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Issue № 2 j 2011

Features

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Departments

Contents65 Roses Tour 12

Lower Your Risk Of A Vehicle Accident 16

Dating In The Internet Age 32

My Amazingly Different Child 34

Find Yourself 38

Searcy Soccer: Defining Excellence 40

Heartache Into Hope 42

Unreplaceable 44

Hope Cottage 46

Trip On A Tankful 50

Reaching Our Community 52

The VW Club 54

Fashion Colors This Season 56

Don’t Let Fear Control You 64

Release Your Inner Hero 66

On The Cover 69

Local Officer’s Memorial 72

Publisher’s Note 9

Out & About Pictures 10

Dinner & A Magazine 14

Living In Searcy 18

We The People 26

Financial Focus 31

Hope...Believe 48

Fashion Fun 58

Games & Puzzles 62

Health 68

On the cover: Jonathan and

Beverly Edwards. Photo by Cassie Jones (501) 230-0539

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Cassie Jones (501) 230-0539

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She told me that the other kids in the classroom had learned

how to provoke Ford into having a ‘meltdown.’

Publisher’s Note

He left his hometown with nothing but $25, a duffel bag,

sleeping bag and the clothes he was wearing.

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Where Are You Going?Life might not always turn out the way you think or plan that it will. However, for the

most part, I think everyone has a vision for their future. Some people can only visualize the next 24 hours of their life at a time, while others plan from A to Z. Then there are the rest of us who plan somewhere in between those two extremes. Yet, I do think it is safe to say that we all want to control or plan our destinies.

Sometime back I read a book called Scratch Begininngs. I recently asked one of our writers to read the book and write a story that includes the theme of that story (page 64). There are a few things I learned from that book, such as, in life you may not always see the destination. Sometimes your heart just needs to be right, and you just have to trust that the purpose for your journey may or may not be revealed to you - but, you still have to make the trip. I also learned that if you are chosen to make a particular journey, there is no excuse not to do so.

So where are you going? Whether or not you see your destination clearly or you are just rounding a curve, I hope this issue of Searcy Living is an inspiration while you are taking a short break in your travels.

“May today there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibili-ties that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.

May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.”

~ Mother Teresa

In THE LAST TWELvE mOnTHS, White County has had two deaths due to domestic violence.

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Hope Cottage

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My Amazingly Different Child

“Life is a journey - not a destination.”~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

(but aerosmith said it, too.)

Don’t Let Fear Control You


OUT&ABOUT

A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others. ~Ayn Rand

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Show your support for life and help raise money at the same time! Purchase an Official Choose Life Arkansas License Plate for the rear of your car. You

can obtain one through direct purchase from the Department of Finance and Administration.

Let’s make the readership of Searcy Living the BIGGEST supporters for life in the state!

Find more OUT&ABOUT on SearcyLiving.com!


All American Citizen

WHEN: Go to SearcyLiving.com for dateWHERE: Spring Park in SearcyWHAT: 65 Mile Ride • 50 Mile Ride • 35 Mile Ride10 Mile Fun RideBENEFITING: Registration Fees are tax deductible and go to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation.Registered Cyclists will get a 65 ROSES water bottle and T-Shirt while supplies last!MORE INFO: the65ROSESTour.comSponsored by Bike City

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d nner& A Magazine

Hot Cross Buns

You can find more recipes on SearcyLiving.com!

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Tanya Turner Leckie’s cookbook, Cartwheels in the Kitchen, is available at Midnight Oil Coffee House, Harding University Bookstore, online at www.heylookicancook.com, and by contacting her at [email protected].

CoMBInEHeat milk to 115° and add yeast to it. (make sure it’s no hotter than that temperature!) In a large mixing bowl, combine milk and yeast mixture with eggs, butter and honey, mixing well until butter is melted. In another bowl combine salt, cinnamon, allspice and flour, whisking to blend. Add flour mixture to yeast mixture and stir with a wooden spoon, then knead with your hands until it’s smooth and well mixed. Add raisins and continue to knead for another 5 minutes, at least.

rIsEPlace dough in a lightly oiled bowl, cover with a towel and place in the oven, turned OFF, with the oven light On and a small saucepan or medium bowl of very HOT water sitting on the shelf lower than the one with the dough on it. (This will provide heat and humidity, which will make the dough rise beautifully.) Allow it to rise there for about an hour.

