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MENTORS TRAINING

IBSB


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What You Should Know

1. The Relationship: The Basis ofMentoring

2. Understanding Youth

3. Understanding Your Role as Mentor

4. Using the Program


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1. The Relationship

Any impact you have on youth willhappen through your relationship withthem.

The relationship is the foundation onwhich mentoring is based.

Building a strong relationship will taketime and patience. A goodrelationship is not built on divulgingdeep secrets, but comes through

empathy and understanding.


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TRUST

JOHARI WINDOW


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TRUST

1. Who do you trust? Think of a personyou trust.

_____________________________________________________________________________

2. Why do you trust them? (List

specific characteristics you canidentify in the person you listedabove.)

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MentoringRelationship, Youth AND

Mentors need: Commitment Mutual trust

Understanding To feel liked

Respect

A connection

A sense of humor


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A Mentor is a:

guide partner

wise and trusted teacher friend listener cheerleader

confidant linkto other cultures,

role model

attitudes, and behaviours


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A mentor is NOT a:

savior

foster parent

therapist parole officer

cool peer

Make a habit of two things: to help, or

at least to do no harm.- Hippocrates


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2. Understanding Youth

Before you can teach me you haveto reach me!

Social

Emotional

Physical

Mental


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Social characterisics

Outside Influences8-10 years:

11-13 years:

Team games become popular Interested in earning their own money

Can be very competitive

Worshipping heroes, TV stars,

and sports figures is common


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Emotional characteristics:

8-10 years

Are sensitive to praise andrecognition

Feelings are hurt easily

Conflicts can arise between friendsrules and parents rules


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11-14 years:

Are sensitive to praise andrecognition

Feelings are hurt easily Conflicts can arise between friendsrules and parents rules

Are caught between being a childand being an adult

Loud behaviour and showing off can

hide a lack of confidence


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Physical Characteristics

8-10 years:

Are very active and need

frequent breaks from tasks for fun

Bone growth is not complete

Early maturers may be upsetwith

their size


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11-14 years:

Small muscle coordination is good

Interests in art, crafts, models, and

music are popular Early maturers may be upset withtheir size

Are very concerned with theirappearance and self conscious

Diet and sleep habits can be bad,

resulting in low energy levels


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Mental Characteristics

8-10 years:

The idea of fairness becomes a big

issue Are eager to answer questions

Are very curious and are collectors of

everything Interest may jump to other objectsquickly

Want more independence, but know


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11-14 years

Tend to be perfectionists

May try too much and feel frustrated

or guilty Want more independence, but knowthey need guidance/support

Can have a longer attention span


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Social Issues Facing Youth

Family: economic, lifestyle, singleparent

Teen pregnancy Gangs

Drugs

Pressure to fit in

Pressure to succeed in school andathletics


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Personal Issues Facing Youth

Depression

Physical appearance

Suicide Losses

Identity


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Support

Young people need to be

surrounded by people wholove, care for, appreciate,

and accept them.


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Empowerment

Young people need to feel

valued and valuable.This happens when youth

feel safe and respected.

oun ar es an


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oun ar es anExpectations

Young people need clear

rules, consistentconsequences for breaking

rules, and encouragementto do their best.


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The mirrorImagine looking into a mirror that onlyshowed your faults (real or perceived).

What would you start to believe about


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Ask yourself:

What type of mirrorwill you be for the

youth you mentor?


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Qualities of a Good Mentor

Is an advocate for youth

Uses good communication skills

Provides new experiences Shows empathy

Has a sense of humor

Is consistent


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Communication- the secret

1. The Judge - This person judgeswhatever is said. Youth may say, Idont have any friends and Judge

responds, You have a bad attitude. Ifyou were more optimistic, peoplewould like you.

2. The Oh Yeah, Ive Been There -This person always has their own storyto tell. Youth says, I got my leg cut

once. Oh Yeah says, Wow, I tore my


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Communication- cont.

6. The Doctor - This person respondsby telling people why they do thingsor feel they way they do about what is

happening to them.

7. The Questioner - This personquestions the person about what they

think should have been done. Youthsays, I got an F. Questioner says,Well, did you study?

8. The It Will Be OK - This person


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Insteadyou should

Use Empathy: Listening and Restating

Restate what you think the youth saidto make sure you understood.

Request Clarification

Ask the youth to explain vague

statements Own Thoughts and Feelings: IStatements

Say I feel frustrated when you are


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The mentoring program

weekly meetings

Notify the teachers

Use resources Monthly reporting to Miss Aida

Confidentiality !!!


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Good luck!!

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