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HPA hosts benefit on New Year's Eve

HdpingPeopfewith AIDS Inc (HPA) will host the second annvial New Year's Eve benefit, "An Evenk^ whh the Stars'* on Dec.31 at Harro East Qub at 9 pjn.

A silent auction will highlight the evening, featuring various Broadway show posters which have been auto­graphed by their casts, and which were donated by Broadvvay Cares, an extension of Actor's Equity Union in New York City.

Rochester's Howard Kilbury will pro­vide dinner music on the piano. The menu, climaxed b}' a champagne toast at midnight, will include platters of fi-esh fruit, sliced sirloin of beef, chicken French, herbed new potatoes, wild rice, steamed v^etabJes, pasta salad, tossed green salad and l i ^ t desserts. Free park­ing is available at the dub's Andrews St. location.

Tickets are $35 f>er person, and are availahfc by caffir^ the HPA iriftjnriation line,^S7-1853, or by mailing your or­der to HPA, P.O. Box 1543, Rodiester N Y . 14603-1543. Payments will be ac­cepted by Mastercard, Visa or check, but aH otders must be teceived and con­firmed by Dec. 27.

HPA is a not-for-profit volunteer board which employs no staff, and is dedicated to siyporring and maintaining a high quality oflifc for people living with HIV/AIDS in a nine-county area. Duiing A c past nine years, HPA has raised neariy $500,000, and 100 per­cent of thc net profit fix>m all events goes toward direct svq>port services.

GAGV challenges "cure" conference

I h e Bd^itDn Pcesbytedan Church co-sponsored a conference on "curitr^* g ^ and kslMan pcojJe on Nov. 8-lZ TTie Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley (GAGV) re^xxided at apress confer-cTKeonNov. 12 \Aich was covered by most ofthe local media.

During the press confererKe, GAGV rq^cesentatives and others dbaUenged the idea that g ^ and lesbtan p e c ^ can or need to be "cured." They pointed out that you can (hange a person's bdiavior, but not their sexual orientation.

The conference was a project of Malachi, a ministry ofthe Br ix ton Presbyterian Chutch \^hkh encourages g^y men and ksbians to'leave thc ho­mosexual lifestyle."

GAGV members vitho openly at­tended the oonference said t i :^ ocxifer-ence partic^)ants not oniy condemned hcmiosexuality, but claimed that die rnariy bcal diucches of difiefent denotni­nations which welcome lesbians and g ^ HMi arc "not true Christian people."

Conference pfltticyflnts blamed par-erits fbr "niakine their chSdren homo­sexual" t h i x H ^ neglect and abuse.

I h e oqg^Kitzexs stated that one of their gpcds is to "ouoeach" to tficfafger oom-muni^ and tiy ID apiead their ideology bcyofid ^ihose fewnrfio ate in^sifed tD have sudi a nmustry." The GAGV»

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Heather Skye wins Miss Gqy Rochester title an Ntm, 13. More photos o n p . I J . Photo by DougMes^ler.

Cuomo, Burstein defeats signal hard times for New York gays; local pro-gay candidates win

By Susan Jofdan The mess£^ was mixed for g ^ and les­

bian Rodiestcfiaf^ on Nov. 8. The victo­ries of Rqxihticans Geoige Pataki as Gov­ernor and Dennis Vacoo as Attorney General representa smous setback for gsy dvil r ^ ^ in New York State (any g ^ i^its iriitiatives plarined by the Cuorno administrarion will now be dropped), but local candidates backed by die Rodi­ester gay community were winners.

In die Rochester area. Rep. Louise Sa t^ t e r , New Yodc State Sen. Ridiard DoOir^er, N.Y5. Representatives Mary EUen Jones, Susanjohn and others rec­ommended by the Lestaan and Gay Po­litical Caucus PAC retained their seats.

Saug^ter, who was targetsed by the Re­publicans in a series of nasty TV ads, won re-dection by 57 percent ofthe vote. In another bitteriy contested race, Mary EDcn Jones beat her Republican oppo­nent Card McManus t y only 232 votes. Dollinger won easily over Republican R a ^ Quattrodoochi, who said a week before die decrion that "the gay com­munity*' is one ofthe "special interest groi;f>s (whidi) arc running this countiy."

Karen Burstein, the c^>enly lesbian can­didate for N.Y5. Attorney General, k d RepuLdican Conservative Dennis Vacco, an opponent of reproductive rights, t h r o u ^ most of the race, but ultimate^ took 47 percent of the vote, compared to Vacco's 50 percent

Burstein said in her concession ^seedi, "I'm g ^ I ran. One day people will icadi past their fears of difference to thc point that joins us in communi^^. I msy have lost this campain , but I won my sdf."

Ana^rsts ddaate whether homophobia played a major part in Burstcin's loss. Vaooo chaigpd ckiring the campaijgp diat Burstein would seek to advance a '*g^ agenda." Popster D o i ^ Sdiwartz of Connecticut's Quinn^Mac College said that the issue of crime and the death pen­ally heavily emphasized fay VacoQ^ may hsnie been die dedding factor.

B u t ^ y activists felt that homophobia was crucial. Rep. Deborah Glick, an openly lesbian member of the New York State Assembly, said that she be­lieved that homophobia was "dearly a part*' of Bvirstein's loss.

Dick Dadey, executive director of the En^itre State Pride Agenda, issued the following statement:

'Karen Burstdn's carrqsaign was his­toric — the first time in the history of New York that an open leshian ran for statewide office. Ifyou had asked any New Yorker a year ago if an acknowl-cdgsd ksbian ccxikl run for attorney gen­eral, no one wodd have t h o i ^ t it fea­sible. It is truly remarkable that Burstein won the primary and came within one percentage point (sic) of winning the dection.

**Burstein's campaign is a sign ofthe progress made by the lesbian and gay community. The response fixMTi lesibans and gays in every town and dty across the state to Pride Vole "94—Empire State Pride Agenda's effort to mobilize our community—was unprecedented We were able to contribute over $200,000 to candidates, otg^uiize 500 vcdunteets, and distribute 150,000 p£oes of literature. Wc pcoved that we not only care about tolerance but will work hard to ensure it for everyone.

"Vt'ith t i ^ ekction, our issues become more important, not less. People want change, but they also want ksUans and ^ y s to live fice of discrimination. Anti­gay initiatives went down to defeat in O r c ^ n and Idaho, states where Re-puUicans gained ms^or ground.

'^Peopfe iek ifBufStein lost because she is a lesbian. Because dieie is ix> pteoodent for sudi a taoe in New Yotky or a t^ pboe dse, we do not know. We db know that Deinoctats &ced a RenuhBcan sweq> across tfae couitfty.Wc do know ihat the death penalty was a critkal ficaor in the Attorney GenecaTs lace. Geoige Pataki and Dennis Vacoo fan on a pixxnise to kistitute the death penalty in New Yo ik

Burstein consistently opposed die death penalty throughout her campaign.

'Our batde £)es iK>t erd tocby. We wil build on the organizing effort of Pride Vote "94 and oontinue to ^ u for a broad range of issues of tokrance and fiieedom fiom discrimination in New Yodc state.

communtty IS now a workir^part of the pcfidcal environment, and pditicians pore IS at their own peril Wc expect candidates to rcycMid to our questions. Ifyou don't answer our ques­tions, if you ckn't address in^x»tant is­sues in your canpa^ i , we won't siq^port you, well work against you and for the candidate o four choice.

"As Burstdn stated so ekxpendy in her cctficession ^peedi, T rnay have lost die dection, bttt I have won my s d f The g^y a t ^ lesbian commutiiQ^ won a new sense of otgariizitig csqpacity suid power in Pride Vote *94 that no one can take away fixMTi us.

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E D I T O R I A L To go where no one has gone before: notes of a queer Trekkie

By Susan Jo rdan Skn^Trek the Next Gmeration'ts off i:y&

air now. The producers never did get around to doing the show about gays that Gene Roddenberry aD^odly prcMn-ised before he died.

Oh, there was that show about the androgynous race, one of \(diom went femme and fell in love with Riker, thereby inforiating odiers of her race, who behaved like heterosexual homo­phobes confix)nted with a gay femily member. But the impact of that mes­sage was considerably weakened due to the feet riiat the androgynous race locJced like a bunch of dykes. So the message that actually came across was that ksbi­ans are intolerant of lesbians who skep with men, which is a whole *nodier story in itself, but presumably not the point the script was trying to make.

Over many years of watching Jilar 7m^ S/ar Trek: the Next Generation (ah. Counse­lor Troi...) and Deepspace Nine., I have seen gaseous nebula-creatures fell in love with Captain Kirk, witnessed Spock mind-mdding with a rock-eating silicon monster, and observed the Next Gen­eration and Z ^ fojCwfl? crews become emo­tionally dose to tiny mutating points of light, giant growing jellyfish creatures, asexual gelatinous shapeshifters, and

every organic and inorganic lifeform in the galaxy — cxcq>t one.

In the 24th century, k seems, Starfleet queers are still observing "don't ask/ don't telL"

Wdl, that's not how k went i n / ^ aker-nate reality. The episode I remember fi»m my Subtext \^ewscreen went moce like this:

When Lt. Tasha Yar (having gone through a time warp while existing in an altemate reality) was re-a^tured by her Romulan husband while trying to escape with their baby daughter, she was N O T executed, as that daugjiter (later to become an evil Romulan gen­era^ was led to bdieve. In feet she was spirited away by Q, the Queerest Queen ofthe Q Continuum, that mysterious, omnpotent, somewhat c^iridous race of immortals.

Q took Tasha to a safe refuge on the Planet Clitorys in the Lambda Quad­rant, where, in a leather bar managed by some renegade Borg, she was initi­ated into the fire-eating Amazon cult of the Clitorj^an Avengers.

Meanwhile, hundreds of light years away, the starsh^ Enterprise is cruising through a subspace warp field. Picard, Riker, Worf, Data and Troi are on the b r i c ^ \(hen Troi is suddenty tranqxnted

into nothingness. There is n o s h ^ or planet in the area to \idiich she could have been taken.

Consternation ensues on the Enter­prise, until Wesky Crusher and his alien domestic partner The Travder materi­alize une:^>ectedly, having travded at l i^tspecd d i r o u ^ space-time fix>m a teadance on another plane of existence.

Wesley and The Traveler tell Picard that Q has taken Troi to the Lambda Quadrant Picard orders that the En­terprise head for die Planet Clitorys at warp nine. "En-gage!"

Upon arrival, an away team ccttisistirig of Picard, Riker, Data, Dr. Crusher and Guynan (who has insisted for some un­known reason riiat she be induded) beams down to the planet surfece, where they encounter a leather pageant in prc^iess at the Borg bar,

'Why, this is — the homosexual lifestyle!" exdaims a shocked Picard.

'Jean-Iuc, there's scwnediingwe have to tell you," says Beverly Crusher, put­ting her arm around Giynan, who says, "It's coming out day, Picard. Beveriy and I have been involved with each other for ligjit years. It's time vou knew the trudi."

Picard recoils, speechless, but before he can react, Data and Riker, Axho have

been staring intendy into each other's eyes, suddenly embrace. *'NumberQrid L t Commander Data! What are you d o i r ^ Stop that immediatEfy! That is an ORDER," Picard crks. They igiore hini.

Dr. Crusher \diips out her tricorder and says, *1hete seems to be somediing in the atmoqJiere of this (Janet v^iich is having a very queer effect."

Troi and Tasha enter the bar arm in arm, **You see, I'm not dead after all," Tasha says, *T was rescued by Q, and Tve jcmed t te Clitotyan Averigers. Sorry that Q took Troi without explaining." Thc two excharige a loving glance. "He was over-c^ier to reunite us.We ooddn't oome out on the Enterprise due to Starfleet homophobia, but we fell in love just before I died in one time fiiame and was reborn in the altemate reality."

"Stop, stop," Picard moans, dutch-ing his bald skull with both hands. "I can't take any more ofthis!"

Suddenly Q materializes, dressed as Bette Davis \nJev;ebeL He doses in on Picard, murmuring in a southem accent, '*You know youVe always been secretly attracted to me, Jean-Luc honey." The pink vapors ofthe mysterious Lambda Quadrant swiri around them as Jean-Luc si^is, "At least now I know \diat •Q' stands for."

The Gay Alliance Community Center Forum Presents.

Gay and Lesbian Hot Travel Spots

Glen Skalny of Great Expectations Travel will let you know what are the gayest spots to travel to this year. He will also provkle helpful hints on how to

get the most for your vacatton dollars. The presentatton shouki prove to be a nice escape on a coM winter

night wtiether you are planning to travel or not

Tuesday, January 17 at 7 PM at the GAGV Community Center

179 Atlantic Avenue

GAY? MALE? 50 •\-? Already climbed ihe mountain? F I N A L L Y A P L A C E TO MEET OTHERS WITH S I M I L A R I N T E R E S T S AND H I S T O R I E S ! A §roup is forming for support, socialization and mutual encouragement.

Cone and add your voice to those already encouraged by the idea. This is for you if you are involved, not involved, looking, not lookina. or

An open-house mill be held at the GAGV Community Center, Tuesday, December 13, 7:00 PM. Please call the Gay Source InfoUne at 244-8640 for more information and to let us know you are coming. Hope to see you there. (Cottie atid fittd otit why we will be the " ATLANTIC Five-CT !)

The £ j i ^ Ctesft is published 11 dmes a year (December *nd January combmcd) by the P-mpty Ooset Press for the Gay Alliance o f t he Genesee VaUe\'. Inc. Approxtmately 4500 copies o f each issue are dis ir ibuicd dur ing me first week o f t he mon th , some by mai l in a plain sealed envelope. The publica­t ion o f the name or p h o i o ^ r i p h o fany person or oiganization in articles is n o t an indication o f the sexual or affectional orientation o f that person or thc members o f that organiza­t ion.

For publ icat ion, submit news i tems, letters, stones, po­etry, ads. photographs o r art b)- mail o r in person to die £«sft|> 0»set office by the 1 Sth o f the m o n t h (phocos and camera-ready ads by the 20ih.) Design services fo r non-camera ready ads are available fo r a fee.

For further i n f i xma t ion , please wr i te to thc Bmptf Ck ie t , 179 Atbnt icAve..RochcsterN'Y14<;n7.|23S.or caB (716)244-9 0 % .

TTte EjHp/^ Ckset is thc off icial publ icat ion o f thc Gay Alliance o f t he Genesee Valley. IrK., as scaced in thc bybws o f that organization. Its purpose is to i n f o r m d K Rochester gay comntunity about local and nat iorul gay-rdated news and events; to prcvvide a f o t u m for ideas and creative work f r o m the local gay conununi ty ; to help p romote leadership w i th in thc community, and to be a part o f a nabonal iK twork o f lesbian and g ^ - publicaiions that c x c h a r ^ ideas and seek ta educate.

Part o f our putpoae is to maintain a middle poAition w i t h respect to the entire community. W e must be carci5il t o pffcaent aD viewpoints in a way t m t takes in io consideration the viewa o f a l l — w o m e n , men. people o f color, young and o ld , and thoae f r o m various walks o f bfe.

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nor does it pr in t advenising thai states that the person pictured in the ad is for sale, or thac you wi l l "get " thac panicular person i t you patronize the esubl ishment adver­tised.

Adx'crtisemcnts that are cxpBddy racist, sexist, ageiat o r homophob ic wi l l be refused; advertisements f r om ocgaruza-l ions that arc sexist, racist, ageist f>r anti-gay wi l l also be refused.

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L O C A L & S T A T E N E W S Cute continued firom p. 1 Patents and Ftiends of LesUans and Ga 'S (P-FLAG) and other gay community g r c i ^ fear that ministnes fike Malachi will use what thc P-FLAG newsletter caDed "coerdxr mediods on vulnerabfe or isolated individuals."

Many membets of siq^poilive diurches were present at the GAGV press con­ference:, indudit^ reprcsentatives fiom Ac United OniPch of Ghost, St Mai/s Downtown (Catholic), Unitarian Uni­versalist (downtown). First Unitarian Church, Downtown United Prcsbyte­rian Church, and other More L i ^ t Presbyterian churches.

Volunteer for GAGV auction on Feb. 12

By U n d a Contteras As most of our community becomes

c a u ^ t iq> in the season's turkey and tinsel, a few ofus are thinking ahead to the annual Bid From the Heart auction extravaganza on Feb. 12.

Unfortunately, too few of us have our minds on this most exciting and fian event So the call is now going out for vd­unteers to otxne forward and be counted

Rernember how mudi fun you had last year, catir^ visitirig shoppirg and s i ^ -seeing? This year win probably be even morc of tiie same, onty better! So get ready to raise those delicate little hands and shout, "Me, me, choose me to hdp!"

Nancy Ht^ies is tiie diair of the event, and she has an answering maciiine so you can cafl at any drne to vdhineeer your tinie and/or that Renoir you stashed in the doset because it doesn't match the new naugahyde couch. She's at 334-6865,

or the G A G V at 244-8640. Remember, this event raises a major

amount of tlie GAGV <ypexesk% budget (you know, tlie/re tiie fcJks who bring you aH those terrific services, not to men­tion ttie Film Festival and the Picnic.) Beskles, if you cafl Nancy, she won't have to call you and nag.

Visual Studies offers free video wori<shops

You can leam to use a camcorder, dis­cover the secrets of gtxd l^itif^ sound and edidr^ and find out about low-cost equipment rental and other opportu­nities, at tfie fiee video woricshops at Visual Snidies Workshop (VSW.)

The VSW Media Cemer is ofifering a scries of firee Outreach Workdx3ps in the greater Rochester area. The purpose is to provide trainit^ and encouragement to new and emergir^ video producers, \dbik ^TTeadii^ tiie word alxHit Media Center programs and services.

Six-hour and 124iourworkshc^ ate ofifered Durir^ the six^KHir workshop, partidpants \(Sl have "hands-on" in­struction in tiie planning and sliooting of a videotape. Partic^iants wiD train on tiie Center's HiSmm camera and lighting equipment fiee of diarge. EXrir^ tiie 12-hour workdiop, participants win kam pro­duction tedmiques and iiow to edit thdr programs.

To iicJd a woricsiiop, tiie Nfedia Center says, afl you rieed is a kical oornrnunity or-^inization to act as a sponsor, and sbe to 10 interested partkipants. To anange a workshop for your group, or for more information, call Pia at 442-8676, ex­tension 215.

Wendy Whebn was promoted to the rank of prindpal dancer in 1991, and iias d a n ( ^ as a guest artist tiiroi^iout tiib country, in Europe and in Asia. Nibs Martins, son of rencTwned dancer Peter Martins, ballet master in diief of the New York City Ballet, became a principal dancer in 1993. The production win be directed by Hmothy M. Dn^Tcr, founder and dbnctor of the Rodhester Q ^ Balct Danoets Gaiy-David Shawand Bdan Notris fiom Les BaUets Tiodadero de Monte Cado win also appear in'^Nut-aadoer.**

Anotiier baDetk: treat is coming up in February, when the satirical all-tmle Trockadero tKx^je wifl perform on Feb. 2,kiabenefit few-Rodiester City BaHet For more information, can Rob Ulliman at 461-2100.

LesBaOelsTi^odeademdeMonle CarlodoesUto '"DonQuixote.'' Photo by Ge9$eMd>oiig^

City Ballet plans Dec. ^'Nutcracker," Feb. Trockadero benefit

It's "Nutcracker'' season again. Criti-cany-acdatmed principal dancers fiom the New York Qty Baflet wifl t)e guest artists for tiie Rodiester City Ballet's annual fu t lengdi production ofTdiaikovsky's tjaflet

Wendy Wiidan and Nibs Martins wifl star in t i ^ two perfbrmances sdieduled for Dec 10, at 2 and 8 pjn., at the Theatre on the R k ^ 200 Rage Road West AB seats are reserved Tickets are $15 and $18, and are available at Ticket EjqMiess, 100 East Ave, 222-5000, or t h r o i ^ Tkket Master, 232-1900.

ERICKIPP 1959-1994

Eric Kipp, age 35, of Rochester, surrendered to complications from AIDS on Sept 21, at 11 a.m. in Highland Hospital.

