seven habits

7 Habits

(3 +3 + 1) Habits

Habits 1-3 = Personal

Habits 4-6 = Interpersonal

Habits 7 = Lucky for some?

(1-3) Values > Tactics

(1) Be Proactive

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* Reacting

* Reacting

Stop Reacting Automatically

Repertoire of Response

can't, have to

simplifying

defensive

reactive

I prefer, what if

open

honest

tentative

proactive

Proactive Language

Act in Your Circle of Influence (TM)

Capability Breeds Capability

(2) Set Goals

All Things are Created Twice (TM)

Goals and Default Scripting

Write Your Own Script

Personal Mission Statements

Goals Require Self Awareness

Start Small

Before I die, I will finish preparing this damn presentation.

Gregory McIntyre

A Habit of Winning

1. Finish preparing this presentation

2. ... some more wins ...

3. Become King of the galaxy

Skills (I am good at presentations)

Core Values (I value sharing knowledge)

Eulogy (“His presentations were good.”)

(3) Manage Yo’self

Quadrant I (urgent, important)

Quadrant II (not urgent, important)

Quadrant III (urgent, not important)

World of Quadrant IV

Isn’t Rest (IV) Important (II)?

Fun and R&R are important

But

Assess feelings of satisfaction and preparedness afterwards

Is it II or IV?

P/PC Balance (TM)

Words per day

Story points per day

Items bought per day

Trees felled per day

Productivity

Productivity Capacity

Sleep, diet, exercise, energy

Education

Bank balance

Less technical debt ;-)

P/PC BalanceNot writing 5000 words every day?

Create capacity to do that: time, energy

Then get producing!

That’s P/PC Balance (TM)!

(4-6) Other People

(4) Think Win-Win

Win-Lose: Beating Your Friends

Lose-Win: Self-Sacrifice

Lose-Lose: If I Can’t Have It...

Win: Incapable of Team Work

Win-Win: Mutual Benefit

Check existing and new relationships

Be prepared to walk away

Abundance principle

Plenty more symbiotic fish in the sea – Me, just then

Think Win-Win

(5) First Understand

Acting in Ignorance

Suggest “solutions” to your crying girlfriend instead of “listening”

Optimise your code up-front

Work on features nobody asked for

Urgency, Anxiety and the Need to Act

Give Up the ActSurrender your current plan of action

Gain understanding

Carefully pick the direction

Then go fast

i.e. First Understand (TM)

(6) Synergize* We’ll circle back on

this...* We’ll circle back on

this...

**

Each person wins only 50%

Psst, you can do better

Compromise is not synergy

Compromise Sucks

If I make a mistake, I will look stoopid

If I succeed, people will steal it

So I will just do nothing

Guardedness is not synergy

Guardedness Sucks

Nice SurprisesCompromise: a + b = 1

Guardedness: a + b = 2

Synergy: a + b = 2 or 4 or 8 or 600

You thought that a was 1, but really it was 2 (or was it really 300?)

Self-Limiting Beliefs

Third Alternatives

Two people want an orange...

Finding Alternatives

Trust and creativity

Safe experimentation

“If I ask to see her naked...”

(7) Sharpen the Saw

You Are Such a Tool

Personal capacity

Not specific to one goal

Be ready for literally anything

Better Tools Can Be a Revelation

The Usual Suspects

Sleep: Internet, children, computer games, preparing presentations

Exercise: Cars, sedentary careers

Other Suspects

Education: Stopping once you leave school

Poor actual tools: QWERTY, MS Paint, etc.

@gregmcintyre@gregmcintyre2013