BAKERemove from oven, divide dough into 12 equal sections, and knead each one into a roll shape. Place rolls on a jelly roll size shiny baking pan that’s been buttered or coated with coconut oil. Place them back in the warm, humid oven and allow to rise another 30 minutes or so. Remove pan from the oven and, while the oven is preheating to 350º, brush tops of rolls lightly with a mixture of egg yolk and water. Bake at 350º for 20 to 25 minutes. Combine frosting ingredients in a small bowl and spoon into a small zip-top bag. Allow rolls to cool and frost an “X” on each roll by snipping off a tiny bit of the corner of the zip-top bag and piping the frosting on the rolls. See…”X” marks the spot!

Tradition has it that these are to be given and eaten on Good Friday. I say any day is “good” when these are served. They taste like a really good raisin cinnamon bread in bun form. I took them to the third graders at Liberty Christian School on Good Friday one year and they were SO excited. They would have probably been excited with just about anything, but these were especially well received, although when I told the class what they were and that they contained raisins, one young boy exclaimed, “Raisins are nasty!” I suppressed the urge to slobber on his, and I was glad to hear that he happily surrendered all his raisins to sweet little Drake (my little fudge lover!). They’re delightful served at room temperature, but absolutely divine when warm! I used to make snacks for the pre-K class at Curtis’ Kindergarten when my sweet friend, Renee miller taught there. On “X” week, I brought these for the kids and told them that “X” marks the spot. What other snack can you use for “X”?

InGrEDIEnts

¾ c. milk1 ½ tsp yeast2 eggs3 Tbsp butter, softened¼ c. honey½ tsp salt1 tsp cinnamon½ tsp allspice3 ¼ c. unbleached all purpose flour¾ c. raisinsFor baking: 1 egg yolk and 2 tsp waterFrosting: ½ c. powdered sugar, ¼ tsp vanilla, and 1 ½ tsp milk

Recipe submitted by Tanya Leckie

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CornED BEEF, nEW PotAtoEs & CABBAGE

ProCEDurEs

In a large roasting pan, place all the ingredients, EXCEPT THE POTATOES & CABBAGE, mix well, bring to a boil, cover and let it simmer for at least 6 hours.

Add the potatoes and cabbage and cook for another 2 hours, covered.

Pull the brisket out, let it cool, and thin slice to order, cover with the potatoes, cabbage and the liquid.

InGrEDIEnts

Corned Beef Brisket 4 LBSPickle Spice 1 cupYellow Onions, sliced 1 ea.Celery Seed 1 tspMustard Seed 1 tspFresh Garlic, minced 2 clovesBay Leaves, whole 2 ea.Cabbage, sliced in small wedges 2 ea.New Potatoes (Red Bliss) cut into quarters 2 LBSSalt ½ TBSWater 2 QTS

Recipe submitted by miguel Espina

Miguel is working on writing a cookbook with all the dinner party recipes at the Searcy Country Club. It will include at least 12 dinners, one for each month of the year, with each dinner consisting of 6 to 7 dishes, so you will be looking at not less than 78 mouth watering original recipes.


There are many laws in our state designed to encourage us to be safe drivers. We have countless laws regarding speeding, traffic signals, school zones, and cell phone usage while driving.* The laws are put in place to keep not only the driver safe, but also the passengers, other drivers, and pedestrians. The Searcy Police Department would like to offer a few more suggestions on how to be a safe driver and help our community suffer less damage due to traffic accidents.

- Leave in plenty of time. This would help reduce accidents where someone used less caution than usual in order to “beat the light” or misjudge oncoming traffic.

- Limit distractions. While our state has laws against texting and driving, there are not laws regarding talking on a cell phone or inputting information on a GPS navigation system or radio console. The driver should be able to focus on the road and drivers around them.

- Prepare. If you have ever been in a vehicle with a child, you know they always need something the minute you get on the road. Have items placed where a child can reach them so the driver does not have to take attention off the road to reach for a lost sippy cup or dropped pacifier.

- Pay attention. many of the accidents we see could have been avoided if the driver was paying attention to cars slowing in front of them.

These are just a few tips on how to be a safe driver. Remember to obey the traffic laws and always buckle up. Our attention to laws and safety tips will reduce our risk of traffic accidents, but will also provide a good example for the young drivers in our community.

