Life’s Story ExerciseLife’s Story Exercise

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Jimmy Buffett’s Life’s Story Jimmy Buffett’s Life’s Story in 400 Words or Lessin 400 Words or LessA Pirate Looks at FiftyA Pirate Looks at Fifty, pages 5-6. Fawcett/Ballantine, New York, 1998., pages 5-6. Fawcett/Ballantine, New York, 1998.

I broke out of the grip of Catholicism and made it through I broke out of the grip of Catholicism and made it through adolescence without killing myself in a car. I flunked out of adolescence without killing myself in a car. I flunked out of college. I learned to play the guitar, lived on the beach, lived college. I learned to play the guitar, lived on the beach, lived in the French Quarter, finally got laid, and didn't go to in the French Quarter, finally got laid, and didn't go to Vietnam. I got back into school, started a band, got a job on Vietnam. I got back into school, started a band, got a job on Bourbon Street, graduated from college, flunked my draft Bourbon Street, graduated from college, flunked my draft physical, broke up my band, and went out on the road solo. I physical, broke up my band, and went out on the road solo. I signed a record deal, got married, moved to Nashville, had signed a record deal, got married, moved to Nashville, had my guitars stolen, bought a Mercedes, worked at my guitars stolen, bought a Mercedes, worked at BillboardBillboard magazine, put out my first album, went broke, met Jerry Jeff magazine, put out my first album, went broke, met Jerry Jeff Walker, wrecked the Mercedes, got divorced, and moved to Walker, wrecked the Mercedes, got divorced, and moved to Key West. I sang and worked on a fishing boat, went totally Key West. I sang and worked on a fishing boat, went totally crazy, did a lot of dope, met the right girl, made another crazy, did a lot of dope, met the right girl, made another record, had a hit, bought a boat, and sailed away to the record, had a hit, bought a boat, and sailed away to the Caribbean. Caribbean.

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• I started another band, worked the road, had my second and last hit, I started another band, worked the road, had my second and last hit, bought a house in Aspen, started spending summers in New England, bought a house in Aspen, started spending summers in New England, got married, broke my leg three times in one year, had a baby girl, made got married, broke my leg three times in one year, had a baby girl, made more records, bought a bigger boat, and sailed away to St. Barts. more records, bought a bigger boat, and sailed away to St. Barts.

• I got separated from the right girl, sold the boat, sold the house in I got separated from the right girl, sold the boat, sold the house in Aspen, moved back to Key West, worked the road, and made more Aspen, moved back to Key West, worked the road, and made more records. I rented an apartment in Paris, went to Brazil for Carnival, records. I rented an apartment in Paris, went to Brazil for Carnival, learned to fly, went into therapy, quit doing dope, bought my first learned to fly, went into therapy, quit doing dope, bought my first seaplane, flew all over the Caribbean, almost got a second divorce, seaplane, flew all over the Caribbean, almost got a second divorce, moved to Malibu for more therapy, and got back with the right girl.moved to Malibu for more therapy, and got back with the right girl.

• I worked the road, moved back to Nashville, took off in an F-14 from an I worked the road, moved back to Nashville, took off in an F-14 from an aircraft carrier, bought a summer home on Long Island, had another aircraft carrier, bought a summer home on Long Island, had another baby girl. I found the perfect seaplane and moved back to Florida. baby girl. I found the perfect seaplane and moved back to Florida. Cameron Marley joined me in the house of women. I built a home on Cameron Marley joined me in the house of women. I built a home on Long Island, crashed the perfect seaplane in Nantucket, lived through it Long Island, crashed the perfect seaplane in Nantucket, lived through it thanks to Navy training, tried to slow down a little, woke up one morning thanks to Navy training, tried to slow down a little, woke up one morning and I was looking at fifty, trying to figure out what comes next. and I was looking at fifty, trying to figure out what comes next.

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What themes do you see What themes do you see in Jimmy Buffett’s life?in Jimmy Buffett’s life?

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I broke out of the grip of Catholicism and made it through adolescence without killing myself in a car. I flunked out of college. I learned to play the guitar, lived on the beach, lived in the French Quarter, finally got laid, and didn't go to Vietnam. I got back into school, started a band, got a job on Bourbon Street, graduated from college, flunked my draft physical, broke up my band, and went out on the road solo. I signed a record deal, got married, moved to Nashville, had my guitars stolen, bought a Mercedes, worked at Billboard magazine, put out my first album, went broke, met Jerry Jeff Walker, wrecked the Mercedes, got divorced, and moved to Key West. I sang and worked on a fishing boat, went totally crazy, did a lot of dope, met the right girl, made another record, had a hit, bought a boat, and sailed away to the Caribbean. I started another band, worked the road, had my second and last hit, bought a house in Aspen, started spending summers in New England, got married, broke my leg three times in one year, had a baby girl, made more records, bought a bigger boat, and sailed away to St. Barts. I got separated from the right girl, sold the boat, sold the house in Aspen, moved back to Key West, worked the road, and made more records. I rented an apartment in Paris, went to Brazil for Carnival, learned to fly, went into therapy, quit doing dope, bought my first seaplane, flew all over the Caribbean, almost got a second divorce, moved to Malibu for more therapy, and got back with the right girl.I worked the road, moved back to Nashville, took off in an F-14 from an aircraft carrier, bought a summer home on Long Island, had another baby girl. I found the perfect seaplane and moved back to Florida. Cameron Marley joined me in the house of women. I built a home on Long Island, crashed the perfect seaplane in Nantucket, lived through it thanks to Navy training, tried to slow down a little, woke up one morning and I was looking at fifty, trying to figure out what comes next.

