clergy ethics ppt for participants
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Presentation Power Point for March 2012 Clergy Sexual Ethics training in MichiganTRANSCRIPT
Detroit & West Michigan
Conferences
March 19, 20, & 21, 2012
Psalm 119:10-16
“I am single-minded in my
pursuit of you; don’t let me miss
the road signs you’ve posted.
I’ve banked your promises in the
vault of my heart so I won’t sin
myself bankrupt. Be
blessed, God; train me in your
ways of wise living.
I’ll transfer to my lips all the
counsel that comes from your
mouth; I delight far more in what
you tell me about living than in
gathering a pile of riches. I
ponder every morsel of wisdom
from you. I attentively watch
how you’ve done it. I relish
everything you’ve told me of life,
I won’t forget a word of it.”
Putting This Conversation
in Context
Boundary Violation – any
violation of sacred trust
“…It is not wrong because it
violates norms. It is wrong
because it violates people.”
Sexual
Misconduct
Sexual
Misconduct
Sexual
Harassment
Sexual Abuse
Sexual
Harassment
Sexual
Misconduct
Sexual harassment
Sexual Abuse
Sexual Misconduct
Sexualized
Behavior
Power and Vulnerability
Video
Power and
Vulnerability
Power and
Vulnerability
Questions for
Reflection
Power and Vulnerability
Dating &
Friendships
Video
Power and
Vulnerability
Dating and
Friendships
Power and Vulnerability
Dating &
Friendships
Power and Vulnerability
Gifts
Dating &
Friendships
Power and Vulnerability
Gifts
Transference Dating &
Friendships
Clergy Ethics &
Multi-Media
Technology
Do you have a cell
phone?
Three of the world’s most popular
brands online are
social-media related
YouTube
Wikipedia
Video
Power and
Vulnerability
The Growth
of Social
Media
Perception
Privacy
Personal
Feedback
The Pastor,
The Internet,
AND
Pornography/Obscenity
Pornography – sexually explicit material that portrays violence, abuse, coercion, domination, humiliation or degradation for the purpose of arousal
Obscenity – “hard core porn” pornographic material that is beyond what majority of society will tolerate
Pornography/ Obscenity:
What’s the Difference?
1.What are your personal markers
to alert you when your energy and
spirit are low?
2.What needs do you have right
now?
3.What needs are not being met?
“Shadow Self”
by Carl Jung
Conflict
Danger + Opportunity
“You're blessed when you're
at the end of your rope.
With less of you there is
more of God and his rule.”
Matthew 5:3
The Message
M – meditation
E – exercise
D – diet
S – sleep
S - support
Counseling
1. In which areas are you
trained to counsel?
2. How many sessions?
3. Where do you counsel?
Pastoral Care Visits
1. What boundaries have you developed?
2. Does anyone know who you visit, where or when?
3. In what ways do you offer compassion and care without becoming enmeshed in the situation?
Dual Relationships
1. In what ways do you guard against dual relationships?
2. Who is your lover/partner/spouse’s pastor?
3. What boundaries do you establish when a dual relationship is unavoidable?
Technology
1. What guidelines have you developed regarding the use of your phone? Text messages? To whom is your cell number given?
2. What personal boundaries have you developed regarding information sharing on-line?
3. What guidelines have you established regarding facebook “friends” who are congregation members when you move to another appointment?
1. How do you care for yourself spiritually, emotionally, and physically?
2. In what ways do you meet your needs beyond the setting of ministry? List the activities in which you engage that are unaffiliated with your role as a pastor.
3. In what ways do you seek to meet your needs for love, intimacy and affirmation as a person?
If someone is drowning, secure yourself before you swim
out to save them. Otherwise both of you will drown.
