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Moving on from
Narcissistic AbuseDue to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
By Jeni Mawter
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Alon Gratch, If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your Heart, Harmony Books, New York, 2005, Page 37
“If you are a giving, supportive
person who avoids center
stage and thrives on taking care of others you are at
risk for Narcissistic Love”
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Whether you were born into a NPD family
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Chose a relationship with an NPD person
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Or met your NPD in some other place
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You have experienced Narcissistic Abuse
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In the beginning you don’t recognize it as Narcissistic Abuse
You just know ‘something is wrong’
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It takes a long time to see the ‘cycle’ or repeated ‘patterns’ of abuse
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So the abuse goes on and on
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You wonder if you’re going crazy ?
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You lose your sense of selfhttp://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/1375494209_i_don_t_know_who_i_am_by_wasted49-d65uw4o.jpg
You lose your trust in others
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You lose your trust in your own judgements and perceptions
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You no longer believe your past It is built on lies and deceit
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People you considered important, no longer count
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You lose your dreams for your future
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You lose your belief inhuman decency
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You must acknowledge and grieve these losses
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You may have signs of Complex Post Traumatic Stress
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You are often exhaustedhttp://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/14
Remember “Knowledge is Power”http://www.dontforgettothink.com/myimages/knowledge_is_power.jpg
With power you can change
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Change Your
Thinking
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Stop trying to change the NPD
into something they’re not
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Stop trying to fix the NPD Relationship
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You can’t cure a NPD with love or attentionhttp://www.pwnage.ro/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/epic-love-fail.jpg
Stop feeling sorry for the NPD
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Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? Then you’re a likely source for
Narcissistic Supply
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Are you a Codependent?
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Are you hoping for ‘Happily Ever After’ ?
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Still believe in super heroes?http://piximus.net/media/1752/retired-and-old-superheroes-8.jpg
And that the good guy always wins?
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Think again … http://livenerddierepeat.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/how-a-bad-guy-dies-in-the-wasteland.jpg
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Take back your control
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Change your mindset
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Realize you fell for an illusion
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Grieve the relationship you never had
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Why did you fall for an NPD?
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The NPD identified your inner wounds
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The NPD told your wounded inner child
exactly what it wanted to hear and you felt great
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To move on from Narcissistic Abuse
You must work on your wounds and chemical addiction
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Why were you drawn to the NPD’s charisma ?
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Beware “The Halo Effect”
It clouds our judgement
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NPDs are ‘A soul with no footprints’ Caution: Quote by Invicta Ma, 28 Jan 2009
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No empathy, sympathy, remorse. http://th00.deviantart.net/fs70/300W/i/2010/144/d/6/Heartless_and_Soulless_by_MyLittleDuckie1116.jpg
You are a soul with your own thoughts, fears, hopes, spirit, future,
dreams
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The NPD must feed off your soul
You are the strawberry
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You ask ‘Should I let them go?’
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Let them go
Letting go means gaining control http://www.zengardner.com/files/Letting-Go-Open-Hands.jpg
Why give the abuser control ofyour power, your energy, your
life?
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Change your expectations
Do not expect: … an NPD to make sense
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Do not expect:… validation from an NPD
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Change your expectations
Do not expect:… an NPD to take the blame
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Do not expect:… an NPD to compromise
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Change your expectations
Do not expect: … an NPD to be responsible
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Do not expect:… an NPD to apologize
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Set boundarieshttp://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/11/99/b5/1199b509ae0f1445f4fd5fad0632bcf7.jpg
Limit contact, set clear boundaries
or use a mediator
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No Contact means …
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No emailsNo phonesNo lettersNo instant messagingNo communication via a 3rd party
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The NPD keeps coming back because of an insatiable need for
Narcissistic Supply
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An NPD person won’t let you go
no matter how hard you fight
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Stop the Cycle of Abuse Stop being the source of Narc
Supply
AttentionAdulationComplimentsAdmirationSubservienceShowing fearLiking themBeing manipulatedBeing deceived ww.educationviews.org
Reclaim your Inner peace …
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… or suffer the consequences
Is this what you truly want?
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The NPD abuser always returns It is part of the ‘cycle’and need
for Supply
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Ignore NPD tools of manipulation
Guilt
Fear
Pity
Threats
Violence
Blackmail
Financial abuse
Character Assassination http://img.gawkerassets.com/img/182n8u0ce8lxgjpg/ku-bigpic.jpg
Build and educate your support network
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Arm and educate yourself/others about High Conflict Divorce
Protect yourAssets
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Stop blaming yourself The Narcissistic Abuse has
happened!
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Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to-narcissistic-personality-disorder-compiled-by-jeni-mawter
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim-syndrome-a-powerpoint-by-jeni-mawter