LOVES MUSIC

BREAKS THINGS

Was he a success? Why or why not?Was he a success? Why or why not?

• RichRich• FamousFamous• HealthyHealthy• Happy MarriageHappy Marriage• Varied ExperiencesVaried Experiences• Doing what he lovesDoing what he loves• Successful BusinessSuccessful Business• Best selling AuthorBest selling Author

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Another story … Another story …

1. Develop Trust, 2. Maintain hope, 3. Give back to your community

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Lessons from Howard Schulz?Lessons from Howard Schulz?

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Leadership is about Leadership is about managing energymanaging energy, ,

first in yourself, first in yourself, and then and then in those around you.in those around you.

And your Life’s Story And your Life’s Story is the source of your is the source of your Leadership Energy.Leadership Energy.

Are you willing to use it to influence others at Level Three?

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Barriers to Level Three Barriers to Level Three CommunicationCommunicationDistance in Distance in Leadership CommunicationLeadership Communication

Professional PrivatePersonal

Language of Leadership:Language of Leadership:Two Key TranslationsTwo Key Translations

L3: Experience&

Feelings L1: Behavior:Say &

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L2: ConsciousThoughts

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Can you find the words to be …?Can you find the words to be …?

1.1. Clarifying?Clarifying?2.2. Stimulating & Memorable?Stimulating & Memorable?3.3. Respectful?Respectful?4.4. Congruent & Authentic?Congruent & Authentic?

Practicing in the shower, car, where ever. Practicing in the shower, car, where ever. The The ability to articulate the “charter” is the ability to articulate the “charter” is the language of leadership.language of leadership.

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Do’h!Do’h!

““Analyzing 3,000 pages of transcripts, our Analyzing 3,000 pages of transcripts, our team was startled to see you do not have team was startled to see you do not have to be born with specific characteristics or to be born with specific characteristics or traits of a leader. Leadership emerges traits of a leader. Leadership emerges from your life story.” from your life story.”

““Discovering Your Authentic Leadership,” Bill George, Peter Sims, Andrew Discovering Your Authentic Leadership,” Bill George, Peter Sims, Andrew N. McLean, and Diana Mayer, N. McLean, and Diana Mayer, Harvard Business ReviewHarvard Business Review, February 2007, , February 2007, p. 130p. 130

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Life’s Story in 400 Words Life’s Story in 400 Words or Lessor Less

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Does experience lead to wisdom?Does experience lead to wisdom?

““Most people do not accumulate a body of Most people do not accumulate a body of experience. Most people go through life under-experience. Most people go through life under-going a series of happenings which pass going a series of happenings which pass through their systems undigested. Happenings through their systems undigested. Happenings become experiences when they are digested, become experiences when they are digested, when they are reflected on, related to general when they are reflected on, related to general patterns, and synthesized.” patterns, and synthesized.”

Saul Alinsky, Saul Alinsky, Rules for RadicalsRules for Radicals, quoted by Henry Mintzberg in “The Five Minds of a Manager” , quoted by Henry Mintzberg in “The Five Minds of a Manager” HBR 11/03HBR 11/03

Life’s LessonsLife’s Lessons

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Life’s Story Life’s Story Chart of EmotionsChart of Emotions

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Patterns in Life’s StoriesPatterns in Life’s Stories

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Your Story Your Story createdcreated your Level Three VABEs …your Level Three VABEs …

And your VABE’s And your VABE’s determine determine your leadership styleyour leadership style

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So, are you willing to So, are you willing to tell/share/use your Story?tell/share/use your Story?

Are there four volunteers willing to do so? Are there four volunteers willing to do so?

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What is your reaction to listening What is your reaction to listening to these stories?to these stories?What can we learn from this?What can we learn from this?

• Clarity of Message• Authenticity• Memorability• Respect to audience• Common Experience• Bonds that develop between

us• Power of the influence

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Common, Emotional Connections Common, Emotional Connections are most powerful…are most powerful…

1. Visible Behavior 2. Conscious Thought3. VABEs (shoulds, oughts)

The Importance of BeingThe Importance of BeingA Level Three LeaderA Level Three Leader

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Do you have a story to tell?Do you have a story to tell?

Strategic?Strategic?Organizational? Organizational? Personal? Personal?

If not …If not …

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