*These laws were put into effect in the State of Arkansas recently. Please familiarize yourself and your family with these laws. Information found on Arkansas State Police Website: http://www.asp.arkansas.gov

- Act 181 (HB1013) – “Paul’s Law” prohibiting the use of hand held cell phones for typing, texting, e-mail or accessing the internet while driving.

- Act 197 (HB1119) –To improve the safety of the roads and Highways by limiting wireless telephone use by young drivers.

- Act 247 (SB 28) –To prohibit wireless telephone use by drivers under eighteen years of age; and to prohibit drivers who are at least eighteen but under twenty-one years of age from using handheld wireless telephones. To allow drivers who are at least eighteen but under twenty one years of age to use hands-free wireless telephones or devices.

Searcy Police Officer Terry Blanton on-scene

at a vehicle accident.

Lower Your Risk of a Vehicle Accident

in Searcy


Tucked back on a hill, and up a long driveway lined with trees on either side,the picturesque country setting was the perfect backdrop for their dream home...

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“I grew up here,” Betsy Bailey said with a smile as she held her one year old foster child on her lap. The fire in the stone fireplace crackled as the late afternoon sun cast a warm glow throughout the living room and laughter echoed in the room. “This is where I spent a lot of time when I was young. It’s where I learned to ride horses, and my father’s friend lived in the house right across,” she explained as she spoke about the land that holds a deep sentimental value to her. “It was the perfect place for our home.”

Tucked back on a hill, and up a long driveway lined with trees on either side, the picturesque country setting was the perfect backdrop for their dream home—on land that Betsy holds close to her heart. Lane and Betsy Bailey share their home with their four year old son, Gowen, their dogs, Juliet and Portia and are new foster parents. They built their home in 2005, after the plans were drawn up and designed completely from scratch by Lane.

Walking in the front door, the rich colors are warm and inviting. The long lines in each room accent the modern colors and artwork throughout the home. Immediately to the right, a staircase leads up to the second floor which houses the playroom, bathroom, and children’s bedrooms. To the left is a deep grey/blue dining room, accenting the beautiful hardwood floors and dark furniture. A wall of black and white photographs taken by Betsy is showcased in the dining room, depicting places around Searcy with special meaning to her. The Rialto Theater and the church she grew up attending are among the familiar sights around town included there.

Story & Photos by Cassie Jones

Walking in the front door, the rich colors are warm and inviting.

Up the stairs, an open landing framed by an iron railing overlooks the living area on the floor below.

The fireplace is the center of attention in the open living area, as is one of Lane’s favorite art pieces hanging proudly above the mantel.

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The table, flanked by a pair of beautiful windows, is set with colofrul dishes and a bright, floral centerpiece, the perfect place for a family to make and enjoy many memories.

A large playroom houses two extra beds as well as many toys and a sitting room with a television.

The kitchen and dining area follow the same warm color scheme, with light cabinets and an accenting countertop adding to the large, open and bright feel of the room.

The foyer opens up into an open living, kitchen and dining area with high ceilings and natural light pouring through the windows. The fireplace is the center of attention in the open living area, as is one of Lane’s favorite art pieces hanging proudly above the mantel. Both Lane and Betsy studied abroad during their years in college at Ouachita Baptist University and fell in love with art. many unique paintings and photographs are hung throughout the house, and enjoyed by friends and family who come to visit. The kitchen and dining area follow the same warm color scheme, with light cabinets and an accenting countertop adding to the large, open and bright feel of the room. The table, flanked by a pair of beautiful windows, is set with colorful dishes and a bright, floral centerpiece, the perfect place for a family to make and enjoy many memories.

Up the stairs, an open landing framed by an iron railing overlooks the living area on the floor below. Off the landing, a large playroom houses two extra beds, as well as many toys and a sitting room with a television. Gowen’s room is near the playroom and houses bunk beds for buddies to enjoy. Across from Gowan’s room is a large guest bath following the same warm color scheme as throughout the rest of the house. Down the hall from the playroom and Gowen’s bedroom is the guest room. With a large bed as the centerpiece, the room is inviting as well as unique, with antique touches around the room.

“We spend a lot of time in the backyard and have a beautiful rock fire ring we enjoy outdoors,” Lane explains as we sit in the living area after our tour of the home. As we talked, deer were grazing near the house, visible through the windows in the living area overlooking the spacious backyard. “We just love it here,” he said with a smile as his son crawled up on his lap.

