Temple emanu-el Providence, Rhode Island | 2018–5778

June 2, 2018 | 19 Sivan 5778

Etz Hayim, Page 821

1st Aliyah Numbers Chapter 9 verses 15 –18

2nd Aliyah verses 19 – 23

3rd Aliyah Numbers Chapter 5 & 6 verses 1 –7

4th Aliyah verses 8 –10

5th Aliyah verses 11–20

6th Aliyah verses 21– 28

7th Aliyah verses 29–34

Maftir Numbers 10:32 – 10:34 Page 825

Haftarah Zechariah 2:14– 4:7 Page 836

minhah/ma’ariv –8:10 pm Havdalah – 8:55 pm

Parashat B’ha’alot’kha

At Temple Emanu-El, we seek to fashion an atmosphere of peace and tranquility on the Sabbath. To help create this environment throughout the Temple, we refrain from writing, taking photographs, texting, and using cell phones. Please join us in observing these traditions as we make Shabbat a sacred experience for us all.

Services this ShabbatSanctuary ServiceMain Sanctuary ............. Rabbi Wayne Franklin Rabbi Rachel Zerin Cantor Brian Mayer

Soulful ShabbatonFishbein Chapel ........ Rabbi Alan Flam Rabbi Jill Hammer Shoshana Jedwab

Tot ShabbatSisterhood Lounge ........ Marni Thompson-Tilove

mazal TovMazal Tov to Sierra Silversmith on becoming a Bat Mitzvah this Shabbat. Thank you to the Silversmith family for sponsoring Kiddush in honor of Sierra.

Mazal Tov to David Hammarstrom, Brian Tesar and Sidney Weintraub on celebrating their birthday’s this Shabbat. Thank you for your donations to the Kiddush fund.

Announcements

like Our new Facebook page! Be sure to like on our new Facebook page to see updates and re-minders on events and programs in your newsfeed! Just go to: www.facebook.com/TEProvidence

Summer Services Series – looking for VolunteersOur Summer Services Series begin on June 16th. If you would liketo present a D’var Torah, please contact either Rabbi Zerin or RabbiFranklin. If you would like to lead any parts of the service or readthe Torah or chant Haftarah, please contact Cantor Mayer. We lookforward to lively participation by members of the congregation overthe summer.

Help us make a minyanMany of our regular Minyan attendees are away for the next week. Please consider joining us. Thank you for supporting this important aspect of our community. minyan Times: monday – Friday: 7:00 AM and 5:45 PM Saturday evenings: Times vary; See Temple calendar, website, or weekly email Sundays: 8:00 AM and 5:45 PM

Kesher Social Worker-Drop in Hours TodayTara Watkins, LICSW (email: tara@jfsri.org phone: 401-527-7772) will have drop in hours this Shabbat, from 11:00am-2:00pm in the Temple Office. No previously arranged appointment is necessary. Conversations with Tara are kept confidential. All congregants and their families are welcome to utilize this free supportive service available to the temple community.

Soulful Shabbaton – June 2

The Feminine Face of God Teachers-in residence

Rabbi Jill Hammer and Shoshana Jedwab

For more than a decade, Rabbi Jill Hammer and the musician and educator, Shoshana Jedwab have been training women in sacred leadership in an earth-based, embodied mode that emphasizes transformative ritual. With these experienced teachers, we will explore ancient archetypes that are applicable to spiritual seekers today.

Saturday Morning, June 2 Bohnen Vestry

9:30 AM Drumming & Chanting 10:00 AM Soulful Service

1:00 PM Talk by Rabbi Hammer She is a Tree of Life: The Divine Feminine in Jewish Tradition

Deep in kabbalah and hidden corners of the Bible, legacies of the Divine Mother abound. She is known as Cosmic Womb, Holy of Holies, Cloud of Glory, Lady Wisdom, Sabbath Queen and, simply, Earth. Through prayer, chanting, silence and stories we will learn about and experience the feminine face of Judaism.

USY RECOGNITION BRUNCHusyers are invited to our annual

Sunday, June 3rd | 11:00 AM Cost: FREE

Parent volunteers needed to help cook & serve RSVP by May 31st to Shosh at shosh@teprov.org

Remembering the St. Louis: A Jewish Response to Today’s Refugee Crisis

In early June 1939, the U.S. turned away the MS St. Louis, a boat populated by nearly 1,000 Jewish refugees fleeing the Holocaust. What does this mean for us today? Join Rabbi Rachel Grant Meyer, Director of Education at HIAS and learn how Jewish values and history call upon us to respond to the current refugee crisis.

Wednesday, June 6, 20187:30 P.M.Temple Emanuel99 Taft AvenueProvidence, RI 02906

Leviticus, 19:33-34The stranger who resides with you shall be to you as one of your citizens; you shall love him as yourself, for you were strangers in the Land of Egypt

ר כ י ם מכחאז כ היה ת םכ את רהג ׀רהג םל הב א ר כ מוךכ לו ו םהיית יםי־ג ר רץא ב יםמצ

Help End Gun Violence in RI

Here’s a small step you can take right away to help stop gun violence. The RI Board of Rabbis and Temple Emanu-El’s Social Justice Committee support the RI Coalition Against Gun Violence and three important bills in RI. One bill requires that only law enforcement officers can bring guns into K to 12 schools. One bans assault weapons in RI. The third limits high capacity ammunition magazines to ten rounds. If you agree with these ideas, here’s how you can help:

Outside the temple office, there’s a table with two stacks of pre-addressed, pre-written postcards. Please sign one postcard addressed to House Speaker Mattiello and one addressed to Senate President Ruggerio and drop your signed post cards into the large envelope on the table; we’ll mail your cards for you, if you’d like us to do that.

