banish your inner critic - ndc oslo

Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs The Norwegian Developer’s Conference Oslo, Norway 3 June 2014

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#banishyourcritic

O hai!

Photo: Derek Kearney

Upon a time… http://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365

29 June http://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/

Instead of creativity Photo from Flickr.com

Destructivity http://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/

The voices in my head were merciless

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I totally freaked out

I shouldn't be writing this I misrepresented myself

I don't know enough This should be someone else’s book

I’m going to look stupid Everyone will see that I’m a fake What if it's not good enough? What if I'm not good enough?

No…really!

2 days http://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/

Worked non-stop https://www.flickr.com/photos/53611153@N00/5827849044/

Pushed myself to burn-out

http://www.flickr.com/photos/44085287@N05/4052943367/

My internal critical voices http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/

Made this happen

https://www.flickr.com/photos/70938871@N05/8230432077

Physical evidence of fear http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/

A different kind of fear Photo: Denise Jacobs

Internalized criticisms + fears

https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682

= The Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lance_mountain/2849396572/

The “troll under the bridge”

F.E.A.R. =

http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg

(Also, F.E.A.R. = F*ck Everything And Run)

The enemy of creativity

http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/

Creative brainwaves http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg

Know your Brainwaves

Stress & frustration

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Suppress generative impulses in the brain

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Dampens creative expression

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How to ID your Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/

Not that hard, right?

http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/

“OMG, I’m SO busy!”

“I should have done more by now…”

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“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”

“I don’t know enough”

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg

vs. “NAILED IT!”

https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897

Impostor Syndrome Paradox

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“It needs to be PERFECT”

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“I’ll do it tomorrow…”

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“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”

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“I will do it tomorrow!”

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Feed each other

In order for http://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/

“The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating…

…rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self-torture. “ - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution

How do we…

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Banish the Inner Critic?

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Eliminate Should/Must/Ought/Have to

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Say NO to Comparisons http://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/

Ask it questions

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Be compassionate http://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/

Reassign duty

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Remember your successes http://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/

(My personal version) Photo: Denise Jacobs

Maintain perspective http://www.flickr.com/photos/daikrieg/1294053038/

*WHATEVER*

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Cop a Power Pose

Breaking the loop

Perfectionism

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“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” ― Anne Wilson Schaef

The real problem

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Remember finished product…

https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/

vs. process?... http://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/

“The Best” vs “The most” https://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326

Remember egocentricity

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”

― Dr. Maya Angelou

Decouple your performance from who you are

https://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878

Fear of failure

http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/

“Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth

Reframe failure

http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717326642/

And mistakes

https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/

(maybe even embrace them)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/danielagama_fotografando/4029208908/

“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” - Henry Ford

Humble beginnings Twitter, circa 2006

Copy the #fail masters Photo: Denise Jacobs

Take steps http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

Fail in private http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959867550/

Try again http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

Satisfice

https://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328

Be bad/make it ugly https://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684

“Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore.” – Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

Perfection ≠ Excellence

https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356

Procrastination

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The trick is not determining which you are…

http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/

Nor administering a dose of

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Increase the meaning/value

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Mind Tricks https://www.flickr.com/photos/32135758@N02/5325454434/

Don’t do it, just get ready to Photo: Denise Jacobs

“Structured procrastination” https://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069

Time & Space Tricks http://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/

Eliminate distractions

From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I

Ignore to focus

Tools RescueTime.com GetConcentrating.com HeyFocus.com

Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd

Aids for digital blocking

Airplane mode

http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/

Make it a Sprint

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/

Fill a Quota

https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/

Remember this:

Photo: Denise Jacobs

My story’s end? http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/

February http://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/

#FAIL

http://www.flickr.com/photos/eliseporter/2315794956/

#WINNING! http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/

I wrote a book! Photo: Denise Jacobs

https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/9532425040/

Which created AMAZING things for me

Bad dreams

“The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday—but never jam to-day.”

“It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to-day’,” Alice objected.

“No, it can’t,” said the Queen. “It’s jam every OTHER day: to-day isn’t any OTHER day, you know.”

— from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll

“Jam” = Reward / Satisfaction

https://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766

YOU NEVER GET JAM

By sharing my experience Photo: Deloria Jacobs

Show you there is an alternative

https://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144

By understanding that

You’ll look at yourself differently

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Let yourself create those imperfect, yet amazing ideas

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Because, after all…

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The End

Photo: Denise Jacobs

Four Secrets to Enhancing Creative Productivity www.creativebloq.com/inspiration/four-secrets-enhancing-creative-productivity-9126098

Banishing Your Inner Critic alistapart.com/articles/banishing-your-inner-critic/

Reigniting Your Creative Spark alistapart.com/articles/reigniting-your-creative-spark/

Breaking the Perfectionism-Procrastination Infinite Loop webstandardssherpa.com/reviews/breaking-the-perfectionism-procrastination-infinite-loop/

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