managing coaches and players
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DEALING WITH CONFRONTATION
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Introduce Yourself To The CoachesBefore The Game Begins
Work On Creating A Rapport
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When dealing with emotional
coaches remember to:
Be in control and speak
in a calm, easy voice
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Maintain positive body language and keep space between you and
the Coach/Player
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Make eye contact with the coach/player when the
situation allows
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Answer questions not Statements3 Seconds
That is a Travel
That is a Hold
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Be a responder
not an Initiator
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Deal with the Behaviour
before answering any
Questions
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Roadblocks to Communication
OrderingDirectingCommandingYelling
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Roadblocks to Communication
Warning, Threatening“If you do that again
I’ll T YOU UP”
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Tips to being a good listener
Keep good Eye Contact
Try to be Relaxed
Do not Interrupt
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A coach knows the tone of the response even before you start speaking by observing your body language. Sometimes we lose
them before we even say a word.
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If you make a face, raise your hands in defense or scowl, you’ve probably lost them already. Watch how you talk with your hands
and don’t let a coach use his hands to talk to you.
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When a person talks with his hands it appears there is more going on than a simple discussion about a simple play. If you see a coach waving his hands, simply ask him to put his hands down before you are ready to listen to his
message.
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Don’t be Defensive, or try to justify your Actions
Address the problem only (No emotions)
Avoid the conflict (Don’t create it)
Tips to being a Good Listener
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Officiating is not about the referee being the only Winner……….
Nor is it about the referee being the only Loser,
A balance between the TWO Extremes
needs to be AchievedYou do not always have to get in the Last Word
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Answers to Coaches“Okay Coach I hear you”
“From my angle that is how I saw it”
“I will watch for that”
It will not help matters if you tell the coach that it is not happening
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Some Other Phrases That Can Be Used Are
“I see your point”
“You have a good point”
“I’ve heard you”
“That’s possible”
Answers to Coaches
By listening first and then responding to what they said, there may be some
closure after your words
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Answers to Coaches
If a coach is yelling or shouting at you tell the coach you would be glad to talk to him but he has to lower his or her voice and then you can address the issue.
Remember, 90% of conflict occurs not with what was said
but by the TONE it was said in!
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MAKE THIS THE SEASON WHERE YOU TAKE YOUR GAME
MANAGEMENT TO A NEW LEVEL
HAVE A GREAT SEASON!