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Opposition, Church official in Goaslam "Hindu Nation" remark

Panaji: The Opposition Saturday collectively demanded the dismissal of twocabinet ministers in the BJP-led coalition government in Goa, while a Churchofficial said both Co-operation Minister Deepak Dhavalikar and Deputy ChiefMinister Francis D'Souza, who referred to India as a "Hindu nation", have noplace in the country.

"We will be presenting a memorandum to the Goa governor demandingthe dismissal of the two ministers over their comments. If that fails, we will alsoseek legal recourse to drop the two ministers, who have sworn to abide by theconstitution," state Congress president Fernandes told a press conference atthe party's state headquarters.

Fernandes' comments came after the two Goan ministers made nationalheadlines with their remarks on India as a Hindu nation.

D'Souza on Friday had said, "India is a Hindu country. It is Hindustan. AllIndians in Hindustan are Hindus, including I - I am a Christian Hindu."

D'Souza is one of the seniormost minority members of the ruling BharatiyaJanata Party (BJP) in Goa.

Christians account for nearly 26 percent of the state's population.On Thursday Dhavalikar while speaking during a congratulatory motion in

the state legislature had said India could well be on the path to becoming aHindu nation under Prime Minister Narendra Modi.

Both comments had triggered an uproar at the national level as well as inthe state's political and social circles, with the Congress legislature wing evenstaging a walkout in the assembly Friday against the remark.

Reacting to the comments, Nationalist Congress Party (NCP) state vice-president Trajano D'Mello accused D'Souza of committing "heresy" and de-manded that the Goa Church seek an explanation from the deputy chief ministerfor calling himself a "Christian Hindu".

"D'Souza has committed heresy by claiming he is a Christian-Hindu. TheChurch should demand an explanation from him and if he fails to explain thisterm, then he should be ex-communicated from the religion," NationalistCongress Party leader Trajano D'Mello told a press conference at the party'sstate headquarters Saturday.

D'Mello claimed that the deputy chief minister has been brainwashed bythe BJP. "What he has said is nothing less than sacrilege and an insult to all

Contentspg. 3 - Opposition, Church official

in Goa slam "Hindu Nation"remark

pg. 5 - Reader's Viewspg.7 - In Praise Of Priestspg 9 - National Consultation On

Catholic Familiespg 10 - Dying With Dignitypg 15 - Tips For Smart Kitchenpg 16 - Christians and Indian Free-

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'Bypass Surgery'pg 18 - Make Your Marriage More

Important Than Moneypg 13 - Inspiration!pg 20 - Matrimonialspg 22 - Sharanpur Riot: Yet Another

Religious Violence

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Unhappy with the food, 11 Members of Parliament (MPs) of theShiv Shena party walked into

the dining hall of Delhi’s MaharashtraSadan, created chaos, and allegedlyforced a Muslim supervisor to eat rotiduring Ramadan. This incident whichshows Shiv Sena at its worst, has ac-quired an array of criticism.

Shiv Sena, which is mostly active inMaharashtra, is popularly known acrossthe country for its radical rightist standwith respect to social and political is-sues. Many a times, we have heard ofthe group taking tough stands on so-cial issues and even engaging in moralpolicing across Maharashtra. They havebeen in the news for beating fellowIndians, damaging public property, andintimidating police officers. They havealso gone as far as to beat up women.

One cannot become judgemental justas yet, since more details about theincident are being awaited. However,two things need to be highlighted here:One is that this group of Shiv Sena menforced a Muslim man to break his fast

during Ramadan, and the other is thatthey created chaos in a public place.

Even if one were to not consider thecommunal side of this story, to create asituation of disarray and behave likehooligans is something they must beheld accountable for. Be it a govern-ment official or someone else, any actof arrogance in a public place shouldnot be tolerated. Also, forcing some-one to break his fast is not only disre-spectful but is also a disgraceful act. Tohurt the sentiments and religious be-liefs of a person should be condemnedby all. In a democratic country with theright to freedom of religion, every citi-zen should be guaranteed a life ofsafety, respect, and dignity.

No matter which party they may belongto or position they may hold, MPs whocarry out such insensitive acts shouldbe subjected to disciplinary action fromthe state as well as the party. A memberof parliament is a representative of thepeople and should set examples by hisconduct. Lastly, politicians must bereminded that they are not above thelaw.

Shiv Sena: Where DoesOne Draw The Line?

by Christopher Sharma

Kathmandu (AsiaNews) - The CatholicChurch and Catholic organisations arethe safest and most respectable groupsin Nepal in the field of human rights,this according to activists and repre-sentatives of various religions whospoke to AsiaNews, responding to ac-cusations - in other parts of the world -of abuse by some priests.

"In our country there are manycases of human rights violations, butnone involves Catholics or their institu-tions," activist and National HumanRights Commission member SubodhPyakurel told AsiaNews. "Indeed, ac-

Christians," D'Mello said.Earlier, a Church official lashed

out at the two ministers, saying thosewho refer to India as a "Hindu nation"had no place in the country.

"... if a minister has made suchstatements, he has to be taken to taskby the government. Because he is go-ing against the constitution of the coun-try," Fr. Maverick Fernandes said.

"We have it very clearly mentionedin the preamble (of the Indian constitu-tion) that we are a secular nation. Any-body dreaming of such desires shouldbe taken to task because their place isnot in this nation," he further said.

Maverick Fernandes further saidthe remarks only go on to expose the"ignorance of the person" who madethem and that the ministers were stray-ing from the oath they had sworn toprotect the constitution of the country.

Catholic Church is "best" inprotecting human rights in Nepal

cording to our data they are the mostreliable for children and women."

