women technologists as leaders

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Women Technologists As Leaders Leadership Traits Living Your Commitments Leadership: What That Means on a Daily Basis Neuroscience and Psychology Have Converged Leadership Coaching Summary Q&A


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Women Technologists As Leaders


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What Does It Mean to be a Woman in

Technology and to Be a Leader?

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What is our image? What are our responsibilities? Who do we influence and inspire

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Who follows in our footsteps?


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Leaders Dont Know Everything

Leaders know what they dont know (Joharis Window) Their Arena window is large - Leaders know what they dont know,

and dont keep it a mystery to others

Leaders know who to call when they dont know Academics and knowledge are good AND wisdom, heart, and

intuition make a leader

Know your facts, speak your facts from your heart and soul

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Leadership Traits

1. Integrity and Authenticity2. Clear vision3. Presence: emotional and physical4.

Ability to stay rooted and centered during adversity

5. Communicates clear, concise, and understandablemessages

For each of these traits in the following charts, ask yourself: To what extent is this me? What is the gap?

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1. Integrity and Authenticity

Congruency between knowledge, beliefs, and actions Being true to yourself Finding your vision or passion

(More about this later) Living your vision or passion

(More about this later) Leaders inspire by their presence and example

Not by their advice or expertise (More about this later)

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2. Clear Vision

A leader sees both the big picture and the immediate details Business Personal

Environmental Global short and long term ramifications

It is important to know what we are committed to being and what aredreams are

Combine your passion or vision with your career so that you can makechange happen

Living a life without meaning or passion leads to depression and selfsabotaging behaviors

If you are not living your vision or passion you are not living a life ofauthenticity and everyone around you knows it

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Finding Your Vision or Passion

Hold fast to your dreams, for without them life is a broken winged bird thatcannot fly. --Langston Hughes

Discover your purpose and your passion Achieve your dreams by being true to yourself and living your

commitments

What are you meant to do in life? Ways to discover:

1. know yourself self awareness, strengths, weaknesses, what makes you happyand feeling worthwhile, Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath

2. Visualization techniquesGo confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life youveimagined. -- Henry David Thoreau

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Steps Toward Achieving Your Vision OR

Living Your Passion

Living our commitments means living a life ofintegrity and authenticity

Dare to live your passionWhat gets in the way?What are you willing to do?What are you willing to not do?What two steps can you do today towards living your

passion? Commit to doing them. Write them downnow on paper or on your calendar.


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4. Staying Rooted and Centered

During adversity No one is centered all the time Come back to center quickly

By being self aware By practicing self-awareness By meditating or similar

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5. Communicating a Clear Message

Clearly and respectfully state requests and expectations Be clear about the difference between requests, expectations, and

demands

Demand: Test this new feature by tomorrow. Expectation: Im really annoyed that you havent tested the new

features yet.

Request: Id like to meet with you for 30 minutes to discuss a newfeatures Id like you to test. When would be a good time for you todiscuss it with me?

Roles and responsibilities in organizations frequently gowithout definition or agreement

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Living our commitments

Commitments to:1. Self2. People3. The organization4. The truth5. Leadership

The Five Commitments of a Leader, Mark Leheney


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1. Commitment To Self

To be most effective as a leader, you must understandyourself as a human being. -- Mark Leheney, The FiveCommitments of a Leader

What is the central theme of the story of your life? How do you deal with negative information or opinions about

yourself?

Do you know your strengths and are you living a life thatplays to your strengths?

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Leaders Are Self-Aware

Skill development is important BUT inner personaldevelopment is essential

Self-awareness, centeredness Empathy, compassion, receptivity, honesty, integrity, listening and

hearing, responsiveness not reactivity

Awareness around distinctions, the more aware, the more distinctions An introspective look at your present and future goals Self-observations:

What is working for you and what is not? How did you get to who you are today and how does or doesnt it

serve you?

How can you get to where youd like to be? What are you willing to change about yourself today?

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Personality Types

Any personality type can evolve into a leader

Personality assessments will explain the type of work that a personwill be most fulfilled in not their leadership ability

Developmental theories explain that leadership corresponds withstages of self-awareness not with personality type

Self-awareness enhances leadership ability Understanding your personality type can help your leadership evolution

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2. Commitment To People

People dont need to be managed, they need to be unleashed.-- Richard Florida

Leaders are committed to their organizations goals andvalues AND they are committed to people

Leaders bring out the best in people and help them achievetheir potential Complement and praise often Listen with heart, share your understanding of what the

person is wanting to express

What is their message that they want you to hear? This gives people the space to think it through and have their own

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Delegating to Achieve Potential 1

Think of delegating in terms of developing eachindividual who is part of your leadership team

What do they need to grow to achieve their potential?This should be a two-way dialogue How do they see themselves achieving their potential, and how do you see

them? What would they like to work on in themselves and what would you like to

help them with as leaders? What are they comfortable doing without your supervision and what are

you comfortable trusting them to do?

