introduction to the concept of "equally-yoked" relationships

Equally-yoked “Relationships”

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DefinitionsDefinitionsConceptsConcepts

PerspectivesPerspectives

“Hook Up”Cultural/Casual

1. A specific time when two people meet to join in – together- for a mutual event, or,

2. Two individuals from diverse backgrounds form a cheap/easy intimate relationship, or...

3. An epiphany moment-a time- when a certain couple are shaking hands and discover that they are ‘equallyoked.’

- Slang Dictionary/Urban Words- Slang Dictionary/Urban Words

Morality o ..is a valuable ‘personal’ code, based on..o …a set of spiritual values, that…o ....affects attitudes, motives, and there

for..o ..effecting an individual’s trademan’s

skills, appropriateness of behavioral patterns, and the upholding ethical and legal societal standards.

- Word Meanings / Philosophy- Word Meanings / Philosophy

“Positive Regard”o Also, “unconditional positive regard” o Means: …a complete acceptance, love,

favor towards of an individual – especially those who are ‘equallyoked’, also...

o …parents who devotedly and deliberately indoctrinate their children with a ‘clear’ sense of ‘civil identity’ in a multicultural society with respect for the child’s future.

- Word Meanings / Psychology- Word Meanings / Psychology

“Soul-mates” A couple who experience their very first

sexual encounter together and their baby is born out of that union are “Soul-mates”1 for life and,..

..a couple who bond with each other, falls deeply in love and is the happiest they have ever been with each other are “Soul-mates”2 and,…

..a couple who are ‘married’ and truly “equallyoked” are “Soul-mates.”, i.e., of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ “civil-identities.” 3

- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

“Endogamy” Endogamy means, “In-marriage” – and is

when an individual according to his/or her own social customs1…(Comment: this maybe more like community health-a social mores or an actual religious ‘law’)….

….marries another individual within his or her own cultural2 “Social group”*.

*Note; a “Social group” may be a village, a tribe, a sect or cult, a geographic region, or a de facto ‘Civil identity’, etc.

- Sociocultural Anthropology- Sociocultural Anthropology

“Intimacy” Latin: Intimus, “innermost” The process of “..stating or making

known” one’s innermost thoughts, moral values, and feelings.

…sharing something from the inside… Genuine intimacy in human relationships

requires dialogue, honesty/transparency, vulnerability, and mutual reciprocity.

- Word Meanings / Philosophy- Word Meanings / Philosophy

“Unequally yoked”

- Internet Search - Internet Search

“Equallyoked”o Equallyoked, (is pronounced, Eek quel ee yoak‘d)

and is when a couple-who believe in, bonds with, and marries one other purposefully of the same (or nearly the same) ‘Civil identity’* thus are multi-cultural society, ‘equallyoked’1.

o * ‘Civil identity’ is a Social Psychology term -describing a collective of features concerning an individual’s present ethnicity, political party membership, race and color, religious membership, disability/handicap, age group/ generation, sexual orientation and marital status.2

- Introduction to Social Psychology- Introduction to Social Psychology

- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

Also, ‘equally yoked’Also, ‘equally yoked’

“Civil Identity”• Ethnicity: Scandinavian-American• Political Party: Registered Green Party• Race: Anglo Color: Light complexion• Religion: Fundamental Bible Christian• Disability: None Known• Gender: Female Sexual Orientation: Heterosexual• Marital Status: Single/No previous marriagesCouples who share: the ‘same’ (or very similar) ‘civil

identity’, identify with each other, share beliefs, bond with one another, commit to marriage - living in a multicultural society are considered to be ‘equallyoked’.1

- Introduction to Social Psychology- Introduction to Social Psychology

Simple Example:

“Equallyoked”• The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally yoked) …

an adverb:• “Equally” - means “alike” 1, in a “balanced”

manner, “the same” or to “the same” degree of, etc. an verb:

• “Yoked” - means (Latin; jungere ‘to join‘) 2, something fastened around the neck to joined together, burdened with.

in history:• Evolved from synonyms, with similar meanings,

such as: Equitably, Fairly, Justly3

• Sentence: “They were an ‘equally yoked’ couple from families of just ordinary means.”