The t>atde was a long and rocky road. He f o u ^ t iiard, but the disease was the winner. He is sadly missed by iiis lover, mate, friend and life parmer Brad Winded, and by iiis sis­ters, iiis friends in town, iiis friends in Buffalo, liis friends at Jones Pond, liis fiiends and femily in Canton, Oliio, and his friend Jack BartheL

May he he with God forever.

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Lesbian, gay man elected in Germany

Two openty gay candklafies t'Cte elected to tfic German Parliament on O c t 16,

QirisdnaSchenkandVoBcerBeckTvon se^s in die BundesCE^ die kfwer house ofpaiiiamefit\(4ikii passes kgidadon and ranfies major treaties. Schenk is co­fbunder of the Independent Women's Associadon and a member of die Party c^Detnocradc Socialism, a party of te^ form Cornmunists fiom East Gennsuiy. Beck is a leader of a Gennan gay o i g ^ -2adon, aid a memba* of die Green Party, ^vdl-koown in Europe for its en^^hasis on ecokig)^ and die i t £^unst po&ution.

Sdienk and Beck's fiardes \von ms^or g tins in the national dection, in oc»itrast to Chancdlor Helmm KcJil's Chrisdan Democrats, which bardy hu t^ on to the majority of seats.

I h e Associated Ptess quoted Beck as saying that he plans to defend all mi­norities and advocate for l^alization of same-sex marriage in Germany.

-Darice Clark, The Washington Blade

Gay Turk is second to win asylum in U.S.

A Turkish gay man has been granted asylum status in the United States.

Serkan Ahan, 22, received a letter on Oct 18 fiom the Imm^ration and Natu­ralization Service (INS) which granted him asylum. In his appJication, he had as­serted that he was harassed, petsecuted and raped by Turkish police and street gang^ because he is g^y. His lawyer tcJd the INS that the Turkish government is "unwilling or unable" to stop anri-gay violence directed ar him.

The INS wrote to Ahan, **It has been determined you have estaUished a weB-fbunded fear of persecution were you to return to Turkey."

Allan's request was the secood ap­proved by the INS since U 5 . Attorney Genend Janec Reno announced hst June diat gsq^ «id ksbims nie eJ Ooie for a^-hrni as members o fa ""particular sodal g ron i " whidi is persecuted in some countxies. I h e first to be sf3{MOved was a Pakistani gay man.

Ahan says diat he hopes to go back to sdiool and uhimatdy to raise a fiunity to hdp replace die fiunily that disowned him in Turkey. He uiged American g3ys to come out; sayir^ *lf I can come here and talk about gpy life, I think they can do the same thing. They shouldn't have any excuse not to come out and £ ^ t for_ their r i ^ t s . "

Suzanne Goklbetg, a stafif attorney at Lambda Lfgal Defense and Educadon Fund, said, "It's a hopefiil sgn that g^y ^^^licants are receiving the same treat­ment as other applicants for asylum."

-Peter Freibuig, The Washinton Blade

U.N. statement on wom^n indudes lesbians

The United Narions adopted a state­ment in mid-October \^iuch says that sexual orientation must be taken into ac­count when addressing women's human r^its woridwide, and that lesbians dxxJd be "induded in the design, devdop­ment and implementation of sttategies for the advancement of women." ' Fifty-four U.N. member countries

adopted the statement at the European and North American re^onal meeting

hdd i l Austria to ptqxttc for the Rxitdi UJsI. Wodd Ccnftience on Women, to be held in Beqir^ Qiina in September 1995.

The Intemationai Gay and Lesbian Human Ri^ t s Commission announced die adoption of the statenwit on Oct 27. The g^nup is wotking to kioease lesbjan visiUi^ at tfae oonference, and has started a letter-writing campaign to pressure die U.N. to uKlude lesbian teprescn-tatives and activities at the conference.

-Darice Clark, Tbe Wdshingfm Bkuk

Republicans take control of Congress

The Rqjublicans took contrd of both houses of Congress on Nov. 8, heralding a period of escalating attacks on gay rights and few hopes of progress on gay issues in the 104th Congress.

'Widiout cjuesdon, tf s a die ter ," said David Smith, an decrion consuhant fcr EME-Y's List, a pro-g3y pditical acrion cornmittec that raises rrioney ftir wonien candidates. "The ri^tward jolt ofthis Congress is going to present a fidd day for anti-gay lunatics like Jesse Helms and his compatriots."

Gay activists were worried about anri-gay measures which have been sitting in committee, and which may now see the l i ^ t of day. One of the most seri­ous concems is for AJDS fianding and related issues.

"It's a disaster," said Phill Wilson, founder of die National Black Gay and Lesbian Leadershp Fomtn, and an oflS-dal with AIDS Project Los Angdes. Wilson expressed concem that the Re­publicans will use AIDS as a "political

food^al/'takit^fiAidffinafked for AIDS to use for oifaer purposes.

AIDS lobbyist Tc»n Sheridan ^ud, "It's a s^gdficsKit diang& Gon4}iece^unk|ue sixatts^

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as ' ^ e ^ H d i m dohes" wcsi Seiuite seats. In additk>n, Rqiidblkans wjli be takit^ over crudal Soiitte committees^ sudi as die Labor and Ifoman Resoumes Coftunktee, whk:h deals with AIDS k ^ ^ t i o n Wid the Em^^oyment Non-Discrimination Act (^ 'f lDA) Kansas Sen Nancy Kassebaum is now in pboe to head that committee; her rating by FIRCF on g;xy issues is 20 on a scale of zero to 100.

The turnover in the House means the loss of 26 representarives who had a HRCF record of votir^ 100 percent pro-gay, and 10 representatives who had a^eed to co-sponsor E N D A As in the Senate, politidans widi consistendy anti­gay records win be taking over positions of power. One of the most vidously anti-gay members ofthe House, Rqi. Newt Gingrich, will become Speaker, and he will oversee the conservative anti-gay, anti-woman, anti-people of color, anti-poor agenda.

About the only positive note was that Oliver North, an ultra-ri^twing ideo­logue, lost the Virginia Senate race to Charies Robb.

David Smith said, "Tt's important that our national groifis get stiong re­main strong, and get stronger to com­bat what they're going to throw at us. It's going to be vety difiScult to cqjeiate pro-activdy in this environment TTie entire country has jolted to the right.

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And-gay measures lose in Oregon^ Idaho

The country's swing to the r ^ t on Nov, 8 did not indude a mandate for the religbus right's anti-gay initiatives.

The two initiatives on the ballot in O t t ^ n and Idaho were defeated, al­though similar measures, M^ iidi will ban kgisbdon protecting gay r^hts, passed in Florida's Alachua Courity and two Or-qgon counties. A state kw prdulHts en-foroemetit of sudi measures in Oregon.

Voters in Oberliti, Ohio approved a pro-g^ diarter ameridment, a r^ a rnea-sure to give retirement benefits to do­mestic ptrtners passed in San Francisoo.

In Idaho, die anti-gay Proposition 1 lost by less than 3,000 votes, out of 406,265 votes cast Some gay analysts attribute the scant maig^ of victory to Mormon voters in eastem Idaho, \ A o leamed just befe«e die decrion that die producers of "Gay Rights/Special Rj^ts," an anti-^y video distributed by Proposition 1 backers, also produce anti-Mormon videos.

In Oregon, Measure 13 foiled, a k h o i ^ by kss of a maig^n than in 1992. While 44 {XTcent of voters supported the anti-gay measure in 1992,47 percent backed it diis year, possibly due to lan­guage which had been toned down

fixun the '92 measure's rhetoric Gay activists in Oregon and Idaho,

anticipating fiiture efiforts by anti-gay hate g r o i ^ , plan to stay in place to continue the fig^t

-Lisa Keen, The Washh^on Blade

Qinton names new AIDS policy director

I^esidcnt Qiman announced on Nov. 10 that Patsy Fkmii^ has been named die new Natic»ial AIDS Pc&y Director.

Fleinii^ has been iriterimAIC)S policy coordinator since soon after Kristine Gebbie r e s i d e d

Many AIDS agendes vtHced ap­proval of Reming> "who was formerfy chief of staflFto the kte Rqx Ted Wdss (D-NY), and more tecently was a top assistant to Donna Sialab, Heahh and Human Servioes Secretary, \dio said that Fleming "lias a sensitive ear, a qdet re­sdve, and a backbone of stoJ, \x^iidi is' exacdy what AIDS issues need in the years ahead."

Some AIDS activists asked whether the Clinton administration has taken the needed actions to increase the ef­fectiveness ofthe AIDS office.

One of Heming's first tasks win be to put together a report on the spread of HIV among adolescents. She announced that she plans to create an interdepart­mental task force on AIDS which wodd indude representatives fiom all federal agendes that deal with AIDS,

Fleming also said that she win work to devdop a new federal HIV acticMi plan;

activists fidt that tfae'Voridng draf^' presented by Kristine Gebbie was too vague.

""Nfy view of die devdopment of diat plan," Fleming said, "is tfaat it has to come finm tfae bottom if). Ithas to be­gin in tfae agendes."

AIDS otg^dzatkkfis "niidi dieetcd tfae new appdntment indude Washington D . C s Whitman Walker CUnic, the National Association of People widi AIDS, the American Foundation for AIDS Research, Gay Men's Healdi Crisis (New York Qty), and die AIDS Action CoundL

W ^ Turner of ACT UP Washr^-ton criticized the ^ )pdntment on the grounds diat Hemif^wJH not be abfe to adbieve much because herposioon has tiot been given e n o u ^ dout. He said dtat fie ^podd Hlce to sec die policy di­rector podtion changed to dK level of an assistant to tfae president reporting directly to Clinton, and with an office in tfae White House.

Fleming said on Nov. 10 that as an African American with a gay son, the qifldemic afi^cts her personalty, and she is commitfiQd to tfae s t n ^ ^ to end the disease.

-Kristina Campbell, The Washittgtm Blade

Black Leadershq) Fonini hosts Feb. conference

TTic Black Gay and Lesbian Leader-shqi Forum, based in Los Angles , wfll host its d^idi annual National Confer­ence and Instttute on Fdx 16-20,atthe

Los Apgjdcs Aitpoct HOtDo and T o w e a The Conference and Insdtutes is tfae

largjestgytficritig of African American lesbians and ffcys in die country.

The oooferenoe tfamie, "Hack Lesbi­ans and Gsr^ Our Families MakcaDif-feretioe," hig^JiE^ tfae positive and di­verse mfystnictures cf Afiican Ameri­can lesbian, g ^ , bisexual and transgender comtnuittnes,oigtfWtfTssay.

Oig^nigeiscaqject around 800 peopte to attend. Conference wodshops and Insti­tute topics \(dl indude leadetsh^, men's and women's issues, grassroots activism, H[V/AIDS, sptitGuaitty, young addt is­sues^ and pddic pdky. Otfaer events wiD indude an awards banquet; an AIDS tnemorial service^ and ectanetiksil services.

The Nalk)nal Kack Gay and Lesbian Leadetsh^ Fomm was founded in 1988 as a wsy for Afiican American le^xans and g^y men to exchange information and address issues &cir^ die communty.

For information and to register, call (213)964-7820.

A|ypea]s Court rules against Joe Steffan

A federal appeals court rded on Nov. 22 diat the Navy had die ti^t to dismiss Joseph Stefi^ fiom the Naval Acadenr^ in 1988, because he is ^ y .

The tdi i^by thc lO^neinber D.C Cir-cdt Court of Appeals reverses the ded­sion by a dvee-judge pand of tfae same court last Novcniier. Steffen's law­yers are considering an appeal

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Leibovitz portraits shatter stereotypes, stigma about HHV B y Susan J o t d a n .^mie LeSiovitz IS best known to die

puhlic fiir her pcovocative photpgTEfihs of Kxk staoE aild odier cefcbrines. But die sufafects ofher ponxatts currentty on ex­hibit at die Geoige Eastrnan House, 900 East Ave:, are a dtfiferent kind of oddxity — T c o p l e l iving widi HIV."

The LdbovitK ^Kiw, whidi rutis d t t o u ^ J a a 15> is aooon^3anied by p ^ e s feom a kxal soapbook,'*A Gadierii^ c^ J i ^ i e , " which was coordinated by the Eastman House and ADDS Rochester Inc. (ARjQ. Eadi p s ^ was created by or in honor of a member of the Rodiester ccMiimunity who is or was living widi HIV.

An openit^ receptioti/fiindraiser win be h d d on D e c 1 at 5:30 p.ni. Mary Rsher, founder of die Eamiy AIDS Net­work, will be present ftir the reception and will speak before die c a n d l d ^ t march fitm die Eastman House to the Liberty Pde , at 8 p jn . TTie minimum donation for the event is $10.

Leflxwiiz's intent fiir the portraits, origi-naHy taken fiir die 1993 **Be Here fix the Cure" campaign for thc San Frandsco AIDS Foundation, was to "shatter ste­reotypes by puttir^ a living foce on the disease." Marianne Fdton, chief curator at the George Eastman House, com­ments that in her cdebrity portraits, Ldbovitz tries to get the sul^ects to act out what it is within themsdves that made them famous. With the HTV portraits, Fdton says, **Leibovit2 adopted a mcxe traditic»ial approach. She worked toget people's trust and got tfaem to look s t ra i^ t at you, and to be tfaere."

Fulton ssttd that Ldbovitz's an is "that part of die show diat speaks direcdy to the tradition ofthe Eastman House — fine prints by photographers. These are fine prints, and the show bears the haD-

marks ofherwoik They are very power-fill and sometimes emotional pictures. There are 13 original portraits, wWdi woe erJaiged to poster si2^ the posters were then written on by tfae subjects."

Fdton sakl diat bodi the or^rial prints and the poster-size versicMis are on dis-jjay. *The people in the portraits come across as strong interestir^ and kiving individuals. Then you see tfadr oomtnents on tfaeir posters, and a whole odier di­mension opens up, and die portraits become even more emotioriaL"

The Eastman House wanted to be part ofthe educational efifort, and to try to bririg in comniunity pazticpation, Fdton said. *The scr^ibook pages fill some of diat need. Some peopfe used photos, and p ^ t e d or wrote on them; others used pctures fiom magazines whkh they cut out One that made a qiedal impression on me has a lop-sided rainbow drawn and cobred in The bottom line reads, T just fixmd out Fm HIV positive, and my

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MeHha boyfiiend and I are trying to find out what that means.' I t l ink diat's gut-wrenching. It's so simple. Tm hoping peopfe win cfcdde to do mcMe ps^es and give them to AIDS Rochester, which win be keepirg the scnpbook. Maybe we can do a scrsq^book exhibit next year."

One of the pages was created by Paula Sflvestione, executive ditector of AIEK Rodiester, in honor of the late Tony Greene, co-fixmder of H ^ i i i g Peopfe widi AIDS, Inc and a board member of ARI. Silvestrone said of the Eastman House exhiWt, **Piiniarily it's an aware­ness canqia^a The more we can do to get the word out about HIV the better. The exhibit is very effi^ctive because youll see concrete and emorional evi­dence of die toll HIV is taking."

Like die NAMES Project AIDS Qdk, Silvestrone said, the scrapbook "is an opportunity for people to submit an ongoing legacy of tfaese people who have touched our lives."

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Slvestrone saki that her contributkxi to die scnfibodt was ^sarked t ^ seeing die *T>ay widiout Art*'show at d ^ fi>mier Jazzberry's on Worid AIDS Day sev­eral years s ^ . ' T felt Td like to take part, but Fm no artist So this was something I c o d d do."

She said that she has wanted to take jJxjtpgt^iis of ARI dierits \3rfiich wodd ftiBow them tfarot^ tfae course of dieir iOness, to show that the epidemk: *% not just a question of numbers." However, she said,'T was rductatu to ask peopfe, because it's such a personal thing, and some peopfe woddn't want to be ^lown as tfadr bodies d^cncrate. Tony and I had die type of tebrionship where I knew thatif he was uncomftMtahle, he*d say so.

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The reception on D e c l wOl indude a sflentaudkin ofbooks by Duane Nfidaeb and Hedi Rit2v and a retroqiecdvc bock on Annte Leibovitz's career, as wdl as other items. All proceeds wffl benefit AIDS Rodiester and tfae George Eastman House.

The show also features a videotape ixMdi 6 shown oootinou^, and concans fix3(3g|e of [Aio to^a i^ sesskxRS and in­terviews widi Ldbovit2, portrait sub­jects, and campaign devel<^iment Go-ocdbatorBai I%es of die San Fcandsoo AIDS foundatiort

The eadiihit came here because of an ifiitiative by Patrick Fisher of Rochester, \dio tdd d ie - f i«^ Gtof *Tn 19931 was on a business t r^ to tfae west coast, and heard about the exhibit At die time, tfaree vety good fiiends (^mine indfeatcd to me d i ^ tfaey were HIV positive. I folt vety eoncemed about it; so I was locJcing fi^r educatiotial posters to put i4> vt^ikii had a positive sbnt—somediing widi pastd cokxs and a hopefi^ catd^irase.

'T seardied Rodiester &r and wkfe," Hsher sakt"and caDedJcff Kost (who I dkln'tknow at diat tinie)at AIDS Rodies­ter, and tdd him I was kx^dr^ fiir HIV posters to hangin my ofiSce because I fdt connected. Jeff said tfaat tfaere was nothing in Rodhester that ofifered tfaat kind of information.

*T caDfid thc AIDS Resource library in Washington, D.C, and they had riotfaing either. Meanvrfufe my fiiends were goir^ tfarou^ diagnosis and foUow-v^. I es­pecially tried to hdp one fiiend and his wife through their ordeaL

"So vrfien I was in San Jose on a busi­ness tqp, I tfaoi^t Fd gD to San Fran­dsco and see wfaat tfaey had I ran into a situation \(4iete tfaere was notfaing in tfae bookstcnes, and tfaey tiiot^ir I was wdtd to be kxikir^ fix a positive slant on HIV.

*T called tfae San Francisco AIDS Foundation," fisher oontinuod, "ar^l was

putin toudi with I N H^es . I ea^^latncd to hkn where I was oomii^ fixxn, and he said he'd never seen anydiing like that; but diat I m ^ ^ be infierestcd in wfaat faad been done for tfadr 'Be Here for tfae G»e'carMpfl^gaBBHa|>cshadoDmmts-sianed Aimfe Irtboviiz to do pGctcaiis of peopfe living widi HIV (mostiy dients <tf die AIDS RiuDdaaon) far dgian^wiyt"

Hq«s tdd Hsfaer tfaat bkTWHifjs of tfae porttaits were posted all over subws^ stations, bus shdtccSj^nd saxdar locations in San Frandsoo for six montfas. *1he poslEK weie faqge and lifesBse. I met widi M aad saw what he hatband abo saw die posters in bus shetaeis and odier traces. Tlie messages scczwled on tfaem are woodcxfii. and lesdty die message ofhope die wodd needs to hear," FisI^r saki.

Hsher tnet with Marianne Fdton arxl AIDS Rodiester to discuss fixidtr^ fi^r tfae show in Rodiester.'We were tafltir^ about how to dose tfae finandal g ^ , " he sakL Fisher asked diat Kodak, tfae Gom-pary he works fix; become a >onsor of tfae exhibit, arid w^xn a week he had a ^vorabfe response fixxn tfae con^sar^.

Fisher said, 'TCodak spotisored pur­diase of die posters fix: ARL They ^dl be an educ^ional tool for Kodak and otfaer g ^ o i ^ to show diat AIDS is not a g ^ disease. The photos speak to tfae fiict tter everyone is at lisk Nowhere on tfae posters is it written how die individuals got the disease, or \riiat tfadr ofientaticxi is, unfess they wanted to indude tfaat infor­mation, and one lesbian cot4>le did."

The posters win be d t : ^ j £ ^ at Kodak fadlities wotkiwide ftir thc oomir^ year. The Bank of America has also d i^ i^od tfae posters in their work environment to educate employees.

