narcissistic abuse recovery support: let go of inferiority and take back your power

Letting Go of Inferiority and Taking Back Your Power

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If you’re dealing with a narcissist, or you’ve dealt with one before in a relationship, chances are that you’re struggling with something really personal - your self-esteem, self-worth and general perception of your own value as a person.

You might even be suffering from a bit of an inferority complex.

But starting today, that’s over. You’re about to learn what to do to stop feeling like a victim and start acting like someone who deseves to be happy - because, my friend, you do. You are a SURVIVOR and I’m going to help you become a thriver!

See, we're all inferior to others in some fashion.

Everyone is different. However, there's a difference between not having all the talents and skills you wish to possess and holding the belief

that you're fundamentally flawed.

How does one develop an inferiority complex? What's the solution?

Creating an inferiority complex requires a lot of effort. It's not easy to take a couple of perceived shortcomings and convince yourself that you're

totally incapable and ineffective.

But even though it might take effort and energy to develop an inferiority complex, as humans,

we're quite capable of limiting ourselves in this way.

The good news is that you can reverse this process! But how? How do you

overcome such an ingrained tendency to put yourself down?

Well, how about we start here?

Use these strategies to conquer your inferiority complex and feel your

confidence soar:

1. Avoid generalizations. It might be true that you're short, fat, or messy.

Nevertheless, that hardly suggests that you're unintelligent or lack a sense of

humor.

You have to start focusing on the things you LOVE about yourself, not the things you want to change. You have to

change your perception.

If you struggle with focusing on the good, try this exercise.

First, you’ve got to figure out exactly what it is that makes you feel bad about yourself. So start by making a list of your

characteristics that make you feel inferior.

Ask yourself: To whom do you feel inferior?

Successful people? Your co-worker, or your narcissist’s new supply? In what

ways do you think they are better than you?

2.You need to know that Inferiority complexes arise from wanting to be like

someone else. You're unique and you can never be a better "Alice" than Alice is. Avoid trying. You can't impersonate

someone else while being true to yourself.

Clearly, you aren’t able to be anyone but your delicious self.

In fact, the truth is that as soon as you try to be someone you're not, you send yourself the message that you're not

good enough.

3. Be dreamy but realistic. It's common to fall into the trap of believing that one perceived flaw is causing all of your challenges. All or nothing

thinking is dangerous. Your life won't magically improve in every way because you find a new guy

to date, lose 20 lbs., or buy those $700 boots you’ve been eyeing - BUT don’t be so realistic

that you put yourself into a state of not being able to receive the good things in your life.

4. Consider what you need to stop feeling inferior. Is overcoming the flaw

that concerns you under your control? If you're over 18, you're not likely to get any taller. However, you can increase your income or enhance your social

skills.

* Imagine that you have that new characteristic. Does it feel natural? Or

do you feel as if you're pretending to be someone else? Redefine and clarify

your vision until you feel comfortable in it.

5. Have a friend list your best qualities. You don't have an accurate opinion of yourself, but a good friend could list

your strengths. Ask for examples if you don't believe them. It's hard to be accurate when judging yourself.

6. Control your self-talk. The low self-esteem and pessimism that are

rampant in an inferiority complex are affected by the words you say to yourself. You can say things that

support the belief that you're inferior, or you can be your own best cheerleader. It's your choice! Monitor your self-talk

and keep it positive.

* Try saying the opposite to yourself than what you first tend to think: "I

can't do anything right" becomes, "I can do anything I set my mind to."

7. Focus on your victories. There are things that you successfully accomplish each day. Many of

them are small. Getting to work on time or remembering your friend's birthday are worthy

accomplishments.

Get yourself a pat on the back for everything you do well each day. It's not easy to get through the

day successfully. You're doing better than you think.

8. Realize that others aren't focusing on your shortcomings. Inferiority is rooted

in the idea that others think little of you. The truth is that most people

aren't thinking about you at all.

* It's easy to prove to yourself. Go to the mall and visit several stores. Act in an unusual way (for you) in each store.

Limp in one store. Stutter while in another store. You get the idea. Notice

that no one reacts.

* Everyone else is too busy with their own issues to concern themselves with

yours. You're much freer than you realize.

Feeling inferior in some ways is common and might even be accurate. However, you're not inferior in a way that limits your life unless you allow

your imagination to get the best of you.

Focus on your strengths, control your self-talk, and understand that no one is watching. Letting go of your inferiority

complex will bring you the joys of newfound confidence and freedom.

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Have you experienced this kind of pain in the past? Are you struggling with a bit of an inferiority complex now due to a

current or previous relationship with a narcissist?

Share your thoughts and experiences, as well as any tips that worked for you, in the comments. You never know who you can help!

Questions? Comments? Things you wanna talk about? Leave me a

comment or email me at angyatkinson@gmail.com.