wise parents never try to convince kids that their decisions are fair
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Wise parents never try to convince kids that their decisions are fair. Wise parents do not pay kids for completing their chores. Wise parents don ’ t dignify the ridiculous by offering factual information. There ’ s nothing wrong with a child that an arguing parent can ’ t make worse. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Wise Wise parents parents
never trynever tryto to
convince convince kids that kids that
their their decisions decisions are fair.are fair.
Wise parents do not pay kids Wise parents do not pay kids for completing their chores.for completing their chores.
Wise Wise parents parents don’t don’t
dignify dignify the the
ridiculousridiculousby by
offering offering factualfactual
informatioinformation.n.
There’s There’s nothing nothing
wrong with wrong with a child a child that anthat anarguing arguing parent parent
can’t make can’t make worse.worse.
WiseWise parents parents
know thatknow thattheir their
children children will will
someday someday choose choose their their
nursing nursing homehome
for them.for them.
Wise Wise parents parents
know that know that character character
and and responsibiliresponsibili
tytyare more are more
important important than good than good
grades.grades.
Kids either Kids either find love find love
and and understandiunderstandi
ng ng at home, or at home, or they find it they find it
in in gangs - cults gangs - cults
- sex.- sex.
Wise parents give guidance while Wise parents give guidance while keeping responsibility for the keeping responsibility for the
problem squarely on the child’s problem squarely on the child’s shoulders.shoulders.
Wise Wise parents parents know know
that kids that kids only only
threaten threaten to starve to starve
themselvesthemselves. .
If not, there If not, there wouldwouldbe no be no
adults on adults on earth.earth.
Wise Wise parents parents never never
allow their allow their child’s child’s
words to words to gaingain
shock shock value.value.
Saying Saying “No” “No” to a to a
$200.00$200.00pair of pair of
sneakers sneakers does notdoes notconstitutconstitut
e e child child
abuse.abuse.
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Don’t addict kids to things Don’t addict kids to things they won’t be able to afford they won’t be able to afford
when they leave home.when they leave home.
Parents Parents who who
constantly constantly trytry
to be the to be the ““brick brick wall” wall” soonsoonhave have
many many battle battle scars.scars.
Wise Wise parents parents
don’t allow don’t allow themselvethemselve
s to be s to be drawn intodrawn into
battles battles over their over their
kid’skid’sbody body
language.language.
Wise Wise parents parents
encourageencouragetheir kids their kids
to go to go ““first class” first class”
on their on their own own
money.money.
Strong family relationships and good Strong family relationships and good parenting are more powerful and parenting are more powerful and
longerlonger lasting than peer pressure.lasting than peer pressure.
Parents are Parents are wise to wise to worryworry
about the about the kind of kind of
educationeducationtheir kids are their kids are
gettinggettingon the on the
Internet.Internet.
There are There are no things no things
more more powerful powerful
than quiet, than quiet, loving,loving,or silly or silly
moments moments between usbetween us
and our and our kids.kids.
The only The only throne a throne a
childchildshould sit onshould sit on
is in theis in thebathroom.bathroom.
Kids feel Kids feel safer and safer and
more more loved when loved when
Mom and Mom and DadDadare are
queen and queen and king in a king in a loving, loving,
gentle way.gentle way.
Parental Parental anger and anger and frustration frustration
feedfeedmisbehaviomisbehavio
r.r.
EmpathEmpathy opens y opens
the the mindmindand and
heart to heart to learninglearning
..
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Wise parents Wise parents wait untilwait until
they are calm they are calm and have aand have asolid plan solid plan
Before Before delivering delivering
consequenceconsequences.s.
Wise Wise parents parents
know thatknow thatkids will kids will only use only use guilt on guilt on
their their parents if parents if it works.it works.
Wise Wise parents parents never never
allow guilt allow guilt to guideto guide
their their parenting.parenting.
Wise parents never waste their Wise parents never waste their words trying to talk their kids into words trying to talk their kids into
caring.caring.
Children Children who learn who learn
thatthattemper temper
tantrums tantrums work work
become become adults who adults who
useusethem often.them often.
The only The only person person
who canwho cancalm an calm an angry angry
person is person is that that angry angry
person.person.
While in While in the heat the heat
of of emotion, emotion,
it’s a it’s a very very poor poor time time
to make to make decisiondecision
s.s.
Wise parents know that the best Wise parents know that the best way to way to
get kids to dislike each other is to get kids to dislike each other is to force force
them to shakethem to shake hands and apologize.
Wise parentsWise parents know know
that yelling, that yelling, ““Stop Stop
fighting!”fighting!” is about as is about as effective as effective as fighting fires fighting fires
with a with a squirt gun.squirt gun.
There is no There is no case of case of siblingsibling
rivalry that rivalry that won’t be won’t be
mademadeworse by worse by parental parental anger,anger,
frustration,frustration, or worry.or worry.
Control is a lot like love andControl is a lot like love andrespect. The more we give,respect. The more we give,
the more we receive.the more we receive.
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The more The more kids are kids are
able able to control to control
adults, adults, the more the more
out of out of control control they feelthey feel--and are.--and are.
Wise Wise parents parents
recognize recognize ““guilt trips”guilt trips” from their from their kids, and kids, and
they never they never give into give into
this type of this type of manipulatiomanipulatio
n.n.
Not Not getting getting one’s one’s
way is way is good good
practice practice forfor
adult adult life.life.
Children Children who are who are always always
protected protected from from being being upsetupset
become become always always upset upset adults.adults.
Never reason with a drunk, or withNever reason with a drunk, or with a child who is drunk on emotions.a child who is drunk on emotions.
Wise Wise parents parents
know that know that in in
boredom boredom are the are the seedsseeds
of of creativity.creativity.
Wise parents allow their kids to get Wise parents allow their kids to get bored, and then help them channel bored, and then help them channel
this feeling into creative this feeling into creative discoveries.discoveries.
The more The more we we
entertain entertain kids, the kids, the
more they more they will will
Start to Start to believe believe
that they that they need to be need to be entertaineentertaine
d.d.
The ability The ability to tolerateto tolerateboredom boredom
and to and to entertainentertain
oneself are oneself are essentialessentiallife skills.life skills.
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When When kids kids
cause a cause a problem,problem,hand it hand it back. back. Hand it Hand it backbackin a in a
loving, loving, non-non-
angry angry way.way.
Great Great techniques techniques won’t work won’t work if the child if the child believes believes that you that you
won’t back won’t back upup
your words your words with with
actions.actions.
Wise Wise parentsparents know know that that
doing the doing the right right thing thing won’twon’t
guaranteguarantee e
a happy a happy kid.kid.
Wise Wise parents parents
rememberrememberthat that
reporting reporting unlawfulunlawfulactivities activities is a is a civic civic
duty.duty.
Repetition is the key to learning. Repetition is the key to learning. Tell others what you learn here and Tell others what you learn here and
you will learn moreyou will learn more.
Create a Create a perfect perfect world world
for your for your child child and and
he/she he/she won’t fit won’t fit into the into the real one.real one.
Childhood disappointmentsChildhood disappointmentsare good practice for adult life.are good practice for adult life.
Wise Wise parents parents
say, say, ““When When
you take you take adult adult
perks, you perks, you take on take on
adult adult responsi-responsi-bilities.”bilities.”
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