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STOP Jobhopping

NOW!

Dedication

This book is dedicated to all the members of the

working force who are having a hard time looking for true

happiness in their respective professional life. Im writing

th is book in the hope of helping you f ind solut ions to your

career issues.

I salute you for taking time and courage to seek

help by reading this now. I know how much you want to

succeed, and I also acknowledge how disappointed you are

in whatever exper iences you have had in the past.


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Allow me to share with you my personal Keys To

Career Pure Bliss. Read on and Stop Yourself from

Jobhopping Now.

STOP Jobhopping NOW! By Edel Ramilo Page 2


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Do you understand yourself?

I understand the t rouble you have had in the past

months and years of your li fe. I was once like you and I m

writ ing this because I bel ieve I can help you in

understanding yourself better and help you find solutions

to your problems.

As we begin our efforts, allow me to give you a brief

perspective of your current situation. I want you to

evaluate yourself by simply marking each of the next

situations I have managed to list. Mark each situation

that you feel is relevant to your own personal experiences.

I hope that you could take note of each situation with

honesty because knowing where you are right now would

make finding your solut ions easier.



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Self-evaluation

(Mark each situation which you can relate to.)

o You have just entered in to your new job but no

matter how hard you t ry, you cant stop yourself

from thinking of your upcoming resignation.

o You wake up in the morn ing and feel no

enthusiasm or excitement to go to work. You

literally have to drag yourself to keep doing your

job.

o You constantly look at the wall clock or your watch

to check the remain ing t ime you would need to stay

in the off ice. For you, more time at work means less

happiness.

o Whenever you have t he chance, you take a

leave, with or wi thout pay.



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o You are never proud of the things you do at

work and have the uneasy feeling when being

associated with your company or posit ion.

o You never run out of complaints about your

job, your boss, your officemates and everything

related to your work.

o You always pity yourself for having to do your

job and it almost always moves you into tears.

o You feel indifferent when youre at work and

dont feel l ike yourself at al l.

o

Every morning, you hope and pray for

strength so you could finish another hellish

day at work.

o You feel like being tortured when asked to

finish your six months contract. The irony is you

cant wait to stop doing what you agreed to do.



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o If given the chance, youd happily accept a

different job as soon as you receive an offer.

Youl l take the offer wit hout second thoughts.

o You constantly envy people who are happy

wit h their job.

o You regularly ask yourself, Whats wrong

wi th me?

o You are having a hard t ime appreciat ing your

job even if i t pays you a huge salary.

o You love holidays, knowing that you wont

need to go to work. Most of the time, you wish

youd have weeklong non-working hol idays.

o You constant ly dream of having a month long

vacation.

o

You already had th ree jobs in less than th ree

years and you still dont know what you really

want to do wi th your l ife.



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o You t ry to convince yourself to work for a

company for at least a year. Each time you try,

you simply fai l.

o You regularly view job postings in the

newspaper and in the internet hoping youll find

the next big thing.

o You think that you are an embarrassment to

your family because you cant seem to find

stability in your professional life.

o You start to accept that your professional l ife

is simply a big failure.

o When people ask you details about your job,

you simply dont have the in terest to answer

them.

Can you find yourself in similar situations above?

How many of these situat ions ref lected yourself? One?

Two? Three? or More?



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Here's the catch.

The lesser issues you can relate to, the smaller is

your problem. The more issues you can relate to, the

bigger is your problem.

Another thing, I bet you didn't mark everything on

the list. Then that would be good news for you! You surely

have a smaller problem than what I've had before. I used

to relate with every single situation on the list you know.

Can you imagine that?



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You are not a lone. I understand you.

Nevertheless, I'm pretty sure that somewhere in

your heart, there is pain. Yes, there is pain. You are

suffering because of the fact that you are a JOB HOPPER.

This may be the fi rst time youll hear this from

anyone. I coined i t myself. I use JOB HOPPER to denote

to people who are exactly like me a year ago.

Yes. I had the same issues as you have r ight now. I

am 101% JOB HOPPER from the year 2006 to 2008. I

used to ask God why He wanted me to be one. I even

doubted His intentions along the way, but as I was

writing this book for you, I realized that He really meant

everything to happen. He really wanted me to go through

every single job that Ive had before and later on wr i te

about my experiences to simply shed some l ight to your

li fe r ight now.



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I believe tha t you are destined to know what Ive

been through. I believe that you are destined to know

what I learned and how I learned them.



