welcome to session 5 the quest for authentic manhood

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Session 5Session 5

The Quest for Authentic ManhoodThe Quest for Authentic Manhood

““And so And so I wasn’t thereI wasn’t there to see him to see him as as he began to sink into himselfhe began to sink into himself..

I wasn’t there to sense that I wasn’t there to sense that he might be driftinghe might be drifting toward that toward that

unimaginable realm of fantasy and unimaginable realm of fantasy and isolation that it would take nearly 30 isolation that it would take nearly 30

years to recognize.”years to recognize.”Lionel DalhmerLionel DalhmerA Father’s StoryA Father’s Story

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The glory of sonsThe glory of sonsis their fathers.is their fathers.

Proverbs 17:6Proverbs 17:6

ABSENT FATHER WOUNDABSENT FATHER WOUND

An on-going emotional, An on-going emotional, social or spiritual social or spiritual deficitdeficit

ordinarily met in a ordinarily met in a healthyhealthyrelationshiprelationship with Dad that with Dad thatmust now be overcomemust now be overcome

by by other meansother means..

1.1. Anger and painAnger and pain

And fathers, do not provoke And fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,your children to anger,

but bring them up in thebut bring them up in thediscipline and instructiondiscipline and instruction

of the Lord.of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4Ephesians 6:4

Fathers, do not exasperateFathers, do not exasperateyour children, that theyyour children, that they

may lose heart. may lose heart. Colossians 3:21Colossians 3:21

1.1. Anger and painAnger and pain

2.2. Extreme behavior and Extreme behavior and addictions or obsessionsaddictions or obsessions

1.1. Anger and painAnger and pain

2.2. Extreme behavior and Extreme behavior and addictions or obsessionsaddictions or obsessions

3.3. An inner sense of lostness or An inner sense of lostness or incompletenessincompleteness

1.1. Anger and painAnger and pain

2.2. Extreme behavior and Extreme behavior and addictions or obsessionsaddictions or obsessions

3.3. An inner sense of lostness or An inner sense of lostness or incompletenessincompleteness

4.4. HomosexualityHomosexuality

1.1. Time togetherTime together

1.1. Time togetherTime together

2.2. Life SkillsLife Skills

Train up a child in the Train up a child in the way he should go; way he should go;

even when he is old even when he is old he will not depart from it.he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6Proverbs 22:6

1.1. Time togetherTime together

2.2. Life SkillsLife Skills

3.3. Direction with solid “why” Direction with solid “why” answersanswers

And these words, which I am And these words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your commanding you today, shall be on your heart; and you shall teach them to your heart; and you shall teach them to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the in your house and when you walk by the

way and when you way and when you lie down and when you rise up.lie down and when you rise up.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7Deuteronomy 6:6-7

1.1. Time togetherTime together

2.2. Life SkillsLife Skills

3.3. Direction with solid “why” Direction with solid “why” answersanswers

4.4. Convictions through modelingConvictions through modeling

You are witnesses, and so is God, how You are witnesses, and so is God, how devoutly and uprightly and blamelessly devoutly and uprightly and blamelessly

we behaved toward you believers; just as we behaved toward you believers; just as you know how we were exhorting and you know how we were exhorting and

encouraging and imploring each one of encouraging and imploring each one of you as you as

a father would his own children.a father would his own children. I Thessalonians 2:10-11I Thessalonians 2:10-11

1.1. Time togetherTime together

2.2. Life SkillsLife Skills

3.3. Direction with solid “why” answersDirection with solid “why” answers

4.4. Convictions through modelingConvictions through modeling

5.5. Dad’s heartDad’s heart

““This is my beloved Son, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well-pleased; in whom I am well-pleased;

listen to Him!” listen to Him!” Matthew 17:5Matthew 17:5