self management becoming-more_assertive

Becoming More Assertive

Causes of Unassertiveness

Fear of rejection, humiliation, criticism or anger.

Causes of Unassertiveness

Feared consequences are projections arising from unrealistic anxieties.

Causes of Unassertiveness

When we don’t feel good about ourselves, we tend to devalue our abilities, thoughts and feelings.

Causes of Unassertiveness

Low self-esteem leads to lack of assertion.

Causes of Unassertiveness

Lack of skills needed on the job or in other situations contributes to unassertiveness.

Causes of Unassertiveness

We’re afraid of embarrassing ourselves, of looking stupid, being too aggressive or too emotional.

Causes of Unassertiveness

As we grow, we are rewarded for certain types of behaviors and punished for others.

Causes of Unassertiveness

If you don’t know yourself, you may not attain and progress in your ideal job.

Causes of Unassertiveness

If you have clear goals, you’ll have higher self-esteem and be more likely to assert yourself.

Causes of Unassertiveness

Many people fear self-assertion will displease others.

Causes of Unassertiveness

People often fear looking foolish or hurting others’ feelings.

Causes of Unassertiveness

We develop habits and continue to be unassertive because it’s familiar and easy.

Causes of Unassertiveness

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Recognize your need to change.

Take care of yourself - physical, intellectual, social and emotional needs.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Enhance your confidence - know what you can do and what you want.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Practice being assertive.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Clarify and pursue your mission.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Have a positive outlook. See the glass as half full, rather than half empty.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Put faith in your ability to make good things happen.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Challenge your irrational beliefs.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Convey the impression that you are in charge and entitled to lead.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Learn to confront and say “no.”

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Be political. Know when to open your mouth and when to keep it shut.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Maintain perspective. Don’t let what happened yesterday affect what will happen tomorrow.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Watch your body language.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Present yourself positively. Claim the recognition that is rightfully yours.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Ask for what you want.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Participate in meetings and other group activities.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Learn from colleagues and friends you feel are assertive.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Associate with positive, supportive people.

Actions Toward Assertiveness

Becoming More Assertive