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I am a Pure-blooded JOBHOPPER

Allow me to share wi th you how I lived the early

days of my life. As the youngest daughter in our family, I

am almost always programmed to be the obedient kid in

the house. I belonged to a family of five but as I was

growing up, I only had my father and my mother wi th me

because my sister and my brother, who are a lot older

than me, have already star ted to l ive independently.

Practically, Im lavished with the love and support

of my parents all throughout my younger years. Because

of th is, I was able to bloom into becoming a top ra ted

student in our school, both in elementary and in high

school. My parents were very happy to see me succeed in

the academics and were even happier when I got to enter

another top rated university in the count ry.



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College life was equally satisfying and productive

for this was the t ime when I got the chance to even grow

my knowledge and my relationships with people of

different k inds (as in different k inds). I was pretty good in

doing both, that I almost graduated Cum Laude, if I have

not been heartbroken during my senior year.

We were al l very happy when I graduated college

for I was the f irst in the family to receive that level of

education. I fel t victor ious for having graduated wi th good

scholastic records and good reputation too.

However, th ings started to become very gloomy

after these wonderful years.



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Jobs 123

I found my first job through t he internet. I was

lucky to find a good job opportunity in a reputable real

estate fi rm. I got h ired in a weeks t ime. I was so happy

for having my fi rst job ever but I really didnt know what I

was getting into unt il I started working.

I didnt know that work life could feel so bad. I

didnt really l ike my job. I had an unending lis t of issues

with the office, people and responsibilities of my first job.

Every single day, I felt li ke I could not breathe. I didnt

want to face the customers nor the bosses. None of my

expectations on my fi rst job was ever met. After th ree

months of working, I decided to leave.

I rested for sometime and looked for another job. I

t r ied a job that a colleague has already gotten in to. I loved

the people. I loved the compensation package. I loved the



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freedom. One th ing I didnt li ke was the fact that i t was a

sell ing job. I was never into sell ing. I felt shy and

incompetent to sell our valued products. After eight

months of painstakingly t rying to do the job, I left i t with

an infected colon.

I rested again and regained strength to find

another job. This t ime, I managed to stay with the office

for ten months. Most of my officemates were remarkable

people. They made my short stay really memorable. The

compensation package was t ru ly awesome. I could live

wi th half of my salary. BUT, I didnt really li ke the nature

of the job. I wasnt in love wi th what I was doing. I felt lost

most of the t ime. I kept asking myself for reasons why I

should be doing what I was being told to do. I cannot

commit my heart to the off ices mission and objectives. I

thought I could make it for a year but I just could not take

i t anymore. I again resigned.



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The Road to Clari ty

After experiencing all these, I took the l iberty to

find peace in committing myself to reflection, a form of

self-initiated retreat. I felt that I really needed more time

to talk to myself about my performance in my professional

life.

The road to clar i ty was never easy. I had to deal

with my critical self who repeatedly highlighted the

things that didnt work out. I was almost always

depressed and felt guil ty of all my past actions.

Yes, I am very much guilty of practically everything

that happened to my professional life. The good thing is,

after thinking things through, I f inally identif ied my

mistakes and promised to do the exact opposite next t ime.



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MY PAST GOOF-UPs

Goof-up #1:

I never planned.

Did you know that one of my basic ski lls is

plann ing for events? Oh, well. Unfor tunately, I was great

at organizing events but never my life. After graduating

from college, I never paused to re flect on my dreams and

put them into a serious plan.

Upon graduating, hasty to find a job, I urgently

searched for a job through the internet, applied for

whatever vacancy there was and proceeded to work. I

failed to think of ways and strategies on how I may be

able to reach my dreams. I was sailing through life

wi thout any destinat ion.



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Goof-up #2:

I choose jobs that pay the biggest salary.

My top consideration in choosing a job was the

amount of compensation they offer. I didnt really focus on

what th ings are expected of me when I commit to the job.

I never really commit ted myself to any of my jobs. I just

want the huge salary but I was not really commit ted to

getting the job done. I didnt even think if the job is what I

really wanted to do. I took pride with how much money I

was receiving but not with what I am able to do to help

the company or off ice I was working for. Now, I know that

money is never everything there is in a job.



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Goof-up #3:

I choose wha t other people choose for me.

