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Moving on from

Narcissistic AbuseDue to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

By Jeni Mawter

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Alon Gratch, If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your Heart, Harmony Books, New York, 2005, Page 37

“If you are a giving, supportive

person who avoids center

stage and thrives on taking care of others you are at

risk for Narcissistic Love”

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Whether you were born into a NPD family

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Chose a relationship with an NPD person

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Or met your NPD in some other place

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You have experienced Narcissistic Abuse

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In the beginning you don’t recognize it as Narcissistic Abuse

You just know ‘something is wrong’

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It takes a long time to see the ‘cycle’ or repeated ‘patterns’ of abuse

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So the abuse goes on and on

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You wonder if you’re going crazy ?

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You lose your sense of selfhttp://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/1375494209_i_don_t_know_who_i_am_by_wasted49-d65uw4o.jpg

You lose your trust in others

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You lose your trust in your own judgements and perceptions

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You no longer believe your past It is built on lies and deceit

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People you considered important, no longer count

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You lose your dreams for your future

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You lose your belief inhuman decency

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You must acknowledge and grieve these losses

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You may have signs of Complex Post Traumatic Stress

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You are often exhaustedhttp://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/14

Remember “Knowledge is Power”http://www.dontforgettothink.com/myimages/knowledge_is_power.jpg

With power you can change

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Change Your

Thinking

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Stop trying to change the NPD

into something they’re not

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Stop trying to fix the NPD Relationship

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You can’t cure a NPD with love or attentionhttp://www.pwnage.ro/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/epic-love-fail.jpg

Stop feeling sorry for the NPD

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Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? Then you’re a likely source for

Narcissistic Supply

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Are you a Codependent?

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Are you hoping for ‘Happily Ever After’ ?

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Still believe in super heroes?http://piximus.net/media/1752/retired-and-old-superheroes-8.jpg

And that the good guy always wins?

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Think again … http://livenerddierepeat.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/how-a-bad-guy-dies-in-the-wasteland.jpg

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Take back your control

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Change your mindset

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Realize you fell for an illusion

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Grieve the relationship you never had

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Why did you fall for an NPD?

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The NPD identified your inner wounds

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The NPD told your wounded inner child

exactly what it wanted to hear and you felt great

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To move on from Narcissistic Abuse

You must work on your wounds and chemical addiction

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Why were you drawn to the NPD’s charisma ?

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Beware “The Halo Effect”

It clouds our judgement

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NPDs are ‘A soul with no footprints’ Caution: Quote by Invicta Ma, 28 Jan 2009

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You are a soul with your own thoughts, fears, hopes, spirit, future,

dreams

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The NPD must feed off your soul

You are the strawberry

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You ask ‘Should I let them go?’

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Let them go

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Why give the abuser control ofyour power, your energy, your

life?

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Change your expectations

Do not expect: … an NPD to make sense

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Do not expect:… validation from an NPD

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Change your expectations

Do not expect:… an NPD to take the blame

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Do not expect:… an NPD to compromise

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Change your expectations

Do not expect: … an NPD to be responsible

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Do not expect:… an NPD to apologize

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Set boundarieshttp://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/11/99/b5/1199b509ae0f1445f4fd5fad0632bcf7.jpg

Limit contact, set clear boundaries

or use a mediator

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No Contact means …

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No emailsNo phonesNo lettersNo instant messagingNo communication via a 3rd party

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The NPD keeps coming back because of an insatiable need for

Narcissistic Supply

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An NPD person won’t let you go

no matter how hard you fight

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Stop the Cycle of Abuse Stop being the source of Narc

Supply

AttentionAdulationComplimentsAdmirationSubservienceShowing fearLiking themBeing manipulatedBeing deceived ww.educationviews.org

Reclaim your Inner peace …

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… or suffer the consequences

Is this what you truly want?

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The NPD abuser always returns It is part of the ‘cycle’and need

for Supply

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Ignore NPD tools of manipulation

Guilt

Fear

Pity

Threats

Violence

Blackmail

Financial abuse

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Build and educate your support network

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Arm and educate yourself/others about High Conflict Divorce

Protect yourAssets

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Stop blaming yourself The Narcissistic Abuse has

happened!

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