**Marianne Fd ton and thc George Eastman House went one step fiirtfaer," Fisher sakl, "and widi AIDS Rochester came up with tfae idea for local scnqv book pages. For tfae past year ARI has drcdatod archival p^per widi directiocis CMI how to create a memorial Some of tfaose p a g ^ are on display witfa tfae

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liebovitz show. We don't know where it will go in fiiture, but depending on in-voh^erncnt, it codd beaxnc a fdiofio cd. opportunity. We codd create a photo c-d. archive."

Fisher returned to San Frandsoo in Scpteniia to ptesent a fetter ftom Kodak to tfae AIDS Foundatkxi abour tfae fianding crf" die posters fix: AIDS Roches­ter. Fidicr saki, * The Foundation invited tfae p e c ^ vrfio are tfae portrait sutqeos to be tfaere at die pcesentatkxi luncfa They were warm, wcxiderfiil peofde witfa won­derfiil smiles, and we just foS in love: These people are heroes as far as I'm concerned.

^They exdianged tears and stories, and we had wonderfii conversations. It was a 45-minute lundi, but two hours later wc were still sharing stories and having fim. Nobody wanted to leave.

'T've gotten a lot of strength fi'om these people," Fisher sakl. "And thc m o r e l talk about it with people, tfae

more I discover tfaat pecple are afiaid to tsdk about m v , but we need to, aixl once you do, it's fieeing."

Fisher bdieves da t die show leiiuves tfae stigma and teaches that there are no "irmocent" or "guilty" PWAs. He feds that the stigrna which rnakes AIDS seem morc tfaan it is — a t^ood infection — contributes to the spread of tfae epidemic.

"AIDS educatkxi is needed," IK saki, "so tfaere will be a dimate in which pecple don't fear getting tested, or be­ing outcasts if they test positive. Oth­erwise, the stigpia and fear and ^ o -rancc will be passed down to future generations.

"Mary Fisher says she doesn't un­derstand w i ^ peo(^ are rductant to talk about AIDS. In her book i2i^jMo0&>4;|^ she writes, Tf wc can't save our Jives, we will be wise to contribute them.'"

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By Susan Jo tdan If ycxi rnanlied in the Rod%scer Pride

Parade lasrjiity, you viD rernember the erici^giang efifect of feflowtr^ a kxid arid cheerfid rnardiing band dovm die stxte^ Rochester's own g ^ ^ KanH U Rassically Trddemakers, arx] ifaey are loc^dr^ for rnusackttis and odier N^olunteers to h e ^ sweU tfaeir ranks.

Reoerttiy the £ ] c ^ 62us^qx^ Mvith band fbunderslirn Rhoades arid Gerry Mason. Tkri, a Rodhester native \;(^)06e fiinrdy riioved to California \vhen he was in hig^ school, was the fotinder ofthe San Dicgo gay band,

**I was in the Army Reserve Band in h ^ schodL I p]ay saxo[4x7ne," H m said "After sdiod I jcMdtied the Marine Corps. The first g ^ band I saw was when I was in die Marines. It was die ix>s Angdes band, whicfa formed in 1983, the secorrf g ^ band to form; Son Francisco was first

'The initial seed bdiifxl TrdJemakers, besides my own mudcal bad^jTound," Tkn continued, 'Svas t h r o u ^ Xerox Corporation's gay organi2ation, GALAXE. Thete were four of us feom Xerox who started talking about havir^ a band in Rochester."

H i e group held its first meeting last Mardx "At die first meeting we had nine pecple, all musicians — seven women and the two of us,'* Tjm said **SJnce then die band has grown through word of mouth; it is still afl women excqit for us and one otterman. R ^ i t now, icx our current concert season, we have 15mcm-bers."

Incfividuais firjm die gtx^5 represented Rochester in the rtiassed bands thaf played at the Gay Games lastjune, and at cul­mral festivaLs in San Frandsco and N.Y.C

The band's mission, Tim said, is "to support the gay, lesbian, bisexual and tian^pidered comniunity t h i o t ^ musk.

BttssitxdfyTteblenteeleet^inlheRot^esterPtMtia^ tfae universal lai^uage. The key thii^ is tfaat we are a community band. Music brings people together, and represents our community in a positive l ^ t , "

The band wiB give a fix^e concert at Mid-town Flasa on E k e 18 a t4pin. The band wiO also perform at the Fins sodal groiq> Christmas party on D e c l 3, and win go carcJing whh t t e Rochester Womens' Ccmimunity Chorus on Dec 14 atthe Al S ^ Center.

Northeast gay bands have a custCMn of mardiing in eadi other's Pride ParadcSc Basically TrdJcmakers hopes to march in Washington D . C , New York City, Boston and Fhibde^^iia, and they hope that members of t h ( ^ cities' bands 3wll in tum come to Rodiester for tfae Pride Parade in Jiily.

*Tivc pODfde fixMTi otfaer bands came to Rodiester last summer," Geny Rfeon said 'Two fiom Fhilade^Jiia, one fit»n Minnesota, and two firom D . C s Dif­ferent Drummers."

BassicaD)' Treblemakers is looking for recruits. Tim Rhoades said, "Currcnriy we lack IcAver brass players; we onty have one tit^mbone and one French hom. We also need a conductor, rig^t now I'm doing it."

People who are interested in joining do not have to be virtuosos. 'Ifyou have an instmment, you're in," Tim says. "We h c ^ to raise money to buy instmments in the future."

C^aty added , ' ^e just had a fijndraiser Co try to ODMer rnusic costs atid regjstiation fees. We scJd cancty thrcx]^ s e v i ^ bars, and hope to do that ^ ^ "

According to Gerry and Trni, some bond members were nervous about ^ pearir^ in public at the Pride Parade, but they came anyway. However, they say, * W e keep runnit^ across rnusidans who won't join because they don't want to be out."

Geny said,' *We wdcotne afl people. We have scveial heterosexual (Ji ners and vdunteers. Nfy kids p ^ e d (at the Roches­ter Pride Parade.) One p^ys sax, one does percussion, and one is tfae ban­ner gu i Tliey all had a good time."

Bassically Treblemakers was unani­mously accepted by Lesbian and Gay Bands of Anierica (LGBA), the national vHTibtdla cxganization, in October. Akx^ with Atlanta's g£^ band, tfaey are the new­est members of the organization. The LGBA now has bands fiom Vancouver and Australia, and a name c h a r ^ may be in the works to reflect an mtemsLtional membership. LGBA meets twice yearly for conferences; the 1995 meetings wifl be in Denver on St. Patrick's Day and in Indianapolis next September, and Bassically TteWemakers hopes to send delegates to both conferences.

Geny^ said, "One important thing about bdng a member of LGBA is that we get access to thdr libraty of scores, whidi they

(fisttibute tt> n e a ^ bands. Sootcs cost $40 aad LGBA also h e ^ kxsd bands o tg^ nize, and tfaey give workdiops, provide fonchaisii^ suggestions, etc."Ttm added, "We can them about any problems."

Gerry said that LGBA is an lanbrdla g^oup whkh h d ^ kxal bands for federal tax purposes. However, 6assics% Trebles maloers is kxjdr^ for a New Ycxk &ate umbrella group to enable tfaem to g ^ state tax exetiq^don.'Tf we get e n o i ^ people to volunteer who know about diese things," he said, **we could get New York exemption by ourselves."

The music tfae band will play at the December concert wiD be quite dififerent from its parade repertoire. "It will be carols, classical Chrtstinas rnusic, arid a few l i ^ ja2Z pieces," Tim saki The gpotf) win be perfomiing at Midtown with tfaeir "Lesbian and Gay" banner on display, and would appreciate support from tfae community.

Auditions arc not necessary to join tfae gtotf). 'We have peo|de ftcwn afl levds," Tim said. "It ranges from people who haven't pi^?ed sinoe h ^ sdiooi, 20 yeats £^o, to music teadiers and professional musicians."

Gerry ssud,'*We need a t ^ band herd It wouki be so exdting to see a band of even 30.1 tfaougjit we made a hag differ­ence to tfae Piide Parade last summer." The band needs e n o u ^ SL jport to offer visiting members of odier bands kx^pig wfaen diey come to take part in Roch­ester events. "When we've gone to otha: cities, they've put us 145," Tim said "It's too expensive to stay in hotels."

Anyone who is interested in joining Bassically Treblemakers can call the Gay Source infoline at thc Gay Alliance, 244-8640, and leave a mess^p, or even better, just show up at one ofthe rehearsals, vdiich are hdd ever)' Tuesday at 7 p.m., at Rochester City School number 12, 999 Soudi Ave.

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REVIEWS An overview of Alyson in Wonderland books for children of gays

B y T o t ^ L e u z z i An inpcMtant fitetaiy genre has been

evolving in fccsent years: g ^ and lesbian children's Bctbn. N o t to be confused witfi your^-aduk fiterature about g ^ and les­bian teeriSy tfiis bocfy of ficticin invaiiabfy^ depicts the fives of younger chikken >vttfi gay parents.

Written for children ages two to 12, these IxxJs tareiy deal witfi a chikfs sexual onentation, fi>r most boys and g^ls in this age groif> are too you t^ to have formed a d e a r concept o f sexual preference. Such tides, however, may certainly be en­joyed by people o f all ages, r^a rd less o f gender o r orientation.

With the increased visibility of alterna­tive femilies in our culture, respcMisible adults are turning to gay and lesbian children's books for appropriate modds in teaching children about the wide-rar^ing natute of femilies. Certainly g^y presses are making these books more readily available to parents arxl educators. Alysc« Worderlarxi (Alyson Publicatkxis, 40 Plympton St., Boston Mass. 02118) has perfiaps been the most rKrtewcMlhy exan^le, boastir^ a hige catabg of tides, which have emerged in die last five years.

Among Alyson Wondedarul's earikst tides, LedeaNewman's/ift4Si0*/j^7iM9 Mommies (1989) and Gltma Goes to Gqy / W f (1991) ded with j^xi t^ g i b w^x> have lesbrian modiers. P e r h ^ d ^ strongest section o f t h e 1989 book deals with Heather 's first day at nursery school, where she and her dassmates arc asked

to draw and discuss pictures of their femilies. Heather teams that many chil­dren her age d o no t have two m o m s ; some have two dads; u ^ e some have two dads and two m o m s . Bo th of Newman ' s books have drawn censor­ship at tempts by the Religious R i ^ t .

As the fi^ difldren's b o ^ to address g^-male pa rend i^ M k h a d WtKhoite's I>atl^sRtomrmae(y^SO)]sgnactsai^k)g sdecdon fbr children ages two to six. Willhoite's text, about a m a n w h o di­vorces his wife and moves in with his male k>ver, is toki t h n x i ^ the eyes of a youiig unnamed boy. Instead c^avoikj-ic^ a representation of the ptqrskal a r d emotXMid rdatkin^iip between the boy's fether arid his roornrriate, VC^DhoitB's iSus-trations stress tiieir love and intimacy. The boy reports their activity as naturally as it occurs; Daddy arxl Frank perform-ir^ house d io te^ Daddy and ftank read­i l y in thdr bathrobes; Dackfy arid Fratik sleeping in each otfier's arms; rubbing suntan krticMi on each other at the beach; shaving in front o f the vanity mirror; fighting and making up.

Otfier bocJcs by VWflhoite irxiude/iE^^ &f, his 1991 ccJorirg book for ages two to six. G a y and lesbian femilies are no t the sole focus hec^ rather the drawings and ^Tare stocy line illustrate the diversity of all femilies.

The autiior's Uttck What-Is-Ills Com-it^jbra Hia!7(1993) taigcts a d ^ ^ d d e r audience and is morc expliddy gay in reference. Brother Igor and sister Tlf-feny are tcJd their g ^ unde is coming to viat When the chiklren ask their inother ^ x ^ t gay means, her explanation is in-terrupoed by bumirig brussd sprouts m the oven Igor and Tifl&ny are then hilari-

ousty misinformed by the town buOy and his siddddc about how aU g ^ people sifsposedtykxdc and act When the dul­dren finally meet their i m d e , they a te pleasant^ suipdsed to k a m that tfie ste^ reoQpes were w r o c ^ As witfa his odier b o o l ^ , VdUhoite's illustrations are es-pedalty in^xessive and, in die case^ tfie source of much l a i ^ t e r .

A n n Heron 's arxTMeredith Maran's Hcttf WmtUYtmFeelffourDatittmGafi (1991) isafine book fbr ycxir^ readers agps six to 12. T h e title may be a mis­nomer , since the sub-plot deals witfi a fifibgtade boy's a t t e n ^ to underscand how his rrxithet^s lesbiariism afiects his life. T h e main story, however, charts the diffinihiesJasmine and her caJder bnother Mididd fece ^^4>en their dassmates k a m their parents » e g ^ men. The story re­ceives a sensirive arid realistic treatment; avoklitig the cfiche of a blissfiil ending Instead, M d i a d and Jasmine's dads visit tfie schcxd pcifK%3aI and sugg^t an ecki-cational assembly for students about altemarive parenting.

The book stresses the imporcance edu­cators fAty in dukten ' s acceptance of al­ternative femihes. Eariy in the bocJc, Jas­mine cries to her fethers that her teadier '*NCss Ashford dkln't even stop the Idds w h e n they were saying terrible diings about gay people. She looked like she agreed with them." Therefore, the teadier's effiwts to gjve Jasmine st^jport after the s d i o d assmibty serve as a use­ful m o d d for educators in stqiporting children of gay and lesbian parents.

Jcrfmny Valentine has written several children's books for Alyson, induding Tie Duke Who Otttl^m^j€t^ieatts(\991) and Tbe Day They Pul £ Tax on Rmnboufs

(1S^2). These coUections o f feiry tales, written fbr chikken ^jcs five to 10, are rxxaqilkstfyg^.homrver, rnany casual refetenoes to sarne-sex a d d t coi^iks ate made; I h e stocks ate more direofy oon-oemed with gender and equafiQ , such as *TheFagjbider,"ini»^ikhtfacdaug^it^ c^two motfiers kings to protect the k i r ^ dom fixxn dragons. She 15 fiusttated tfaat dus task is delegated stdctfy to y o u r ^ boys; so, with tfae h < ^ o f o n e o f her rnochezs, she dtsgutses hersdf as a boy, proves herself a hero, and reveals Iwr sexual identity to an accepting queen at thc stcMy*s e n d Most o f t h e fiibks boast an ironic wit that can be enjoyed by adults as wdL Lynnctte Sdimidt*s fiill-color illustrations are rich in detail.

T h e Vakntine-Schmidt team has also created TheDfad^Mahme (199:^, a ook>r-i r ^ book whidi tdk the fentastic story of two y o u r ^ g ^ who create a dadcfy ma­chine in their mother 's temporary ab-senoe. The machine is too successfijd, as D a d 1 and 2 are ft)Ibwcd by Dads 3,4, 5...I D a d 1 h d p s thc girls s top the ma­chine and reverse its process, so that, one by one;, tfie dadcfcs disappear ^ 3 i a When itis time for Dad 1 and 2 to k a w , Dad 1 expbiris that the two men care for each other so much diat they want to move into the house next door. T h e story is l i ^ t and funny, set off appropriatdy by Valentine's rhythmic prose.

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c d o t s . In this case, biue is a metaphor for homosexuafi^. I h e gjifs ttttve igpo-tanoe is reflected m her initial cpestkxi: '*Who has dads diat are blue?" Lou, a brown boy, does. I h e narrator then a ^ Lou a nurrtfier of questkxis, some down-r ^ ^ , about Uue dads. Lou olidiges her curiosity, but gpndy mocks it too. ^'What funny kkas you luve," rqdks Lou halfway t h r o u ^ the boc4c, as he assures her blue dads can do all the tfiings non-blue dads carL Lou also s^nificsKi^ ^ -plains that his dads are blue simply be­cause diat is vithsit they are.

Valentine's prose, written in various forms of alliterative verse, is musical, d i o u ^ n o t to the point of distraction. The l ^ t ; {Jayful h i m o r often pcxnts to in^xxiant tfiemes. Sarecky's flhistrations do more than octfi^>lenient the text; they provide important subtexts as wdL The tandom oojodt^ of die diaracters, for in­stance, reveak die diveraty of the w o d d The fivct that Lou is noc blue like his dads reinforces the idea t t ^ t gay parents are aqxibfc of taisirTg rion-g3y d i i d r e a The wry dedication is an ironic reversal ofthe traditional femily modd, \(^iere g ^ and lesban ferrabes are now seen as the stan­dard: *To Jacob, \rfio only has one m o m and one dad, but don't fed sorry for him. They're bo th pretty great parents."

Finally, Elaine Wickens's Anna Day and the O-Ring (1994) tdLs die story of Evari, a young kiixkt^rtoer \t*io lives with his two motfiers. Evan wants to buikl a tent but has miqJaced the o-ring diat hdds n ? the pole; he eventually finds the rirg underneath his dog Anna Day's bdly. Evan then tdk this fixiny story to all ofh is fiiends at school. T h e decep­tively s i n ^ ^ narrative demonstrates the

awe and wonder chikben find in every­day circumstances. T h e use of pho to-g t a [ ^ instead of lustrations is an inter-esdr^ twist in tfiis w k k - r a n g ^ sdection of books.

The above tides represent onfy a por­tion of g^y and k s b i ^ cfaikken's bodes avaibbk t h r o u ^ Afyson Wonderland, witfiout even conskkti t^ the number of titks ofiered by otfier pdbjishets. As mem­bers of the gEQT comnuinity, we owe it fio oursdves fio read sudi books and, kkaHy, give them fio our diikken and relatives. In addition fio educatii^ others about our lives, thdr conaderabk scope and cpality are a source o f beauty and g^y pnde .

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This is an antfidogy of poems, short stories and exoeipts rfnovids ftom a wide variety of Latin American women writ­ers. However , indigenous writers are mostly absent here. The writers q>an the late 19th century, eg. Ddmira Agustini (Un^uay 1886-1914) to tfiose writing to­day sudi as Isabd Alknde (Chik 1942-).

This is a coflcction of erode work featur-i r ^ the straigjht or lesbian woman. I use the word "erotic'' gK^jcdy, gyen its h ^ y charged and political implications.

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view. Mage Realism is that styk of writ­ing \rfikh corisists of a hi^ify iniagjnative mix of fimtasy witfi trutfi It reached these shores in die late 1960s and early 1970s and was labded **E1 B o o m . "

A brief look at the poetry selections shows **Bdoved Fr iend" by Cecilia Vkuna (Qiik), an amorous t»ece written in honor of a fife shared by two w o m e a T h e Brazilian author Lola Miccolis's poems 'Thi rd Poem for My Lover ' 'and *T)emand" explore the butch-femme perspective. Nfany o f the other poems share amilar imagery to describe a vulva, eg . **bud," "flower," "fig," and "shdL" Mbst of the poems obtain the proUem-atk eflEect of reveafing the not-fioo-infinifie pos^biEties of vulva im^ery (or am I a bit pedestrian^ In any case, if one is food of poetry ofthis nature, mos t of these poems will please.

It is in the short stories that one en­counters, among those -vdio rejoice in nevi^ fbund sexual fiieedom or rcJe re­versal, two works that are very difiScuk to read The first of these is tided die .Sfeic^ Countess by Alejandra Pizamik of Ar­gentina. This takes the form ofa histori­cal narrative whidi ol^ectivdy and dis-passkxiafidy describes tfie sadistic crimes committed by one Countess Batfiory, the murderer of more than 600 young giris. Furthermore, she is susp>ected of being a lesbian.

This story was offensive. Rzarik 's other sdections represented here have recurring images of nig^t, blood, and death. This is not the blood and death of your standard Spanish CathcJidsm, but that ofthe Surrealists touched with what is basically a homage fio the Marquis D e Sade. It should b e noted that Pizamik

commit ted suidde at the peak of her career.

Another disturbit^ contribution is 7 ^ lP5i>KCf by Crisriria Peri Rossi of Uruguay. This question comes to mind: is this groi4> sex gone amok (featurit^ a trio of Mom, a young woman, and a boy enfier-ing pubaty) or a s l ^ variatkxi of a r ^ scene?