I always consider other peoples opinion, never my

opinion. Whi le deciding on whether to get into my t hi rd

job or not, my brother encouraged me to t ry i t out. He said

that since its a once in a l ifet ime offer, he said i t would be

best to have a feel of i t fi rst before lett ing it go. Thats

exactly what I did, no matter how doubtful I was of my

in terest in the responsibil i t ies of the job.

I do what other people tel l me to do, without asking

myself if Im happy with what they have chosen for me. I

was acting l ike t he youngest child all the t ime. I was

obedient and unhappy.



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Goof-up #4:

I forgot to consider my st rengths and weaknesses.

Remember my sell ing job? I thought I could learn to

love it when I start learn more about the products and

start to receive my paycheck, but no! The t ru th is, I suck

at selling. I dont even know how to handle a no.

Because of this, I was suffering every single day I spent in

my selling job.

As usual, I got into the job because I was just

looking at the huge salary and benefi ts they were offering

me. I never really asked myself i f I would be in terested to

claim the objectives of the company as my own before

getting in it. I didnt care to evaluate my passion and

competencys compatib il i ty wi th the job. I took comfort in

knowing that a fr iend took the job and thought that Id be

fi t for it too. I thought Id be happy if Id get to have what



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other people a lso have. I saw their strengths but never

mine.



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Goof-up #5:

I was too impatient.

I didnt want to do any waiting. I didnt want to

analyze the futu re I would have if I work wi th the posit ion

or company Im applying for. I wanted to get ahead of

others. I thought li fe was a race. I always ask who got the

job fi rst. How fast can I get th is job?

If company A gives me an offer today, Id take i t

r igh t away, even if Im very much interested with company

B. I wanted to amaze people wi th how fast I could get a

new job. I wanted to make it appear that finding a job is

as easy as 1-2-3. I easily grab whats available for the

moment even if thats not what I want.



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Goof-up #6:

I was afraid to explore the field t hat Im in terested in.

My family never wanted to see me teach. They

think that teaching is not a good profession because there

is too li t t le money in it . So, whenever there is a teaching

opportunity for me, I never considered it for myself

because I know my family wont appreciate. I was always

looking for t heir approval. I developed a distasteful feeling

towards teaching even though I know how good I am at i t.

I was too afraid to f ight for my dream. I was too afraid to

be deviant from my fami lys standards.



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Goof-up #7:

I consult the wrong people.

Im very good at asking for peoples opinions. I l ike

asking a lot but the problem is that I used to ask people

who are neither knowledgeable nor experienced in the

issue that I in tend to solve.

I ask f riends. I ask fami ly members. BUTI never

asked the experts. I never asked the advice of those who

have already proven themselves. I never asked those who

have already been there and done that. I never asked the

right people.



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Goof-up #8:

I never imagined the future.

I never thought of how I wanted my future to

become. I just went on from one day to another wi thout

th inking of what th ings I need to do now so I may have a

future that fits my dreams and aspirations in life. I never

focused on my dreams. Instead, I focused on other peoples

dreams for me.

I wonder, if I had wr i t ten down my dreams before, I

would have easily realized how distant my actions were in

relations to my dreams. I should have realized right there

and then how I was t rying to turn away from my real

goals in life. I never imagined my dreams. I imagined

what others dream of me to become.



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Goof-up #9:

I imitate other peoples decisions.

I never really knew where I should go and what I

should do, so I ask other people for their l ife choices and I

consequently copy their decisions. There are times when

it worked, but there are many other times when it didnt

work. I t even aggravated my situat ion because I wasnt

satisfying myself. I was try ing hard to fit myself into

si tuations where my skil ls and interests were

incompatib le, th inking that if others made i t good, maybe

I could make it good too.



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Goof-up #10:

I was too insecure.

I never tr usted my instincts. I never t rusted my

competencies. When I get in to a job, I tend to forget my

value and instead look down on my capabili ties. I forgot

about how great a th inker I am. I forgot about awesome a

communicator I am. I forgot about how sincere a wri ter I

am. I forgot about how valuable and unique my skills are.

I didnt let myself shine thinking that I was just a li tt le

gir l who can do lit t le things.

I forgot to love myself. I adored others but never

myself.

Now, can you relate with any of the big mistakes I

have had in t he past?

This is a very good opportunity for you to evaluate

your past too. Think about the things you did before that



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didn't do you any good. List down every single mistake you

made and commit to yourself to do the exact opposite of it

all next t ime.

