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Rachel Cipriano, MHSE3+Fire

Speaker/ Author/ Coach

www.rachelcipriano.comrachelcipriano@ameritech.net

630-701-4827

Blog: http://www.rachelcipriano.com under ‘Musings’

SELF-ACCEPTANCE VS. SELF-ESTEEM

• SELF ACCEPTANCE------Embracing all facets of ourselves; strengths, weaknesses. Acceptance of our humanity.

• SELF-ESTEEM-------How valuable/ worthwhile we see ourselves.

SELF-ACCEPTANCE VS. SELF-ESTEEM

PERFECTIONISM

A disposition to regard anything short of perfection unacceptable.

DAVID BURNS, MD

• “Remember that fear always lurks lurks behind behind perfectionism.

• Confronting your fears and allowing allowing you yourself the right to be human can be human ca paradoxically, make you a happier, make you a f more productive person.”

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SYMPTOMS OF PERFECTIONISM

1) Judgmental 2) Chronic dissatisfaction 3) Controlling 4) Negativity 5) Anxiety 6) Depression

PERFECTIONISM AND ITS SPECIFIC FEARS

• Rejection

• Failure

• Success

• Inadequacy

MASK FEAR WITH PRIDE

TOOLS FOR SELF-ACCEPTANCE

• Accept yourself like you would accept a good friend

• See your “bad” traits in a positive light• Stop judging yourself• Allow yourself the luxury of failure

PARADOX OF SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND SELF-ACTUALIZATION

THEY REQUIRE-------- HUMILITY:

“The state or quality of being humble; freedom from pride and arrogance; lowliness of mind; a modest estimate of one's own worth.”

“Humility does not mean a person is low in self-acceptance, is self-sacrificing or self-critical. It is self-assurance that is without self-centeredness and which has the courage to value other people.”

SELF-ACTUALIZATION

• Self-acceptance • Humility• Leadership/ Service to others• Cooperation• Joy• Humor• Passion• Energy

Rachel Cipriano, MHSE3+Fire

Speaker/ Author/ Coach

www.rachelcipriano.com

rachelcipriano@ameritech.net

630-701-4827