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“ ”Relationship Expert Christie Nightingale has created this guide based on a need that is growing ever larger. In today’s media frenetic society, chivalry has lost its place at the decline of romance. It’s not that our society no longer wants romance, it’s that we’ve for-gotten how it works. Christie is here to give you the low down on the correct dating guidelines so you can successfully court your date into romantic success.

As owner of Premier Match, a high end matchmaking service, Christie has worked with hundreds of clients teaching them the art of chivalry, how to catch and keep the attention of the woman they have set their eyes on.

With close to 20 years of experience working in the field of relationship counseling and dating coaching, Christie founded Premier Match, LLC in 2002 as an upscale matchmak-ing service in New York City. Since then, Nightingale has interviewed thousands of single people throughout the east coast and around the country and has grown the company to include fully staffed offices in New York, Philadelphia and Washington DC.

Nightingale diligently works in the day-to-day operations of the service and oversees a staff of six full-time employees. She proudly states that through her efforts and those of her employees, they are responsible for hundreds of marriages and thousands of relationships.

Nightingale has been interviewed as a relationship expert for stories on love and dating by such news outlets as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Good Morning America, ABC-TV’s 20/20, Bloomberg, NPR, Cosmopolitan and Esquire to name a few.

You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lovers’ arms can only come later when you’re sure

they won’t laugh if you trip.

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We hope this guide will let you navigate the dating world with a sense of confidence. From before you meet your date, to after you say goodbye, this guide has you covered on how to become the chivalrous gent women will love to be with, and will want to keep around.

Before the first date

During the first date

After the first date and into the future

Communication in 2013

Handling Money

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The first date is KEY, that’s why much of this guide is about getting you through that first initial meeting. Because if the first date doesn’t go well, chances for a second date are slim to none.

After you have the chivalry guidelines down, all you have to do is sit back and let your personality shine. We all need a bit of help now and again but, with a little bit of practice all of this will become second nature.

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

WHY THIS GUIDE & WHY NOW?

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DON’T SHOW UPEMPTY-HANDED

CONFIRM THE DATE

BE AN EARLY BIRD

“ ”Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

Before all else, if you're nervous about making a good first impression and all you can worry about is whether the two of you will hit it off or if you’ll have anything interesting to say, then above all - you need to relax. Remember, this is just one date, and it's just date one. Before going out, spend a few minutes (that's all it takes) breathing to help relieve any pre-date jitters.

THE RULES

- Robert A. Heinlein

BEFORE THE FIRST DATE

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Confirm the date well ahead of time, not the day of, and not a few hours before, but at least early afternoon the day before the date.

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“ ”Don’t worry about finding the right woman- concentrate on becoming the right man, then, your perfect woman will find you.

Remember, your first few dates are all about getting to know another person.

Sometimes there are sparks, sometimes there aren't, and often, you'll at least find yourself with a new friend from the experience. You can't

force a long-term relationship -- it'll either happen or it won't -- so stay in the moment during your date, remember to breathe and have fun

getting to know the other person.

Do not show up on the date empty handed - Bring something small and meaningful. Women love surprises and if it's something that you put thought into they will really appreciate it.

Show up at the choice restaurant or bar of the date at least 10-15 minutes before-hand to make sure you both have a seat at the bar or that your reservation is secure. Once you are settled, send her a text to let her know you’re there, how to find you and even ask if you can order her something in advance.

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With close to 20 years of experience working in the field of relationship counseling and dating coaching, Christie founded Premier Match, LLC in 2002 as an upscale matchmak-ing service in New York City. Since then, Nightingale has interviewed thousands of single people throughout the east coast and around the country and has grown the company to include fully staffed offices in New York, Philadelphia and Washington DC.

Nightingale diligently works in the day-to-day operations of the service and oversees a staff of six full-time employees. She proudly states that through her efforts and those of her employees, they are responsible for hundreds of marriages and thousands of relationships.

Nightingale has been interviewed as a relationship expert for stories on love and dating by such news outlets as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Good Morning America, ABC-TV’s 20/20, Bloomberg, NPR, Cosmopolitan and Esquire to name a few.

MAKE EYE-CONTACT

CURTOUSY IS-KING

DURING THE FIRST DATE

PAY ATTENTION!PUT DOWN

Y O U RPHONE

“ ”Love is like playing the piano. First you must learn to play by the rules, then you must forget the rules and play from your heart.

THE RULES

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Looking into someone’s eyes can seem intimate, even scary but it will show your date you’re attentive, not afraid of being open and that you’re confident enough to be a bit vulnerable. So the next time you ask her something a little more personal, like what her favorite memory was as a kid, ask her while looking into her eyes, her answer will probably be a bit more honest and constitute a stronger "bonding" moment.

Open any and all doors, pull out the chair and allow her to sit (unless the waiter does this for you). Ask your date what she would like to order and then ask her permission to allow you to order for her when the waiter comes. At the conclusion of the date, help her with her coat, and walk her to either a taxi or assist her to her parked car to make sure she safely enters her vehicle. Ask her to text you when she arrives safely to her destination.

This statement may sound like a broken record but it is a chronic date faux pas to leave your cell phone on and become distracted while on your date in order to check calls regularly and answer your texts. Men who insist they must keep their phones on, just in case they miss a phone call, should only be doing so if they are "a doctor on call" or there an emergency situation that might develop at home or at work. If you have finished your day and you are going on a date, turn off your cell and don't check it. Your date should have your full attention - focus on her - notice the little things. What kind of drink does she like, preferences on food, does she prefer a booth or a table, what is she wearing, colors or black and white? Acknowledging all of this will give you a chance to get to know her better and feel closer to her.

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“ ”You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.

- Dr. Seuss

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PICK UP THE PHONE

THINK THOUGHTFUL

BE HUMBLE

DATING ISN’T A SPORT,DON’T PLAY THE FIELD

“ ”It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.

You have successfully navi-gated the first date, congratulations! Before you can call yourself a Knight-in-Shining-Armor, there are just a few things left to do. To complete the perfect night, make sure you check off these must have maintenance items.

THE RULES

- André Gide

AFTER THE FIRST DATE & INTO THE FUTURE

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We all know the lazy way out to follow up after a date is to send a simple text over making a phone call, but when it comes to courting, personal calls hold a lot more weight than texts, so use some courage and continue to exercise your social skills by picking up the telephone and talking.

Send a random sweet text telling her about the enjoyable time you had with her and wish her a good day. Women love to know that a man is thinking about them.

Acknowledge the fact that while dating, you have to shelve the thought pro-cess that there will not be a BBD (bigger better deal) around the corner; and stop worrying that you'll be missing out on something exceptional. New York is replete with successful and attractive men and women. In order to fall in love, you have to give love a chance. If you’re continuously dating multiple people at the same time, you’re never going to fall in love. You’ll pick the best aspect of each person and create this vision for perfection in a mate that you will never find. Try focusing your attention on dating one person at a time. Get to know her well without becoming distracted by the gamut. Let a new relationship run its course so it has a chance to take hold, or if it doesn't work out, move on.

We understand that you want to impress your gal on the first few dates but at some point we are all human, admit to her that you have some shortcomings. Be emotionally available to disclose what you feel humble about will offer her the opportunity to appreciate your honesty and adore you that much more.

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“ ”You can’t blame someone for walking away if you didn’t do anything to make them stay..

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NEED SPECIFIC COMMUNICATION GUIDELINESPARAGRAPH ON HOW WE’VE BECOME OUT OF TOUCH

NEED RULES FOR WHO PAYS FOR WHATAND AFTER HOW MANY DATES ETC.