"We cannot speak for priests inother countries," said BiswanathUpadhya, former chairman of the Na-tional Human Rights Commission andformer president of the Supreme Court,"but those who work with us are amodel for Nepali society."

"We believe in the good seedsplanted by Christians," said NazrulHussein, Muslim representative on theInterreligious Council of Nepal. "Asminorities we work together and Catho-lics are the best in promoting the hu-man rights of children and women."

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Give Them HarshPunishment

Men who rape women and chil-dren deserve the harshest punishment.They have no conscience and do notfeel guilty after committing the crime.Strict laws like those prevailing in Ara-bian Gulf states should be introducedin India. Even juveniles should not bespared as they too are committingrapes.

— Jubel D’Cruz, Dombivili

Law Makers or LawBreakers?

We condemn the despicable actof force feeding a Muslim Staffer of theMaharashtra Sadan Canteen by theShiv Sena M.P's. Will the BJP govern-ment have the courage to act againstsuch disgusting behaviour? It is ter-rible to contemplate how very few poli-ticians are punished in India.

In this case the law makers havebecome law breakers. What exampleare they setting? Criminal proceedingsmust be initiated against them.

Earlier there was a hue and cry bythe BJP that UPA dispensation wasweak and indecisive.

Is the BJP government cowardnot to act against such bullying of acommon hardworking employee irre-spective of which religion he belongs?

If an ordinary citizen had to in-dulge in such behaviour he would havebeen arrested by now. Is there a differ-ent law for Members of Parliament?

Our demand is very clear: "En-force the rule of law" to all equally. SuchMP's do not deserve to be our repre-sentatives. Shameful indeed is theirbehaviour and should be condemnedwith all the words at our command andthey should be punished.

—Dolphy D'souzaConvenor

POLICE REFORMS WATCH

Medical ethics at alltime low

In the wake of the recent allega-tions of corruption and malpractices

against doctors and their nexus withpharmaceutical companies, diagonisticcentres, and pathological labs, it wouldbe pertinent to question whether themedical profession can still be consid-ered to be a noble one. The respectthat doctors once commanded in ear-lier days is slowly dying out, as a largenumber have now turned mercenaryand businesslike. with no qualms ofconscience. Consultation charges varyfrom person to person as well as fromhospital to hospital. In Mumbai for ex-ample, a consultant in a super -special-ity hospital charges three times more

than he would normally charge in otherhospitals. Surgeons are also known todemand “ under the table’ fees beforeagreeing to operate upon a patient.Sex-determination and abortion clinicsare proliferating, where the birth of amale offspring is guaranteed at a price.The list is endless. So can we still lookup to the medical profession as beinghumanitarian?

—A.F. Nazareth, Alto Porvorim

Human DevelopmentIndex (HDI)

In two distressing headlines, inThe Times of India i) India home to onein three child brides in world; UN (23July 2014) and 2) HDI growth slowsdown globally (25 July 2014) ; hasagain put the focus and onus on India.Regarding the first issue, a letter ofmine titled – Child marriage and Sla-very was published by The Examiner inNov 09-15, 2013 bulletin. Coming tothe second topic on HDI——

The HDI or report is a measurederived from 4 parameters: life expect-ancy at birth, required schooling years,per capita income 2011 and Gender

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Development Index (GDI). India isranked at 135 out of 187 countriesamong the ‘medium development’ na-tions like Egypt, South Africa, Mongolia,Phillipines and Indonesia.

It is on the ‘ income measure’ thatIndia fails dramatically. The annual in-come per person (measured in pur-chasing power parity terms) for India is$5,150, slightly more than ourneighbours, but lowest among theBRICS countries, and less than half theglobal average of $13,723. The devel-oped countries average is way aheadat $40,046.

So what basically requires to bedone is to increase the ‘wages’ of work-ers so that their standard of living goesup; otherwise another analogy may bemade accountable: “For the ‘wages’ ofsin is death, but the free gift of God iseternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord”(Romans 6:23).

—Dr Trevor Colaso, Bandra

'The Golden Fruit -Kumquat'

This refers to the write-up on issueof 30th June, 2014 of Vera Alvares on'The Golden Fruit - Kumquat is quiteinteresting. But she has suspiciouslyguessed to be 'Darambe' grown inCoffee Estates of Western Ghats -Chickmangalore and Coorg. In fact'Darambe' fruit is from a full grown uptree, which has dark yellow colour whichare almost round in shape. The leavesof the tree are long in shape whichlocals use to wrap lime paste used bybetel-nut and leaves e3aters. In Tululanguage it is called 'Dare-Puli'. Thefruit has one or two seeds in the centreonly. The outer cover of the fruit afterdeceeding are dried which is used forsour taste while cooking vegetableslike 'Bindi-sol' or Solan. It is proved thatif you eat this fruit in excess you may beprone to dysentry. I therefore have astrong feeling by looking at the pictureof 'Kumquat' which is not 'Darambe' asit is shown seedless. Perhaps it may be'Mavlinge' which grows on a thornybushy plant of 2 to 3 ft. height. Theleaves of this busy plant have just the

same aroma of leaves of lemon tree orany other leaves of citrus fruit plants.'Mavlinge' is used for asking'mavlingachi Doss' like Ginger-preservewhich is quite relishing with a littlebitter, sweet and sour taste - perhaps,I may also be wrong.