However, deqxte the imbalance of this anthcJogy, there do appear wot te that are worthwhik, eg, Alktide's excerpt fiom hernovd The Hottse ofix^mts^ocMsaiS^ Daviu's (Venezuela) The Woman Who r<w t ^ ife IKwM This is a {A^iftil and sad account of a woman whoi» und ik to wake u p her crude and revolting lover, p r o ­ceeds fio take a pair of sds so r s—not to d o die deed — but radier to cut ou t a siBiouetce of tfie Americas and put it ki her pocket, diereby saving die w o r i d

This cdkct ion iridudes a bitdiogi^J:^ in E n g ^ h and St^mish. A k o given is a biographical notes section along with akqgtfyarxlinfonTnativeintioductkxi

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W o d d A I D S Day . Recep-tion for Aririie Leibovitz shciw *Tdrttaits of Pecple l iv ing vrith HIV," 5:30 pm, George Eastman House, 900 East Ave. 8 pm: candlelight march to l i b m y P d e .

F R I D A Y 2 Fal l ing T h r o u g h t h e

Cracks . Conference for area professionals on family sup­port/involvement 7:30 am-2:30 pm, Colgate Rochester Divinity School, 1100 South Goodman, Indudes panel on **Nontraditional Fanilies."

S A T U R D A Y S P J E C Alternative Fair .

Third Worid and iocal crafis, nonviolent toys, gifts, music, focxi. 10 am- 5 pm. First Uni­tarian Chuch, 220 S. Winton. $1 admission. Sp)onsored by Peace and Justice Education C::enter. 244-7191.

S U N D A Y 4 T h o m a s Warfidd concert.

"One Voice for Peace." 7:30 pm. School ofthe Arts, 45 Prince S t Benefit for Peace Art InteniatiotiaL $25 rescrvar tion; $35 with recqstiQa SCTKI checks to PAI-AGR, Box 40028, Rochester N Y 14604.

O p e n Arms M C C sociaL 5 pm, chapel in Auditorium

Center, 875 E . Main S t 271-8478.

T H U R S D A Y S Montage. Gs^-rdated films

at Pyramid Art Center, 274 N . Gocxlman, Village Gate S<]uare, 8 pm. 'Valentine^s Y3^f* by Michael Hoolbcxxn; *T)towning in Flames" by Garine Torossian. $5 ($3 stu­dents.) 461-227Z

SATURDAY 10 SweU die HaUdiqahs* Con­

cert by Rcxiiester Gay Men's Chorus, with Rochester Women^s Community Chorus. 8 pm. Downtown United Presb)rterian Church, 121 N . F i t z h v ^ $10.

S U N D A Y 11 SweU the Hal ldu jahs .

Concert by Rcxiiester Gay Men's Chcius with Rodiester Women's Community Cho­rus. 4 pm. Downtown United Presbjoerian Church, 121 N . Fitzhugh $10.

T U E S D A Y 13 Olde r Gay M e n . Open

house for new support group, 7 pm, GAGV Cornmunity Cen­ter, 179 Atiantic Ave.

W E D N E S D A Y 14 Bassically TreUetnakers

a n d Rochester Women*s Cotnmuni ty Chorus . Carcd-ing at Al Sig^ Center.

T H U R S D A Y 15 Btiookige. G^-^datfid films

at Pyramid Arts Center, 274 N . Gcxxlman, Village Gate Square. 8 pm.'XJnkrwwn ScA-dier," by Vertxiika SotJ;'*Great GirT' by Kim S u l h a t a ; **RabQO Nadonal ," by Karim Ainouz. $5 Of3 students.) 461-2272.

D y k e T V . Screening of s^pients , 7:30 pm, G A G V Community Center, 179 At­lantic Ave. Spon sored by The Word Is O u t 244-8640.

SATURDAY 17 Holidflry Gayla for Rcxii­

ester area gay and lesbian business oommunity. 8-11 pm, Geotge Eastman House, 900 EastAve. Sponsored by L N A K (Lamlxia Network at Kodak) and G A I A X E (Gays and Lesbians at Xerox.) Info and tickets: 243-3488.

S U N D A Y 18 Bassicalty T r e U e m a k e f s

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O u t a n d About b r u n c h sociaL Noon, G A G V Com­munity Center, 179 Atiantic Ave. 473-9384.

Breaking the Ice . First session of support gtot4> for those coming ou t A G A G V program. Call 244-8640.

S U N D A Y J A N . 15 Let F r e e d o m Sing. Roch­

ester Freedom Singers con­cert in remembrance of Dr. Martin Lutiier King. 4 pm, Universalist Church, 150 S. Clinton Ave. $5 donation.

M O N D A Y J A N , 16 En]f>ty Q o s e t deadline.

Artides, letters to editor, non-caxneia-ready ads, classifieds. Hease caU 244-9030.

T U E S D A Y J A N . 17 Gay a n d Lesb ian H o t

Travel Spots . Speaken Glen Skalny of Great Expectations Travel 7 pm, G A G V Com-muniQrCaifier; 179 Adantk Ave.

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Bookstore, c^posite Market-pjaoe MiIL Reoq>tiQn 6i30 pm, fdlowed by Lauta Doan dis­cussing 4// €>Zifif by Jeannette Wbtcrson. A program ofthe GAGV.

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Fire feast of b^innings, sa­cred to Brigit, ^ d d e s s of fire, heaKng and poetry.

£^i^>ty Closet mai l ing for the February issue. 7-9 pm, lipscairs at the G A G V Commiwiity Center, 179 At­lantic Ave. 244-9030.

W E D N E S D A Y F E B . 2 Les Ballets Trockadero

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5pm, St Lufc^s/St SimcHi Cyretie Church 17 S. F5t2hv^ St Every tiiird Suncky. Poduck dinner after Mass. 328-9758. O p e n Atms Metrapcditan Communinr Churdh 875EMain St (Tftince St en­trance of Auditorium Center.) 10-30 am. 271-8478. Rodiester Bisexual Women's Netwoik Meeting and potfiKic si^jper. 630pm, second Sunday. GAGV Ccanmunity Center, 179 Atfantic Ave. 436-7409. G s ^ Men's Akxriholics

Out and About skating, fixst and thtid Suodsq^ Genesee Valley Park ice rink. $3.50 plus skate rentaL 271 -1017.

MONDAY Rodiester Lesbian and G s ^ PQlhk:al Caucus Eve^second Monday, 730 pm, GAGV Commiiuty Cen­ter, 179 Adantk Ave. 244-8640. Gs^ and Lesbian Siq3pc»t

St Luke's/St Simon Cyrene Churdi, 17 S. FitzhiWSt 830 pm, 232-6720. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Fnends Association ( G L B F ^ tJ. ofRodiester. Sundays, 630 ttn, Morey 524. 275-9379. Rodiester monthly ijusiness meeting, first Surid^^ 4 tMTi, Bachdor Rmirn, 670 University Ave. 251-2122 Rodhester Lesbian and Gay Youtfa G r o w Ages 14-21. first and tiiird Sun-

Presbyterian Churdi, 4 Mdes St First and tiiird Mon-^ , 730-9 p n , 271-6513. Wcnnen^s basketbaU Monday and Thursday riigjits, 7-9 wn. Downtown u nited Presbyterian ChurdL 121N. F i t z h i ^ St 7-8 half court, 8-9 fiill court Ramona, 244-1640. Corpus Christi G ^ / L e s b i a n Ministnr Fourdi Mondays, 7:30 pin. Cor­pus Christi Rectory, 80 Prttx^e St Open to alL 325-2424. Bereavement Suf^port Sccondfounh Mondays, 4-530 pm, ATOS Rochester, 1350 Univeraty Ave. Free. 442-2220. Rochester I&torical B o ^ i t ^ S o c k t y 7:15 prrij^Mondays. Qover Lanes, 2/50 Monroe Ave. 251-2175. GRAIN boatd Third Monday, 730 prnjfcpis-oopal I>iocese House, 9 35 East Ave.

TUESDAY Rodiester Gajr Men's Chorus Downtown Unitsed Presbyterian Church, 121N. Fitzhuch St 7-930 pm. 423-0650.

Sexual Cooipidnvcs Anon. For tfaose desadngtfadr own personal sexual sobriety. 730-9 nm. Write SCA, POBox 18458, Rochester NY 1461& Gay Akx^bcdks Aixmyinous 8 pm, Genesee Ho^Mtai, 244 AfcxjtfiderSt FinS* Ptofesskxial sodalgtois}, second T u e s d ^ 530-7:26ixn, cash bar, Gallety Cafe, Memorial Art Gallery, 500 University Ave. Fit^ier Lakes Gs^/Lesbian Support Group Third Tuesdays, first Fridays. Write PO Box 941, Genev^ NY 14456, or caD (315)536-7753, ask for Sam Edwands. Luthetans Ccmcemed Second Tuesdays, 730 pm., Lutiieran Churdi of Concord, 485 Hdmes Rd, Greece. 787-1577. COAF Come Out and Play. Meeting, last Tuesdays, 7 CMTL GAG V Communittr Center, 179 At­lantic Aw. Call Kuss, 473-6407. Bassicalhr Treblemakers Concert/^nardiine band Re-iiearsals eadi Tuesday, 7 p.nx Rodiester City School ff iz mur sic der>artment-999 South Ave.

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W E D N E S D A Y Rodiester Women's Com­munity Chorus Rdiearsals eadi W€ 6 3 0 ^ 3 0 pm, MCC 8975 E 1 V & St 473-7: Gay AlBancp ofthe Genesee Vafley board of ditectQcs Meetmg, second Wednesdays, 7 pm, 179Ailantic Ave. 244-8640.

Gay Akoholics Anonymous 7 pm, Unitarian Churdi, 220 Wmton Rd Pbsi t ivi^ Sober AAcroup, closed rneetirias. AlfSRochester 1350 Umver­sity Ave. Every Wednesday, ncxjntol pm. Bisexual Gay Leslnan Union Monroe Ccmnmunity CoJl^e. Every Wednesday at noon. Room 6-313,292-2000. T h e Leslnan GcMinection First Wednesdays, 7 pm. Finger Lakes area. (716)289-3197.

THURSDAY Ptesbyterians for Lesbian and G E ^ Concems 6:30 pm, first Thursday. For fo­cation caD RSph, 271-7649.. Gf^ Akohdacs Anot^^mous Ck^ed meerinaSt Djke's/St Simon CyrcneChurcii, 17 S. Fi tzhu^ St 830 pm. 232-6720. G£^ and Lesbian Educators crf'Genesee VaOey (GALE) Fourth Thursdays, 730 pm. For kxation cafl 244-8640, leave

ACT-UP/Rodies ter First and third Thursdays, 7:30 wn, Grace Presbyterian Oiurch, 221 Mal4)y, oflf Lyefl near M t Read Rochester Fteedom Angers Mixed diorus. Rdiearsak/pm. Downtown United Presbyte­rian Churdi, 121N. Fi tzhv^ St Mercy Spiritual Ccnnpanion Pregram Evening of reflection for those impacted by HIV/AIDS. 7-9 rail. Can 671-6070 or 473-689: Women^s basketbaD Thursdays and Mondays, 7-9 pm. Downtown United Ptes-byterian Church, \ 2 \ N.

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FRIDAY Finger Lakes Gay-Lestnan Sociai G n n ^ Inrst Fridays and third Tuesdays. CaB m 5)536-5573 and ask for Sam Edwards, or write P O Box 941, GenevaNY 14456. Lambda Amateur Radio O u b Firmer Lakes chapter. Dinner/ meetina tiiird Fridays. Cafl Jim,

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BY ERIC BELLMANN

Mustafa wants money M]sta£i has |u$t asked me for |700, and

it's taken the ditill out ofmy evening, Eariier in tiie day Musta& let me know

iie wanted to viat me ton^Tt Fm staying at a fiiend's iiouse, and on the way t>ack I b o i ^ t fruit juice and cookies. Hosptal-ity i s essential in tiiis culture and Fm into a V. hai-iii Rome attitude. Ilefiesiiments were in order. 1 just hadn't imagined the purpose ofthe visit I'm still a little con­fused but my eariy waming system has me on edge.

R^Jit now I cannot grasp »)6>'Mustafe wants money, but cleariy it is to be a loan. I guess that's a relief He iias flipped the pages ofhis dictionary to "loan." He fumbles some more and hands me die small yellow and blue book with his fin­ger pinched under the wonj ttiat trans­lates "pauper."

There are levds of invdvement when one travels. First one registers the main points: monuments, acoomodarions, meak. After the impact of novdt^' wears oSy one ^lifts levds and begins to exam­ine details, compare the quality of meals, tooms, and grow more attentive to tiiose incidents and gestures wliich may illu­minate tlie new culture. The travder iias two dicMces; a rxxnadic seandi for as-yet-unseen marvds, or a deqxnirig of caperi-

ence. I returned to this small dty, in part, b>e~

clause it was fiut^fiar. I bdieved I coidd b i ^ on my earlier aqpcricnoes lieri^ rd_ be comfortable. Acquaintances would )ie^ me. Reality was a jolt Lastyear die caretaker cftiie iiouse IVe been lerit fixed r i ^ break&st each momi t^ fiesh bread, cjives, honey, tea. I h b year I only see him when lie urdodcs die fiont door and then later just befixe Heave, when lie brings me mittens his niece lias knitted, t d ^ colorful tilings, and he wonders how much they m ^ t sdl ft)r in America, and I end n? buying two pair just to be rid of liim.

Generally I relish not knowing what's going on. It adds to my sense of wonder. Fve had ddightfol esqjeriences in bus ter­minals as drivers and clerks figure out how to get tiiis odd stranger to his destination. Fve gained a new understandir^ of "trust" here. Things always work out OIC

But I know a husde when it hands me knitted mittens and Fmnot&xme Fm quite as charmed as Fd like. Now Mustafa wants money. My money. That's a prob­lem. My problem.

Mustafa is my friend. WeVc written each other during the year since we met, each of us seddng assistance in translation. I sent him a New Year's greeting, he sent me a fiinny collage of famous Turkish monuments. Modest as the>' are, these fet­ters and cards have shaped our friend-sl%>. I know Mustai^ through his lettets. He was in the equivalent ofa Gteen Be­ret SWAT team, his first job was woridng for thc train starion in Istanbul, a job he had to quit because it paid so litde, later his return co his fiimily, recentiy liis fether died I do not re^rd tiic gifb of destiny lighdy. <

Last year the man wiio spoke some En­

g l a n d was to be my iiost in tiiis smaO AnafioGan ct^ was swan^Ded widi woric projects, ffc turned me over to iiis oflBkDe he^ker. This s i n ^ act—passir^akx^ tiie care ofa guest—is a subde a^)ect of Islam Fve come to ^fspredate. Mstafii iiad studied E t ^ i i ^ in secondary sdiod, Ixit lie iiad no confidence and so I was puBed i y diis li2ttidsotne rrian tivough die crowded pubBc market (wtere lie asked digpifitti peasants to tderate my camera) and led i ^ to the mountain casde tiiat rises mi^esrically immediatdy tjdiind die house in wliich I am staying. Mustafa tugged me into a dohnus (a shared taxi — a n ejqjerience I would «3«rhave dated alone). We went to the local museum (dosed ixxzause of lack of funds fbr staflF and open just diis one day in honor of the visiting professor). When we left the mu­seum Mustafe filched a stone fix)m t i^ courtyard and g^ve it to me as a keepsake.

Now one year later I have come back. To anyone here a foreigner is rich. My

air fere equals Mustafe's yeariy income. He earns $70 a montii, less tiian $850 a yoSiX. He cannot grasp that I am a modest traveler. I prefer the storefront restau­rants, skip die prestige tiestaurant in town, the one written up in the guide books. That 1 eat in atry restaurant places me in a category that excludes Mustafa.

Mustafa sits smiling, drinking peach juice and eating cookies on his formal visit of petition. He hasn't a due he has stepped on a land mine. I save and I scrimp. I know exactly what my fiugality and in­dustry have brought me; the ability to go from here to there without worry. Money is security, power.

Because of the things money cannot bring me (I'm not stupid) and which 1

aave» I have oome to this country where I iiave fixmd neatiy evetytlik^ Fm miss­ing. Here, I am h^>py.

I iiadn't o^jjstered iiow difficult eco­notnic times iiad lieoome. The currency iias been devalued twioe. A ba%>oint pen now costs tiiree times wiiat it did one year ago. The sliirt tfaat reveak N&Ktafii's strong arm is over-washed His pants iiave a line that only comes fixxn age. As I walk t i u o u ^ maticets I see piles of used dodiir^ fi>r sale. Mustafe's sweater oodd liave come fiom one of tiiose piles. This year my refined traveler's eye 1^§^ on a new sig^t peasants lined up out­side a mosque with empty containers watting for fiee soi^ and loaves of bread

I know about liard times. Nothing's come easy. Losses, disappcrintments, be­trayals. Travd v is my solace. This was the place I had been seeldr^. These were" the pe<^de who wodd make me h ^ ^ .

While Mustafe fiimbles with his dic­tionary, I wonder ifl wodd have been as eager for his fiiendship, sent him snap­shots and postcaixis, ifhe were not hand­some? Wodd he have responded, risen to the occasion, had he not sensed the possibility of my hewing him? At home I feel needy — not enough money, not eno i^ i fiiends. Here I am embarrassed by my affluence.

It's an odd feding ha\Tng someone curi up next to you on a window seat and la­boriously' probe t t i r o i ^ the pages ofa dictionary tryir^ to e^q^hin his life. The ' odd feding has a name: intimacj. It does not always fed ^ x x l It feds scary. I am uncomfortable with responsibility. Mus-cafe, stTc^gfingto make his case, offers to \3mte a letter of explanation in his own language whkh I can have translated at Id-

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sure. I liave Ixeathing time. (Giowir^ there are weeks, periiaps montiis to de­dde frees me. In tiiat moment I know that I will g?ve iiim my money. I won't even thinlc ofit as a loan, I can't imag­ine how he'd pay it back.

In a g dcfy moment I realize die privilege I hav^ tiie diance to h c ^ a fiiend That isn't somediir^ you read about in travd books.

I am a thoughtfiil person and have b r o i ^ ^ modest g ^ for people I was cer­tain to see, a pkture book fix the dai^iter ofa fiiend, a BiOs c^fixacfitzyqueenin Istanbul On a sale rack I fixind a turtle­neck, labd snqiped, a barg^un. This was ftx Mustafe. As we sit nibbling cookies he hands me a worn, s l^t ly fiayed str^ of dodl, oddty patterned in shades of c4ve green. It is his gift to me, his Army scarf

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B Y LLOYD GRAY

^>eaking Out Against Intolerance This montii, tiie B r e c o n Presbyterian

Churdi qxxisored a conference of *'Heal-ing tiie HcxnosexuaL" Itwas blatantly a chance for some to brand us as sinfd, cast blame on fiutiiKes and oflfer a "fix" for being who we are.

In the past we have discussed our rde in the community regarding tiiese types of activities, and have usually opted fix not givii^ tiiese efiforts any more attenrion t isn tiiey already liave. However, this tinie tfiey readied out CO tiie media and solvit thc spotlight

A number of members ofthe ^ y and \esbian commurttty attended parts or all

of the conference, and some were shaken by tlie hate and intderance tiiey heard There was also an indication diat die mediods in this diurch werc gdng to go beyond woridng with those coming to tiimi, and win outreadi to otiiers, adding to tiie siiame and gdlt tiiat too many of us grow up with.

Tanya Smdindgr, tlie GAGV Center Director, brou^t thb to my attetition arid advocated fix a stiong re^x»ise to what was occurrif^ in tiie community. After consultation with odier board members and members of the community, we agreed to publish a press release to die media and sdiedule a press conference on Nov. 12 Two local tdevision stations and tiie DemocrtxttmdChnm^caxo^ and interviewed GAGV board and persontid, members of P-ELAG and local diurdi representatives. Many thanks to Tanya for dearly advocating for acrion and foUowing tiirougji on tiiat action.

