special report - nine habits guaranteeing student success

8/8/2019 Special Report - Nine Habits Guaranteeing Student Success

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NINEHABITSGUARANTEEINGSTUDENT SUCCESSAldric Tinker

Special Report: NineHabits GuaranteeingStudent SuccessIf Everyone Has the Potential, Why arentThey There yet?

That kid has potential!

How many times have you heard this being said by

someone? The person may be a fresh graduate, a freshman,

or even a new employee! These experienced members of

society or the community acknowledge his capabilities based

on what they see.

But lets fast forward to a decade or two later. Where would

this now more experienced kid be? Is he staying in a home

he owns or is it a rented one? Does she have her own kids or

shes still single? Is she enjoying the life they wanted? Do his

eyes shine the same way: with the flames of passion?

Did that kid achieve and live out his potential?


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Wrong Attitude, Wrong AltitudeYour Attitude determines Your Altitude

After numerous researches, I can identify several reasons

why you wouldnt achieve your full potential. A large bulk of it,

if not all, is caused by an inherent factor: your attitude.

As the saying goes, your attitude determines your

altitude. No matter where you want to go, your outlook of life

will determine how fast or slow, how far or accurate you can

be. Your attitude determines whether youll commit to your

undertaking or not. It also dictates your performance.

Many students feel that aptitude is all they need to make it

in life; so few would commit to having a positive attitude

towards their studies. What went through your mind a moment

ago? How does positive attitude towards their studies look

like in your minds eye?

Most of us will think of a geek with thick glasses or a nerd

so deep into a thick book.

A positive attitude towards learning means that youre

committed to your learning styles, always looking for the best

solution so you can study more in less time! When I say

study, I mean:

Reading;

Exploring the idea;

Understanding the materials and idea;

Remember the idea;

Apply the idea; and

Modify the idea!


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Once youre at a certain level ofmastery, you can reject

old ideas and introduce new one outright!

Think about all the successful students and individuals

around you. They seem to have everything: friends, memory,

ideas, excitement, influence, as well as an aura of charisma.

Thanks to their outlook towards life, you find them so

alluring! Even when theyve been kicked down by Life, amidst

the laughter and ridicule from everyone else, they pick

themselves up, brush their shoulders and move on. Yet, when

they move on, they seem to have something more than before

they fall!

Lets put it this way: if you see two random individuals, one

is smiling while the other one is frowning or looks depressed

and disorganised, who would you be most attracted to? Who

would you be comfortable working with?

Not Knowing What they WantSecond cause of failing to achieve their full potential does

not know clearly what you want. When you fail to know what

you want, clearly, and commit to it, youll never go anywhere

meaningful. If you accomplish anything, its because what you

randomly do produces results. When somethings random,

youll find it hard to replicate the success!

Without a clear vision, you can never assess what youre

doing against where you are now. Say if youre driving from

Bintulu to Miri, which is approximately 300km apart. Until and

unless you know youre going to Miri, which is 300km away,


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sports. Many take these for granted and focus their efforts to

one activity. This, unfortunately, can lead to long term downfall,

complacency and even health complications!

Going the wrong directionAs an extension of the last section, the other factor which

causes students to fail in achieving their full potential is going

the wrong way.

You can begin a journey heading towards your decided

destination. Somewhere along that journey, there are

possibilities of making a wrong turn. Because were not given a

specific set of instructions in life, more often than not well

never know if were making a wrong turn until much later!

In this instance, your abilities to:

1. Admit that youre wrong;

2. Admit that youre sorry; and

3. Admit that youve made a mistake...

...Are detrimental to making sure youre heading in the right

direction.

In life, theres no right or wrong, they say. Then it would be

conflicting with our statement earlier! If theres no right or

wrong decision, there shouldnt be a right or wrong direction!

Right or wrong exists in the context of direction, relative to

your goals. If you need to go left, you know youre heading the

wrong way if you go straight ahead or make a right turn.

With the absence of a clear set of guidelines, you need to

assess your direction based on your goals. You can be wrong

or err on the side of things this is normal. But continuing your


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journey after you know youre going in the wrong direction, for

whatever reason, is certainly wrong.

Remember whats right and wrong is determined by

your goals, your beliefs and your attitude. It should not be

imposed on you, but you should be exposed to the

possibilities. Being sensitive and alert does not mean

abandoning your plans altogether. It basically means that you

need to find the best way to achieve your goals without

infringing on the rights and welfare of others.

No control, no responsibilityPsychology has determined that a persons success can be

determined by their locus of control. This basically means

that are they in control (internal locus of control) or do they

allow circumstances to dictate their actions (external locus of

control).

Brian Tracy sums this as: a persons success is determined

to the degree that they feel they are in control.