As a family, the Bailey’s love to spend time at home and entertain guests, as well as vacationing at the beach. Lane works in Little Rock for the State Department of Information Systems while Betsy is the School and Community Coordinator and a former English teacher at Searcy Public Schools.


The Bailey’s built their home in 2005, after the plans were drawn up and designed completely from scratch by Lane.

Gowen’s bedroom is near the playroom and houses bunk beds for buddies to enjoy.

A large bed in the center of the guest room is inviting for guests as well as unique with the antique touches around the room.

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The long lines in each room accent the modern colors and artwork throughout the home.

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We the People

Student Artists<<<<<<<<<<<<

Sidney Deener Elementary School congratulates Chase Stone for being our February Student Artist. Chase is a

4th grade student in mrs. Jessica Brown’s

classroom.

Sidney Deener Elementary

congratulates Kailee Baker for being our

march Student Artist. Kailee is in 1st grade and is in mrs. vicki Rain’s classroom.

5-year-old Olivia Coleman, getting her hair cut for Locks of Love.

This picture of Jace Rogers was taken by his sister Gracie. Gracie is 7-years-old and job shadowed several times at Searcy Living

magazine. Good job Gracie!

Gracie Rogers, Photographer

Locks of Love is a public non-profit organization that provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children in the United States and Canada under age 21 who suffer long-term medical hair loss due to any diagnosis. They meet a unique need for children by using donated hair to create the highest quality hair prosthetics. most of the children helped by Locks of Love have lost their hair due to a medical condition called alopecia areata, which has no known cause or cure. The prostheses they provide help to restore their self-esteem and their confidence, enabling

them to face the world and their peers.

If you wish to donate, anyone can cut your hair as long as the guidelines listed on LocksofLove.org are followed. We encourage all of our donors to go to a salon they are already

familiar with to ensure their comfort when donating.

Link to Locks of Love on SearcyLiving.comLocks of Love

234 Southern BlvdWest Palm Beach, FL 33405

561-833-7332

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Community HelpersOfficer Lynn Smith, a patrolman for the Searcy Police Department, poses with children at the Tender Loving Care Early Learning Center on E. moore. The chil-dren learned about community helpers with visits from Searcy Police Officers, Searcy Firemen, NorthStar Paramedics, and a nurse.

Ty venable, manager of Colton’s Steakhouse and Grill in Searcy, recently accepted a plaque of appreciation on behalf of the restaurant for it’s support of the White County Single Parent Scholarship Fund. Pictured from left to right are Loyal Crawford, WCSPSF Board Chair, Ty venable, and Dan newsom, WCSPSF Executive Director. The White County Single Parent Scholarship Fund, Inc., awards scholarships to single parents who are pursuing a post-secondary education with a goal of skilled employment. In 2010, the WCSPSF awarded 47 scholarships with a total value of $26,813. For more information about the WCSPSF, contact Dan newsom at 501-230-2414.


Don’t Text and DriveRepresentatives from State Farm Insurance and the Searcy Police Department gave a joint presentation to Harding Academy students recently on the effects of texting and driving. The students viewed a video spotlighting families and teens who have been affected by texting and driving. The students were given a challenge to refrain from texting while driving and to refuse to ride with those that put lives in

danger by texting and driving.

We the People

Staying WarmTaken by Lindsey Herekamp

The Searcy Police Department announced Rudy Ripka as the Officer of the Month for December of 2010.

Rudy Ripka is a patrolman for the Searcy Police Department. Ripka earned Officer of the month honors in October of 2010 also. Ripka was hired as a patrolman in may of 2010. He has a Bachelors Degree in History from Williams Baptist College and is married. Ripka enjoys being a police officer because it is not routine. Every day and every shift is different. His favorite part about working at the Searcy Police Department is the support of the officers and the helpfulness of everyone.

Searcy’s Chief of Police, Kyle Osborne said, “Once again, Officer Rudy Ripka has shown tremendous ability and dedication in serving and protecting this community.”

The Searcy Police Department announced Matt Higgins as the Officer of the Month for January.

matt Higgins is a patrolman for the Searcy Police Department. Higgins was hired in April of 2009. He graduated from Bald Knob High School and has an Associate of General Studies Degree from Arkansas State University in Beebe. Higgins likes being able to take criminals off the street to make our community safer. His favorite part about working at the Searcy Police Department is the people.

