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contents

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Fw by Caw ls v

What does it ake to Be a man?

1 i Ca i Cua 3

2 Cua Vay 10

3 tm S U 19

4 Wa rbs M Cua? 26

he Fst Ste: Byd

An Age o Exploration and Discovery

5 ta Bas g Mau My S

6 Wa evy By ns

7 S U as a da

8 Yu Ca d i!

he Seon Ste: dlScc

An Age o Pushing and Pulling

9 t Wss Yas

10 Usa lasca

11 Wa evy ta By ns

12 evy Mas Ba

he h Ste: md

An Age o Stepping Up Again and Again

13 A Ma euac

14 t Cua ia


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v c o n t e n t s

15 t Cua pc

16 t Cua rss tma

17 t Cua Bv

he Foth Ste: mr

An Age o Investment and Impact

18 A Maj lau tabaz

19 M n o M

20 Bcm a gaa Mss

he Fth Ste: prirc

An Age o Infuence and Relevance

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22 A Yu d Ma a dc?

23 Quas a paac

24 Fs W

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Courage is not the absence o ear,

but rather the judgment that something

else is more important.

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The moment you enter the Valley o the Shadow o Death,

things change. You discover that Christianity is not

something doughy, passive, pious, and sot. . . .

The lie o belie teems with thrills, boldness, danger,

shocks, reversals, triumphs, and epiphanies. t s , c a

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sam ac s.

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g ay, h m, g!

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a b hs ma.

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ea a sumb u w Sa Buya, a cssa


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cuy w a ub, a cay cuc, a a avya. W s a

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amy a v 1600s. Bu ba s w m,

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s, w v ms; a a, w a w ays

a a a wy-v.

t a ws a wa ms av ma mv us

s y a ay y a c Mys as:

We cannot, Lord, Thy purpose seeBut all is well thats done by Thee.

A ma s av usa gs uss b gs ma,

ws w g s a uss hm.




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1 9

3e to Ste u

Lie shrinks or expands in

proportion to ones courage.

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s, a y c wu b as. d acs

a sam su.

Mayb s bcaus im my ss a ca away w , mayb

s bcaus iv a a s b, bu iv u a as i w ,


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i ssab sma a muc m asy. S a as mss

u s, i u w a qus i w wu ca

au ab. is a qus i v as m: Whats the most coura-

geous thing youve ever done?

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s, a awwa sc ca suy sc, suc ws u

m. Ms bas s cac a a u. Yu ca ams s

m s a sac, y css. A y iv scv

a v u sss a sw cm, s a qus

m uy v asw.iv a s ss m uy a y s

vs. B au wvs w by was . gv u

ay a css wvs. tac cu ssus w

c. d wa s wac, v w s

cv ab.

May m av abu cqu as s u a

squa ass w as: a a

ys a v m, a a w aways sv

, sa w a a a maj cs, a sa

u.

A ys, iv a sm ma ss wac

ss w abb as ma a w m bac a

my!

the an who as hes

neve one anthng

oageos oesnt nestan

what oage ea s.


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wav bs yu a assay sz yu assm.

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us w sys maas, us ams, a ss acs. A

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a m w sz mm a a acm w s u

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c c w scus s a s w , busssma w

vas y v , a a w as a sa a cs

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i ays a w s aacs Smb 11, 2001, i was

mss by ss cuaus m w a wa s bu

w ws a s sacc vs s. py naa c Wall Street Journalw s w a m

a bac:

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w w bu wav as s ac.

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b may. W a b aac, a m wa m :

ty c a , a y my. ty s.

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4What robs men

o coage?

Most o our obstacles would melt away i,

instead o cowering beore them, we should make

up our minds to walk boldly through them.

o s m a

-i 2003, huca isab samm eas Cas U

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way Caaa, av s a a cu w s m

ms. t s uca ass u Was, dC,

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av ssy s v a tmb Uws vy u

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a ss v u y w v mss s s.1

tas wa a s s. h acws sm, bu s

v . h sas m.

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w vy sms a s b us cua, au a m

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w h At r o b s m e n o f c o u r A g e ? 2 7

Sto o. 1: danabe anng

b Fathes

i c m a ma w w u a m sc u cuy. h a-

m a y avc cv as a by m s a abu

wm was

g m yu.

ta m u.

t m .

i w w a avc w m s maa.

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ass w m a s. ts s y msu a-

ma a as cu s may m as as

msss m w c wvs a c s a w

s a m.

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w a sa a assv. Fas w ay a ams, a

w y , a-a ams a ss may m

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uca s wv-ya- s was a m a s j. t

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w s. W y av m a a , a s

w, t, i ! nw im b.

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c. hs a a m a sma a ba w s sa avc,

d b s sus m.

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m w s a amss, w w ac as

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t ss, w ws a cuu vc av u

amy , a w a as w as m. W u

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as c a c u sc, cmm a

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wa yu m a usa wm w a a m.

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bav as a ma, v a ma, a b a ma ba ma

ma s as aba m?

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as as. h ws a ssu cua s cm u

cvsas:

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s-a uss, a ac assm abus

a ysuc u ams av uc a a w

may yu w a aa s, a aa ma

msas.