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Delegating to Achieve Potential 2

Delegate with: Requests Clearly verbalize expectations

Check-out if requests areaccepted andexpectations are agreedupon

Acknowledge successwith appreciation oftenand specifically

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3. Commitment To The Organization

Is through inspiration Believing that the larger cause is bigger than yourself The cause is communicated through

The organizations vision and mission Through the organizations leaders behaving and communicating

consistently with the vision and mission

Reward, acknowledge, and praise behaviors and work thatare consistent with the organizations mission and that are

working well

Speak up and against behaviors and work that areinconsistent with the vision and mission and that lackintegrity (in a constructive manner) and propose to fix it

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4. Commitment To The Truth 1

Actions corresponding to your values will usually strengthen andreinforce you, whereas actions inconsistent with your values will usuallycause confusion and dissipate your energy. -- Mark Leheney

Listen with heart, respond with backbone and heart

Backbone: Does my team know what I think? How often do I say; I agree with you, or I

disagree with you and clearly state why?

Do I identify what I need from my team in our working relationship in order tobe most effective?

Can I give my position without blame or defensiveness? Can I state my opinion without jargon or arcane concepts? Can I give hard feedback when I need to?Executive Coaching with Backbone and Heart, Mary Beth ONeill

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Commitment To The Truth 2

Heart: Do I emphasize my teams situation? Can I clearly articulate my teams position and reflect it back to them? Do I identify and communicate the hunches I have about possible

deeper reactions, feelings, and thoughts that are being left unsaid?

In the face of disagreement or conflict with my team, do I keepengaging with them, or do I retreat and disengage?

Do I continue to stay in touch? Do I express appreciation for the degree of difficulty in the teams

situation and also the degree of accomplishment they have achieved?

Executive Coaching with Backbone and Heart, Mary Beth ONeill

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5. Commitment To Leadership

Living according to all principles discussed in the presentation The past can be helpful, but its the present, the here and now, that

matters Be your best self now

What do we declare when we define ourselves as Leaders? I am a strong and ethical leader I know my weaknesses I surround myself by others who have strengths where I am weak and who

think differently than I do

I am a good listener I communicate my feelings and expectations constructively

Being a Leader means behaving consistently with our declarations Being authentic Living our visionLanguage and the Pursuit of Happiness by Chalmers Brothers

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Leadership: What That Means on a Daily

Basis 1

Every person (i.e. on your team) needs to feel like you acknowledgethem and listen to them

Give credit to people who help make the work happen, and takeresponsibility for the mistakes (Grace Hopper bloggers1)

Celebrate and recognize successes Be curious Leaders lead by helping others think better, not just by being the expert Be inspired and be inspiring:

http://www.greatworkmovie.com

1http://ghcbloggers.blogspot.com/2008/10/transforming-yourself-into-technical.html


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Leadership: What That Means on a Daily

Basis 2

Show appreciation Be specific Thank you for documenting the variations and taking the time to

answer my questions. Your attention to detail and patience with my

questions has helped me to arrive at a decision that I feel verycomfortable with.

Scientific research in neurology shows that human beings need to beconnected and appreciated Show your appreciation to others, connect with others, and find ways to get

appreciation for yourself!


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How Can You Develop as a Leader

Set Goals Get Feedback Get a coach or a mentor Use assessments Take on developmental

assignments

Participate in a learning group Shadow others Participate in leadership

development programs

Read and journal Teach others

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The Five Commitments of a Leader, Mark Leheney


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Lead by Helping Others Think

Leadership is the ability to get others to think, not to tellothers the answers

Clearly convey appreciation; counsel, dont punish if communicatedexpectations not met

Think about your best teachers were they the ones who hadall the answers or-

Were they the ones who got you to think? We learn when we have an aha moment, not when we are

told something How do we get others to think? And to think better? How to think? How does the brain work

optimally?

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Neuroleadership Science and

Leadership Have Converged

Neuroplasticity, is the lifelong ability of the brain toreorganize neural pathways based on new experiences. Theability of the brain to change with learning is what is knownas neuroplasticity.

You can teach an old dog new tricks (if they want to learn) By building new neuro-pathways

No two brains think alike How often do you give or get advice? How often is it useful?

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Leadership Coaching

A process intended to support leadership development bydiminishing interference between who we are and who wewant to be

Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provokingand creative process that inspires them to maximize theirpersonal and professional potential

Individuals who engage in a coaching relationship can expectto experience fresh perspectives on challenges and

opportunities, enhance thinking an decision making skillsand improve interpersonal effectiveness.

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Summary

Women technologists as leaders have expertise, achievement, andself-awareness and influence the young women of tomorrowsfuture

Leadership traits include charisma, honesty about the tough stuffand, speaking with clarity, succinctness and respect

Living your commitments means being genuine and authentic andembodying a powerful leadership presence

Leadership on a daily basis means partnering with those we leadand listening to the individuals message, not just their words

Neuroscience and Psychology have converged most of us sure like to give advice even though it will fall on deaf ears no two brains are alike Leadership Coaching helps us to find and live a purposeful and

passionate life!

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Q&A and Discussion

Book Recommendations

Be Your Own Coach, Barbara Braham and Chris Wahl The Five Commitments of a Leader, Mark Leheney Language and the Pursuit of Happiness, Chalmers Brothers Fierce Conversations, Susan Scott Executive Coaching with Backbone and Heart, Mary Beth ONeill Co-Active Coaching, Laura Whitworth Karen Kimsey-House, Henry

Kimsey- Houe, Phillip Sandahl Quiet Leadership, David Rock

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