This is another example of why it is im­portant to be "out" and be a positive rde modd fix others going t l i r o i ^ tiie pain­fd process of "coming out" Some may not know tiiat tliere is h e ^ available witiiin the g^y community and fiom odiers wlio are supporrive ofus. The Alliance has worikshops, peer fibdlitators, a ^)eakers bureau, diis newspaper, community events and an extensive referral service fix anyone v/ho needs assistance in deal-ir^ with their personal issues of identity and orientation. You can be a spokes­person for the Aliiance and the com­mtmity by encouraging people to con­tact us if they need hdp .

M e a C u ^ a ! M e a Cu^xi! l^BCtiiatid^IptesucnocI an actioa fiom

die Board in my artide. Unfortunately,

tiie Board meering was hdd after the cut-oflF fix submissions to tiie i 5 « ^ (2u8^ and I missed die Boatd meerir^ due to a nasty fla In any case, I said diat die Boatd wodd act on some pdBcy issues and they were not presented at that meeting. My £^x)k)g^ to anyone wiio acted on tiiat issue because of \x^iat I saki The polkies will be addressed at a future meeting, most likely December.

Strategic P lann ing Dtrect ion At tlie November meerirg, tiie Board

spent some time definir^ some direction for tiie Executive Committee so tliat we could start on an eflbrt to take on tiie task of planning fix tiie fiiture of tiie Gay Al­liance. Before tiie next fdl Board meet­ing the Execurive Committee wiB draft a prop>osal for the Board outlining rec­ommendations for tiiis effort

The Alliance has been gnowing in pro­grams, members and responsibilities. Some of us fi^l diat we are pushing die scafl board members and vdunteers to tiie limit We need to see if \i^iat we are doing is wliat we shouki be doir^ and if our efforts are bdng directed to tiie best interest ofour members and the com­mumty. A s t r a t ^ planning project will h e ^ us to define what we shodd be do-i r ^ how we shodd be doing it arid how to proceed fiom wliere we currently arc to \idiere we want to be.

One aspect of this project is very dear —weneedtoinvcJveasmanys^ments ofttie gay/leslaan/bisexual community and non-g^ community" as possible. In diat rcgand, we will be asking members and non-members, fiiends and not-yet-friends, as well as some ofour antago­nists, to join with us and hd^ us to define our viaon ftx tiie future. While we will

ccMitact matty of you, you don't have to wait If you wodd Hfas to be involved or have ideas about the vision for the Al­liance, please contact us—board or stafif — and make your interests and ideas known.

E n d O f Year This year seems to have raced by and

we are already planning for the events of 1995. O n bdialf of the board and staff of the Gay Alliance, I want to ex­tend our best wishes to you for this Holiday Season and ^ e : New Year.

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bookdestf somodsqrybutrmnotsokid^. I ponder such thiiigs as how we, as such a tcditiologjcalfy so[Mstk:ated cace of be­ings, joumey to a spiritual-tiiere fixim a practical-here.

R x ocariipfe, tedinolqgy iriststs tbd: tiie universe is: 1. expanding, since tlie big faar^ and, 2. all tfaete is. WcB, if the uni­verse is an tfaere is» x iat is tlie universe expanding into? A void is not a good e n o u ^ answer as a void sdl lias a piaoe, and a pboe is i^iantifiahle. T h o u ^ aH t i^ stuff in tiie univese was onoe compressed ititD a nriiniscule area befixe it exploded, iKhctc dkl aE die stuff and ifae pboe fix it to be Gcnie fixxn befixe it cxplodccP There must be room fbr God, faitfa and spiritualism in tiiere somewhere.

I am amazed at how mar^ people live dietr lives as t iKX^ diey are gettit^ out of this workl alive. The two most insidkxis bdiavior patterns that I see are firs^ tiiose ^ t o Hve thdr lives as though tiiey bear tfae gold stamp fix>m God tiiat says, *T am better tlian everybody else," and seccMid, those who bear die gteen Good Hous^eqsing seal tiiar says life will be fiur, ifnot you get your money back.

We afl enter the world squealir^ and riaked, and if we're lud^ erKx:^ to grow to a point of realiztng our own mortally, we aD kave tli^ wodd scared that there tn%is nodmig rnore. Whkh is, of course, entLdy possibk. AD life could be just an amazing chemical occurrence. If souls come with our lives, tiien {xotozoa must have souls; no one kind of life is really more inportant tiian anotiier, in the grand scheme of tilings. In an even grander sdieme of tilings, maybe the only tiiii^ alive enough ^^ have a soul is die uni­verse. Now tiiat's a scary thought.

I went to tiie Sack Creek Fbw Wow dhis past summer, and I saw a t-shirt tiiat best descnbed how I ponder mysdf and my worid. It sakl,'T am not a human be­ing in seardi of spiritual e^ierkxKe, but a spiritual lieing in searcfa of human ex­perience." So sitT^de, but a Hole diflBcuk to wrap your mind around, and even harder to live by.

I do bdBeve diat I have a qsidtuatsdf irdiabtdr^ tiiis fife-sel£ There is a reason, a h i t l e r purpose, and a context into \(^ikfa it sA fi^ I do not know wiiat tiiat context is, or I oouki get tfaere fiom here. I guess it's aD a M e fike Gumby stepping into a storybodc Nfy sod took on a mal-leaUe fixm and scqjped kito an ongoir^ stoty, and if I can fig^ out die moral of die story, I win have arrived tfaete fiom here.

I tiiirik CKir souls have ^»ritual fiuTiilies, or fiiends, who are here with us as the people we encounter on our joumey tfarcH^ tiiis story. Our imecactioris, rda-tk:)nsh^ and shadted esqxiienoes provide the required rnatedal v ^ \(^iich we ^un tiie knowkd^ to understand tiie story. Whie it is easy to embrace this s|mtual rdadon^i^ with p e o ^ you adore, it is also inportant to understand that some­times our ^mtual fiknds also need to ^ pear in redes tiiat can be devastating to us.

Ifyou can, like tiie phoenix, rise fiom your destruction, you are stror^pr, wiser and more determined dian before. When you process sudi experiences to become tiie new and improved version of your­sdf you have to consider, in a q^dtual sense, who dse but a fiiend woiald have fjayed sudi an inportant, life-enrkhit^ role for you.

As much as I have been a victim of

people AKho dwik tiiey are better tlian me; and as ofien as I have wanted a refimd because life has been unfidr, so too have I been die victimizer, or tiic e x a n ^ e of life's imfiomess, to someone dse. So goes die story of life here.

I enter into eadi new eapenenoe with tiie openness ofa chikL For, as I have known sadtiess, I have known ecstasy. I have known desolation, tfaetefixc, I shaB know rspture, if I am open to it. It has been my observation diat <ZJ)IS!K^ in fife tliat is limidng of your expenences, your g^vir^ or your partkpatbn is itihetendy a flawed philosoj^y.

I am not gettirig out of tiiis wodd alive. I expect my imtrortai soul to be envd-oped in tiie love tiiat is God. So too must I expect it fix tiiose wiio have hurt me, fix diat pain, along with my joy, has b r o u ^ t me to greater understandings. Oh, I widi fix that vengpfiil Lord when I focus on my pain, and sdectiveiy neglect to consider die pain I have wrougjit in die worid.

When I can fiiDy embrace aD life*s ex­periences ftx tiie ultimate joy they have broi^Jit me, when I can loving embrace eadi soul who has broi^i t riiom to me, I can, like the fool in the tarot deck, merrily step off thc predpice into an understanding greater than my sdf.

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B Y BILL PRTTCHARD

A letter to Pataki Govcmor-efect R^aki, I oflfer my con­

gratuladons on your victory. Canpaign promises and post-election

comments indicated the direcdon in

\(Mdi you wffl kad our State wil be diat of lower taxes, lower taxes, and lower tasoes. And a tdnstitudon of die deadl pen­alty. litde dse recdved attention dumg the last several montiis or in tfae bs t c o i p k of w e ^ s . Until die otiier ds^.

You see; M r Pacaki, tliete ate some of tiiose in die Conservative party who woidd fike notfaitig better d im to see ho-mosexuafity oudawod in our once pco­gressive and upwatd[ymobie State: Gov. CiKxno, regardless. Sir, of what you t i i o i ^ t ofhis polides, was concerned about aO of New York's residents. N o otiier State Execudve before him so stxongjly sipported die g ^ , lesbian and bisexual community. Mr. Cuomo real­ized that in otder to effectivdy deal with wliat aik our State econotr^ and attack die breakdown ofour social £^bric, we need to work togetiier, not gainst one another. In his words, we were the •Tamily of New Yoric"

However, hig^vrankirig members of tiie Conservative potty, whose endorsement you received, albdr g ix gjffigj , have tnade it clear diat tiiey wish to obtain a "divorce*' fiom tiie g ^ , lesbian and bisexual mem­bers of that Stace Family. They do not want New Yotk to appear to be endocang our ^fei^ Mr. Pataki, that word shouki be used to describe a person's livir^ ar­rangement, attitudes, dress and bdiavior. Gays, lesbians and tHsexuak do not have lifestjies but ratiier lives. Your Conserva­tive party allies wish to cease State en­dorsement of and protection ftx our lives.

Thc opposite of life is death, whkh is tiie kind of sentence tiiese misleading and misgukled souls are prodaimir^ on the advances made under the Cuomo ad­ministration ftxourt^ts. Itis also the

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sentence being passed on to tiie men and wcMTien in New York State who, simply because of dieir sexual orientation, are likdy to be tdegated to an even mote suf­focating status of second-class dtizen­ship. For surdy, to be ft^roed to live cme's life bdow its ftJI potential and not the way God meant it to be, is die crudest and slowest deadl sentence to administer to any human being.

Finally, Mr. PaCild, you must keep in mind that, as a Republican, you won the Governor's race with less than 50 per­cent of the vote in a state where there are more votiEis registered Democrat dian Re­publican The reality is that many pecple were voting c^ttslGov. Cuomo and ttol for yoa That foct shouki not only humble you but slow down any fast-track ap­proach you and your si^porters may be designing to undo Mr. Cuomo's pro­gressive reoord- Four years fiom now you will not have the luxury of runnir^ agiinst someone else's record or be the bene­factor of the "anybody but Cuomo" sentiment. T o ignore the gay, lesbian and bisexual community is electorally stupid in this State. Circumstances will most likely be different in 1998.

Actually, your dection could be a turn­ing point for this State's gay, lesbian and bisexual community. We've grown com­placent over the last 2D years, rdying on our fiiends in Albany for the imjiementa-non and preservation ofour ri^ts. Some men and women are abfe to get fcjst intiic housing tracts of suburbia or lead dos­eted lives, many pretending tiie y , les­bian and bisexual community's agenda is not thdrs to embrace. And while there are those irtt^'idxjals who, fbr whatever reason, fed they must hkfe their sexual orientation, do "quietly" support the

agenda, there are unfortunately many others wbo sneer at " ^ y ri^ts," wishing instead to be left: alone. They place a greater emphasis on economic issues Hke lower taxes, but ignore die fiwrt that the very govemment those tax doDars sippott does not recc^pizc tlie members ofour community, whether in the doset or out, as first-class citizens, deserving of fair and equitable treatment under the law.

It is this last group, Mr. Pataki, that hc^5ed you get into office. They played thar part and now you will assume the rofe you've been so anxiously awaiting. For the sake ofthe "Family of New York," a phrase I fear will be placed in mothballs, I sincerely hope you do not automatically ft>llow the advke ofyour supporters in the Conservative party. Their idea of what direction our State should take is in direct conflict with the nickname New York has bome ftx over 200 years, the Excelsior State, which means forever upward.

In dosing I again extend my congratu-larions to you. Rather dian being eaten up by bittemess over tliis dection, I see opportunity for my community. The chance to mobilize gay men, lesbians and bisexuals in great numbers will have a di­rect relationshp with your approach to our issues. The harder you pudi, die moce you listen to your Conservative si^^port-ers, the easier it will be to mobilize our forces and shove back

I bdieve it is human nature to not real-ize what you have until it is lost I woukl have preferred to continue the fight to gain new ground instead of strug^ing simply not to lose what weS^e already wtxi.

However, the time for hand wririging is over, the time for acrion has arrived. I p l e d ^ to you. Governor-elect Pataki,

to support you when I believe you are r i ^ t aild staunchly criticize you when I bdieve you are not R^^irdless ofyour party affiliation you are now our State leader, and therefore deservir^ ofa cer­tain amount of respect and cooperaticMi, at least initiaUy.

The time ftx politicking is over and the time fix leadershp has arrived I look ftx-ward to watdiing you rise to die oocaskxL

H I V U P D A T I B Y JAMES S.C Bixxft^FiELD

Gracias de la vida The first day ofthis month is Worid

AIDS Day. When I worked in Seneca County, we usually packed die wedc when World AIDS Day fell to do our major advertising/campaigning push to in­crease HIV awareness.

We did some remarkable stuff in diat small county, often more than Monroe County. This year is no exception; the Seneca County AIDS Task Force is host­ing a major conference on "AIDS in the Workplace" on Dec. 2 Contact Jill Gon­zalez at the Geneva Office of AIDS Rochester at (800) 422-0282 for regis­tration or more information.

However, I sometimes wonder if tiiese splashy canpaign stjie pushes are really effective. I guess I have a proUem witii the "instant recognition" moments that Ametican society seems to thrive on these days. Somehow, sloping an ADDS pin on fix a week, or even a montii, and act­ing pious because "die federal govem­ment is just not doing enough to help those poor people" seems sl^itly insult-

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Now don't get me wror^ I am 100 per-oentptoactive fisr anythir^ that hdps get the word out; educates, illumiriates, saves lives and improves tiie quality of Hfe fix everyone. If a gimmick is needed, I've done i t If it takes schrick, pass the rib­bon and die seltzer botde.

It is just diat I deq^air when people orily pay Up-service because it is the "p>oliti-caBy oxrect" thing to d a Pcditidans pour out to shake tiie hands of AIDS activists, but never enter an ADDS waid in a hoq)*-tal without a camera crew. Then they vote down funding after the dections.

Stars and celebrities tell their oragic stories about thdr dear fiiends who have M e n *Stictim" to HIV; but diey never seem to see tiiat diey "victimize" their "fiiends" by seeir^ tiiem as kss than tiiey were beftxe. AH diis, and everyone has a ribbon.

WeB, now it's December, a time of gifts and gratitude fix die Life that has been given and shared So, let me take time out from my usual stuff to cdebrate some­thing that I fed is important, namely the presence amor^ us of dedJcated women and men who pass beyond the mcMTients of rhetork to quiedy work all year long widi various aspects of HIV/AIDS.

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your HIV posirive budd/s life. You brir^ food, sdmdation, humor, oompassaon, trudi and a beacon of l ^ t into tiie d ^ londBness that is any di^ase. YouVe ccdied broken bodies in die t i i ^ t and dimbed mountains beskle your budcfy in die d^ . You are a gift of Life, and a pce-ckius gift tiiat is. You know, first hand, the reality of tiiis "fiDfcvcr job." It is writ­ten, I h o e is no greater b v ^ than fbr one tols^down his life fbr anodier:''Youaie fivir^ esctti^^Ies of such love.

Ihank you to tiie &milies and fiiends wlio hope, s t r v g ^ tnoum, and rqoice in die life diat is presGit to diem, when fnV occurs in dicir midst Thatiks to tlwse v t o will remember, and aDow tiiemsdves to be filled with tiie memory, tlie history, the spirit ofour HIV positive sisters and brodiers. You are home and hearth, you are the Promise bodi made and kept Let your HIV positive loved one's life shine b t i d d y witiiin you! Proclaim their lives proudly, and never let us forged

Thank ypu to tlie lovers, husbands and wives wiio have nesded t i ^ bodies atid dieir lives next to our sisters and brothers widi HIVandAIDS. Thanks to their chil­dren and parents, too; for accepting the responsibflity of truly being "femfly." It is the warmth of your heart, your fidelity and faithfiilness, diat wifl bring us t i i r o i ^ die daricness of AIDS. It is s ^ diat "two be­come one:'' one heart, one love, one truth, one hc ^Cj one yearning few home and h ^ -fmess. Thank you ft>r aBowing your spouse or loved one to live within your love.

Thank you to the doctors, the nurses, die hosfatal and dinic aides, the lab techni­cians, the candy stripers, and all tiiose who have ever stretched fe>rth a healing hand Remember diat even if tiie body finally fails under your hand, it was your toudi tiiat managed to heal dieir hearts, and help carry their dreams doser to home.

Thank you to the case managers, social workers, administration people, and aU those tiiat h ^ fcad us t h r o u ^ the night­mare of t e d - t ^ and "govemmcntese." Eqiedally those who bear with smiles and oon^Mission the "non-con^>liant" dient, or those \\iio are demanding, arrc^ant, fiightened, and fighting for dieir lives. Tlwriks for your creativity, your justke, arid fix daily "taldr^ your work home" widi you You arc stewards ofour community.

Thank you to our educators. You are ofien tfae lone voke of trudi in an ^lotant wodd. Thank you to our talentod and gifted educators that reach out to oommuntties of dififerent cultures, ku^us^jes arxi values. It is a gift of life tiiat enridics us all. To teadi is to leave bdiind a legacy of hope, and to empower with knowledge is die most noble of all pursuits.

Thank you to our activists, the lone voices of reason in an arrogint and indif-fiamt worki Thanks to our hardcore "in-your-face" rabble rousers, to our letter writers, to those who have "just voted" tiie ri^ way \)rficn HIV/AIDS was an issue on tiie line. Thanks to those who refiise to keqp their moudis shut wiien the needs ofour oonmnunity, or the need to

present tiie tmdi alxxit HIV, demands our voices. Thanks to those \rfx) arc in­volved in the tliankiess tadc of h ^ i i i ^ odiers a d ^ dietr bdiavior to keep diem safe. Those who teadi absdnenoe, those v h o run''safe sea^'courses, and those v t e hand out condoms may all come fiom different directions and values; but the results are the same: you have kept us ative another day to diate with you the joy of our lives.

Thank you to tiiose who have allowed diemsdves to be educated; to those 3rf1o have sat d m x ^ an HTV 101 course or a safer sex discusskm, or attended a pub­lk: forum. Thanks to those \^^o have read die bcx)ks and Ktetature on AIDS, to those who are reading this column now. Thanks to tiioee wlio have listened with dieir hearts and dioi^h^ widi didr minds, and then acted in a just manner. You should know that you are part of the solution.

Thank you to tiiose \ n ^ remind us of tlie humanity of AIDS. To every set of hands that stitched a quilt panel, whetiier it graces die AIDS Quilt or a loved one's bed, you have warmed the entire cornmunity witfi your love. Thariks to those who brought the Names Project AIDS Quilt to us this year, to those-vxho hung pands fitxn the heights and tiiose who stood witness to our loss. Thanks to diose who visit the sick, who bring flowers and food, who stretch out their hands and arms to warmly em­brace those with AIDS with wdcome touch Tlianks to those who have ever pinned on a ted ribbon, no matter what their moti\arion, and especially to those vAyo use thdr talents and resources to make them. Remember that "god is in tiie details," and it is you who have ^fied our community with a needed boost in cjuality.

Thank you to aB tiiose namdcss and fiicdess people that I forgot to men­tion in this space, to anyone who has ever taken tiie time to step outskie thdr own petty concems and allowed them­sdves to touch and be toudied by die Kfe crf" someone widi HIV. You are the febric ofour civilization, and your selfless acts grace us alL

But most of all, tiiank you to afl of our sisters and brotiiers infected with HIV. Thank you ftM-bearing witfi us Ax ien wc say sti:^d arkd s<Mnetimes hateful tilings, \;^hen we don't imderstand, or don't care. Thank you fi^r bdr^ a jMcsence of Gour­m a n d humanity among VK, even when you f i^ so de^^erate and afiaid Thanks for your burner, your honesty, jour spirit You are dbe mirror in which we gaze iqxin oursdves. In a qieedi befctfe the Seneca County Board of Siqservisors, I once caBed how we deak whh HIV an indication of cxar 'hope fi>r the fiiture." I want you to know that you are our *1iope for today." I shaB not forget you, your lives \wB be carved upon my heart Thank you to everyone dse v*K> ^>ens tiieir heart as wdL

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A I D S Rochester, Ittc, 1350 University Ave., provides education, referrals to appropriate service agendes, client and family services, advocacy for people fedng HIV-linked discrimination, and odier services, including finan­cial assistance and a public education sp^ker bureau. (716)442-2220 V / I D D (business line) or (716)442-2200 V / T D D (hodine).