—Francis Sequeira, Mangalore

Who Is A Hindu?An unnecessary hue and cry is

being raised over the statement of Dy.Chief Minister Francis D’souza refer-ring to India as Hindu nation and forcalling himself a Christian Hindu.Thequestion boils down to who is a Hindu?Although the term ‘Hindu’ in commonparlance and usage is used to refer toan adherent of Hinduism, it has moregeographical than religious connota-tions, as it was used by the Greeks,Persians, Arabs and Chinese in theearly centuries to denote the inhabit-ants of the Indian peninsula, east of theriver Indus (Indoos). Even though theadherents of Hinduism account for

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more than 82% of our population, itdoes not make India a Hindu nation,because we have a Constitution whichis secular and we live in a multi-reli-gious, multi-ethnic and multi-culturalsociety. Just as Dy. CM Francis hascalled himself a Christian Hindu, therewere several other Hindu reformers ofthe Indian Renaissance movement likeRaja Ram Mohan Roy, Keshab ChandraSen and others who were also knownas Hindu Christians, for whom JesusChrist was the greatest teacher of reli-gion and morals. Keshab Chandra Seneven talked about the Cosmic Christhidden in the Vedas and Upanishads.He wanted the church In India to begenuinely Christian yet genuinely Hinduunder the new dispensation. Today,the Inculturation movement in thechurch is also modelled on the lines ofVedanta, appropriating the signs andsymbols of Hinduism in their ritualsand liturgy. So why this fuss about onebeing a Christian Hindu?

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I have a healthy respect for priestsespecially when I fall ill and fear Imay require their final services. Be-

sides ,we have too many in our imme-diate family – for our own good. Some-times I think our family was more inneed of salvation than other families,hence the number of ‘ soul savers ‘ init !

It‘s very difficult being a priest inthese times , when to all things clergicthe vast majority of the world is allergic;when people respect no one and noth-ing ; and when there are so many moreattractive and tempting, not to mentionlucrative, calls one could more easilyanswer.Times have changed and theclergy with them because in this JetAge , most people prefer to be highfliers.

It takes all kinds to make a worldand all kinds make the clergy .Thereare clerics who are pure dynamite,blasting their congregation from hereto eternity. There are others who aredashing and handsome ,with a curl onthe forehead ( a la Elvis ) ,curling yourvery heart with love – for God ! Thereare others like their patron saint JohnMarie Vianney not considered God‘sgift to Man by men,the ways of Godbeing strange and those of men ,evenstranger.

Priests come –as we all do-invaried packages : good, average, in-different. So when next you meet onewho doesn‘t come up to expectations,you would do well to look within – youprobably don‘t either. The Lord makesuncommon as well as ‘ common ‘ priestsbut more of the latter kind ,I think ,because there are so many of us com-mon folk in need of salvation.

The Religious Life is a vocationquite unlike the Single or Married life.Today,it is also a profession, not onlybecause a lot of priests are profession-als having joined the priesthood afterhaving served for many years in thecorporate/secular world,but also be-cause today‘s priest is more likely thannot to be a trained professional whobrings a professional touch to theministry of saving souls. A priest is not

a priest because he couldn‘t be any-thing else ; a priest is a priest ANDeverything else - all things to all men :teacher, preacher ,doctor, lawyer, me-dia man,engineer, management con-sultant , marriage counsellor, clown ! Asense of humour is his saving grace.Some priests have it ,some membersof the laity unfortunately, don‘t. A cer-tain pastor preached a weighty butlively sermon which had the entire con-gregation in splits, except for onegentleman who didn‘t even smile. “ Mygood man “ said the priest to him, afterthe service ,” didn‘t you like my sermon– I noticed you didn‘t even smile .” “Certainly not! “ replied the man ,seri-ously “ I belong to another parish .”One could say this particular man wasa parochial fool ,whereas the preacher– in this case- was a fool for God !

Sometimes a priest may get frus-trated because he feels he‘s chosen /lives a passive existence where he‘sresponsible not so much for doingthings as for getting things done.Ravingin restlessness, his nature contravened, he perhaps feels he may have blun-dered in answering an imaginary callthe mundane duties of which ,wearyhim,and he begins to yearn for themore exciting life of the secular world.In truth, he is very much a part of thatworld and all his talents are put tomaximum use in his ministry. The roleof a politician,soldier, a votary of glory,lover of renown,luster after power maybeat under the curate‘s surplice butthe true priest needs nothing to adornhim – neither ambition nor glory. Atother times, a priest may be assailedby feelings of unworthiness and inad-equacy to tackle the mission at hand.Who ,indeed, is worthy of God‘s call totake up any challenge in life ? We aremade worthy and thereafter do thebest we can within our limitations. Afterall ,it is the Rock of all Ages that the wisepriest leans on and it will bear theweight of his human frailty !

A shepherd- pastor of his flock ,is akin to the leader of a mountainclimbing expedition. Life is the moun-tain being climbed by the congrega-

tion with the priest leading the way.Should he falter, lose direction or de-cide to give up half- way , consider thefate of the ones who follow. The priest-hood , like the married state ,is un-doubtedly difficult with its many chal-lenges. Even so, when the going getstough, married couples remember thesolemn vows they made to each otherbefore God , on their wedding day andresolve to keep their commitment . Itshould be no different for the clergyand it isn‘t , for the majority of them.

Keeping one‘s vows, however,should not give one a martyred looknor make martyrs of one‘s congrega-tion as happened with the minister of acertain parish who was a bore when hewasn‘t being a tyrant. He was conse-quently extremely unpopular .OneSunday morning he announced , whathe considered would be sad news,from the pulpit : “ Brethren, the LordJesus is in need of my services else-where , and so I have been transferredto another parish .” Thereupon thecongregation rose as one in the reces-sional hymn of thanksgiving , ‘ What AFriend We Have In Jesus ‘. Our priestsare, in the main, unlike that one, friendsof Jesus who have befriended us.

