaviour to learn or something to unblock at a higher level?

• Environment: choose the right time and place.

Do you want support in changing habits?

Our Six Month Intensive Coaching For Excellence Programme is for you ….

Do you want support in changing habits?

Our Six Month Intensive Coaching For Excellence Programme is for you ….

Monthly telephone coaching sessions.

Weekly personalised e-coaching.

One face to face catalytic coaching session.

Free access to learning materials.

Email mg@inspiretransfromation.co.uk now to apply and receive a free audit of your development needs.

Monthly telephone coaching sessions.

Weekly personalised e-coaching.

One face to face catalytic coaching session.

Free access to learning materials.

Email mg@inspiretransfromation.co.uk now to apply and receive a free audit of your development needs.