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The Quest for Authentic ManhoodThe Quest for Authentic Manhood
A Man and His Wife, A Man and His Wife, Part 2Part 2
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You husbands likewise, live with your You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and
grant her honor as a fellow-heir of the grant her honor as a fellow-heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not grace of life, so that your prayers may not
be hindered.be hindered.
1 Peter 3:7 (NASV)1 Peter 3:7 (NASV)
OUR KEY VERSE …
You husbands must be careful of your You husbands must be careful of your wives, being thoughtful of their needs and wives, being thoughtful of their needs and honoring them … Remember that you and honoring them … Remember that you and your wife are partners in receiving God’s your wife are partners in receiving God’s blessings, and if you don’t treat her as blessings, and if you don’t treat her as you should, your prayers will not get you should, your prayers will not get
ready answers.ready answers.
1 Peter 3:7 (Living Bible)1 Peter 3:7 (Living Bible)
OUR KEY VERSE …
3 MODELS OF MARRIAGE
1.1. The Top-Down The Top-Down Traditional Traditional / LORD/ LORD
2.2. 50-50 50-50 IdenticalIdentical / PARTNER/ PARTNER
3.3. 3. Side-by-Side 3. Side-by-Side Biblical Biblical / HEAD/ HEAD
““CORE”CORE” A small but essential ingredient A small but essential ingredient that every marriage must not that every marriage must not
ignore, neglect, or compromise ignore, neglect, or compromise if it is to be successful overall. if it is to be successful overall.
CORE ISSUES …
CORE ISSUES …
A. Core Roles …That Core Roles …That God givesGod gives a husband and wife in marriage a husband and wife in marriage
CORE ROLES
HELPERHELPER
CORE ROLES
An excellent wife, who can find? Her worth is far An excellent wife, who can find? Her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in
her and he will have no lack of gain. her and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of She does him good and not evil all the days of
her life. She looks well to the ways of her her life. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of household and does not eat the bread of
idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying, “Many husband also, and he praises her, saying, “Many
daughters have done nobly, daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.”but you excel them all.”
Proverbs 31:10-12, 27-29Proverbs 31:10-12, 27-29
HELPERHELPER HEADHEAD
CORE ROLES
For the husband is the head of the wife, For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church.as Christ also is the head of the church.
Ephesians 5:23Ephesians 5:23
CORE ISSUES …
A. Core Roles …That Core Roles …That God givesGod gives a husband and wife in marriage a husband and wife in marriage
B.B. Core Responses … That Core Responses … That empowerempower your mate’s role your mate’s role
CORE RESPONSES
You husbands likewise, live with your You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and
grant her honorgrant her honor as a fellow-heir of the as a fellow-heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not grace of life, so that your prayers may not
be hindered.be hindered.
1 Peter 3:71 Peter 3:7
Her husband Her husband praises her,praises her, saying, “Many saying, “Many daughters have done nobly, daughters have done nobly,
but you excel them all.”but you excel them all.”
Proverbs 31:28b-29Proverbs 31:28b-29
CORE RESPONSES
Wives, be subject to your husbands Wives, be subject to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord.as is fitting in the Lord.
Colossians 3:18Colossians 3:18
CORE ISSUES …
A. Core Roles …That Core Roles …That God givesGod gives a husband and wife in marriage a husband and wife in marriage
B.B. Core Responses … That Core Responses … That empowerempower your mate’s role your mate’s role
C.C. Core Concerns … That meet your Core Concerns … That meet your mate’s deepest mate’s deepest needsneeds
HELPERHELPER HEADHEAD
CompanionshipCompanionshipAdmirationAdmiration
SupportSupportPhysical ResponsivenessPhysical Responsiveness
CompanionshipCompanionshipSecuritySecurity
SignificanceSignificanceEmotional ResponsivenessEmotional Responsiveness
CORE CONCERNS
COMPANIONSHIPCOMPANIONSHIP
HOW A HUSBAND SPEAKS “WOMAN”
MUST DOMUST DO
Regularly “date” your wife Regularly “date” your wife (and talk about your world and (and talk about your world and
hers).hers).