The greatest and most difficultcalling in life is, unarguably, that of thepriesthood with its myriad demandsand challenges , big and small. Apriest lives for others , in accordancewith his vocation, as few of us do. Helays the foundation on earth for ourmansions in Heaven and is entrustedwith the task of improving the qualityof our lives, spiritual and temporal. Hetakes the vow of celibacy to enablehim the better to serve one Master –and His people. Therefore, to be suc-cessful , a candidate “ can`t be apriest, until he firsts understands thathe is a man” and would need to subli-mate his instincts in the effective dis-charge of his vocation.

So let us breathe a prayer for ourpriests on Clergy Day – Aug. 4 – andevery other day, that following the ex-ample of their Master, the GoodShepherd, they may go through thisworld , ‘ changing water into wine ‘ !

In Praise Of Priests Bernie Tellis

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94 August 2014

A large number of Catholic families in India are not even awarethat Pope Francis has called a

World Synod on the Family in Romethis October. This will be the first synodduring Pope Francis’ papacy, and isindicative of his pastoral priorities. Ear-lier Popes took up theological issueslike faith, the Eucharist etc. So thisSynod should be refreshingly different.

As a preparation, the Vatican had sentout a questionnaire (survey) of Catho-lic families to be conducted. Unfortu-nately, as reported by the Japanesebishops, the Survey was heavilyEurocentric, touching on “western” is-sues like live-in relationships and same-sex marriages. In India the Survey didnot get the attention it merited, and a“report” was dashed off to Rome. Theissue came alive after a press report onwhich basis this writer contacted one ofthe papal advisors, Cardinal OswaldGracias of Mumbai. Thereafter an inter-national group of concerned Catho-lics, “Catholic Church Reform Interna-tional”, contacted us to do our ownresearch.

The cat was out of the bag. Only 40 ofthe 120 Latin dioceses had respondedto the Survey. In Mumbai there was nota single respondent to the publishedquestionnaire! Those bishops, who didrespond, hurriedly put together reportsbased on “in camera” discussions, inwhich the laity (the families) was largelysidelined. Some other bishops quiterightly observed that the methodologyof the Survey was not user friendly.Some other bishops claimed that therewas not enough time to translate theQuestionnaire into local languages fordissemination. Be that as it may, onemay safely conclude that whateverreport(s) went from India did not reflectthe genuine concerns of Indian Catho-lic families, as they were almost en-tirely ignored in the entire process. Anadded complication is the Vatican’sdivision of families according to Rites.So the Latin, Syro-Malabar and Syro-Malankara Rites would have sent sepa-rate reports. Several attempts by one

of our members, Dr James Kottoor, toobtain information from the Syro-Malabar Rite (SMR) bishops in Kerala,were stonewalled.

This World Family Synod is a papalinitiative. Such a golden opportunitycannot be squandered. Hence a groupof prominent lay leaders from acrossthe country got together to conduct theSurvey based on the Vatican Question-naire, and to organise local level dis-cussions; culminating in a NationalConsultation on Catholic Families tobe held in Pune on 23rd/24th August.Among the organizers are – VirginiaSaldanha (Mumbai), Dr James Kottoor(Ernakalum), Dr John Dayal (NewDelhi), Raynah Braganza Passanha(Pune), Dr Ampareen Lyngdoh(Shillong), Diago Almeida and AlanDoulton of Pune, with this writer as theCo-ordinator.

Bp Lawrence Pius of Dharampuri, theCCBI (LR) Chairperson of the FamilyCommission, has expressed full sup-port for our efforts and will forward ourfindings to Rome. Bp Thomas Dabre ofPune has also extended his full co-operation and will celebrate the inau-gural Mass.

Based on initial responses, we haveidentified some major areas of concernthat have been categorized under: - 1.Pastoral 2. Sociological 3. Psychologi-cal and 4. Physiological heads:

1. PASTORAL:Though a major concern of the Pope, itis reflected in the reports sent by Ger-man and Japanese bishops’ confer-ences. The same goes for the reportsfrom some Indian dioceses that wehave obtained. It is a travesty that what

should have been a top priority is actu-ally very low down on the church’sagenda. Catechesis and faith forma-tion stop after Confirmation classes..Most people attend Marriage Prepara-tion Courses just to obtain the neces-sary “certificate”. Marriage enrichment,guidance and counseling are negli-gible. There are no respite centres forvictims of marital discord or domesticviolence.

A problem peculiar to SMR Catholics,especially those resident outsideKerala, is the practice of Church Dowry,where they are expected to donate alarge sum to the local church, includ-ing arrears of subscription, even if theyhave been resident outside Kerala forgenerations. The SMR bishops are re-fusing to recognize the “free state” (sta-tus liber) certificates issued by LatinRite parishes, insisting that they willonly take cognizance of their own cer-tificates, which obviously come at aprice. SMR Catholics in Mumbai andDelhi, in particular, are incensed bysuch coercive tactics.

2. SOCIOLOGICAL:Bucking the trend, the girls in our com-munity are better qualified, better em-ployed, and often emotionally morestable, than the boys. It is becomingincreasingly difficult to find suitablemarriage partners within the commu-nity. This has resulted in a high rate ofinter-faith marriages. In Mumbai this ispegged at 25%. The Japanese bish-ops report that it is 75%. This is aserious issue that needs redress.

