collaborate dont dominate

Collaborate Don’t Dominate

Lynne Kenney, PsyDwww.lynnekenney.com

The Discipline Trap

Stay Out of Damage Control

Prepare, plan, practice and preview to prevent.

Misbehavior is Brain Function

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The 98% Rule

Why Children Misbehave

•Developmental Delays•Executive Function•Illness•Low blood sugar•Over-stimulation•Boredom•Misunderstanding•Sabotage•Anxiety

Is it a skill deficit or willful non-compliance?

The Three-Part Strategy

• Feed the brain and fuel the body

• Move around the defensive brain for more effective engagement and better behavior

• Move to Think

Consider The Whole Child

Whole Food Builds Calm Brains

• Power Greens (Kale, collard, swiss chard, spinach, romaine)

• Omega-3s (ground flax seed, walnuts, wild salmon, shrimp, fortified eggs)

• Water• Proteins• Vegetables and

fruits

Moving Around The Defensive Brain

What percentage of the time is your communication:

Five Steps To Better Behavior

• Communicate (Who what when where how)

• Elaborate (I hear you saying)

• Demonstrate (What does it look like?)

• Collaborate (We agree to)

• Transfer the skill (Can you show us how?)

• Make the children mentors (Can you please teach another person)

• Empathize ~ Collaborate ~ Offer New Words and Actions

• Tell a story• Bounce a ball• Walk it out• The Thinker Makes Good Choices• Chant, sing, draw, The Ruby Books

Skill Analysis

Can he do it?If yes, expect itIf no, teach it

The Brain Knows What It Needs

• Consistency, reliability and mastery• Movement• Nutrition• Patterns• Rhythm• Oxygenation