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m cac w as, y a as w w

ac a v ay mau as. W a

w a acy m w vay s av b mz.

ty a uca abu w a wa a ma s, a w a ma

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a av ca c.5

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. n w yu m a cus a yu wm a w-

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aay s.

t wa mus b yu bys w u ay. Ma

us a ucaa s aac aa s m a cam

a a ma w ss b a a s amy s acuay ss s w

a c. ou cuu s ma w suay, w c as c mssas a s mas a a a yu a a

as w. t ucaa sysm s sm w w

ac bys, a as a su, s a a aa s scs, c -

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as w w ca mascuy, avu, a v.

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b m. ty w w av a assw wm,

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a cua cy av a wa cua s a ma,

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vs.

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v m sa ssy way. M. ray,

as cu yas, iv ma a a w c, sa, a

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w amy. Cu yu m?


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ts yu ma acua wa ms yu m a

ayaqua, au, ay, a sa ma

a a vs.

Steng u

t Bb s may ss m bav bays m,

ma m, a as m w u cm-

ms, us, mu, jausy, a, assvy, cwac. Scu

as m as y ay a, bmss ba-bac ways. t sy Scu s ass i w a

Bb wu b ac a wa a a ma su b

a . i ba u Scus, cus assas

a a abu m a ma, a a way, i scv v

va ms.

1. A man controls his emotions and passions.W s ma,a a ma ams s asss. h s abus wm a c;

cs m. h s s as a wma w s s w, a

as s w w v, sc, a y. h s s ys -

ac mas. h cs a s wmas vy a cc. hs

a j by s s bw was. hs a ma w a a,

a, a cscc.

2. A man provides or his amily. Fs tmy 5:8 s us, Bu

ay s v s w, a scay s s us-

, as a a s ws a a ubv. ts a

s ws. W a ma s w a v s amy, s

a ss sam. hs s-w ss. A ma w s w, w ca

a jb, w mvs m jb jb, w uss assum s s-

sby cas scuy s w a c. evy ma s -

v s amy.


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i a ms m a aua ss ssby s aa,

bu may sm usa a v amy mas

m a m ysca s. i as mas a ssby

v ma a sua s. A a su a s c

a a m bcm ssb aus w w w a

sw a smms v cus cuu.

3. A man protects his amily.t bw a usa m J p

a Way gum ssc mascuy: W yu a y

b w yu w, a yu a su a ww b

yu c a 3:00 a.m., yu sa awa a say, t as m sccu, i was w u basba ba a vsa s

sm was ba u us. nw s yu u, swa.

hs ba!?6

n! tas w ma s u.

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bs 4:1015 scbs a a w cs s s by ass wsm, m bu y caac, a ac m jc s a

mas w. ts a s c y s s bu

as w as wsm sas s ass a .

4. A man serves and leads his amily. ts w wsservea

leadmay sm a cac, bu y a saab acc

Scu.

W as pau s us esas 5:23 a usba s

a w, qucy us s ay s a s as

aws ay m ss ma mac. h cms sc w

as Cs as s a cuc. t assa s say

a usbas su v wvs jus as Cs as v cuc

a av hms u (vs 25).

ts as a cu as a s cay w w

vws . A ma s ca b a sva-a a ssby


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s w a c a u s aa s w. h s ca

msa sss, sacca v y v w s g

wa hs c.

5. A man ollows Gods design or true masculinity.Mca 6:8 s us, h

as yu, o ma, wa s ; a wa s l qu yu

bu jusc, v ss, a wa umby w yu g?

t c a mas su b s as w g. t ma

w was umby w g s mva a mw s u a

assum cu ssbs a cm s way.

Yu s, a cuaus ma s v uy.




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Chapter 1

1. t sy eu r ew s by au bas

ma u Mas S. hy e. r ew, A

Fc es ha isu, ://www.a.m/ma/

a/s.as?c=&=123006484; a J l. Fsb,

r ews psa puay, Air Force Magazine72, . 10

(ocb 1989), ://www.ac-maaz.cm/MaazAcv/pas/1989/ocb%201989/1089va.as.

Chapter 3

1. J p, Whats the Dierence: Manhood and Womanhood

Dened According to the Bible(Wa, il: Cssway Bs,

1990), 19.2. py na, Wcm Bac, du, o Jua, Wall

Street Journal, ocb 12, 2001.

Chapter 4

1. Sv V, tmb guas Sa S tu isabs

ta Sw, Washington Post, ocb 2, 2003.

2. daa m naay daa Ss, naa Va Sascs Sysm, c

Sa J. Vua, Ca pas nmaa C-

ba U Sas, National Center or Health Statistics

Data Brie, . 18 (May 2009).

3. U.S. Csus Buau Cu pua Suvy, lv

Aams C U Sas v tm, naa

hay Maa rsuc C, accss dcmb 15, 2010,

www.aymaa..


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4. dav Ba, Fatherless America: Conronting Our Most

Urgent Social Problem (nw Y: hapa, 1996), 49.

5. Caw ls, Leadership as an Identity: The Four Traits o

Those Who Wield Lasting Infuence(Cca: My pubss,2009), 185.

6. Aa m J p a Way gum, s., Recovering

Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical

Feminism (Wa, il: Cssway Bs, 2006), 43.


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Famyls umus uacs, cu ua W

rmmb maa away. h s as ay s aay

syca a am FamilyLie Today. h a s w, Babaa,

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