Other sociological/ demographic is-sues are those of urban migration andresultant anonymity, domestic violence,

National Consultation On Catholic Families

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BY CHHOTEBHAI

10 4 August 2014

The Apex court has called for adebate on euthanasia and hassought the views of all states

legislatures within eight weeks . Chris-tianity does not permit euthanasia inany form. Other religions too are not infavour of it. Fasting to death as in Jainismis a form of penance highly recom-mended in their religion and not to beconfused with euthanasia . But evenfrom a practical stand-point, euthana-sia if legalised will prove to be a disas-ter in our country.The concept of 'dy-ing with dignity' is gaining momentumin the west where the majority of thepeople live with dignity. In our countryone-third of the people live below thepoverty line--- without dignity.

'Active euthanasia' or mercy killing islegal in a few countries like Belgiumand Netherlands which are very smallin population, making it is easy tomonitor individual cases. (Mumbai islarger than Belgium and Netherlandsin population).So far as active eutha-nasia is concerned it is tantmount tomurder as it involves injecting a sub-stance to snuff out life .In our 1.2 billionstrong nation,the majority being poor,euthanasia will be a completedisaster --no less than genocide . What-ever the safeguards people will findways of bumping off the old , disabledand the unwanted.

'Passive euthanasia' (which impliespulling off the life-support of irrevers-

ibly vegetative patients ) became legalin 2011in the wake of the ArunaShanbag case. It is pertinent to ob-serve that before life-support was inplace, people would live and die, natu-rally. Nowadays doctors and hospitalsput patients on life support randomly toprolong life and revenue.The masseshere have no use for life support.If theysurvive, it is not on life-support but onlove-support. And that is the way itshould be .( My 94-year old mother is inan irreversibly vegetative state for manyyears. She has survived only on thelove-support of her daughter and theirfamily). Moreover, do we have suffi-cient number of ventilators to take careof the masses, or is 'dying with dignity'only for the rich?

Nobody has the right to take life.Theonly exception being terminally ill pa-tients suffering excruciating pain. Insuch cases, administration of painkill-ers in increasingly larger doses, com-mensurate with the increase in pain, ishumane and a must, even if this treat-ment ultimately results in eternal sleep.The following anecdote illustrates thepoint: A visitor was being taken aroundan hospice in UK. The kind sister beck-oned to a room in which severe pain-afflicted cancer patients were sleepingsoundly. She explained: "Tomorrowmorning they will all get up very re-freshed and ready to face another day.All of them but one. He will sleep onpeacefully...forever".

Dying With Dignity Prof. Robert Castellino, Orlem

dowry, single parenthood, “shotgun”arranged marriages, care for aged andinfirm parents, and the extravaganzaassociated with the “big fat Indian wed-ding”.

3. PSYCHOLOGICAL:There is the growing danger of becom-ing impersonal by replacing virtual re-lationships on Facebook etc for realface-to-face relationships, resulting innon-communication, which is the great-est threat to marriage and family life.There is also the lack of conjugal pri-vacy, so necessary for a matrimonialbond to develop.

4. PHYSIOLOGICAL:There are issues connected with plan-ning the size of one’s family, infertility,in-vitro fertilization, surrogacy etc; andthe contentious issue of a woman whoincurs an abortion being automaticallyex-communicated.

The National Consultation on CatholicFamilies hopes to address these is-sues and seek solutions. Participantsfrom all over the country are expected.Those interested in participating maycontact me by email at:noronha.kp@gmail.com, or by phoneat 09415130822. Since accommoda-tion is limited applications will be ac-cepted on a “first come first served”basis.

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Ryan Pinto, CEO, Ryan International Group of Institutions wasawarded the “Asia’s Emerging Business Leader 2013-2014”bythe eminent Lord Swaraj Paul in the presence of Priti Patel, MP,

UK at the Global Indian Excellence Summit held at London on July 21,2014 by World Consulting & Research Corporation (WCRC). The eventwas organized to celebrate the spirit of leadership. Ryan Pinto isamong the hundred Global Indians and emerging business leaders asper the consumer and product survey conducted by WCRC. Theofficial tabulators for the research were Ernst & Young LLP (India).Theseleaders were featured in the Coffee Table Book which was released andpresented during the ceremony.One of India’s youngest entrepreneursin the K-12 education sector, Ryan Pinto strongly advocates the use ofemerging technology to teach children in India.

On this occasion, Ryan International Group of Institutions was alsoawarded the Most Impactful Institute from India Award 2013-14. This isyet again a remarkable achievement for the Ryan Group as they addanother prestigious award to their tally. The Ryan International Grouphas been a name to reckon in the field of education and this is one ofthe biggest awards presented at a global level. The Group has beenrecognised many a times in the last several years for their commend-able work.

During the award ceremony, while receiving the award Ryan Pintosaid, “I thank Jesus Christ for this recognition. It is the vision andleadership of our chairman, Dr A.FPinto, and MD, Grace Pinto, and the hard work of our teams, that has gotten us suchrecognition. We will continue to make significant contribution by educating, enriching and empowering youth aroundthe world.” There were high profiled promising leaders present at this gala award ceremony held at the London MarriottHotel who were felicitated and recognized for their immense contribution in their respective field.

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To avoid sticky rice: Wash the rice afew times until the water runs clear.Remove all the water until no waterremains. Let it sit for 20 minutes. Thiswill remove all the starch and help therice to remain separate.

Also adding a few drops of lemon juiceto the rice while cooking, you will findthat the grains of rice will tend to remainseparate.

For crispier puris: Add a teaspoon ofsemolina / rava (suji) and 1 teaspoon ofrice flour to the wheat flour while knead-ing.