Searcy’s Chief of Police, Kyle Osborne said, “Officer Higgins has been with this department for almost two years and throughout his time here, he has shown a true love for police work. He always gives 100 percent.”

The Searcy Police Department honored Detective Keith Hays as the Officer of the Month for February. Hays has been an officer for the Searcy Police Department since October of 2007 and has been a detective in the Criminal Investigation Division for almost three months.

Hays grew up in Pleasant Plains, Arkansas, where he attended Pleasant Plains High School. He graduated from ASU-Beebe with an Associate’s Degree. Before becoming a police officer, Hays worked at the Eaton Corporation for 12 years and worked in real estate for seven years.

Hays says he likes being a police officer because he wants to help the public and enjoys being a part of this noble profession.

Searcy’s Chief of Police, Kyle Osborne, said, “Although Keith Hays is new to the detective position, he has done a tremendous job. We look forward to more great things from him in the future.”

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WCSPSF, Inc. just received a $16,800 grant from the Women Helping Others Foundation in Dallas (WHO)! We are so excited! This will fund 24 scholarships this year at $700 each!

Searcy area girls’ softball director Bo Turnerhas a message for you:

“Our goal is to make opportunities available for young people to participate in youth softball no matter what experience they have. We allow smaller towns that don’t have a league to par-ticipate also. my goal as director is to show the

love of Christ in all that we do.”

Contact Bo at 501-230-5792 for more info or e-mail at [email protected]


We the People

We went to Pensacola Beach in Florida. It was awesome and we loved it out there. The weather for our beach wedding was so nice, with warm sunshine! Such a special day for us; we will never forget that day! After the wedding, we went to the naval museum and enjoyed the area and then headed home.

~ Jo & Jimmy Reed

Muscular Dystrophy Association Jail-n-BailLeft to right are Detective Keith Hays, Officer Rachel

Smith, and Sgt. Steve Hacker of the Searcy Police Department. These and other officers assisted in

“arresting” people to raise money for the mDA on Wednesday, February 23rd in Searcy.

Bridal Showcase held at Harding University coming soon! For more information please contact the Harding University Alumni Office at 501-279-4276 or log onto SearcyLiving.com for dates and time. All are invited to attend. Admission $5.

Goin’ to the Chapel... on the Beach!

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While there are many individuals who have plenty of money invest, more than a few hesitate to do so because they are unsure of exactly how or where to invest their money. And while it may seem a logical conclusion that the more money you have the more complicated your investment picture becomes, that is not necessarily the case. Financial investment strategies can still be broken down into simple, easy-to-understand terms.

Asset Allocation—One of the most important elements of a successful financial strategy is proper asset allocation. This refers to the mix of investments you have in your portfolio, and it’s important to keep a good balance of different types of investments – like stocks, bonds and cash, for example – diversified across a range of industry groups or sectors. Your ultimate financial objectives, the amount of time you have to invest and your own risk tolerance should all be taken into consideration as you decide exactly how to divide up your funds and where to invest them. Although asset allocation will diversify your portfolio, it will not protect against fluctuating prices or uncertain returns.

Equity Investment Strategies – When investing in stocks a good rule of thumb is to diversify your stock portfolio across a number of sectors; you may also want to overweight industry sectors whose stocks you believe are likely to benefit from the current outlook for the economy. Once you have identified these sectors you can begin to select specific stocks from within them.

You may want to consider stocks that pay dividends, which can give you investment an added boost. Another benefit of these stocks is that you can usually reinvest the dividends you earn directly into the purchase of more stock, and many investment firms even have programs that allow you to do so at no cost.

Another good idea is to select companies that have a solid foundation and have the potential to continue to grow over the long term. While it’s not easy to predict the future, the advice of a Financial Advisor and a little research of your own should enable you to identify companies that have the qualities necessary to meet your long-term objectives.

Fixed-Income Investment Strategies—When you buy a bond, you are usually promised the return of your principal as long as you keep it until maturity. In addition, you earn interest on your money before the bond matures. There are a wide

variety of fixed-income products available. Some can be tax-advantaged, and many generally afford you a fixed rate of return.

Estate Investment Planning – Regardless of your age, an estate plan is a valuable tool that can help preserve your estate in the unexpected event of your incapacitation or even death. It can also ensure your assets are properly managed, according to your wishes, for your heirs. Proper estate planning can even help reduce federal estate taxes for your heirs, so they can more fully enjoy the benefits of the money you have left to them.

