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From my Christian perspective, I have come to a conclusion that we are created byGod to be co creators with him. We all came from God and should never be deceivedby the fact that our natural parent gave birth to us. We are actually a deliberateact of God; God deliberately created every human on the face of the earth tofulfill specific purposes on earth, that’s the reason why we were not massproduced. We all have our uniqueness that differential us from one another- we

have varying ways we see and do our things.

I believe that though it’s good that people pray, they should however, not leavetheir lives to luck; the way man is designed, he was never made to leave his lifeto chances, fate or seeking miracles. He was designed to create whatever hedesires in his life and not just hope that someday walking on the street he willhit luck that will change his life forever. It therefore implies that the resultwe get in life is a product of our action/inaction; where you are today isn’t bychance; it’s majorly a product of the decision of yesterday that was followedthrough or not acted on.

It therefore implies that if you want to have a successful marital future, thereis a need to deliberately seek the required knowledge that will get you, your

desire than believe that it will come to pass by an act beyond your control.People who have successful marriages don’t live in assumptions that it’ll workyears ago, they deliberately learnt what they need to know either from people’sexperience or they read the required information to get them just what they want.

When you hear Lawrence talk about his choice of a partner you will note a man whodidn’t allow the emotion call love be the determining factor of his decision. Hehas always been a guy that has lots of women around him because he was quitejovial and has a listening ear to what anyone has to tell him. He had won theheart of lots of women because of this, they seems to believe that he was the bestguy for them. Though he really would have loved to get married to some of thembecause of the feelings he had developed in the course of their relationship, yetthe words of his dad was what kept him on his feet. His dad had always told him

that what will make or mar his future is the decisions he makes in life and one ofthose vital decisions is the choice of a partner. He had told him to look beyondthe looks, affections and the feeling that has made many jump into marriages thatthey end up regretting later in life.

When he met Loreta, she wasn’t the best of women in terms of looks; yet somethingabout her amazes him- the heart she has. She has got such a good heart; everyonewho knows her will always talk about how at one time or the other, it was hersacrificial giving that got them out of the challenge they were in. Lawrencewanted to prove them wrong; he told her of how broke he was and the desperate needfor cash to pay for bills that he had on his neck. Though they weren’t best offriends, you could see genuine concern for his plight, though she couldn’t givemuch, but she raised some money to help alleviate his seeming financial challenge.

With other test and from judging his heart; he discovered that what he felt forher was more than feeling. They have been married for over 10 years and he iseternally grateful for getting married to his wife.

Lots of singles want to get married without growing up; you will hear them say, ‘Iwant anyone who will get married to me to accept me for who I am.’ I feel thatthis is one of the most appalling statement that I have heard singles make; thereason some couples are going through intense stress in their marriage is becausethey don’t see the need to change. They assume that they are perfect and it’s onlytheir spouse that needs to readjust- not them; they never stop wondering what iswrong in their marriage.

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If you want people to accept you for who you are, you most be ready to accept themfor who they are also; the reality is people want you to be flexible and willingto change positively. Show me a rigid person; he will become a lonely man in thelater part of his life.

I will like to share with you in this write up one of the ways to create themarriage of your dream and will continue in subsequent weeks-

Carry God’s presence around you- Its God’s presence in the crisis situation in thebeginning that lead to creation; take away God in your life and what you do, youwill loose the grip to create what you desire to see. Most of the religions of theearth believe that there is a Deity that created everything; that is one truththat people accept but when it comes to relationship issues in their lives, theyneglect Him and do things their way and expect success. Take God out of yourrelationship and what you will have is a bundle of pain; yes, man was created tocreate things, yet without God there are things that are absolutely impossible tobring to creation- successful marriage is definitely one of them.

Paul have always believe in the power of prayer; he had learnt this from hisparents who taught him that anything good he may desire in life requires that he

commits it to God. For every decision he makes in life, he will first bow his headin prayer and say, let Your will be down and not mine. Sometimes Paul feelsdisappointed because God’s seems not to hear him, but as time passes on, he alwaysdiscovers the wisdom of God in the delay or denial he got.

When he met Margaret few years ago, she was the kind of woman he had dreamed ofgetting married to. When he prayed about it, He knew that deep within his heart,it wasn’t in the best interest of his Maker that he took the relationship to thenext level- marriage. He didn’t like this initially, but because he had learntfrom experience that God is always right, he bowed his will to His will. It wastwo years later that he got to discover why he had unease in his heart. Margarethad gotten married to another man, but her marriage had ended in divorce becauseher hubby caught her in bed with another man.

To carry God’s presence, you will need to read the Word (Bible) and listen to theleading of the Holy Spirit. It implies that when you read the Bible and allow theHoly Spirit help you to obey what you have read; you’ll always have creative poweravailable. I have come to discover that in the obedience to instructions of Godfor your life is the way to see the unusual manifestation of God’s power andglory. People want God to do things for them without first obeying theinstructions He has laid down for them; miracles do happen, but only in the lifeof those that are willing and obedient.

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