Feel good about how well you tu rn your mistakes

in to solut ions. Feel good about how well you solve each

and every issue you've had before. Feel good about

creating a new beginning, something you very much

deserve to have.

Keys to Career Pure Bliss

Now, let me share wi th you some of my personal

strategies in resolving past career issues. Here are three

powerful ways you can use to STOP YOURSELF FROM

BEING A JOBHOPPER!

Career Pure Bliss Key #1:



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Know your hear t's desire.

What people, things, activities, etc. can make you

extremely happy? What is i t that you do best? What is i t

that you dream yourself to become, ever since you were

young? What can make your heart jump up and sing?

Know your heart's desire. Un less you determine

your heart's desire, you can never give yourself the chance

to be t ruly happy.

I am happiest when I am directly in touch with

my family. Being t he youngest, I have t he gif t of being

able to communicate w ith each of my family members

about every family issue t hat we intend to solve. I am

most alive when I help our fami ly deal wi th these issues

and keep our family's close t ies. I mend broken family

relationships. I revive relationships that are drifting

apart.



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I cannot afford to be away from these imperfect but

wonderful people in my life. I'm happiest when I'm of

service to them.

I also enjoy mentoring people. I love sharing my

experiences to every single person that which I th ink are

in need of my guidance. I believe that I am responsible to

help nur ture and educate the younger generations by

developing close bonds with them and appreciating them

for what they are and what they could be. I love teaching

my 6 year old nephew named Ren. I t makes me want to

wake up early in the morning.

I love teaching anyone interested to learn. I t excites

me to see people learn from me. I t rejuvenates my soul to

know that l ives are changed for the better wi th my help.

Thanks to God, after all these years that I've been

blinded, I now acknowledge my heart's desires. I now

pursue my passion.



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How about you? What are your dreams? What are

your hear t's desires?



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Focus on your dreams.

Avoid being distracted by the t hings that come your

way. Focus on what you want. Focus on what you enjoy.

Focus on what makes you happy.

If you love to wri te, then go find an opportunity

(not necessari ly a job) that requires you to wri te.

If you love to sing, then go find an opportuni ty that

requires you to sing.

If you love to building things, then go f ind an

opportuni ty t hat requires you to build th ings.

It's actually that simple. You just have to know

what you want first, and then go find that opportunity

that will give you the chance to do exactly what you want

to do.



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If you do th is, there is a greater possibil it y that you

would be so much happier in your next money making

opportuni ty. Yes, I say i t's a money making opportuni ty,

not necessari ly a job.

If by chance, you are again offered with a high-

paying money making opportunity that is not congruent

to your heart's desire or passion, then you now know what

to do wi th them. You got to have the courage to say "no" to

them and keep yourself focused on the things that make

you really really satisfied.

You got to fight for your heart's desire. Fighting for

your passion is f ighti ng for your happiness.



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Surround yourself w ith support ive people.

No man is an island. Nobody can make him or

herself happy alone. You've got to keep suppor tive, caring,

loving, understanding, responsible, tr ustworthy and

inspi r ing people always present in your li fe.

You have to keep strong relat ionships wi th people

that inspire you and help you become a better person in

one way or another. You have to make sure that only those

who are positive and productive people surround you.

Why? Well, people in our lives inf luence us. I f we

allow negative and unsupportive people get into our lives

and influence us, the possibility of achieving our dreams

would decrease.

On the other hand, if we allow positive and

supportive people to get into our lives and influence us,



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the possibi li ty of achieving more and more successes wi ll

increase.

For example, i f I keep on lis tening to people who

say tha t teaching is never a good career option, then I

would most probably move away from that dream and

choose something else that is not in harmony with my

heart's desire to teach. This would make finding my ideal

career even more di ff icult in the end. That would mean

more suffering and more failed jobs.

List down the people who are closest to you. Are

they positive or negative people? Do they add value to

yourself or not? Are they the ones you need to help you

make your dreams come true?



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The Most Important Pa rt

(you shouldnt miss)

Lastly, my list of strategies can go on and on but as

long as you don't DO any of these things, you are

defini tely going nowhere but back to your old habi ts.

The most important thing to DO is to TAKE

ACTION.

You have to ACT the soonest t ime possible. You

have to commit yourself to CHANGE. You have to commit

to a BRIGHTER FUTURE. You have to commit to DO IT

NOW.

Wishing you the courage to f ight for your

happiness,

edeL ramiLo



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