- Word Meanings - Etymology- Word Meanings - Etymology

(also, equally yoked)(also, equally yoked)

“Life Partner”• A “Life Partner” refers to a lifetime,

romantic and very close “mate”. A couple who are truly ‘life partners’ are ‘equallyoked’.1

• It is true that ‘life partners’ usually develop strong platonic relationships as a mutual serious long term goal together.2

• ‘Life partners’ may based their relationship on moral/or immoral grounds whether married/ monogamously or can be individuals such as divorcees/celibate.3

- Introduction to Social Psychology- Introduction to Social Psychology

Sharing of…• Vision & Mission in

life.1

• Activities of Daily Living & Routine.2

• Reflection of meaning of life & Devotion to duty.3

• God, Religious Beliefs & Spiritual Values.4

• Family life & Friendships.5

• Good Health & Preferred Enjoyments.6

- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies

..a Social Phenomena

– A couple (usually a heterosexual dyadic) who are of very similar or the same ‘Civil identity’ 1

– Any couples who are bonded together and who are of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ Civil identities…2

– A marital couple who marries-with their backgrounds related to their ‘Civil identities.’ 3

- Sociology 101:Social Phenomenology- Sociology 101:Social Phenomenology

- Introduction to Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

Multi-cultural Statistics Caucasians (European)

- Marrying amongst those who were from their own tribes, social culture, and nation.1

Negrozoids (Africa)- Marrying amongst the same in their own areas.2

South Americans (Indians)- Intermarrying within their own (native) peoples.3

Oriental (Asians)- Couples’ mates were often chosen by their own parents from own family lineage.4

- Sociology 101- Sociology 101

“Equallyoked”• The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally

yoked) probable came about from the Bible – wherein Jews marrying Jews, Muslims marrying Muslims, Christians marrying Christians, etc, etc, etc.1

• It is a phenomena that exists in all multicultural societies-peoples of the same de facto ‘Civil identity' marrying one another for reasons of self-esteem, religious beliefs, and preserving the integrity of their family identity-for abiding in social mores (contributing to) community health.2

- Word Origins/Philosophy- Word Origins/Philosophy

(also, ‘equally yoked’)(also, ‘equally yoked’)

- Sociology 101- Sociology 101

Dyadic: Social Psychology

Equallyokedtarians are of interest to social psychologists because they represent dyadic groups of the same ‘Civil identity.’1

Couples who primarily choose to bond and marry together ‘because’ they are the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ ‘Civil identities’, among other reasons, may contribute to marital longevity-staying together for a lifetime as * evidenced.2

The measured ‘self esteem’ of individuals of a marital couple who marry with backgrounds related to their own ‘Civil identities’ are worthy of marital satisfaction studies as well.3

- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

“Boundaries”• I will not wait for

anyone.1

• I will halt unequal relationships.2

• I will not idealize others.3

• I will conduct my life by inspired truth.4

• I will assert against any disrespect.5

• I will abide in social ethics and laws. 6

-- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies

Social Perspectives“Equallyokedtarians” are those people-who

areare ‘equallyoked’ yet having varying points of views* about marriage:1

* Liberals: a couple marrying one another while sharing in vague beliefs, i.e., explained as the same ‘spirit’ or attitude about some issue.

* Moderates: marrying one another r/t ‘very similar’ civil identities-close enough for them.

* Conservatives: marriage between two people who share the same or fairly ‘equal’ ‘Civil identities’. 2

- Introduction to Social Psychology- Introduction to Social Psychology

- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

“Coupling up”….• Nonequallyoked

– Couples who do recognize equallyokedtarianism as a social mores and yet for their own ulterior motives still choose to violate social mores as an rash option.1

• Unequallyoked– Couples who are naïve, thus inadvertently

demonstrate opposition to equallyokedtarianism-as a social mores.2

• Anti-equallyoked– Couples who are a bit mentally/emotionally

disturbed and are deliberately active against proper socialization, contrary to equallyokedtarianism and social mores,3

- Introduction to Social Psychology- Introduction to Social Psychology

……in a ‘hook up’ culturein a ‘hook up’ culture

Why “Equallyoked”?• Motives - a couple who are ‘equallyoked’

may do so for a variety of reasons-some of which include: – Beliefs about life, self-image, truth and God, death, etc. – Bonding for long term love, romance, and sex. – Marriage, family/children, and financial goals.1

• Self esteem – individuals with a clear sense of self-marrying someone of a ‘like’ civil identity.2

• Family identity – to maintain the integrity and the longevity of the extended family identity.3

• Social mores – a preserved cultural standard in a multicultural society for the sake of community health.4

-- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

Pronunciation: “Eek quel ee yoak‘d tar ee ins” 1. Definition: - are any individuals who by choice,

i.e., purposefully choose to bond with and marry another of the same (or very nearly the same) ‘Civil identity’*, within any culture are called, ‘Equallyokedtarians’ – i.e., couples ‘equallyoked’.2

*Recall: a ‘Civil identity’ - describes a collective of features about a person’s present: ethnicity, political party membership, race and color, religious membership, disability/ handicap, age group/ generation, proper sexual orientation, and marital status.3

-- Introduction to Social Psychology Introduction to Social Psychology

…….are couples who are .are couples who are ‘equally yoked’‘equally yoked’

“Equallyokedtarians”

“Social Mores”The term ‘Social Mores‘* refers to…. • “Social” meaning - to associate in a social way, i.e., “folkways”, socializing, socialization 1, • “Mores” - concerns that of moral codes, mental health values, standards, spiritual ideologies 2. • *Also, customs, proper conduct/etiquette, health behaviours/norms, healthy lifestyle. 3

• Use in a Sentence: “Their family abided in good social mores that reflected their sense of integrity.” 4- Word Meanings - Etymology- Word Meanings - Etymology

adjective adjective

plural noun plural noun

..a Public Health Issue As a Public Health Issue, Equallyokedtarianism as a

social mores – is a phenomena observed amongst the most conservative segments of a multi-cultural society.1

Marriage Family and Child Psychology addresses the Self-esteem of the individuals who are (or aren’t) equallyoked as an important issue in mental health/ emotional health/ and naturally, self-preservation, as well as of the integrity of their family identity.2

As a Civil Rights issue, justice of the peaces-as civil servants who perform marriage ceremonies attaching a signature may be held responsible as attesting to the competence (or incompetence) of the individuals present while performing marriages considering community (psychosocial) health matters.3

- Introduction to Public Health- Introduction to Public Health

An “Unprefered”–Yoked…

A Couple:• One very fat weight – one very skinny weight• One very poor income – one very rich income• One is very ‘sociable’ – one is very ‘homebody’• One talks very fast – one talks very slow• One very tall in height – one very short in height• One highly educated – one lowly educated• One ill mannered – one well mannered1

- The True Phenomenology of “Opposites Attract”- The True Phenomenology of “Opposites Attract”

“Love” is a… ..a conscious, meaningful, and focused

attention towards a ‘special’ mate1 and, ..a person toward whom love is shared;

a dearly beloved; an ‘equallyoked help meet’, an ‘heterosexual’ love mate2 and,

..a ‘feeling’ of warm personal attachment or deep affection for, as for a sweetheart, or as for a spouse.3

- Word Meanings / - Word Meanings / PhilosophyPhilosophy

“Social Forces” Equallyokedtarians are the most targeted

social groups for destruction by world tyrannical powers there is in global multi-culturalism.1

Degradation of people’s ‘self esteem’ comes from the of demise of family and destruction of individual “Civil identity” by the powers2 that be in order to attain and maintain governmental rule.

The empowered liberal: media, public education, and multicultural secularism perpetuates community ‘amalgamation’ for the sake of ‘cultural confusion’ - and in such, thereby ruining the individual identities of a country’s peoples.3

-- Concepts in Social Psychology Concepts in Social Psychology

“Un-equally Yoked”

• Out of place priorities.

• Misused gifts.

• Unconfessed sin.

• An unforgiving spirit.

• A wrong association.

• Killing God for secularistic pleasure.1

- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies

…an “Art and Science” Couples-who are bonded together and who are

“equallyoked help meets”- amongst a class are worthy of (scientific) study-not unlike those who aren’t.1

…the study of theoretical equallyokedtarianism as an ‘social science’ and as a (humanities) ‘art’ - as an inquiry into biologic “genetic wholesomeness.” 2

A marital couple who becomes engaged-with (freedom of) intension of preserving the integrity of their family identity related to their backgrounds and related to their ‘civil identities.3

--The Humanities & Biopsychosociocultural SciencesThe Humanities & Biopsychosociocultural Sciences

“Equally-yoked” Principles

On the Same Page: Love Mapping. Nurturing: fondness and admiration. Face-to-face: in total sincerity. Sharing: in each other’s personal power. Co-solving: solvable-problems and

overcoming any gridlock/barriers. Creating: communication with shared

meanings as valuable moments.

-- Marriage & Family Therapy Marriage & Family Therapy

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