When you believe that you are more in contro l, youll do

more. When you do more, you achieve more.

As the mantra in sales goes, if one in 10 calls would buy

from you, youll need 100 calls to get 10! Using your learning

curve, improve performance and learn with every try. When

you make it your responsibility to improve your performance,

youll accomplish more in less time.

Level of acceptance against level of expectationsYour level of expectations is the level you expect

something to be accomplished at. Lets say income: you


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expected income is RM5,000 per month. When it comes to

formal education, you expect to get an A, or a 4.00. This is

usually your New Years resolutions and half-hearted goals. Its

something nice to have, but not necessary.

Your level of acceptance, on the other hand, is the level

of what youll be happy with. This is your minimum

requirements. In an academic setting, its nice to have an 4.00,

but 2.00 is alright also. Where income is concerned, its nice to

have a goal of RM5,000, but if having RM2,000 is alright, thats

good enough for you.

Your level of acceptance determines how much effort you

put into your undertaking.

The wider the gap between your level of acceptance and

your level of expectations, the more you compromise and sell

yourself short.

How do you solve this? Make increase your level of

acceptance. Refuse to compromise. Stop rationalising and

start making it a must.

Attitude, not aptitude, determines successA mistake you would be tempted to make is to assume

what you know will guarantee your success in school or in

life. Yes, what you know may help you in the paper

examinations, but thats not all when it comes to success.

Your attitude how you see and behave determines how

far you go in a social setting. Yes, the classroom can be


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considered as a social setting. No, you do not need additional

stress from people not liking you.

As college is a training ground preparing you for life, you

should be aware that after the three/seven years, you need to

work with colleagues. Employers are always on the lookout for

team players and those who can work with strangers.

Put it this way, youre going to need your classmates help

when completing a group assignment or presentation. The last

thing you need haunting you in that 3 years to seven years is

the stress of being a social outcast.

Attitude can be changed. Have the right habits and see

from different perspectives. Your approach will be change by

how far you allow it to.

So, I conclude this section by stressing the importance of

your attitude over your attitude in a social setting.

Nine Habits Guaranteeing Your Success

Habit 1: Exceed ExpectationsAll successful people exceed expectations thats one

reason theyre successful. They aim to do more and do better.

If they fail, they convert their failures into feedbacks.

Feedbacks that will, in turn, help them improve.

But long before you can exceed expectations, you need to

know what is expected of you. Example you lecturers say the

assignment is due in 3 weeks time. Why dont you work on it

and submit it days or a week in advance?


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You can also consult your lecturers by emailing the work to

her before you formally submit it. Get her thoughts and

comments. Refine your work based on her comments.

Your work method has set you apart from your classmates.

If you have to do it in groups, make a decision to apply this

method to the group work. Share this method with your

classmates and help them out. Youll be remembered by your

future colleagues and counterparts. (Counterparts? You and

your classmates would hold separate positions in the

company. If youre aiming to work in the same firm as your

classmate, your help once upon a time can tip the scale in your

favour.)

Once you know whats expected of you, decide to go

beyond expectations. That way youll learn and experience

more than your classmates, juniors and seniors.

Habit 2: Be Proactive Make Things HappenSuccessful people make things happen. Those who are not

usually sit around, complain and react.

When youre proactive, you give the impression that youre

reliable and can take on more responsibilities than your peers.

Compare the Chief Executive Officer of a multinational

corporation and a receptionist working in the same

organisation. Whose decision would ultimately make a

difference in the organisation? Whos paid more?


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When youre proactive, you anticipate problems before

they happen. Youre armed with solutions that can resolve or

mitigate the problem long before it happens.

A reactive person acts because he is forced to by

circumstances. If you adopt the wait-and-see-indefinitely

attitude, your locus of control is external. Remember: a person

feels he is in control to the degree of his locus of control.

In the event of an emergency, a reactive person panics and

performs terribly compared to one who went out of his way and

make sure hes prepared.

Habit 3: Take 100% ResponsibilityResponsibility is a touchy issue. We like to play the victim

role and place blame on others. Its easier that way.

Why did you fail?

The lecturer didnt know how to teach.

The materials were in English Im poor in English.

The class is boring.

The class is too large.

This is too difficult!

This assignment is not my level! I dont care, I will

not do it!

We can give a thousand and one colourful answers

justifying and rationalising our failure.


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Taking 100% responsibility means you place it on yourself

to ensure your success. Learn and apply knowledge that can

help you improve.

If your lecturer is boring in class, perhaps you can based

on the notes conduct your own research on the topic.

Arrange it in an interesting manner. One set of techniques Id

recommend is accelerated learning.

Taking 100% responsibility is not taking 100% of the

blame. When youre responsible for something, you take action

to ratify the problem and come up with the solution. Blaming

does not necessarily mean action is taken. Self-blaming is

negative!