Hepitjg Peopk ttnthAIDS, Im, (HPA) P.O. Box 1543 Rochester NY 14603-1543 is a non-profit, volunteer organization. HPA raises and distrib­utes funds to support programs that provide services to people living with HTV and AIDS. Funding is provided to agendes located in the counties of Monroe, Ontario, Schuyler, Seneca, Lhdngston, Chemung, Steuben, Wayne and Yates, Hodine (716)987-1853.

Gay Alliance ofthe Gettesee Valky peer facilitators can provide referrals to physidans and service agendes. Person on duty Sunday/Friday 6:30-9:30 p.m. Message machine other times. (716)244-8640.

H I V / S T D Coordiftatiott Project of Monroe County, run through Monroe County Department of Health, provides information, education and train­ing, and maintains a resource library. Sue CoweU, (716)274-6114 (V/TTY).

Community Health Networky Inc. (CHN). 758 South Ave. HIV testing; medical, experimental and pentamidine treatments; John Washbum Library; support groups; sodal work and case management services. Emphasis on early intervention for all aspects of HIV and AIDS. (716)244-9000.

RochesterArea Task Fone on .AIDS (RATFA) is a collection of agencies pro­viding a multiplicity' of resources and services to the upstate New York com­munity. Their offices are located through the F i n ^ Lakes Health Systems A^cy , which aiso provides medical literature and newspaper clippings, as well as demographic and statistical data for use in developing health care ser­vices. KeUi McMahon, (716)461-3520.

Greater Rochester Air>S Interfaith Network (GRAIN) provides lay and pro­fessional care dirough healing and memorial services; training of friendly visitors for visiting homes, hospitals, hospices and prisons; informarion about pastoral resources and advocacy on behalf of peopJe 2ii£cctcd by AIDS. (716)889-8050.

Monroe Community College maintains an AIDS Resource library in the I.eroy V. Good Library, 1000 E. Henrietta Rd. 424-5200.

Mottroe County Health Department, at 111 Westfall Road in Henrietta, of­fers testing and counseling for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. (716)274 6146.

Strong Memorial Hospital provides a complete range o fHIV medical care, including access to experimental treatment protocols, and HIV testing. Also provides individual and group psychotherapy. Training of health care pro­fessionals also available. Infectious Disease Clinic, (716) 275-0526. Depart­ment of Psychiatry, (716) 275-3379. AIDS Training Project, (716) 275-5693.

Planrted Parenthood of Rochesier and Genesee Valky offers testing and informa­rion (716)546 2595.

HIVUpdate. GRC channd 12, Tuesdays 8:30 pm, Samrdays 9:30 pm. Pro­duced by Physicians Association for AIDS Care (PAAC.)

Threshold Youth Center provides confidential testing for young people ages 12-25^ Fees on sliding scale, no one denied service. Threshold Center for Al­ternative Youdi Servkes, 80 St. Paul St. 454-7530.

Nett York A I D S Institute E>perimerttal Treatment Irtfoline, Up to date informa­tion on clinical trials and expanded access programs. Touchtone phone. 1-800-MEDS-4-HIV; (212)239-5523.

Family Plantting Services of the FingerLakes will provide confidential or anony­mous free testing in Ontario/Wayne/Seneca Counties. (315)781-1749.

Action Front Cenier {Aaion for a Better Community.) Provides HIV pre­venrion education and case management services. HARC program for parol­ees and families. Training and technical assistance to service providers. Re­source library open to public. All services free and confidential. Multicultural and bilingual staff. Rudy Rivera, program manager. 150 N. Clinton Ave. Hours 8:30-5 pm, Monday-Friday 546-6180; fex 546-5669.

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Many new feces greeted the founders of Lannbda Car Qub at tiie Nov. 5 [ban­ning meerii^ heki at tiie GAG V Ccwn­munity Center, 179 Atlantic Ave.

Since die meedng nine new members have been received, brir^ng tiie total to 61.

A M K H J ^ the onset of wkiter has forced membars to take tlieir cjassic cars ofif the nxud, it hasn't stopped dub activities. A tc^ to Toronto on Nov. 11-13 induded tours of tiie Canadian Auto Museum and tiie palatial estate ofthe fixmder of Gen­eral Motors.

The chs^jter is pJannii^ to send a corv or^pnt to tiie Detroit Iriternational Auto Slow in eariy January, and a hici^ few are bcxjking fli^its to Phoenix, Ariz, fbr die famous Banert-Jadcson Auto Auctioa The Scottsdale, Ariz, chapter of die Lambda Car Q u b has a weekend of events jJanned around the auction, in­cluding a catered lunch at the worid's best junkyard!

To kam more about the Firmer Lakes Chapter's plans, contact our president Rob at 225i)769,or write to: LCC-Rr^er Lakes R ^ o n , P.O. Box 20545, Roch­ester, N.Y. 1460Z

Open Arms MCC O p e n Arms M C C is cdebrating the

hohday season with lots of music and fim. First, to start the holiday season and get everyone in tiie mood, the ciiurdi is host­ing a social on Dec. 4 at 5 p.m. at the chapel in the Auditorium Center, 875 Mam St..

Thc social wil] be an opportuniry^ ro decorate our chapel, sing some holiday si^nffi, and max-bc play soox: games. O f

course, no sodal is complete widiout food, so we win be ordering pizza, and Glaring with each odier in tiie season diat never grows old.

On Christmas Eve at 7 pm. the Christ­mas Cddxation wil be our churdi com­munity's prqiaration for tills very )ecial ho&d^. There wffl be nnusk:, storytdling, singbg, reading, smiles and lau^ter , cancfld^^ and some very ledal memo­ries to share with our cxmimunity. After tlie Cdebration, coffee, hot chocolate, and otiier rereshments win be avaiiabfe foraU.

On Christmas riKwiiirg at 1030 ajn. our regulariy sdiedufed Sunday moming wordi^ service win take place, so join us as you are able. For more information about tiiese and otiier church activilies, please contact Open Arms MCC, 875 East Main St. (716) 271-8478.

Men's Chonis It's December and time for tiie Rcxii­

ester ksbi^y community to gather for its armual fiimiiy oejebraticm of tiie hcJiday season.

The dates: Dec 10, at 8 pjn. or Dec 11, at 4 p.m. The place: tiie Downtovwi United Presbyterian Churdi, 121 N. Rtz-h u ^ St The CKxaskm:''Swdl the HaBe-lujahs,''a fc«nt concerr of Christnias arid Handkkah musk b^'tiie Rochester Gay Men's Chorus and the Rexrhester Women's Community Chorus.

'This wiB truK'be a GALA Qirismias," says Men's Chorus director Nick Will­iams. ( G A I ^ in capital letters rcfers to tiic intemationaJ oiganizaticm of g ^ and leshian choruses.) "A Jor of qualiti'music for men's vokes is now comirig out of die CJAlJ \ network, which thus means

a l ^ ^ c]uality pfockict for Rochester." Fbr examfJe, die chorus wiH sing a

cxiufde of very fiuniliar Chr^tnrias carok, but wtth words tliat are not so fitmiSar, One teUs ofthe trials of planning die ideal Quismias brundi, tiie odier of comii^ out to dear oid mom and dad at QiiBtmsB cSnner. Debbie Wacli^»ess and the Women's Chorus will round out the holiday mocxi widi music £oft the cdebration of Hanuldcali.

The ode crftiie ooocert, "Swd die Hale-k^ste," poiiits teward its finade, two ver-skms crf Hfldidcrs gseat I^yiehj^A Chorus, unlike anytiiirig heatd (or seen) befixe. One, redded "A SoulfU Cdebratkm," wiB conJbitie bodi ciwcuses and wffl fea­ture go^id sif^pr ATsha AjayL The sanc­tuary of the Downtown Quttdi wiB be rociing to die rafters in tiiis delightful version.

Tidcets ft>r tiie event arc $10 and are av^ulabfc firmi chcmjB rnembers, fiom tiie fiiencBy merdiants and ageixies listed in our ad on p>age 17 of tiiis Ett^ty Chset, or by caffing t& ChorusHne at 4:^-0650. Tlclits fbr $7.50 fi>r seruors arid fbr stu­dents with ID wiB be availaWe at tiie door.

Are you a g^y man looking fejrward to a ccid winter of borir^Tucsdby evenir^p? After you hear this concert, you wiU want to seize the opportunity to fll dxise eve­nings with music-making in die com­pany of 40 handsome men. New chorus members win be received at die first two rdiearsals in January Qan. 3 and 10.) Ccmie at 6:30 pjn. for vc»ce pJacement We re­hearse down in the catacombs ofthe Downtown Llnited Prcsbyterian Churdi, 121 N. Fitzhi^h* but s^ns wifl show you the way. CaB 4234)650 for more infor­mation.

O m ^ a This ttiondi Oneg^ begitis hokSbg our

montiily cofifeehouscs at the G A G V Community Center 179 Atlantic Ave. We're looking forward to sharing the pride and qsiiit of tiie ccmnmtmity buiki­ing we worked so hard to ged

There are so many indhnduals and or­ganizations to thank feMT aD the efforts, ac­tivities and persistence that led to owning our cTwn community centea; we wouUn't know \rfiete to begia So x;( send liie l%-gcst "diank you" we can muster to all diose iiwotved, as we brit^ tiie Omeg^ coflfisehouses home to our own com­munity!

The coflfedioiBe oo D e c 3 wiB be our holiday cxkbraticxi. This year we're ask­ing aB tiiose attenc£ng to brir^ scmie hcdi-day cards which we will address at die ooflfediotKe to give to fi>ncs who are in a hospital c>r nursir^ home over tiie De-c^rnber holidays. The specific institjtion win be chosen by those attending the coffeehouse, and the cards will be de­livered bj^ cme of die of&ers of O m ^ ^

Our annual g ^ exchange wiB also tafce place, and we arc rec{ucsting tliat no cme qicnd more on a gift than $5. Please do not fed you must bring a gift to attend We cmly ask tiiat those bringng g ^ be the only ones expecting to receive a gift We wiU have 50-50 raffles for some delightful door prizes and well raise our voices in the carols ofthe season. We hope to see many of you then!

Out and About Tis the seasctti... to get out your skis or

ice skates, or to join Out and About in baking holiday cookies!

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a c c e p t a n c e • fami ly of o r i g i n wo rk • c o m m u n i c a t i o n pa t te rns • body

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self accep tance • fami ly of o r ig in wo rk • c o m i m i f i i c a t ! o n patte'-ns •

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emotional concerns Individual a n d couple therapy

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sMi^aixijomi^ da$^}^tmktxtott^ l ^ t e ddE. A l levds arc wdoorre arid (iQlQ^isrilbepcovkkd £ b r b ^ ; i ^ ^ < jc i^s$3^t^s isatc rental!^ baw ang^ Pfcase caEJeflfcy at 271-1017 jftieaclof dme to confirm.

jb iaus as we attCTKi a seasc?nal c ^ ^ iicm vOAx thc Rochester Gay Men's C]faDcu%^(te sffl be g^vir^ thek hG&%^ oqiwett D e c 10 ard 11. TTTC Rochester Wqmeri*s O^mrrnjnity Chcxus are spec^ guests. The concert features a cliverse sdection of traditional and contempo-taty hcdiday strains, induding a gospd remake ofthe ""Hafldujah Q^mss" dim TviUleave you dandng in the aisles and praying for more. Please call Bcdi at 244-^7159 by Dec. 6 to reserve a ticket

GJlitig all cocrfde enthusiasts! We will be baking three dififerent holiday cookies

for ]cu to take hofoe: Peciple >vffl work in small gro^>s to prepare each r e c ^ . Ihen vve wiB shate our cffixts ^wjdi ev­eryone. Bdrig a oontaber to take a few home. I h e cost is $ 3 ^ for irf;recient& Gdl Sue at 244^7159 to RSVP and get ditectioiis.

Our ficst b u n d i social of 1995 w3l be h ^ on JarL 8 at iKX%n» at the Gay Al­liarKe ofthe Genesee Valley, 179 At­landc Ave. Brurxii scxials give old and new members a diatKe to meet, share ideas, plan acrtivities for the coming mcMitfas and, of course, chow, ciiow, chowi We hope that aB of you M ^ are new to the gtoup win conader becomir^ more than just a name on our mailing l ist—we'd love to meet everybody in persorL Out and About has g^iriod over 20 membets dunr% the past year and we srin haven't met some of yoa Please jcwn us and bring a dish to pass. CaD Bob at 473-9384 to RSVP. Ifyou would like to host(ess) a brunch sodal in the upcoming months, let Bob know.

Out and About is a sodai/recreational group serving the lesbian, gay, and bi­sexual conimunity of Rcxiiester. Mem-bersh^ includes subscription to our bi-

riKitidily newdetter;'Ti&sigps.*'For rncxe information, write to Out and About, c / o GAGV, 179 Adanric Ave., Rodi­ester, N.Y. 14607.

See you Out and Aboud

Wotnen*s Chorus Rochester Women's Community

Chorus is gearing If) for'"Swdltng the HaDdt^ahs." Hus will be the second time dnce 1985 that the RocJiester Women's Comrmotity Chorus and the RcKhester Gay Men's Chorus have collaborated for a holiday concert

The performance will be h d d on Dec. 10 and D e c 11 at the Dcywn­town United Presbyterian Church, 121 S, Rt2hug^ S t in RcKhester. The Saturday ni|B^ performance begins at 8 p.m. and the Sunday afi:emoon per­formance b ^ n s at 2 p.m. Tickets are $10 and will be available at the door.

The r^>ertoire wiU be varied and will indude many holiday standards. The two choruses will sing diree songs together. One of these is Quinc}^ Jones' arrangement of Handel's Fialldujah Chorus, from thc C. D. "A Soulful Messiah." It will

surely have the audience danciiig and singing in the aisles.

O n Nov. 20, RWCCs newly formed steering committee hosted the chonis foran autumn cabin party. H i e g ro i^ enjoyed an aftemcKtti of m i n ^ r ^ eating gcxxi fcxxl and watchir^videotsq^es of their Septem­ber concert with ' 'Woman to Woman," a feminist chonis fiom Cambricigp, Ontario, and the 1993 Nadonal Women's Feminist Choral Festival in Cincinnati, Ohio.

RWCCs spring plans indude a con­cert endded Sheeray Hayim, "Songs of Life," a cdebradon ofthe music and coilture of Judaica widi several guest performers.

For more information about joining die chorus, please call 473-7365, or come to one of our Wednesday nig^t rehearsals from 6:30-8:30 at the Met­ropolitan Community Church Sanctu­ary in the Auditorium Theater, on the comer of Prince S t and East Main S t

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'Since '979 the Dowotown Untted Presbylerian Chunh h.is beeo part oi a national nt'work of Presbyteriaii Churches welcoming bibcxuitl, lesbian, and gay people ir lo full participation A« a Mure Ught' Cburch, we believe XIAX such persons add insight to our faith communtty and we value this new il lumination. join us with your light!"

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B Y TkoMAs FRONCZAK, ACSW,CAC

Anonymous sex In the last scveial issues of die iQgi^

Oua; tfaexe has boen nnxh mentkm ttKl mocAaong made about men havk^ sex \(mh other men in the various parks of Montoe County. I have been g ^ to see the letters to the editDrvcidf^varkxjs c^inions on this topic.

I abo thank Uoyd Gtay, pteadcnt crf the G ^ AOiance, for takit^ a kadetsh^ roJe in d:ie conununity to b e ^ prdirni-nary discussions about this topic {EC^ Nov. 9^. It is one that is t ^ ^ emoticxi-diy chaogpd, and x^ikii has aheady a e a ^ several fiictksns within the community, each wirfi quite divetgcnt ideas on the tof»c I suspect we will all be watching and Glaring our views on this issue in tfae upconung months. Its time is here and it \ ^ tK>t go away. Ihis is an invitation to let your voice be heard.

The notion of "anot^nrnotB ses^'btitigs widi it dl kinds of thoi^^its into the minds c r f g ^ and non-gays aHke. Juc^piental atrifticks with mggJktic overtones wiB not stop such behavior. It k in &ct such sexual shaming (tead here * sexual abused*) that in many cases fuels such befaavior.

Sodety has made gay individuals tfae "outfaws." In an efifort to survive, mary have found it t>eoessary to act as the "out­law * to get basic needs met Whete are g£qr men and lesbians sodaDy sarxrtioned to ea^xess diemseives? When was die last time you walked with yeur arm arouiKl your lover in the mail? Hov/ easy was it

to bdng i ^ die tiew giy )Oj'i£ oazy about in fiont ofthe & m ^ at Ifaatiksj^vir^ din­nei^ How comfortable do you fed hokl­ing your kyver s hatid actoss the dinner table at a testautant or in a movie theatet?

Most g ^ men ate aD too £am3iar widi die cdd **te$tyour l ^ a g ^ s t l : u 5 in die theater,'^ or the odier Gl£dme £ivoiite, 'lioild his haiid down below seat levd so the stia^htguys befaind you won'tnodoe and possibly beat you in tfae head afier tfae movie." Feditigs, and specifically sexual feelit^ are coctqdex, atid an 2 ^ proacfa as sitnplistic as c r e a t i t i g l ^ ^ -tion to "outlaw*^ certain behavior will hardly accomplish its intent

Let's shift die focus fi>r a mcxnent to consider anodier issue—hetetosesoial erotica as porttayed in pdme drne s o ^ operas, Holtywood productions, and to­mance novds. How many times has a het-etosexuai oonJe been sensuously por-trsyed havir^ sex on the beacfa^ l l i e scene is titSadrg. Etotka at its best Now let s cfaatige tfae scene to two men, and the set-t i t^ is a patk. AB of a suddai, at^er and disgust abound Where is the cfifiexenoe in tfiis picture? Two itidividuals of tfae satne sex. Thc issue is deariy one of HOMOPHOBIA.

For the patrons crfdie parks (dso bocdc-stores, movie theaters, public restrootns, and kxker tooms), tlie issue in most cases is not sex at all Tfais is mainly an issue of a search ft>r intimacy and cotmection. What momentarily is cqsetienced as an *inrimate" contiection b ofien hter caqje-rienood as diamefid, foibwed by an e t i ^ tiness and significant depression. This negative mood state then fijels GCtfitinuod behavior, NJdiich becomes cyclical

Maty men arc devdopmentaBy not able to int iafie d^ar same-sex. attractions into

a sense of Sel^ and etid if> ^ilittii^ off intimacy and seacuality. Snce tfaese men ate crften out of tdatxxish^ with tfaem­selves, tfaey seem to use "anonymous" sexual connections fio birid wfaatever aiixi-ety they msy be esq^erictidi^ Ifae issues ixitca-p^iyskalty are actua^ rather conv plex, and wfaat we ace finding in researdi is tbit diese tnen arc ofien dealirig widi iindettyitig tncxxl cfisoiikxs (ckptession) and anxiety disocdets (on tfae obsessive-compulsive specrtrum).

Ihere ate cTfien histodes of sexual abuse in tfaese men at a your^ ^je. ^ y feding is tfaat every g ^ man faas been sexually abused, at least emc3tionaIiy, tfarou^ cid­tural homopliobia.) Tfaete also seem fio be histories of intimacy dysfimction in die eaiiy fiimity lives of these individuals. Newer researcfa is lookit^ into the sdf-perceived notion of masculinity/non-masc:ulinity tfaat tfaese men esqTedence. H ie act of connecting sexually has be­come a way to lessen anxiety that arises in tfaese complex incUviduals.

