my "stop doing" list experiment

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  • My Stop Doing List Experiment

    Marquita Herald Emotionally Resilient Living

  • INTRODUCTION

    Some say To Do lists dont work, that a better way to go is to create

    a Stop Doing list. Ive always been a list maker, so I decided to give this a try, but I wanted it to

    be something that would go beyond a simple list. I wanted to make a statement that expressed

    feelings and intentions. My journal proved to be the

    perfect tool. See what you think, and maybe come up with a few

    of your own!

  • SPENDING TIME WITH THE WRONG

    PEOPLE

    Life is too short to spend time with people who are

    unsupportive, disregard my feelings, dismiss my dreams, and generally suck the energy out of me. They may be good

    people, they just arent good FOR me.

  • PUTTING MYSELF LAST

    I enjoy being there for the people in my life. The bigger issue is that Ive allowed the

    needs of others to repeatedly take priority over my own. Ive finally come to understand that

    caring for myself isnt being selfish, its critical to my health,

    happiness and emotional well-being.

  • STORING MENTAL CLUTTER

    For too long I have been carrying the baggage of past

    regrets, unresolved emotional issues, and grudges. But I am DONE allowing this clutter

    to weigh me down. I will resolve what I can, purge what I cant, and free myself to find peace so I can focus on the things

    and people that really matter.

  • LOOKING FOR QUICK FIXES

    Looking for quick fixes and short cuts has become a habit.

    The problem is they seldom work, at least not for long. And sometimes, they make things worse. From now on Im going

    to fix my problems the right way, the first time. I will not only achieve better results, I will grow stronger and more

    confident in the process.

  • LETTING EVENTS DEFINE ME

    I cant control everything that happens to me, but I can control

    how I respond. From now on I will claim it all - the joy and the

    heartache, the successes and the failures. Instead of obstacles, I

    choose to see these events as priceless experiences along an amazing journey to grow into

    the powerful person I am meant to be.

  • SAYING I DONT HAVE ENOUGH TIME

    The truth is I make time for the things that I consider priorities,

    even if its just responding to the people yelling the loudest for my attention. Blaming lack

    of time just makes inaction easier to justify, especially to myself. ENOUGH! Its time to

    get real about what my priorities have been, and what

    I want them to be going forward.

  • LOOKING TO OTHERS TO MAKE ME HAPPY

    Its not the job of other people to make me happy, anymore

    than it is my job to make others happy. I am responsible for my

    own happiness. If I spend all my time trying to make everyone happy, everyone will be happy but me! The best thing I can do to contribute to the happiness

    of others, is to be a happy person myself.

  • SETTLING FOR LESS THAN I DESERVE

    Its surprisingly easy to grow accustom to settling for less. A simple compromise here and

    there turns into the new norm, and once you settle in one area of your life it becomes so much

    easier to settle in others. But Im done settling because I deserve

    better then a life that is simply good enough.

  • WAITING TO LIVE

    Too much of life is spent waiting to live. Waiting until were ready, waiting for the

    right people or circumstances, waiting for permission to do,

    be and have what we want. But no one is going to magically

    swoop in and give me permission to finally go for it! Its time to name what I want,

    claim it, and OWN it!

  • TAKING SMALL MOMENTS FOR GRANTED

    No question, life can feel awfully serious at times. But occasionally all the right bits

    and pieces come together and just for one small,

    magical moment, there isnt a care in the world. I suspect

    its possible to experience more of these moments if

    we open ourselves to it. Im going to give it a try!

  • BEING AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP

    Call it pride, fear of being obligated, lack of trust.

    Whatever. I know Im not the only one who dreads having to ASK for help. But Ive tried it,

    and it wasnt so bad. In fact, Ive discovered that most people genuinely want to help. Ive

    discovered something else, we dont get extra credit

    for going it alone in life.

  • TRYING TO CHANGE PEOPLE

    One of the hardest lessons Ive had to learn is that other people arent always going to behave the way I want them to. I really only have control over my feelings, beliefs and actions. I can show

    others the way I want to be treated, but they will do what they are going to do. Its up to me to accept them as they are,

    or walk away.

  • RESISTING CHANGE

    Change is hard. The uncertainty, the discomfort of having to learn

    new things, let new people into my life, and worry over all the things that could go wrong. Ive felt all

    these things, but Ive also seen that the times in my life when Ive grown

    the most have been during times of change. So Im going to stop resisting and welcome change with open arms. BRING IT ON!

  • ENDLESSLY WORRYING

    Worry is exhausting and yet there's a false sense of comfort because it feels like Im doing what I need to do to come up

    with a solution to a problem one that rarely exists beyond my fertile imagination. This

    is a destructive habit that I am committed to breaking by

    learning to manage thoughts and emotions, and developing my

    problem solving skills.

  • LISTENING TO SELF-LIMITING

    BELIEFS

    Its so easy to do. You tell yourself that youre just being cautious, that youre not quite ready yet. I finally realized Ive

    been holding back, that the barriers to achieving my

    dreams have been within me all along and its time to

    BREAK FREE!

  • THINKING ITS TOO LATE

    As long as Im still breathing and able to write these words,

    then it is not too late to go after what I want.

    PERIOD.

  • WHAT DO YOU THINK?

    What would you add to your own Stop Doing list that would

    liberate you to focus on the things and people that matter

    most to you?

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    in charge of your life.

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