How to Create a Vision

for Your Marriage

Dr.  Melinda  Harper    DrMelindaHarper.com    

How  to  Create  a  Vision  For  Your  Marriage  

Here’s  what  you’re  going  to  do  and  discover  during  this  workshop…    

• Discover  the  Purpose  of  a  Vision    

• Write  a  Family  Mission  Statement    

•   Vision  Board  BONUS!!  Clarify  Action  Steps  for  one  of  Your  Identified  Goals    

How to Create a Vision

for Your Marriage

Get  a  Clear  Vision  

• Discover  the  Purpose  of  a  Vision    

• Write  a  Family  Mission  Statement    

• Vision  Board  

Where  there  is  no  vision,  the  people  perish:    but  he  that  keepeth  the  law,  happy  is  he.    Proverbs  29:18  

Vision  

Can you relate?

Communication

Sex

What  do  couples  fight  about?    

Helps  you  gain  clarity  to  achieve  your  hopes  and  dreams.    

Vision  

Our  Story  

•  Poor  Communication  •  Lack  of  Motivation  •  Indifferent  •  Lost  of  Hope  •  Lack  of  Direction  

Our  First  Attempt  

Small  Beginnings    

The  Family  Mission  Statement    

• Discover  the  Purpose  of  a  Vision    

• Write  a  Family  Mission  Statement    

• Vision  Board  

The  Family  Mission  Statement    

A  family  mission  statement  is  a  written  statement  of  what  you  want  your  life  and  family  to  be,  and  the  values  by  which  you  will  live  your  life.    

•  How are we going to live our lives? •  What values are we going to use to help us make major decisions?

•  What are our priorities? •  What are our family values? •  Are we spending the majority of our time on our priorities or are we being distracted with things that aren’t important to us?

Let’s  do  the  work!  

1.  What  kind  of  spouse  do  you  want  to  be  to  

each  other?  2.  How  do  you  want  to  be  treated  by  each  

other?  3.  How  do  you  want  to  go  about  resolving  

conflict?    

Three  pronged    Family  Mission  Template    

To….  (Do  something)  In  such  a  way  that…..  (How  and  in  which  manner)  So  that….  (We  gain  these  results  or  benefits)  

To….  (Do  something)  In  such  a  way  that…..  (How  and  in  which  manner)  So  that….  (We  gain  these  results  or  benefits)  

To  realize  our  dreams,  goals,  and  aspirations  as  a  family  and  as  individuals  in  a  way  that  stretches  our  intellect,  enriches  our  faith,  strengthens  our  character,  and  enriches  our  family  life.  So  that  we  are  fulfilled,  happy,  confident,  and  always  close.  

•  To….  (Do  something)  

•  In  such  a  way  that…..  (How  and  in  which  manner)  

•  So  that….  (We  gain  these  results  or  benefits)  

• Discover  the  Purpose  of  a  Vision    

• Write  a  Family  Mission  Statement    

• Vision  Board  

Materials    

=  

Family  Vision  Board  DAD   MOM  

CHILD  2  CHILD  1  

FAMILY  VISION  

•  Look  at  your  vision  board  often  and  feel  the  inspiration  it  provides.  

•  Hold  it  in  your  hands  and  really  internalize  the  future  it  represents.  

•  Read  your  affirmations  and  inspirational  words  aloud.  

•  See  yourself  living  in  that  manner.  •  Feel  yourself  in  the  future  you  have  

designed.  •  Believe  it  is  already  yours.  •  Be  grateful  for  the  good  that  is  already  

present  in  your  life.  •  Acknowledge  any  goals  you  have  already  

achieved.  •  Acknowledge  the  changes  you  have  seen  

and  felt.  •  Acknowledge  the  presence  of  God  in  your  

life.  •  Acknowledge  the  Law  of  Attraction  at  work  

in  your  life.  •  Look  at  it  just  before  going  to  bed  and  first  

thing  upon  rising.  

Reflect  before  you  start    Lay  it  all  out  Lock  it  in  See  it  Do  it  

Bringing  it  all  together    

Reflect  Before  You  Start  

Lay  It  All  Out    

Lock  It  In  

See  It    

See the future you

Do  It  

BONUS    

Lose  10  pounds  in  a  month  (30  days)  

Measure  by  weighing  myself  at  7:00  am  

2  pounds  a  week  

Lower  blood  pressure  and  fit  into  party  dress  

30  days  –  March  1-­‐  April  1  

No  gym  membership   Work  out  at  home  when  the  family  goes  to  bed,  do  it  in  the  morning  

Lower  blood  pressure,  reduce  or  get  off  meds,  and  lose  50  pounds  total  for  the  year.  

How  to  Create  a  Vision  For  Your  Marriage  

Today  during  this  workshop  we  …    

• Discovered  the  Purpose  of  a  Vision    

• Wrote    a  Family  Mission  Statement    

•   Looked  at  the  parts  Vision  Board  

BONUS!!  Clarified  Action  Steps  for  one  of  Your  Identified  Goals    

Thank You

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