While this is just a simple overview of some of the many financial opportunities available to you, it’s important to begin your financial strategy right away. Talk to a Financial Advisor to find out more about the ways you can tailor your asset management strategies to help you enjoy your money now and in the future.

This article was written by Wells Fargo Advisors and provided courtesy of Jeff Kernodle, Senior Financial Advisor in Searcy at 501-279-0101

Investments in securities and insurance products are: nOT FDIC-InSURED/nOT BAnK-GUARAnTEED/mAY LOSE vALUE

Investment products and services are offered through Wells Fargo Advisors Financial network, LLC (WFAFn), and member SIPC. Kernodle & Katon Asset management Group is a separate entity from WFAFn.

Financial focus with Jeff Kernodle

Investment Strategies for Those with Money to Invest

“About Jeff”

Jeff Kernodle is a Senior Financial Advisor with Kernodle & Katon Asset management Group, member of the Wells Fargo Financial network, LLC in Searcy located at 107 West Beebe-Capps Expressway. For more information on this and other articles, please call Jeff at 501-279-0101.


It isn’t easy finding your soul mate – in any Age, much less the Internet Age. After all, there is some truth to the old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.” The dilemma may be even harder for two Christians looking for someone of like mind to marry. After all, most Christians eliminate one of the prime meeting places most popular these days – bars. And while church is still often cited as a location where two individuals first meet, what happens when that congregation is small or that perfect person just isn’t in that congregation? For Arkansans Brad Reeves and mandy Paulley, the odds of meeting their mr./miss Right on an internet dating site seemed remote (no pun intended), but it turned out to be the perfect way of filtering through the frogs!

mandy explains the “search” she went through before heading online. “I worked a lot. The church I went to was fantastic but very big, and while there were groups to join, none of them really fit my personality… I had moved away from my college friends and from the avenues in which I could meet a few more people. I think, particularly for a Christian, it is hard to find or meet potential mates. There is just no venue for that to happen outside of college. many people meet in bars and I just knew that that was not where I wanted to find my spouse. I did not want that to be a part of our story.”

Echoing that sentiment, Brad says, “I was having trouble finding people to date just by luck or happen-stance, and I wasn’t looking for someone who was a regular at bars, so turning to the internet seemed like a good place to look and possibly find the kind of person I was looking for with the website’s filter. A friend had used [this website] and he convinced me to try it. Without someone’s recommendation, I probably would not have tried it.”

After a few years of casually dating others, Brad and mandy both had begun looking to date with a purpose – finding someone they could settle down with for life. With all other roads leading to dead ends, Brad, a Lonoke accountant with the Heifer Foundation and mandy, a maumelle resident who is General manager for a central Arkansas Holiday Inn Express, began considering searching for someone through an online dating service. Being able to sift through the online profiles was one of the benefits. Rather than dating someone for some length of time before learning of some incompatibility, the service helped narrow down the decision on who they each might like to date based on what someone’s profile focused on. Even when the list of potential dates was narrowed, Brad points out that being able to communicate through e-mails and instant messaging before meeting in person was another plus.

Brad specifically noted that the site provided the ability to say whether you are a Christian and how often you attended church services. For a Christian, those important criteria can certainly weed out those who are more casual with their religion. Having that information to look at was extremely helpful, for, as mandy puts it, “If I was contacted by anyone [being able to see whether they were a Christian or not] was the first thing that I looked at. There is no point wasting both parties’ time when a key component is missing!”

Finding mr. Wrong was easy. mandy recalls those dates that didn’t quite work out, but helped lead her to her eventual mr. Right. “I am grateful every day for the failures because I think you can know very quickly [if someone is right for you]. I mean, if they

DATING In The Internet Age

By Cecelia Wilson

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are driving you crazy in the first few weeks then you can probably conclude that God has them intended for someone else!” And dating someone she had “screened” through the online service gave her confidence that, while long-term relationships with the first few men didn’t work out, it wasn’t because they were online loners or crazies, they had mutually come to the same conclusion that there was someone else out there for them. It gave her hope that this could be a safe way of finding someone worthwhile. Brad had also met someone by really reading through the profiles, but that relationship only lasted a month until he knew she wasn’t the one for him.

meeting each other began with an e-mail that Brad sent to mandy. It was short and to the point and she didn’t answer it right away. “At the point I had read his e-mail I was a bit apathetic towards dating as a whole. I think as a single person you have those moments when you just want to throw up your hands and say, ‘I will just be single for life and that’s ok!’” mandy relates. A few days later, however, she decided to respond and about two weeks and several e-mails and instant messages later, the two decided to meet at a restaurant. “It must have gone well,” she laughs, “We closed the place down.”