Sex has cxxne to be used as a mesffis to alter moods. Sex is also used to deal with sudi issues as s^giession, powet; and oon-tidL While even the faealdiiest aduk uses sex to mcKxl-alter, what we are talking about here is tnen who ate very limited in tfaeir scope of being able to deal with cer­tain neg^ttive mcxxi states diat arise. Ifaeir sexual befaavior beccxnes halxtuated and doveiL Tfaere is no "cfaoice" in tfae pic­ture. Tfae sex tnsy beitig momentaty plea-sur^ but ofien t x i t ^ a stronger sense of guih and shame afierwards. Tfae itvfi-viduaTs thinkir^ can beccxne obsessive and tfae behavior compulsive.

In pcpubr literature, the term "sexual acklicdon" has been used, albeit incor­recdy. This is not a true adcScoon. You

cannot booome adcictsd fio sex. People do tKX beccxne addktcd fio sex in die same wsy tfa^ become addkted fio akxJiol or odier cltugs. In die ckficddon c>f a true ad-dktion ^ alccfaofismX cxir 12-sfiq> pro-gpms wll fiefl us diat tfaere is no cure. In cicafiqgwidioonipubive sexual bdiaviois^ tteatment and cure iavr avaSahb. Ofien a cxxnbinatkxi c>f psychcv pharmaocdpgjr and psydiocbets^ can bdtig abcxit s ^ tiificantcfaangps for diose itiJvkkials suf-feritig sudi onncftions, Researcfa siypotts, and I have seen in dBents, tn^xesstve suc­cesses witfa a ccxnlxnation c^die newer SSManridqxessatxnyyfcartnns(Rc3zac) and psycfaodiersqy wfaen deaUt^ widi tfae obsessions, ccxi^xdsicxis, and de­pression contiectBd \ ( ^ tfais condition.

Tfae goal of treatment is to kam more fae^fid ways to tnanage anxiety, and fae^dy ways of expcessti^ notmal sexual and intimacy needs. Be wary of ^>-proacfaes tfaat win continue fio shame ycxi sexuafly. You ate a sexual being fiom tfae day ycxi are bom until tfae day you die. Sexuafity is a txxinal arid healdy expces-skxi of yoursdf You in fiict define your own sexuality.

My concern with tfae 12-sCEp programs in tfats atea (SA, SCA, SLAA) is tfaat diey Gonikiue to pathology sexuafity and sup­press its esqxesskxi, wfakfa wil do nodiing moic tfaan increase die anxiety that in tum fijds cxxTipulsive behaviors. If oon^xdsive sexual bdiavicxs are intetferii^ widi your life, seek out cxxnpetent treatment to deal witfa tfais common condition.

ThomasFrtmc:^kACm',CACisaNYS Scertsed social tvorker in the fields of addiction medidrte, reawery, sexuaBty concerns, and H I V it^cliott. He cart be contacted through hispri-po^practicewiih White mtce Associates at 272-7210.

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looking for fantasy Aaftllnieat with open minded F who eajojrs simosi anythinE. f3927

fSOg Body M M c r wwttad fbr hoc hoc ! ^ ! ^ S Z i 7 I ! ^ J ^ i ^ i z S l nw.Wendsfaip.maybemoee.MuWte wbocafiteadiiM,ibrfooCasyAilfllf- BIWM M. brown^Unc, ^6" encomteni SWM Mwk. •m.mbr se«> iBleUt|ent Affian_American hesithv. #2791 nunt. t l2fO llm„ v«v Hod iookina. sa«iet «Y Gofieo«8, cxpcrie«Md BIF seeks encowlws! SWM seeks muscular ^ ; ^ S l , : ^ ^ ^ ^ S ^ ^ ^ t 2 r ^ ^ i Z healthy. #2791 meat #I2>0 B».. veiy wod looking, straight act- MBIWM knldag for MBiWM for

„ „ . „ . ^, ^ l ^ n/s. ptetty. inexpoienced Bi-curious fuyrQfnefom.discieeifcrd>eright, ^ I ^ L ^ S T ^ or r w OT waaig ^ K y ^ - i g 4 n , ngetHmnbam SWTV . - h « l ^ » « . i«>kiaa for *»!• **™t ' "^ " " ^ " ^ ^ »»V *»*in»^8^ f ^ ^ i S * . ^ ^ ; ^ 2 : ^ S 2 S F ' » ^ ° ^ ^ « S S c e , . i4«3 K t « 5 d g ^ ^ ^ S T t S ^ ' I M n ^ BI J ^ g o S S J k i e g , to<Stac for G M M S 2 i t ? / f o ? S S i y ' f o B i S ^ S ^ i f i ^ ^ T ^ j J ^ ^ ^ T ^ ^ ^ ^ M f i S S L i f l S ^ l i ^ ^ . S S ^ WIMnialcfMyWCISOfuntoving. WM 27, Mtn«l»e , seeks o k f c f 1 i r l * ^ * 2 i ^ J * * i * J ^ ^ ^ (25-31) who enjoys sports, dining, »l23t ^ . f ^ ^ S ^ l S L ^ 2 £ ^ Dtaawt , nMnrllw M eccommo. ftgmentMuutecie-snddi^ - J i ^ ^ 2 2 ; ^ f o n ^ cnly. for fantasy folf..lment #4454 l S ? S c J ^ ° ' £ e ^ ^ i ^ ^ S - v * e s . ««iing. talking and i 5 ^ » t e « S W M , 25, very r»od look- ggg»ip. Must be c l e « u - f o ^ d j g , m«uie MBiM in v « e ^ ^ ^ c . w v r ? wh»,^iifaft«m»h..i : : :^ finmwu. new experiences and fone Good i o o U ^ WM, 24. Syracuse discnet. expect same. #1430 " * ^ '— **'••* * ^ » - ' * * ^ ^ ^ •«*** ' ^ ^ " G W F 3 7 . w i « « r . l A f t o « l h e h « « icfm fnendship. M 4 1 «. .wdlbuU?heaI*; .d»sciS6Xr. ^ I l ^ C l ' ! ^ ^ I with a soul, ISOF who^ in touch with emotional iclf. #3524 MWC. he's subaysrfre, CD. she's

F 24. long Uood/blue. seeks F. Give meacalL «244g

e « s i « , open mi«Jed. seek, similar S f . ' S ? ' ! ! / ^ . ^ J L ^ . i ^ T T ! ' IC for get togethers and aduh fun. D A [dfree. »3517 Attractive SWC, she's 5 T , 32. t^ood, gorgeous aod Bi. soefcmg sub-missive Bi/GF. i332> Attraclive MWC, late 3(7s. with BiF. ISO attractive BiF/C for fim and ad-veniuR. N/s. d ft d free, discreet. expecisamc #3219

what slK wants and goes tt t tr i t Must be educated and emptoyed.

#6510

, C W M a . h « « « A m « « . V f i - S7n »-««rtoi«WM.6'0%l73!hs«33.joyiwortdngaut.v»ts,movies;k»k- J^*^,^***«*'^!:!?*S.'*K?1!2S: W-«««<«" WM, 35. teeking Bi/ 185 lbs.; seeUng curkwWM (30+) S T ^ i S ^ i X n 5 ™ r m t n \ f « t^wm/***-•«»««»«. «nK>y*««w-S3 for stoUW ?*> f » « » two Kfs fbr fiemgy CWMTTV/TS fornew experiences. foffnendshioa&faoteiv.feiaiwai- S S j g ^ ^ . S S i a ' ^ ^ ^ ies. dining out and moie. #2599 nt- jQj . #1057 fuIfiUmeot Age. r « « unimporttBL Not into head games. "^#3232 ity mwe imponant than looks.»442i S i p ! ^ ^ »u«»™H ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ j ^ 3 ^ ^^^^ j ^ ^ ^ BiWM atrtaCIVTVforeariy mora #1757

Very siihi^srive BiWM, 30. seeks okler. dominant M. #4405

WM 25, very Bi^urioas, 6 ^ 0 2 5 S S S ^ V ^ i i ? / 5 £ I i ^ i i J ^ ^ ing. afternoon fon. _#«2_ »»,bro^hif.kK*iiisforolderBi/ ^ ^ ' * ^ ^ ° ' ^ ^ ' ^ " ' ^ ^ ^ ' ' S m f^^*"^ '^ '^*^^^^^ '^^

MBIWM ISO M for discnet en- GM for safe, discreet times. Very ^ = = = ^ subminive M fte day or night en­counten. #439B diaease free, you must be al»o.il2ft< SWM 37, hang Jury, k » U n g f n X coimiers. D t e a e t k » a s s u ^

Red fanired M looking for red haired M (ttud-Xfi-cttiy 4(rs) who's in good

DBiWF30,artistk,inteUisem.re _^ -. , _ . .

SS3^foMlSSL 'DBaF ' (2 i -39)S WaaUslj Spanteh M. GWM. 25. BIWM 45, r 3 " . smsil buiW. clean, !? .? ! ! [^^g?"!"?*: ^ — P°'^°*'-friendsliipand more. Moms welcorne.

#4157

#522

Very attractive, submissive. BiWF ISO BiF (18-40) of any race, to be my

seeking Spanish Mforfriendshipand seeks same for quiet, fiui times. Dts- BiM3«,5'5-,daric/dark. very sens!-GM30*s,newioltochesaer.ISOBi/ possibfe relationahip D A d fiee. cieet. #1231 tiv-. loving, looking for Bi-curious Bi-curious/GMCsjfornKmingwcyfc-faopeio hear fiom you. #433< Bi-eurtoas MWFM. 39. 150 lbs. J * ^ i ? ^ ' i ' ? : ^ . S P S ^ ^ outs in my home. #375

Bl-cwtev M, 36. straight Kting. „ „ ™ Kekingsamigh! acting d M ( 2 0 - £ ) SiJc.dftdfre^ 'for ' i i j^VrMsand fornewexperwaBccs. #1698 „ ; ; ^ ,^29*7 SBIWM 30 aaiaintMi some. wcU built Bii fantasy fUlfUtmeoL

aeefahaod. s w M 2 4 . t a i l , f i ^ , 155fts.,brown/ ..J12? btwwn, good kwking. discreet, safe.

caring; seeks siiitilar Bi/Bi-curioia #1657 GWPM 34.150 »«. . aubum/liawl. M(21-30>farquiet.safe,di9cieetfun aiioysgoodheal(h.bavelandei|ting; times. No strings aaached. #2Mt6

MWC 29, seelung attractive MWC master. SatisfactkNi guaranteed. for discreel relationship. #3049

GM, 6'0-. 190 tta.. . « , w n a ^ . ISO same or SM (25-50, fc, saffe. Must be opeo minded and c l ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ _ _ ^ S i j E " S S 2 3 S ^ i ^ S J S S 2 g ^ ^ M ' ' ' ^ * ' "^ ' ^ ' " ' * ^ * #1164 dominant BitS/TV for discieet cn-

#3081 F22, cRte, petite, fun.cnergetic. look­ing for F for fon. adventure and fan-

Uasy. t l i 23 AttractivcCwith BiF.seeksclean.d ft d firee B LF for late n i ^ fCt logctliers and fantasy fuinilroent. #2107 Sexy, iMninine. multi racial F. 27. Bi-curious. long browi^brown. tan complexion: searching for experi

Bi-curious BF loolung for feminine looking and acting, sensual BiF for new experience. Oniy seriats Incase.

#2S54

kxtking for M (18-25) for fon and discreet, hot encounters. _ „ „ _ _ . _ . goodtimes. #4146 Attractive, alliletlc MWC seeks Bi/ ^ : ' f ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ i « i f < ^ ^ ^ tamta%.DAd(m,eJLfKCttum. CWM 31, UtaHaa, brown/green, GWM for fun and fwtasy fulfiU- looking for WM. Help me! #2119 #l9g kicking for straij^t appearing and menL Discretion expected and as- Gorgeous MWM kx>king for gor- Help! Masculine M needed by well acting. Italian M(30>35) wito enjoys surtd. #1127 ecous MWM for quiet times snd groomed, good ntfined sttflierer.#l7

BiWM loDklBg for younger BiWM (under 30). #1627

#2)16 bikmg. volleybaU. movies. No b*r^ Bawitiftil, ftiU fignrad TV k)0king faendiy get togethers. « « « ^^^ „ ^^^^ j ^ .^ uniform. Polioe * ^ > ^ for muscular, majculine M. #1111 GWPM 31, 6'4". 180 lbs., l i ^ t and Fbe M's a place #6168

! S ? ' / ^ J * ' * i * ' i ! ^ - ' " * ' ^ * ^ ' * SexyTV,23.btond/gieen.k»k»Uke Are you a aexy BiTV/15 or her- brown/bhie.ISOCnvPM(25-35)for , ^ ^ ^ kvXZTfnr ««> ^ ^ H i WFfortalks.c«dpUy«g.gom{c«t. ShaJonStone.verypSwejseektog ^ ^ ^ i ' S i » ; VCA^i^vT^ fHendship.possibly more. #2040 g ^ ^ M S S U ^ i S ^ i S g r '

for friendship and more. Cafl me, Tm wonh getung to know!

#6649 GWM, 162 lbs., 5'8". seeks romantic

BiWM 32, dark/blrje. moustache. M for good times, possible relation-beard, hairy. 5'l(r. ISS TbL, saascu- ship. Age. race unimponant. Pk«sc iar, good shape; tooking for similar call. #6542

#1624 M for daytime encouniers.

just for friendship. CaU! « S 2 4 fotaqu attracttve, slender F. 3ng Uond/Muc. 122 lbs., ku

5'5 lotting

okler gentleman for excitement. #4140

message. MWM,A'2

#2040 MBIWM 28, very attractive, ktokmg

195 lbs., kmking for f" Bi/GBM for fon. #1608

WM. 5*7-, 130 lbs., young, slim. Bi feelings artd fantasies, seeking slim

#574

Bt-carloNB WM. 32. 67"

WM 36. eabaikil 11, teeks daytime fantasy fulfillmenl. Serious inquiries WM (21-30) for private, new experi only. #1580 ences and friendship. D ft d free^iVs.

^^^<^i.^":^^i^. s^ss^.^^£^? ffr^sar^fjtfcsss.^- sgr--'^"^-;ag r j ^ j ^ ^ - ^ . : s ^ . ^ ^ ^ ' ^ ' ^ ^ f ^^^ BiBF21.S'4".btack'brown.kioking BlBF2I.5'5M95Ib».,tookinEfor #4130 M > J C _ W M » .^^•^ ,CZ::Z ncrienccs. #1520 ^ T Z . . . — ^ - 1 — ^ ^ ~ - BIWM.attractive

2 ^ lbs.* BIWM 22,«Me.imiscular. slim. ISO #1485

#5725

for friend. Bi-eiarkias WF kwking for same. for conversations, possible encouniers.

#793 I MWF, mature, 44. fon loving, af­fectionate, much lo offer a special F.

#6235 jPetitc, feminine GWF. brown/ (brown, hopeless romamic. ISO spe-Iciai feminine F. #4875

J * 8 I companion or friwid. looking

#2071 F 34, loi« braw^Mat , fn. 5%". 127 lbs.. 36-24-36. kwking for same in attractive BiF for fim and fontasy.

#1882

CWM 18. lSOM(lg-23)for dating. leUtiottship and a whole lot nwie.

#4097 GWM 34. seeks masculine BU4.

#3999 UiokiagforWF(20.30>whowould Bl^curloua MWM, 40. attractive.

hfiaacattne WM, 32. seekkig young Bi-curious M for CD fantasy. #82 Curkws BIM, 39. S'W, 163 lbs., inexperienced, seeking inexperi-enced. curious BiM (21-45). #6589 Bi-curious WM, S'6^ 135 ttia.. very smooth, into working out aad run-

pcnenccs. M 30, kx)king for fUn. discieet lime BIWM 35. seeks Bi-cunous M (18- with diseaae free, conscientious per-28) with loitd builds, for experiences non. eXStn ofaUfietinK. #l50g

like to have new experiences, clean, very discreet, seeks submis- ning: seeks G/BiWM for tSriendship teacher. Race unimportam. Discretion a must.

#1849 si ve M/F (18-30) for new adveniuies.

#3990 and more. Must be n/s. #6460

^ _ _ _ _ BF, 135 lbs.. kx>king for stgniTicani jAre you the F cT our cfreams? If other. Give me f calj? #1258 lyou're an outgoing, sensual. iaiMti- K-curious F, 37. pretiy. likes mov-nativeBtFyouwouldbcthcperfectF ies. dining out and walks; ISO Bi-10 unleash the fantasies of aoracuve curious f^for friendship, possibly

IWC.mid-Ws. #4138 HK„^. * ^ n j 1 ^ * 1 ^ ^ " ^^*A^f??*"/ '^**'^* '^ F 24. modKT of two. looking for Ffor h « ? ^ « = ' " ' ^ « B * f " ' » * » > » « * friendship.goiagMthemaJlandcon-IfuinUmcnt. Must enjoys M's. toys versatiocu. #1153

SeeUi^ CVBiWM (28-40). #6397 WM for fiummcs.

BIWM,attrac«lve,sexy.clean, look­ing for TV/TS/Bi/OWM for famtty foTfilhaeat #1367 GWM 35, haialBniiii, good shape.

" ' " "^ SWM18.ISOdomkianiMafanyaffe -. 165 lbs., to ptoy with. #1497

#967

Bl.ctirious WM ISO C for new ex­periences aitd fantasy folfillmsnL

#5015 AtMetle, young M, 34. ISO older business M for discieet daviime en-counters. #4973 TuU, dark, handsome, niid-40's, hairy, dominant. ISO G^BiM. Must be gCNXl lookins and well built Race unimportant. Must be dlscrecL#36?9 BIWM 28, younger looking, ^im.

„ , ,^ . . ^ BI-curtoiaM kwking for new expe- ousrt3Mforf«tCTsyfumUmeni.#1302 btond^ue. disease free, seeks curi-Emcin%nMoCh,vengoodk)<A^ B^eurtow M, 24. 5"II". 160 tos., CWM 24, ISO country wesiem type riences. #yf7 WM M. li«>t>f/hrt>»B, i r^ inTf^ S"** '^'5*"- Y"^^ ^ ' ^ * ' ^ ^ ^ ^ mgM.4I.seekstiwM'sforhotwild Poking for solneone for fun times. OWM (40*) for nc* experiences. c W M 3 a « ^ voun. WM fl8-24> WM ^ a o T t o r l J S S ; f S « ^ ftm ande^ptonuKxis. #2470 ™co«n .e r s .Mu«bed«««f t« . Must t J discreet- l»«74 Be«d. oK-^tachcs a plus fi^ djtee. ^ ^ ^ ^ ' ^ ^ ^ ^jg^^* S l S U ^ ^ ^ i ^ S ^ ^ ^ WPM 48. 6*0-. 200 lb... curious.

and having fun. #4098 Attractive MWC, mkl-30rs, ISO at

enccMinters. Must be '"frw*r free

esuso BrowE^>hie SWM, 34. seeki M for new expertenot!*. Q M S Cood looUag, straight acUat , straight forward GM. 29. kxiking for young GM not into head games, to­tally serious, totally straight forward.

BM kmUnf for BM forgood times. #5398

BIWM 35. 6'6", 210 lbs., straight acting, discreet, looking fbr boyish M for fnendship. possible relation-ship. #5314

#001 Vwv fioil k>Qkii«. clean BiM^JO WWM 41, 8«ks youngCT Bi/GM for BiWM 34. saeks kandsone. weU J S K ? ^ K r ^ f « ,!^.«.ii . - ^ fanmy fulfillment »420 boitt generous BiM with s place of S ^ . 1 i l ^ S i l S i ? f r S = IKSV D^^aiLm WTV «« lc submissive hi,o^SfoySniasyfulflllni^;i;S^

Mn-V/aVTS for WiU fun. #378

Bi-curtous SWF ISO SWF for new n^ctivc BiWF/C (or friend^ip and for friendship or wbat ever. #3712 experiences and friendship. #2733 goodtimes PF, 5'6-, bkndailuc. kwking for F for reaUy good friendship, maybe lover. No games. #2558 Very attracUvc MWC, 28. seeking MC (under 35) for discreet encoun-

[ters and fantasy folTiUmenL She^ gorgeous, he's athletic, very good shape, very ctean. discieet- #ft>l8 Attractive WC ISO submissive

#1113

GWM 34, kwking for younger G/ BiM (18-25) for hot times. Btond,

GWM23,brownrt>rcma,5'6". 1 5 0 ^ _ ^ ^ ^,^ . , ^ «„ -_.. lbs., straight acting, kwking for simi- BIWM 36, 4'6", 200 Ihs., straight )ar M. #744 acting, discreet, good sense of humor.