COMPANIONSHIP
COMPANIONSHIP
CAN DOCAN DO
Develop a common “play Develop a common “play together.” together.”
The couple that plays together, The couple that plays together, stays together.stays together.
COMPANIONSHIP
COURAGE TO DOCOURAGE TO DO
Plan a special “just for you two” Plan a special “just for you two” getaway. It will build great getaway. It will build great
memories, strengthen memories, strengthen your relationship, and your relationship, and encourage romance.encourage romance.
SECURITYSECURITY
HOW A HUSBAND SPEAKS “WOMAN”
MUST DOMUST DO
From time to time, tell your wife, From time to time, tell your wife, “I am committed to you for life!” “I am committed to you for life!”
Your wedding anniversary is a good Your wedding anniversary is a good time to say this or put it in writing.time to say this or put it in writing.
SECURITYSECURITY
CAN DOCAN DO
Establish financial disciplines. Establish financial disciplines. Avoid debt as much as possible. Avoid debt as much as possible.
Develop a long-range security plan for Develop a long-range security plan for your wife that includes:your wife that includes:
• Life insurance• A savings plan
• A health plan• A well thought through will
SECURITYSECURITY
COURAGE TO DOCOURAGE TO DO
Seek to provide financially so that your Seek to provide financially so that your wife doesn’t have to work, especially wife doesn’t have to work, especially
while raising while raising young children.young children.
SECURITYSECURITY
SIGNIFICANCESIGNIFICANCE
HOW A HUSBAND SPEAKS “WOMAN”
MUST DOMUST DO
Regularly tell your wife how much you Regularly tell your wife how much you value what she does and value what she does and
how important she is to you.how important she is to you.
SIGNIFICANCESIGNIFICANCE
CAN DOCAN DO
Surprise your wife with a “note of Surprise your wife with a “note of praise” (praise” (with flowers is even better!with flowers is even better!) or ) or
a special night out just to say “thank a special night out just to say “thank you” for all she does for you.you” for all she does for you.
SIGNIFICANCESIGNIFICANCE
COURAGE TO DOCOURAGE TO DO
From time to time, lavish your wife From time to time, lavish your wife with special gifts: jewelry, a surprise with special gifts: jewelry, a surprise trip, money just to spend on her, etc. trip, money just to spend on her, etc.
The costlier, the better.The costlier, the better.
SIGNIFICANCESIGNIFICANCE
EMOTIONAL EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESSRESPONSIVENESS
HOW A HUSBAND SPEAKS “WOMAN”
MUST DOMUST DO
Regularly tell your wife Regularly tell your wife (with a hug), (with a hug), “I love you.”“I love you.”
EMOTIONAL EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESSRESPONSIVENESS
CAN DOCAN DO
Learn to say, Learn to say, “So, tell me how you’re doing” “So, tell me how you’re doing”
in a quiet place with in a quiet place with time to listen.time to listen.
EMOTIONAL EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESSRESPONSIVENESS
COURAGE TO DOCOURAGE TO DO
On special occasions, let your wife On special occasions, let your wife know know whywhy you love her, with spoken you love her, with spoken
words, a card, or in a poem, etc. Spell words, a card, or in a poem, etc. Spell out out in detailin detail all the things you admire all the things you admire and love about her. Be specific and and love about her. Be specific and
romantic.romantic.
EMOTIONAL EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESSRESPONSIVENESS
WHY…SIDE-BY-SIDE BIBLICAL?
A. It positions a man and a woman for what they naturally do best.
B. It organizes a man and a woman to complement each other rather than compete with each other.
C. It creates an environment that is best for the healthy development of children.
WHY…SIDE-BY-SIDE BIBLICAL?
D. It becomes the ideal we can train our children from an early age to embrace.
E. It honors God’s Word and is blessedby Him.
F. It prospers and advances society as a whole.
““The strength of a nationThe strength of a nationlies in the homes of its lies in the homes of its
people.”people.”
Abraham LincolnAbraham Lincoln