Quick tomato paste cubes: Spoontomato paste into ice cube trays. Freezeovernight. Transfer into plastic bagsand freeze. Frozen cubes can bedropped right into curries.

Remedy for salty curry: Wash a po-tato. Cut into two. Place the two halvesof the raw potato in the curry and it willabsorb the extra salt.

How to cut an onion without crying?One can adopt any of these methods tocut onion without crying - peel and cutonions under running water. Chop on-ions near a gas flame. Or refrigeratingonions before chopping.

Use kitchen scissors: One must usekitchen scissors to chop corianderleaves, mint leaves and chillies to avoidany kind of a mess. One can stock thisfor the purpose of garnishing.

Skinning a chicken with ease: Al-ways peel off a little part of the Chickenskin to start with and hold it tightly with

a paper towel. The skin latches on tothe paper towel.

Overripe tomatoes: Dip them in coldwater, add some salt and leave over-night. They will be fresh and firm totouch the next day.

Tips for making dosa: To ensure thatthe griddle (tawa) is hot enough beforespreading dosa, sprinkle a little waterover it. If it sizzles immediately, then thegriddle is hot enough. Wipe with aclean rag or half a raw onion and pro-ceed.

Tip for making soft chappati dough:While making paneer from milk, don`tthrow away the paneer water. This nu-tritious water can be used for makingsoft dough for chapatis or can be usedto cook dals.

Peeling a whole garlic: To peel garlic,place your knife flat on the garlic cloveand whack with your other hand. Thecovering will burst open and the clovecan be easily removed.

Peeling or scraping ginger: Peelingor scraping ginger with the back ofspoon is an easy way to peel ginger.Scrape the ginger with the inside of aspoon, getting the edge of the spoon

into the crevices of the ginger. The skinwill come off with a gentle scrape.

Avoiding over-spilling milk whenboiling: Before pouring milk into a potfor boiling rub butter along the topedge and inside lip of the pot. When themilk foams up, it will stop over spillingwhen it hits the butter.

Removing the garlic skins: Wash thegarlic buds before peeling the skin.The skin of the garlic will come offeasily and quickly.

For retaining the flavour: Cook car-rots, peas, beetroot or corn adding apinch of sugar to the water to keep theflavour.

All general tips:To keep sweet corn yellow in colour,add one teaspoon of lemon juice to thecooking water just about a minute be-fore removing from heat. Never salt thewater you cook corn in. It will onlytoughen the corn.

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Christians And The Indian Freedom Movement

We, Christians have been accused of not participating inthe freedom struggle for

India’s independence by some organi-zations ever since independence in1947. It is alleged that Christians sup-ported the British because they belongto same faith. The NCERT text booksfor class IX students on Social sciencestitled “Contemporary India” (2002) la-bels Muslims & Christians as non- pa-triots. The aim is to create a new gen-erations of Indians, indoctrinated to acertain ideology so as to create anatmosphere of hatred & insecurity be-tween different communities whichhave been peacefully co-existed forcenturies. The hatred, riots and attackson minorities /institutions we witnesstoday are born of this ideology. Theaccusations that Christians did not par-ticipate in the freedom movement arevery serious and we have to under-stand it in a right perspective. Onething was certain that several of theChristians who participated in thestruggle were having Indian/localnames which were difficult to distin-guish between Christian & other faiths.

The well known Church historian,George Thomas writes that Mr.Barhmabandhab Upadhyaya, a Hindu-Catholic sadhu & theologian, editor of“Sandhya” played a leading role in theSwadeshi movement. ThevarthundiyilTitus, T M Vargese, A J John, JoachimAlva, Violet Alva, Anne Mascarenhasand Akkamma Cherian were the fa-mous Christian names. There was Mr.Madhu Sudan Das a well known Chris-tian leader from Orissa and Kali CharanBannerjee from Bengal. In the Congesssession of 1889 out of ten women del-

egates, three were Christians: PanditaRamabhai, Mrs. Triumbuck and MrsNikambe.

George Thomas further notes that,the Christian community has played avery significant role in the Independentmovement. Many others who partici-pated in the Freedom struggle by join-ing one or other movement. Comparedto the population of Hindus and Mus-lims, the miniscule Christian commu-nity was far ahead in playing a con-structive role in the struggle for inde-pendence. Kaka Joseph Baptista fromMumbai founded the All India Tradeunion Congress (1920) to bring theworking classes together to build amass movement in order to fight theBritish. As a practicing barrister at theBombay high Court he fought the sedi-tion cases of Lokmanya Tilak and VeerSavarkar successfully. They have alsoprovided back up support when someleaders were arrested viz. JesudasanCornelius having degrees from Ohio,

Boston, Harvard and Colombia univer-sities was then teaching philosophy atLucknow university was a close associ-ate of Mahatma Gandhi and took upeditorship of “Young India” whenGandhiji was imprisoned. He too wassent to prison along with Gandhiji 2-3times during the Quit India movementand a prominent figure in the Congressand later selected by Govt. of India tolead a delegation to London. K T Paulwas selected to participate in the RoundTable conference in England. PaulRamaswamy who took part in saltsatyagraha was imprisoned for 6months in Thiruchi, Mr Venkal Chakkaraihas participated in the Civil disobedi-ence movement. Nirad Biswas who laterbecome Bishop of Assam joined theNational movement of satyagraha.

