Bullying

The Bully, The Bullied &

The Bystander

Definition of Bullying Conscious, willful & deliberate hostile

activity intended to harm, induce fear of further activity and create terror.

Imbalance of power Intent to harm Not a one-time event If escalates, systematic violence used

to intimidate and maintain dominance

Bullying

Verbal Bullying: name-calling, taunting, belittling, cruel criticism, personal defamation, racist slurs, sexually suggestive/abusive remarks

Physical Bullying Relational Bullying: ignoring,

isolating, excluding or shunning

Types of Bullies

Confident bully Social bully Fully-armored bully Hyperactive bully Bullied bully Bunch of bullies Gang of bullies

The Bullied Once targeted by a bully, how a child

responds will influence whether or not he/she moves from target to victim.

If a kid succumbs to the attack-gives the bully what is demanded by showing distess, fear or apathy; or fails to responds assertively (or aggressively)-he changes both emotionally and physically.

The Bullied

The guilt, shame and sense of failure felt by a target unable to cope with the brutilization contribute to the destruction of his/her sense of well-being

How bystanders respond to both the bully and the target have a tremendous influence on how emboldened the bully becomes and /or how weak the target gets.

The bullied are ashamed of being bullied; they are afraid of retaliation if they tell an adult; they don’t think anyone can/will help them.

The Bystanders Supporting cast who aid and abet through

acts of omission and commission Actively engaging with the bully or

cheering on causes more distress to the child who is bullied, encourages the antisocail behavior of the bully and puts the bystanders at risk of becoming desensitized to the cruelty or becoming full-fledged bullies themselves.

The Bystanders

Decreased sense of individual responsibility

Hinders children from developing empathy, compassion and perspective taking

“There are no innocent bystanders”

The Bystanders Peers were involved in some part in

85% of bullying episodes Reinforced the bully in 81% Active participants in 48% Intervened on behalf of the bullied in

13% Peers were more respectful and

friendly toward the bully than the bullied.

The Bystanders

Bystander is afraid of getting hurt himself.

Bystander is afraid of becoming a new target of the bully.

Bystander is afraid of doing something that will only make the situation worse.

Bystander does not know what to do.

Bullying

35% of kids were directly involved in bullying incidents.

Bullying peaked in 11-12 year old age group.

38% of students identified special education students were targeted compared with 18% of other children.

24% reported race-related bullying. 21% of the children bullied and 71% of

the teachers reported that teachers intervened often or almost always.