Habit 4: Delayed GratificationDelayed gratification means enjoying your harvest later. In

the age of Instant things (instant noodles, instant messaging,

real-time statistics et al.), delayed gratification scares many of

us!

Delayed gratification means you think in a longer time

horizon than normal. Instead of thinking about having fun,

think will what I do make a difference 5 years from now?

What activities would benefit you 5 years from now? Stuff

like studying, attending classes and paying attention would

stand out. Lets not forget, learning how to learn effectively

also brings in a benefit in the long run! Think of the time you

can save when you can take notes more effectively.


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Habit 5: Incorporate PassionWhen was the last time you thought about the starving girl

in Chad or Mali? What about the Bangladeshi worker whose

family is mourning his loss after a beam fell on him at work on

a construction site?

Unless you incorporate emotions, more accurately

passion, whatever you do will easily be forgotten. Remember

the movie Titanic? So many people recall the scenes because

they were emotionally involved!

Similarly, how many guys can remember the scores and

players of their No. 1 football clubs? Can you imagine the post-

match conversation? How a striker kicked the ball in or the

save that was made by the goalie? So passionate are these

guys that they try to emulate/model after their idols when

playing futsal?

If you want to enjoy success in your field, make it as

passionate as possible to you. Live and breathe the subject.

Think about it over and over again until you feel more and

more confident of the subject.

Habit 6: Act with IntegrityFulfil your promise. Do what you say. Be sensitive of ethics

and norms even though you dont agree or practice it.

Acting with integrity also means no copying during exams

and citing your sources during you assignments.


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Integrity also requires you to respect time. If the class

starts at 2.00pm, be there before. You never know if there are

changes in location.

Follow your colleges dress code. Yes, you are an adult

and you have the right to express your individuality. There are

many ways to do that and comply with general college

guidelines. Just as you have the right to express yourself,

others have the right to judge you based on the impression

that you give.

Ask any multinational corporation CEO what the no. 1 trait

they look for in an employee. Gladly they tell you its integrity.

Habit 7: Be 100% CommittedCommitment is rare both in the workplace and in school.

Many people talk, fuss and complain. Many promise and pay

lip service. Thats all they do.

When you commit yourself to something, youll do

everything reasonably possible to ensure the task is completed

successfully.

If youre learning something that needs practice, like

language, commit to practice using the language irrespective

of how you think you may sound. Practice makes perfect

especially when you aim to learn with every try.

Habit 8: Turn Failure into SuccessFor every action, there is a reaction. Your harvest depends

on what you planted and allowed to grow [or die]. Remember


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that theres always a lesson behind every incident. Whats

important is you learn with every try.

A success is not a testament that you re perfect. A failure,

too, is does not mean youre a complete failure. Events are

events.

After every experience, ask: what can I learn from this?

How can I improve the next time I do this same thing?

No successful person or student is a perfectionist.

Perfectionists are among the last people to be hired as they

are the most difficult people to work with.

Habit 9: Respect and love knowledgeAs a student, youre in the business of acquiring,

understanding and manipulating knowledge.

Be wary of information overload. As much as you have

the capability to remember more than the latest model of

personal computer, to comprehend it is another story. You do

not have the luxury of time, energy and resources to! Maybe

after youve achieved a certain amount of financial affluence,

you get to spend the time to dive further.

Learn what you need to learn not just the basics but also

how to apply it and what you need to understand.

When facing daunting or boring lecturers, remember that

you want her knowledge.


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Commit to read materials (books, blogs, reports,

magazines etc.) about your field at least an hour a day. By

doing this, youve read more than your peers and prospective

employers! Well, unless they reading 60 minutes a day or

more as well.Moving From Average to Beyond!

There you go! These are the nine habits of highly

successful students. To turn an action into a habit, you need to

do it free of rationalisation and justification for at least 21

days. Tell your mind that you want to practice this for 21 days.

Remind yourself by reading this special report over and

over again at least six times. By doing that alone, you are

already set to overtake your classmates within months. By the

time you graduate assuming you just entered college youd

be more valuable compared to your students.


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About the AuthorAldric Tinker is a Certified NLP

Practitioner, copywriter, digital author and

professional speaker. His experience spans

from broadcasting advertising, background

acting, talk therapy, empowering and

motivational talks, legal studies and

communication.

For copywriting, Aldrics clients included

several advertising agencies in Kuala Lumpur

and Johor Bahru like Octagon Creative.

Aldric once served as Junior Copywriter for Primeworks

Studios writing advertisements for TV3, ntv7, 8tv and tv9

channels. His specialisations include:

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Currently, Aldric Tinker is doing his Diploma in

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