Mr M.V. Kamath a regular colum-nist to the RSS weekly, Organiser namedpeople like Cyprian Alvares, JoachimAlva, Marcel D’Souza as prominentChristian freedom fighters from theSouth. George Joseph another promi-nent figure was one of three membersof the Home rule deputation sent toEngland to present the Indian case. Hewas the first batch of Indian barristerswho sacrificed their comforts to engagethemselves in the National movementwas the editor of “South Indian mail”.He was arrested in 1921 during the nonco-operation movement and arrestedfor sedition in 1922. Jawaharlal Nehruin his autobiography said about GeorgeJoseph that “he did not pop up his tailbetween the hind legs but if he sowedthe wind he was equally ready to reapthe whirlwind”.

Among the leading Christianwomen leaders who took part in thefreedom struggle were Mrs. GeorgeJoseph, Mrs Gracy Aaron, Mrs. Marga-ret Pavamani, Miss Mary Thomas, MissMatilda Kalten and Mrs Violet Alva.Printing technology was introduced intoKerala by Christian missionaries in the16th century. Rajya samacharam,Paschima taraka, Satyananda kahalam,Nazrani Deepika, Malayala Manorama(1890), Paschimodayam were also ed-ited and published by either Christiansor by missionaries inspired people to

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join the struggle through their writingsand speeches..

Christians never fought for a sepa-rate state whereas some Hindu leadersdemanded Hindu Rashtra and Muslimsa Muslim state viz. Pakistan. Organiza-tions like The Hindu Mahasabha & RSSdid not engage themselves in the Con-gress-led freedom movement becauseof their ideological differences. Gandhijihad to pay the heavy price with his lifein the hands of Nathuram Godse.

The true story for Indian strugglefor Independence is a complex onewith people participating as one “com-munity of Indians” by shedding theirreligious identities & differences for thewell being of the whole society. Today,half a century later, the very same soci-ety has been divided into cast & reli-gious lines and shows the signs offurther divide by every passing daywhich the present day politicians arebusy with by pumping hatred againstcertain communities with their commu-nally charged speeches. People arekilled in the name of ideology, institu-tions are attacked, icons are humili-ated, those who criticize have beenlabeled as traitors and asked to go toPakistan.

In fact the Father of Indian consti-tution Dr Ambedkar foresaw & believedin plurality of Indian society whereevery one can co-exist peacefully, buttoday caste & religion politics has takenan upper hand. If we are really con-cerned about the happenings around,then we must join hands with like-minded people for a harmonious & safeIndia..

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I am perfect in my im-perfection, happy in mypain, strong in my weak-ness and beautiful inmy own way, becausegod is on my side.

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board, the marriages with at least onematerialistic spouse were worse off on

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Make Your Marriage MoreImportant Than Money

all measures than marriages whereneither spouse was materialistic.

It had nothing to do with gender of thespouse; the non-materialistic coupleswere 10% — 15% better off in the cat-egories studied (marital satisfaction,marriage stability, and lower levels ofconflict). The study couldn’t test howmaterialism erodes a marriage, but Dr.Carroll and his team have a couple oftheories:

Materialism causes spouses to makebad financial decisions such asspending beyond their means, whichputs them in debt and stresses themarriage.

People who are materialistic areworking more to “get things.” Theyforget, don’t value, or run out of time ina day to nurture their relationships.

No matter how hard you work,if you communicate with yourspouse each day, letting them

know something as simple as, “I amthinking about you,” you will be nur-turing your relationship.

Balance is everything. At timesthat is difficult and unattainable. Whenyou know in advance that work will beconsuming a lot of your time, tell yourpartner in advance so they can men-tally prepare. Take them to dinner orspend extra time with them prior tothe week or month that you need tofocus on work. Remind them by say-ing something such as, “I am glad wehave this time together, because nextweek (or next month) is going to bevery demanding at work.” This tellsyour partner they are more important

Putting Your Marriage OverMoney Issues

to you than money.Have a family day. One day a

week is sacred to families. Shut allcommunication off on that day. Pro-gram that day into your Blackberry,iPhone or whatever device you haveso you won’t schedule business.

Husbands, wives, and childrenall like nice things, but they love you.Their love is a gift, not something youwill get paid for. No amount of moneyor nice things you can ever acquirewill replace this love.

As a family, it’s nice to have acharity to which you give every year.Let the kids be part of planning whichcharity means the most to them.Teaching your children early to valuelife rather than material is very impor-tant.

When couplesstruggle finan-

cially, we also seean increase in do-mestic arguments,breakups, andchaos. It’s difficult toshow love towardyour partner if youare worried aboutpaying your cellphone bill, car pay-ment and housenote. However, re-search in this area isfinding that materi-alistic people have unhap-pier marriages than coupleswho don’t care much aboutpossessions.

This holds true across all levels of in-come, according to Jason Carroll, whois a Professor of Family Life at BrighamYoung University. Dr. Carroll goes onto say that if you are materialistic, youwill have a happier marriage if you findsomeone who isn’t. Two like-mindedmaterialistic people suffered the leastsatisfying of marriages.

The more you value money, the moretroubles you suffer at home, becausework usually comes first, and after workis done, people have left you and movedon. Your intimate relationships manytimes no longer exist.

The research was done through theRELATE Institute, which is a respectednational research non-profit organiza-tion. In this case, they studied 1,734married couples and collected onlinequestionnaires from them. Across the

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Imagine there is a bank, which credits your account each morning withRs 86,400, carries over no balance

from day to day, allows you to keep nocash balance, and every evening can-cels whatever part of the amount youhad failed to use during the day. Whatwould you do? Draw out every pence,of course!

Well, everyone has such a bank. Itsname is Time.

Every morning, it credits you with 86,400seconds. Every night it writes off, aslost, whatever of this you have failed toinvest to good purpose. It carries overno balance. It allows no overdraft. Eachday it opens a new account for you.Each night it burns the records of theday. If you fail to use the day's deposits,the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is nodrawing against the "tomorrow."

