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How to create the marriage of your dream 5

Everything you see on the face of the earth didnt get there by accident; it wascreated. Even if you dont believe in the concept of a God that made all things,yet logic shows that what you see around you was created by a brilliant mind. Thechair you sit on, the table in your office, the car with their different make,shows the exquisiteness of the human mind and its capacity to bring out beautyfrom within.

I will like to share with you in this write up the concluding part of ways tocreate the marriage of your dream-

Learn to release the creative force- When its the issue of relationship; itssuccess or failure lies in the ability to unleash the creative force imbedded inan individual. To leave life to chance, is believing in a lie that things justwork out its self. The reality is that there is a need of an individual to takeresponsibility for his/her life and work out what he wants to see in hisrelationship until it comes to reality.

One reality is that some of the things that we see in other peoples lives andours were directly or indirectly created by the environment we made by our self.

For instance, if you want to be happy, you will have to create environments aroundyou that will grant you desire of your life. Loren is a lady that believes in thepower of creation (the power to create in ones life, what he was to see); herparents marriage is a success because she observer that her mum was alwayspraying. She would hear her pray for her father and siblings; asking for God totake control of her home and prevent the infiltration of those that may want todestroy it. Though there were challenges between her mum and dad, yet by amiraculous way, their marriage was sustained.

She had joined suit with her mum after marriage, by creating the environmentthrough prayer; praying for what she will like to see in her marriage rather thanleaving it to circumstances of life. According to her; if this secret works forher mum, itll work for her too.

One of the ways to release creative forces is to always say what you want and notwhat you feel; the reason is because you will see on to reality your words. Themost dangerous person to live with is someone who lacks discretion in the use ofwords when angry. If you havent learnt to tame your tongue, itll never stopcreating problems in your life. Always use you mouth to pray and speak positivethings; I know a young man that is having serious challenges in all aspect oflife. I guess one of the reasons is because, is wife never cease cursing him. Oneinteresting reality is that if you curse your partner, you are not only cursinghim, but it includes everything that comes out of him- even the children.

Dont learn from experience, what you can learn from others- The adage,Experience is the best teacher is not the truth; its a fact of life that people

should however be careful off. I appreciate the statement of Reverend Sam Adeyemi,he said, Experience is the best teacher, o yes, but other peoples experience isthe best teacher. I am particularly against the Nigeria adage that says,Matrimony is a place of learning.

There are some issues of life that experience is vital; you need to be good inyour vocation and it comes for doing the job over and over again (experience).However, most experience people go through in life is needless if they had takenthe time to learn from others that had gone through the path before they took ittoo. Why learn from experience what you can learn from what others have gonethrough; the challenge with people is the believe that they can do what others

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have done but have a different direction. That is one deception that had gottensome singles into a lot of the heart today.

When Toyin heard how Dolapo spoke about the need for her to tread the path ofrelationship with care, she felt that she was only jealous that one of thecelebrated guy around was interested in her alone. She knew that at a time in herlife (Dolapo), she was the lady in town, yet none of the lady that dated her gotmarried to her. She was their babe as long as she was the baby in town; when she

began to age, like smoke they fizzle out of her life. Presently too, Toyin is thenew queen in the neighborhood; all the attention of the big boys around her on herand she was enjoying the attention that she was getting.

She wouldnt listen to Dolapos advice until she was set up by the love her life(Dare) and was ganged raped by him and his friends. She never believed her eyesuntil the reality dawn on her what he had done; he had invited her to his place tohave some fun. When she got their, he was all alone, until one after the other,his friends began to show up. She was threatened to comply with their demand or bekilled; she could see in their eyes that they meant business, so she complied.Today, she still feels ashamed for what happened to her; she wished she hadlistened to the counsel of Dolapo.

My question to every single that will have the privilege to read this write up is,what have you learnt from other peoples mistakes especially that of your parents.One group of people you should learn from, are your parents; before you call yourfather useless, the question I will like to ask is, what have you learnt from himto prevent your treading the path he took? When I counsel singles, I often pointthem to the direction of their parents; I have observed over time that those whohold their parents in contempt often take the path the one the hold in contempttook consciously or unconsciously.

Choose your partner wisely- If your dream involves another person for itsfulfillment, it implies that you dont have absolute power to bring it to reality.I have said this, in meetings that I have been privilege to speak in to singles- Idont care the glory of the future you can see; I dont care how much anointed you

are; I dont care your plans for the future- marry a fool and youll never see itcome to reality.

Who you get married to will play a great role in your success or failure in life;to a great measure, I accept the saying that beside every successful man is awoman. Its the role of the man to dream; while that of the woman is to ascertainif her passion is in line with the dream of the guy that is interested in her. Oneof the terrible mistake any lady can make is to get married to man because he isrich alone; if a man have no particular thing that is driving him with a passion,he isnt worthy for any sensible lady.

Your dream is one of the determinant of who you can get married to; I hold theopinion that you just can get married to any single of the opposite sex. Some of

the people you love are also not marriageable if they cant if they are notpassionate enough to join you in the direction you are heading towards.

Do you have a question on any relationship issue or do want to receive my monthlytext messages? I also want to specially invite you for a monthly relationshipmeeting.Send a text with your email address and get a free e-book; your confidentialitywill be kept.

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