If you’d like to donate money to help us buy stamps for the cards, please contact Rabbi Franklin.

If you’d like to help get signatures on cards, feel free to take some with you to give to your friends and coworkers.

You’re very welcome to join Temple Emanu-El’s Social Justice Committee (contact Maia Bromberg Kraus, Social Justice Committee Chairperson) and the RI Coalition Against Gun Violence ( https://www.ricagv.org/).

Many thanks!Temple Emanu-El’s Social Justice Committee

Join other Temple Emanu-El families this Sunday for a fun event for the whole family—

The 8th annual

AIDS Orphan Care walkathon!

Sunday June 3 Lincoln Woods State Park Registration/check-in: 10-11 Walk starts at 11 Join us for a beautiful walk around the water at Lincoln Woods, followed by a celebration with games, raffle prizes, music & refreshments. All for a great cause--to help support AIDS orphans and HIV-positive kids in Lesotho, Southern Africa.

All money raised supports:

Peanut distribution to malnourished, HIV-positive children at pediatric HIV clinics.

Free school meals for AIDS orphans.

Sustainable food program at the Mamello School: laying hens, pigs, cows, and a large vegetable garden, to feed orphans, HIV-positive children and disabled children.

Register to walk or make a pledge at AIDSorphancarewalk.dojiggy.com.

AIDS Orphan Care is an all-volunteer nonprofit started by congregant Deborah Kutenplon after spending a year volunteering at an HIV clinic in Lesotho.

Communication Strategies to Help Navigate Alzheimer’s by Amy Small, LICSW

As our population ages, the number of adults struggling with diseases of the older years increases as well. One such disease is Alzheimer’s Disease. The chance that we will come in contact with someone struggling with this disease are, unfortunately, steadily increasing.

When we do come in contact with someone struggling with Alz-heimer’s, it can be difficult to know how to connect with them. The types of conversations we had previously may no longer be possible due to changes in memory or information processing abilities. If you are a caregiver for someone with Alzheimer’s Disease, that can bring communication challenges to the forefront of your everyday lives, greatly impacting your relationship with your loved one. In this article, I’d like to give an overview of some communication strategies and tips to support you in connecting with people struggling with Alzheimer’s Disease in the community or in your own life. For fur-ther information, I recommend the Alzheimer’s Association website at www.alz.org.

It is important to remember that, while the ability of a person with Alzheimer’s Disease to communicate is greatly impacted, they main-tain their sense of self throughout their experience with the disease. Their ability to express themselves through language and to under-stand language may change, but you can still connect to the essence of who they are.

Alzheimer’s Disease affects each person differently. In the early stag-es, it may shift the person’s ability to communicate and they may have troubling finding the word they want to express. It can be helpful to ask whether they want to be helped with words or not, for example, “How would you like to be helped with words? Would you rather I jump in with a word that you may be looking for, or wait and allow some time for you to find it on your own?”1 While it can help to use short sentences to aid in communication, it is important to not “talk down” to the person. 1 Make sure to include them in the conversation

and speak directly with them even if their language seems limited. Their ability to understand may be more intact than their ability to express themselves. 2 Communication challenges and worries about making mistakes may lead a person with Alzheimer’s Disease to withdraw from conversations. Including them and being sensitive to these feelings can help them engage and feel connected to you.

As the disease progresses, the person may have further problems with language such as increased difficulties finding words, repeating familiar words, inventing words, losing their train of thought, and difficulties following conversations. 1 Connecting through ways other than language becomes more and more important. Paying attention to your tone of voice, facial expression, and body language help sup-port the feeling of safety and connection in a conversation. 1 While a person with Alzheimer’s may struggle to understand your words, they will understand the feeling behind your words. Your frustration and tension will come through just as will your patience and presence. Taking your time in conversations and taking care to notice your own emotions will support a meaningful connection.

The person struggling with Alzheimer’s Disease may also communi-cate more through behaviors or gestures. It can become important to respond to the emotions that seem to be expressed through the behavior rather than the behavior itself. 1 This can require you to understand and join their reality in that moment. The facts are less important than the feelings. For example, rather than “Calm down, I am sure your keys aren’t really lost”, you might say “I hear how upset you are about the keys not being where they usually are. It is so frustrating when that happens! Can I look for them?”1 This type of attention takes patience and insight. Give yourself time and self-care to be able to provide this type of listening and response.

Some other tools that can support a feeling of safety in communi-cation are approaching the person gently, from the front, and at eye level, as well as calling them by name and identifying yourself and your relationship to them. 1 Gentle touch can also feel grounding and caring. As processing information becomes more difficult, it can be

helpful to utilize questions that offer choices rather than open ended questions such as “Would you like tea or water?” rather than “What would you like to drink?”. 1

In later stages of the disease, communicating in ways other than language may become primary. Using our five senses together can support connection, such as listening to music, looking at pho-tographs, spending time outdoors, and noticing smells, tastes, or sensations together. 1 The most important thing to remember at any stage of the disease is that it is okay if you don’t know what to do or say. 1 Your reassuring presence, respect, and caring connection are the most important to anyone in your life, including your friend or family member struggling with Alzheimer’s Disease.

If you or a loved one would like to explore further other supports or strategies to help navigate Alzheimer’s, please consult the temple’s Kesher Social Worker, Tara Watkins. She is available for drop in hours in the main temple office on: Saturday June 2, 16th or 30th between 11:00am-2:00pm, by phone at 401-527-7772 or email: tara@jfsri.org.

1Effective Communication Strategies. (n.d.). Retrieved May 23, 2018, from https://www.alz.org/northcarolina/in_my_community_64912.asp

2Coste, J. K. (2004). Learning to speak Alzheimers: A groundbreaking approach for everyone dealing with the disease. Milsons Point, N.S.W.: Transworld Publishing.

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