Therefore, there is never not enoughtime or too much time. Time manage-ment is decided by us alone and no-body else. It is never the case of us nothaving enough time to do things, butthe case of whether we want to do it.

"A good character is the best tomb-stone. Those who loved you and werehelped by you will remember you whenforget-me-nots have withered. Carveyour name on hearts, not on marble."

Dial 1064, lodge graft plaint

The anti-corruption bureau (ACB)has launched a toll free number thatcan be used to lodge corruptioncomplaints in the state.

“We have started a new number —1064 — that can be used to reportcorruption cases from across thestate,” said Pravin Dixit, director gen-eral of police, ACB.

The bureau has reported a spurt ofcases this year across the state.

—Agnelo Rodrigues, Wadala E.

Recipe:ONION PAKARAS

Ingredients:5 large onions, finely sliced1 teaspoon red chilli powder1 teaspoon sugarSalt to tasteJuice of 1 lemonA few sprigs of coriander leaves,

finely chopped1 cup gram flour (besan)3 cups vegetable oil

Method:1. In a mixing bowl, combine sliced

onions with chilli powder, sugar,salt, lemon juice and corianderleaves and mix well. Keep asidefor 10 to 15 minutes to allow on-ions to sweat.

2. Mix gram flour (besan) into theonions.

3. Heat oil in a kadhai over mediumflame.

4. Divide onion mixture into lime-sized pieces and carefully drop inthe hot oil. Deep fry till they aregolden and crisp. Remove anddrain on absorbent paper.

5. Serve hot with mint chutney.

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The line between healthyworrying and being ob-sessed by the negativeworry is so thin thatsometimes we fail tomark the difference.Train your brain to differ-entiate between the two.

Worrying is hard to over-come because in a strangeway, it actually makes a lotof sense to your mind. First, you imag-ine risks...and sometimes you are right.

The first step to worrying less is to listwhat we worry about and if we make

this list every morningwe can begin to de-lete things we are un-able to control.

Understand your con-cerns: “Worrying is aform of self-torture andhas the power to makeus suffer.” And it is afact that worrying un-necessarily will tire us

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Here are some suggestions to helpyou worry less:

• Identify and list your worries on a dailybasis. Keep a ‘My Worry Diary’.

• Try to find the reason why any oneissue worries you.

• See if you can do anything to stop thatworry by doing something.

• Don’t feel guilty about worrying. It is anatural phenomenon to worry if it isunder control and does not begin todictate your life.

• Allow yourself a limited timeslot toworry rather than worry about every-thing all the time.

• Point out to yourself the experience ofyour life that makes you worry aboutany particular aspect.

• Learn to differentiate between use-less worrying and creative worry thatcan be beneficial.

• If you are unable to cope with yourworrying, consult a qualified practi-tioner who will guide you to worryless and enjoy life more.

• Only a professional can help youidentify if your worrying nature comesfrom a deeper sense of insecurityand a feeling that anything goingwrong around you reflects on you.

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care of by the Sikh Community forseveral years now. The land has beenunder dispute for the past few yearswhen the Muslim community startedclaiming its ownership.

According to Daljeet Singh Kochar,an advocate in the Saharanpur CivilCourt, a petition was filed in the court10 years ago, stating that theGurudwara must not use the land, asa mosque had been built in that area.However, the land was given to theGurudwara users by the District Courton May 2013, according to a reportby The Hindu.

The Sikh community started construc-tion on the land without the permis-sion of Saharanpur DevelopmentAuthority (SDA). Following which, anenraged mob constituting nearly 700people started throwing stones at theGurudwara. Later the constructionwas stopped by SDA and police ar-rested the ones involved in violence.

The violence supposedly was pre-planned, according to the Sikh com-munity. They also claimed that a largenumber of Muslims were called fromMuzaffarnagar and Moradabad toparticipate in the violence. More thana dozen people have been arrestedfor promoting violence in the region.

What makes the situation overwhelm-ingly horrific is that the violence isbeing waged in the name of God.However, religion is not the only causeof the riot, though it may seem so atthe surface. While reviewing the en-tire situation on a deeper level andquestioning the very purpose of themassacre, one may realize that anumber of factors have interplayedsimultaneously. As a result, the vio-lence has broken out as a communalone.

The Saharanpur violence is a clear

Saharanpur Riot:Yet Another Religious Violence

case of the blurring of wits and wis-dom and rivalry of communities; andthe worsening of the violence is aresult of the respective community’spride. At the end, the violence, losingits core purpose as when it began,could spiral into a matter of pride withboth sides unwilling to surrender.

Not even a year has gone by to oneof the worst violence in Uttar Pradeshwhich out broke in Muzaffarnagarthat killed 62 people, injured 93 andleft more than 50,000 people dis-placed. This was then followed bycurfew and dislocation of the army inthe district.

The growing number of riots, andcrimes like rape, indicate towards thefailure of Akhilesh Yadav’s govern-ment to maintain a harmonious envi-ronment in the state. Has the govern-ment not learnt anything from thepast?

It is high time that Mr Akhilesh Yadavwoke up from his political slumber!

It now appears that UttarPradesh has become the official homeland to commu-

nal violence in India.Saharanpur, on Saturdayerupted with a brutal riot andhas already led to the death ofthree people. The violence hasfurther left several injured withmore than 50 shops burntdown. A curfew has been im-posed in the district and anorder for “shoot at sight” hasalso been issued.

The violence broke out over ahuge piece of land that is adja-cent to a Gurudwara (Sikhtemple) which is being taken

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