GWM aO's, kwking for M who knows what to d a Call me! #923

ish type of guy. #311

GWF 33. brown^MOCl, confident. honest, passiotuae. i kiww who 1 am and wttai I want, do yoa? Call me.

#1104 BiBF 38, seeks soft kind, generous Bi/GF for intimacy, friendship and what ever else. #1094

GWM 39. 6'2", 225 lbs., black/ ttrown. fun loving, seeking intimate.

_ close encounters with M (25-45). l i k ^ ^ t e ^ i S i r a J b ^ t ^ ^ S S ^ j S i J V * ^ Hopcio hear from you! #754

^ fordaytimeencounten-Mutlbeclean MWC tookia« for «n.U. smooth, ' ^ 1 ^ ^ ^ ' ^ ^ ° * ' ^ ^ ' ^ ^ ? J ! ^ S * J ^ T ^ . ^ ' * ^ ' * ' " ^ Z Rec«ttly5M,newlocatk».newat- a n d d i o t t t ««M7 - . h ™ T - ! ^ i ^ M " S 5 a ^^^ ^"": * * ^ BiXIBM forfun tunes. #725

:~:' .: TTT:—;;;:r;T--:;TX good personality: seeks M (18-25X „ e«/»- . « . , ,_—_^ • Attractive, reaUstic WTV. ISO g-^: *^ - ' Youag !iWM, 6 0 . brown/gieen, tnwoth snd small buikl a plus.#S274 masculine, muscular gentleman who ^ ^ ^ Dtee buikl. seeking okler M for dis­creet encounters. #3634 Bi-curious WM. 47.6*0". ISO same

tinidie.rormoreinfarmaikm.cal]^- cWM20.relationshipminded.s«ks BlWM 39, kwking for M for #558

#3529 GWM.5'8-, l651bs..rDmMtic.8ecks

same. Clean, d A d free. #4533 times.

. Submisrive GWM. 5*11". 170 »»„ ExtrMaeiy satoayaalvc, passabte. « c « w "^fw* brown/bluc, 34. ISO big. dominant, jcsy TV seeks B/WM for wiU and fiUmcnt.

first timer, loolung for teacher. Musi be slim and smtwii. #1717 Very DiascuU nc M, 38. lockinH fcr TV/TS/CD for discreet encounters. D ft d free, expect same. Serious only. #1501 Attractive M iooking for M for ois-craet. romantk:, daytime encounters.

#1281 Hcrmaphrodl tv wanted by MBiWM. 41. clean anddiscrecL#9?l MBiWM 29, auractive. athletic. leelu dominani WM for fantasy ful-

#862 J , e .- w „ » , . . — hairy GWM (40-50). Mature, daddy discreet fWi. Oean, discieet. expect « « k i » A M n 8 . a s i »»utori7oiht

Ar.yo«_ready7Seekm«M(I8-25X BIWM 18. kwking for night Uny gpe .p lus . #6794_ , ^ ^ ^ ? : ^ ; } i ^ i J " i ' S ^ i ^ ^ ' very discreet encounters. #4473 f f ^ * ^ ^ " ^ / y ^ ' - « ? G W ^ » « t a M ( 2 I ; 3 ( ^ t o g o o d t i ^ SlraigM aetlan, . down to earth

MiMcalar. JtMog WM. very confl- ««d adventures. WUI be very gener- GWPM. S'lO". 175 lbs., eariy 30's.

for very discreet, safe encounwrs. #3)8

GBM. romantic, for kmg lasting. Z X ^ T i K ^ ' ^ t T T ^ ^ i L l Z C i Z « " ' " ' ? f ° ^ % '*^ " * " J S ? "^^^^ A r t r ^ v . « -« i^« r fRmFin« fc monogamous relattonship. « ^ ^ J Z 2 S ^ ; i ^ ; S ^ jSiST ««o»««e»-A#e unimportanL #227 c w M

« . » • . « , . ^ ^ « ^ « . « „ . « , . c i ^ E S S S S l S i S ? . * ^ V a f ^ t o r h m L B i - c u r i J l 3 g . l S Q ! ^ ' ' " ' ^ ^ " " " ^ " ^ ^ ^ ^ Muaeabir. ^ l a . . WM. very confl-and ad BiWF to become our upatairs maid. kngDrFforfanandfrteadrt.>pJII025 ^ ^ ^ ^ i ^ I ^ ^ ^ S i ^ ^ WM 35. ISO daytime fim. #4315 <tent, hand;dmri50F (I g-4(i Noth-ous with muscutor. body b u i k i ^ ^ fh; ISO same fbr dating and liwre. Must be open minded aad open to GBF 35, attnctlva^ femtotoe, 53" , Z » , ^ t m M ^ ^ ^ ^ « S l l CWM 19. btondOAie, coUege stu- tog is shocking. Caa be very discieet 86*19 ^ ^ #598

' dem.ioeksOWMfortoagiefmreto- # 6 7 ^ B1%VM 36, very good to^Uto^ took- S i i h a ^ v i WCD, 25. slim.£etite. ftdftee and discreet l^stringsjM67 meet culnires. 135 RM.. ISO for

btcxperlcncad BIM CD. 3(7s. ai­iractive. trim. ISO MCs) for daytime encotflHers and fanasy fulfUlmeot D

Bi-curtoisBF 27 mother oTone! ' * ^ **" ***** headed, fin tovtogF Cartoae WM, 21, seektagMnigbt ^gatu^ ISO fairty at t . i t iviBiHnmou.SF. j J S . ^ S S S ^ ' * ^ * ^ » ° * ' * W S ^ * ° ^ lK<ar io« MWM seek, very weO ISO m« B i ^ M s (30-4()) f i^ h 5 hrttimw, femtoine. for aew f ini ikiifi"! Race **** * picasc. as j a —t

» « » GWM 37, 6'0%lriin. Bke tooktog. tog S»BiW/BM (under 26)for * w ™ , , ( ^ , o e k s d o m i B a « WM27 druafrecsafe kwEngfoi

I unimportant D ft d nee. diacxetitm. [cleanliaess very iaapcrtaai. #931 Bl taaloaa, Aftteaa Aawrican F. mcxperteaced. seeks F. Race imim-portant #888 MWC aM-20'a, ISOOmiF fry toii-mate eacouBiers. #887 SWF 21. bfwwateMi, tooktog for Bi/Bi-curtous F (18-23) for foottsy and more. #B06 Attractive WC aeelcing Bi/Bi-cttri-ous WF for romaraic get toMthen.

#573 I Bi-cvritMB, shon hailed F seeks F as >esy as lam. #6947 Very, very attractive C, mid-20rs. ISO very attractive, femiaiae. petite F (20-28). MUSI be ctean. a/s. n/d.

#6943

Attractive BIBF, queen si2ed. look­tog for same for frieadshto. ftm liaws, dtotog out aad aMve. Muit be vcnr opea atiaded and cleaa. #961 Oaaataanft F seektog submissiveR

#957 DWF 36. seeks M/F for frtemMlig

WM laaUag for torn aate Witt thM wtoaar. thae.

Boneiohiber. CaH meaey-

built S/MWM for new experieaces, eacounters widt no commitment GWM28,6'0".Ughibevd.nketook poasible fantasy ferifBlBteat. #3657 Mustbetogoodsbapeaoddftdfhee. iog. maiuie. kiokmg for sasK (25-

# 6 7 a 355^ —

T^/CDforwiklandadveniuroiHAM. Q ^ W M ( I 30 ) to experience i m ' ^ ' taatpie thtogs. #5137

took-BIWM CD, towes to dtcaa up, ki tog for F/OTV for taitoMe ftoi fieiasy, #3148

piwne or eveaing.

M v t M tooklM for hoc teto-conversaitoaa dariag da? day ling. #3488

poesiMy more. So wrto|a.#5792 n J ^ m o w ^ ^ S S i a e x p e r i e i ^ GWM, ttattaa. 28. 60". ISO lbs.. very muscular, very good tooking.

GWM. 6*1*. baliMi. 27. 195 HMW

aeeks aeasaaL suhoUasive M for aai-mal ftm and pleasare. #3111

MBF aaaUag attractive B F 10 Shan husbaadL #293

#3471 42, beanled aad at-

BIWM, aaod iiMi4rtag, very_sUBt Blwr,fUiBfara8.1ooktoglbrBiF ' i ^ ^ ^ i ^ T Z Z ^ . j ^ ^ J i i : ' ^ S ? S » ? ^ ? ? * ordomtoanrM * I9f« S J ^ ^ ' i S J ^ ^ ^ I S ^ i ^ for faataay aad ftm.

::;m 2 : !^JS2*^2f?^iAS GWMC 32 A 42. tkacswidi

s i - ^ W F . ™ - k « . , , . e - « , « « . K 5 L i S * i N ; d « . » t < l * d f t ^ g - , ^ - - . ^ ^ ^ ^ . f t c » . l ^ . GWM tooUi«ftaa«fWM (31-35) whc/s very outgoing aad likes lo have Aw. #3375

MBIWCaaeMagCwiABiMorSk^ SBM 19. tooktog fry M (18-25) fry ^ Umltor M (|g.25)fer frtoad- m i a S ^ ^ ' S ^ y m : S ^ a t ^ S : -F fry faataay ftm. 88715 friesidshipjioasilfeirtwtoiMhtahftiat shto.etc. «386 nunOc, seeks u » e 35-32) fer to-r ^ f J—d-p-MrfMy.ftnipwmfliMi- be trim and maaoiUDe. #5777 xrawaraatlyTSoekiMM (18-251 teaae encounten. # 3 ^ ity.adractive. Sttaight acttog andap- GWPM. .bo^yhaJMar, very muaca- i^der ! 7 0 t t « C f i y a e w ? x p e r i « ^ BIWM 21. lookiag r « discieet ftm P 7 * * * t J ! ? S i S * ' * * " ^ ' i ^ r ? ^ ' * * ^ * ^ ! £ ^ * * ' ^ ' " 2 f ! ^ Verydiacreet.safoaod(SStkRace with d 4 d freej^mao. Piefer-cuhae thrill seekers. #5»f9 amVorreiatwnship. #5333 wUmpon t . AM a ptoa. #378 ably MM. but not n r o w y . #3182

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Bi-curious WF. 25. S'6". 120 lbs.. very attractive, tooking for Bi/Bi-curious Ffor friendship and totimatt . >^«.- .*- .. . . ..__

Icncounteit. #3884 Mother ofom, 22. new lo area. ISO h ! i r i r / ? t i r D V J ^ T T I S '

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#3192 -h— #Jl^w ..vH .Siir- '«M->c GWM 30 a. attrwllve, ISO ooe or dbcreet I'm waitiag. share fantasy and talks. »4?25 ; ; ^ - , , ; i 2 ^ > J ^

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seeks simpte things. C3eneseo area a plus. 'or phoae cooverai- (|g-30)are my wishes. #4444

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BIWM 37. good tooking. b r o ^ 2 ^ * ^ * ° * * * " *** "**#S|?7 SaekJaf AM (18-25) fry very dis I i . . ^ . - - * _ «•«, .-/.._..__ enactetMMunietsandnewexperiences.

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We espedally need word processors (NCcrosoft Word), reporters, photog-rsfjiecs, and vcluni£ers fi^ maifir^ and distdbutiorL Please call Susan at 244-9030, after Jan, Z

Ftinae Thneis ImeeiiatkniaL Sodal oig^misitjon fbr mature g ^ and bi men. Membership fee $20; includes events, tiews x^xkte, etc. For iiifiDrmation write to Prime Timers International, P O Box 436, Manchaca TX 78652 or call (512)282-2861.

AMe-Tc^ietfaer. Quartedy newsletter for disabled gay or bi men $30 fix one year, $15 for low-income subscribers. Write Abie-Togethcr, P O Box 460053, San Francisco CA 94146.

Seeking subtnissions for book of short true stories fiom gay men about diiidhood and how parents oould have known they were gay. Write ACchad Zanibotti, 1235 N. C ^ a i ^ Grove, #4, LA CA 90046, or fax 213-467-0185.

Winter volle34>all league. Now ac-oepdt^ individuals and teams for s ^ i:^ Lfflgue plays Tuesdays, 7 p«n, starringjan 3 t h r o i ^ May at East H ^ $25 per per­son. Cafl David,242-8561,leaven>ess^e.

Subscribe to ^gerbiL' A gay man's arts ^ane. Published quartedy. $10/ycar. Newsstand $2.50. Also kxJang for writ­ers, artists and submissions. *gerbil,' P O Box 10692, Rochester >sfY 14610. Email: GerbilZine@AOL.COM

Auditions. Performing Italian folk datK£ gtoif) is hokling auditions for new members. Need not be Italian or have

kxKFwlec^ of folk dance. Men orwomen who eri)oy datKU^apd ate able to oom-mit to weeldy rehiw'sals, call 624-1964 or 544-1510.

Look ing for mtttufe gays and les-Ubws to be interviewed and photo-gBiphed for Gtac&ui^ Student book pi^feict Rese«d:ungiB6ues: s^gcistn, cocn-routciity standing, rdedia portrayal, a ^ oB^ histx»y. For k}Cdi histocy, am asktfig for okl photos. Msoiedals retunied im-hattned. Abo anoopnouB surveys. Con­tact Brad Pfease. ( 7 l ^ 7 3 - 3 7 i a P O Box 10692, Rochester N Y 14610. Email: GcrbilZine@AOL.COM

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s^ency is ready to book you to your 6ir vorite destinatkjns. Key West, P-Town, Hawaii, Palm Springs, Atlantis at Q u b Med, RSVP and C Evia Cruises await you. Give us a dream and well make it reality. Great Vacations b ^ ^ with Grcat Ex-pectatkxis! Can us to£y at (716)24+M30 and ask for a copy ofour newsletter.

Bocfy/nniscle idbs. Pi£;7py holidays! Let me say thanks to my tnany r^;u]ar dients and wdcome to those of you who have not made the caD but need to take time to RELAX, Rnd rdief fiom snow shovelir^ stress, workouts widi my skilled, soodiing, strong hands. Fm a friendly, healthy, in-shape, tan GWM that wiB rub you the f^^ way. Appottit-ments only. Reasonable rates, Roches­ter-based. Call (716)235-6688. Serious replies otily. Ciao!

Free s a n p l e . Change your photos into personali23ed postcards in an instant Hease send SASE to Angela Martin, c / o Ontario Qty Publications, Box 10794, Rochester N Y 14610.

P E R S O N A L S GWM, 38, professionaL Living with

HTV, healthy, asymptomatic, and en­joying Hfe. ISO GWM 27-40 >; *io lives life to die fullest, quiet times, romantic moments and more. Honest, sincere need to answer. Your pic gets mine. Write POBox 1184, Elmira NY 14905.

Underwear J .O. Gtoup. Join us for hot, erotic, safe fun and relaxation. En­joy something exdting durir^ this holiday season For ALL giy, bi, bi-curious males 18-38. All students and races wdcome. Send SASE to P O Box 41309, Roch­ester N Y 14604.

Meet eligiUe g a j ^ . Private screcn-

i r ^ CaB 1-900^80^5688 ext 935. $2 / minute. 18 frfus, Toudi tone required Avakxi Commurucations, ^5)525-0800.

T h e foOowing prisoticts a te kmeljr and wouk i sqppfedate heat^ itig fiotn anyone i K ^ win write:

L o n d y ptisotier, GWM, 26,5^0^, 170 tss. Btown h£ttc;eyes»tnuscuiac Sedss oscie^porxiatice, foer^yifss. Chtb Aikire, R D 2, Box 1, MoundsviHe W V 2604L

Iticaioetaied, kxiely, Kack . Serisi-tive, adqgresdist Needs soniGorie spedal for foeficmp/celatiQCishk>. N o games! Be real! Rkk Williams, #159249, Box 45699, Lucasvillc O H 45699-0001.

24- y^»ir okl \iiiite tnale, Uond, blue eyes, 175 lbs,, 5*11". Lookiiig fbr an un-detstandsf^ friendship or possitJe kxig-tenn tdadcvi^iqp. Dsuri Birns, #224^08, P O Box 1368, Mansfidd, O H 44908.

GWM, 23, btje eyes, btown hair, 51 r , 150 lbs., scdffi ptofesskxial GWM, 30-50, for possibk serious rdationshf). Out in ^96, wifl said fiioto. Westfc^ W. Moote, 229-584, P O Box 120, Lebanon O H 45036.

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Roonunate wanted to share large home in 19th Ward. $275 indudes ev­erything and more. Available immedi­atdy. Call Dan, 527-9304, fiDr more info.

l ive in foe stjie you wete meant t o — waterfiont living at its finest Your^ pro­fessional g^^ male sedcs g ^ male or fe­tnale to share waterfixxit home in Gteeoe. Fvfly fijtnishBd with aH creature oomfocts. Full ^pliances, AC, manicured yard, <fiiet nei^iborhood, off-stteet parkirg m d beauiifijJ views. Non-smoker. $415/ month indudes all; or best offer. 234-6158.

Roomtnate wanted. Culver Rd area. Off-street parkir^ laundry, deck, cable. Must like cats. $250 for aL CaU 654-9713, Male only.

Wanted: gsr^ male to share home. Off-street parking, washer and dryer. Full use of home. Prefer male, will talk to all who cafl. Nfoney is not as important as honesty and sincerity are.-Contact Brad, 482-1458.

Furnished room with bath . East Rodiester, kitdien, laundry, caUe, park­ing, iTvotnan, animal lover without al­lergies, professional, graduate student or student teacher, no smoking inside, over 25, $250 plus half utilities. Call

248-9486; leave message. Roomnia te wanted to share 2000

square foot s^xutment in E£^ Ave. man­son with two G M Choioe master bed­foom ptivate with woddr^ fizqsboe, or

place. Must sed $450/400 indudes utsB-ries. Kevin, 473^106.

RocMntnate waiMed. Nofi-stiiokit^ mafe to diare half owner-ooafiied house near downtown East side. Apartment features lamidry, dishwasher, separate phone, off-street parking. $ ^ 0 p3us security. Call 482-7490.

Roomtna te watited. Are you look­ing for a roommate? CaU the Room­mate Ne twork—we have hundreds of people looldng. Personal, c«i£klen-tial, individuaL Call 325-4643.

F O R R E N T Halfhouse for t en t Two-bedroom,

livir^ dinit^ kitdien, bath, two pordies, dishwasher, laundry, off street park­ing. Downtown East side. $475. plus un t i e s and security. Call 482-7490,

Swain—15 minutes. Two bodrotwn mobile for rent weekends. Sleeps five. N o smoking. $100 per weekend 335-3033.

Apar tment for r e n t 19th Ward, U. o fR area. Two bedroom upper. Eat-in Idtdien, pantry. Ne\x^y redecorated $650 indudes heat and apfdiances. 328-8523.

VicCDtian house for t en t Or fi^r sale, finandr^ available. 505 Lexir^ton Ave,, nine rooms, three bedrooms, nice back yard, driveway. $650 per month plus utilities. David K. at (315)331-8217.

F O R SALE Ford Delta Motod iome (limited

edition.) 1979,24-foot, fully equipped —air, gerierator,rnkiowave, party l^its, stow box, awning—good condition, 82 K miles (new ermine in 1989). Must see. 377-9668.

Over 1000 etotic items. Boc4s, m£^-zines, etc. 20-year collection Playgiri indudes first edition. Also After Dark, Christopher Street. Entire collecrion $2,000. w m sell items individually ex­cept Playgiri magazines. 235-2375.

W A N T E D T O B U Y Buying fine and deoocative att and

antiques. Especially interested in old oil paint i r^ wacercdots arid drawirigs. For quick private sale call 663-0699.

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