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did U know?The vast majority ofchildren say they want or wanted - more timewith their fathers aftertheir parents stoppedliving together. Kidswantmoresharedparenting.

Very young children shounot be away from eitherparent for more than a fewdays & are able to spendnights in each parentshome.

Fathers who shareparenting are the most

likely to pay childsupport, spendadditional money on

their kids, & contribute tcollege educations.

-facts taken "om Dr. LindNielsen,Facts & Fiction brochur

for the ACF

connecting uEqual is On Its WayTo helping one child and parent at a time...

Equal started meeting in lateFebruary with one goal in mind-tomake a difference through raisingawareness of the need of parents tohave equal access to their children.Equal, Inc. is on its way withprograms, activities and outreach.

In March, Equal along with MikeMcCormick, executive director ofACFC, appeared on Cox 11s Dialoguewith WVECs newscaster, LasalleBlanks, to raise awareness of sharedparenting throughout the HamptonRoads area.

In April, Equals website,www.bestinterestofachild.comlaunched. It provides resources andtools to get you connected to othersthat have the best interest of achild at heart. (The website willbe evolving over the next year, sokeep a close watch on it.)

In May, John N. Amiral,republican candidate, talked tothe group about sharedparenting and he encouragedthe group to continue to focus onthe mission and make a difference.

John stated, I believe its about whatchildren need, and I believe childrenneed and deserve shared custody ofboth parents. (John Amiral iscurrently running for House ofDelegates in the 87th district.)

Equal is still in need of your

support and volunteerism. If you orsomeone you know are having adifficult time with custody and equalparenting, please come out and visitus at the next meeting: June 30th,8pm-9pm, Pertlow Library, 111 West

Ocean View Avenue, Norfolk.

We hope to see youthere!

second annual nationwide fatherless day ralliesFriday, June 19th, State Capitol 9am

-3pm

The Second Annual Nationwide FatherlessRallies is rallying in all 50 state capitols. Lobby withyour legislators from 9am to 12pm and then rally forchange in front of the State Capitol from 12pm to3pm. Why?Because children need both fit andwilling parents as active participants in their lives.Please join Father4Justice to bring attention to the

unfair practice of this countriesanti-family courts. Everyone isinvited. Bring the kids. Afterall, this is for them! For moreinformation contact,Fathers4Justice at 614.448.3276,[email protected] visit them onlineatwww.fathers-4-justice.us.

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fighting the good fightAs Fathers Day approaches, I reflect back on my

own father, who was so strong so many years ago. At39 years of age with three boys of my own, I wouldlike to thank my Dad for never giving up

on the good fight. My Dad fought hardfor custody of his three children back inthe early 80s when it was unheard of fora dad to be single parent with custodialcustody of their children. My dadfought the hard fight. He sacrificedfinances, emotions and pride to fight forthe right to raise his children.

I recall walking up the court stairswith my dad that chilly fall day. Iremember him looking at us and saying, I love youall. I remember him telling us no matter whathappened he was there and would always be there forus. I remember the judge peering across his desk atme and asking Who do you want to livewith? (What a terrible position to be in as a youngteenager.) I knew in my heart, my Dad would love

me unconditionally and encourage me to love mymother.

Reflecting back, I am so proud of the man thathe was then. He encouraged us to have

loving relationships with our mother, henever spoke negative about her, and hesacrificed and gave up so much just to be aDad. He gave us unconditional love. Hetaught us through his actions that love is justthat-love.

This Fathers Day, I wont have my dad withme, but I would like to tell him thank you forfighting for me. My life would not be what itis today, if I had to have wondered if you

loved me. To all the Dads who see their children not

as much as you want to; dont give up, dont give in,and fight for your right to see and love your child. Afathers love can never be replaced and once gone cannever be forgotten.

If you would like to share your fight, please sendit to [email protected].

This summer, why not grab a good book.

Here are some we found worth the read:

Divorce Poison by Richard Warshack

Divorce Casualties by Douglas Darnell

Joint Custody with a Jerkby Julie Ross

The Co-Parenting Survival Guideby ElizabethThayer

A Promise to Ourselves by Alec Baldwin

Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome:Breaking the Ties That Bindby Amy Baker

Custody Chaos, Personal Peaceby JefferyWhitman

Win Your Child CustodyWarby Charlotte

HardwickWitness Guideby

Charlotte Hardwick

Good for the littleones:

Mom's House, Dad'sHouse: Making Two Homesfor Your Child by IsolinaRicci

check Equal out on Facebook

Equal, The Best Parent is Both Parents is now on Facebook under organizationsin the Virginia Beach/Norfolk network. Check us out. Join the group. Share itwith others. Post. Get Connected. Stay Connected.

summer reading
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calendar

June 30thBoard Meeting @7pm

General Meeting@8pm

Pertlow Public Library2nd Floor Conference Room111 W. Ocean View Avenue

Coming in July...

Get Connected

A discussion of our current legislation

and how you can get involved.

Stay Connected

Discuss and network with other localsthat are fighting for the right to

parent.

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Pedersen Law is afull-service law

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Pedersen Law was establishedto guide businesses, families andindividuals through the importantdecisions with a level of care andcompassion second to none. Ourprimary services include legal

representation for the followingfamily matters: Divorce(uncontested and contested),including military divorce, childcustody and visitation, childsupport, and guardianship.

Ms. Pedersen is a graduate ofRegent University School of Lawand is admitted to practice inVirginia. She attended OldDominion University in Norfolk,Virginia for her undergraduate

degree. At Old Dominion, Ms.Pedersen received a Bachelor ofScience degree in BusinessAdministration. She majored inEconomics and Finance.

Visit her online @www.hlpedersenlaw.com.

reach out help!

RESOURCES

www.deltabravo.netThe SPARC site is dedicated to

providing help for fathers andnoncustodial parents in divorce andcustody issues.

www.fathersforvirginia.org

The goal is to cause changes inthe domestic laws of our state toempower divorced fathers as equalpartners in parenting. The purpose isto allow fathers to father, mothers to

mother, and for children to receivethe love and support of both parents.The belief is that everyone willbenefit: fathers, mothers,

grandparents -- but especiallychildren.

LEGISLATIVE SUPPORT

Local Candidates that supportshared parenting issues and whoneed your support:

John N. AmiralFor House of Delegates,

87th [email protected]

9547 Shore Drive(East Beach Shoppes Center)

757-553-1854

HAVE A RESOURCE THATHAS HELPED U,SEND IT TO US

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Join Equal TODAY!

Yearly Membership $50

Payment Plans are available.

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to sign up.

foundersThomas Hinton

Abby Hinton

board of directorsJoshua Clark

2nd Vice President,LegislativeLiaison

Shari Wilson

Communications

board membersKelly Tulensa

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