love and lust what is the difference?. love is an intense feeling of affection and care towards...
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LOVE A
ND LUST
WHAT
IS T
HE DIFF
ERENCE?
LOVE IS AN INTENSE FEELING OF AFFECTION AND CARE TOWARDS ANOTHER PERSON… A PROFOUND AND CARING ATTRACTION.
LUST IS A STRONG DESIRE OF A SEXUAL NATURE.
PSYCHOPHYSIOLOGICAL ASPECT
An intense feeling of deep affection.
Any intense desire or craving for gratification.
Lust usually means sexual desire.
DEFINITION
Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance.
Desire, passion, acquisitiveness, intense emotions.
SYMPTOMS
Commitment to another. Genuine intentions. Think about the other person's feelings before acting.
Enjoyment of a short-term, mutually pleasurable relationship.
PERSON TO PERSON
A deep affection, contentment, confidence. Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations. Requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness. You are loving your best friend.
Passion, joyousness, strong desire, intense and sometimes difficult feelings of need.
FEELS LIKE…
Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident, secure children.
Unsatisfied lust results in sexual frustration, increased religiosity and superstition, emotional rigidity. Lust satisfied in a mutually beneficial way results in pleasure, creativity, passion, zest for life.
RESULT
Contentment, stability.
Fire, drive, activeness.
EFFECT
Partnership. Can lead to codependency if not tempered with self-awareness and self-guidedness.
Sometimes can be the first stage of love, and can lead to lasting friendships, romantic or otherwise. When not tempered with compassion and empathy, however, it can lead to emotionally damaging behavior.
INTERDEPENDENCY
It will deepen with the passage of time.
Highly variable –
it may deepen or dissipate with the passage of time.
TIME PERIOD
This is permanent commitment and stays throughout life.
Temporary commitment that lasts only long enough to fulfill desire.
COMMITMENT
Love is unconditional and the real deal.
Interested in only what can be done for self-pleasure; lust may develop into love, but it is lust until that time.
Bottomline
LOVE A
ND LUST
WHAT
IS T
HE DIFF
ERENCE?
INFA
TUATI
ON
HOW T
O KNOW
THE D
IFFEREN
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HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
1. Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing. RESPECT. COMMITMENT.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
2. Evaluate how secure you feel. MUTUAL TRUST.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
3. Think about how long you've been in the relationship.TIME… QUANTITY AND QUALITY.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
4. Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. MUTUAL RESPECT.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
5. Look at how you handle conflict. FINDING COMMON GROUND.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
6. Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward. MARRIAGE?
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
1. Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing. IDEALIZED VISION.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
2. Evaluate how secure you feel. HOW TO IMPRESS.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
3. Think about how long you've been in the relationship. NEW RELATIONSHIP; LACKS CONFIDENCE.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
4. Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. OBSESSION WITH DETAILS.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
5. Look at how you handle conflict. SENSITIVITY.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
6. Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward. UNCERTAINTY AND TIMIDITY.
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
1. Examine if you're looking to catch someone as a prize.IT’S ALL A GAME!
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
2. After you get what you want, you can take or leave the other person. SECURITY ISN’T IMPORTANT.
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
3. Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. OBSESSION: PHYSICAL.
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
4. Look at how you handle conflict. BYE AND FIND SOMEONE NEW!
FOUR NEGATIVE GUT FEELINGS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
1. A little voice in your gut says "danger" or "beware.”
2. You have a sense of depression, discomfort or feeling drained after you're together.
3. Your attraction feels destructive or dark.
4. You're uncomfortable with how this person is treating you, but you're afraid that if you mention it, you'll push him or her away.
