Class #3 Greg and Theresa Jackson

CONNECTION AND ACCEPTANCE

“Good Enough Parenting” Model

D E F I N I T I O N O F A “ C O R E E M O T I O N A L N E E D ”

T H E C O R E E M O T I O N A L

N E E D F O R C O N N E C T I O N

A N D A C C E P T A N C E

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P A R E N T I N G B Y C O N N E C T I O N

D E F I N I T I O N

The Core Emotional Need for Connection and Acceptance can be defined as the state a child

lives in when he feels completely attached to his parent in a healthy way, that he belongs, and that he is accepted and loved unconditionally.

A T M O S P H E R E

In order for the Core Emotional Need for Connection & Acceptance to be met, children

need to consistently and at an emotional level hear and believe the following messages from

and/or about their parents:

T H E Y T H I N K I A M S P E C I A L .

They are truthful and honest with me.

They talk to me in a respectful way.

T H E Y A R E P L AY F U L A N D S P E N D T I M E

W I T H M E .

•T H E Y B E L I E V E A N D G U I D E M E .

•T H E Y A R E P R O U D O F M E E V E N W I T H M Y F L AW S .

•T H E Y M I S S M E W H E N I A M N O T A R O U N D

•T H E Y C A R E A B O U T D E E P F E E L I N G S , B O T H M I N E A N D T H E I R S .

P L AY W I T H M E !

•Play, laughter and rough housing keep you connected with your child by stimulating endorphins and oxytocin in both of you.

•Making play a daily habit helps your child work thru daily anxiety.

•Play needs to be fun! It does not have to have some educational theme. Play is a great of learning in and of itself for them.

“ T H E Y M I S S M E W H E N I A M N O T A R O U N D ” !

•Connecting before and after transitioning from one thing to another will be important.

•Verbally let your child know you are glad they did this or that but that you missed them.

M Y P A R E N T S L I K E T O K N O W W H A T I A M T H I N K I N G .

•Connecting starts with listening. Take the time to listen and empathize with feeling and emotions.

•Children also feel connected when they know how you feel and will imitate how to express themselves by how they see you express yourself.

M Y P A R E N T S L O V E M E A N D T H I N K I A M P R E T T Y S P E C I A L .

•Kids who are strongly connected to their parents believe that even when they have done something wrong- mom and dad still love them and will forgive them.

• Home and parents need to be a safe base.

M Y P A R E N T S L O V E M E A N D T H I N K I A M P R E T T Y S P E C I A L .

•They truly believe that they can tell you the “truth” and not hide because you love unconditionally.

•They know you value honesty and truth.

M Y P A R E N T S A R E T R U T H F U L A N D H O N E S T W I T H M E .

•Don’t compromise on the truth and honesty when talking about the tough stuff.

•Children need rules and boundaries or children feel lost. Don’t think they just get it the first time. They need to know what you desire.

M Y P A R E N T S A R E T R U T H F U L A N D H O N E S T W I T H M E .

•And they need to hear it many times.

•Your child wants to know and needs to know what you think about the big things in life.

M Y P A R E N T S T A L K T O M E I N A R E S P E C T F U L WAY.

•Warmth and being reasonable will go a long way.

•Coldness, indifference, unfriendly and harshness will speak volumes to your child. They will learn and imitate respect.

M Y P A R E N T S T A L K T O M E I N A R E S P E C T F U L WAY.

•Remain warm, engaged and connected while setting limits your children need.

•Know how to encourage your child. Not meaning babying and spoiling. But not being harsh so that you loose communication and destroy their self-worth.

M Y P A R E N T S B E L I E V E I N M E A N D G U I D E M E .

•Be the greatest coach your kid ever had!

•Don’t leave them to figure out things on their own. Invest yourself by taking the time to guide and train your child.

M Y P A R E N T S B E L I E V E I N M E A N D G U I D E M E .

•Set them up for success in by training them how to be thoughtful, respectful, responsible, honest in character. That will give them valuable tools in life.

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Class #3 Greg and Theresa Jackson

CONNECTION AND ACCEPTANCE