This time, it didn’t take long for both Arkansans to know they had chosen well. “I was definitely impressed when I met Brad,” mandy shares. “He is one of the most thoughtful guys I have ever met; we had a great time together every time we went out. There was one particular night that was kind of an ‘Ah-Ha’ moment for me. I had had a particularly stressful day at work and I guess I mentioned as much in a message that I had sent him that day. He called me and offered to take me to dinner that night. While this might be a small gesture to some, we lived 45 minutes apart…I knew that I was dating a special guy.”

“After the first date I knew that I liked her and by the next weekend we had another date,” Brad remembers. “In may, I was scheduled to go on a trip for Heifer International to Cameroon (Africa). I knew that I had fallen in love with her [and] I knew that before I left I had to tell her I was in love with her, so I did.” That was 2008. By August 2010, Brad had picked out an engagement ring. Despite a day that began with layoffs at his office (through which Brad survived), he ended the evening on a much more positive note: dinner with mandy at a nice restaurant in Little Rock and, on bended knee, he proposed in front of the Old State House. Brad likes to tease mandy by saying she accepted before she even looked at the ring, but mandy counters

that she was saying yes to him and the ring was just “an added perk!”

While the story of how the Reeves met and fell in love will be an interesting one to pass down someday to their children and grandchildren, it is less a story about meeting online. As a woman, mandy had concerns about joining an online dating service and she would still advise caution to others, despite her own successful outcome. Will individuals be truthful when completing their profiles, their interests and their backgrounds? Is it safe? While mandy never dated anyone dangerous, there are definitely people out there that are dangerous. Meet in public places, keep family members aware of your plans and remember: if something doesn’t look right, don’t act on it. As mandy mentions, “You would be surprised at the number of people on [the internet] who are ‘not quite single!’”

The Reeves’ story is more a story about choosing a spouse based on the principles and beliefs they both felt were most important

to base the rest of their lives on: religion, children, common interests and, simply put – love. “Having been single for so long…well, certainly after many of my friends were getting married… I started hearing that I should compromise in certain areas on what I was looking for. While I do not think anyone should have unrealistic expectations, I do think that if you are communicating with God, He will place desires in your heart. These will be what He

wants you to have. God had someone in mind that would meet those personal convictions of what I wanted in my husband,” mandy says assuredly.

Brad and mandy are planning a Spring wedding and will then be settling down to that domesticity they were both looking for so desperately. While the newlyweds will be living in Lonoke, they will be commuting to Little Rock each day for work. They and their families feel good about their prospects for a long, happy life since the couple took their time and found their common bond in belief. As for particular goals for the future, there were no major ones that came to mind for Brad, but mandy did smile and confess, “Apparently I am going to have to learn how to cook!”

“The Reeves’ story is more a story about choosing a spouse based on the principles and beliefs they both felt were most important to base the rest of their lives on: religion, children, common interests and, simply put – love.”

I am the mother of four beautiful children. I love being a mother, and I cherish all of my children and each of their different personalities.

When my third child was born, I noticed that my beautiful baby boy was a little different from my other children. It’s hard as a mother to define what “different” is, and, to be really honest, I think for several years I was in denial about the fact that he was “different.” He walked later and talked later than the other children, and his fine motor skills seemed much slower. When he did start talking, his speech seemed a little odd – a little monotone – and he used what I thought were odd words to explain or describe things.

I noticed that at age 4 he was like a little genius. He had a remarkable memory and used words that intelligent adults would use.

Ford began attending Searcy Public Schools at age 5. His Kindergarten year went relatively smoothly, with a few minor bumps in the road. His teacher made mention that he did not socialize much with the other children and played mostly by himself. She also noticed that he struggled with fine motor skills, had a very short attention span, and was very messy and disorganized. At the time I didn’t find this odd, as he was the type of child at home who preferred to play alone, and I hoped that maybe he would grow into all of these other issues as he progressed in school. We began noticing more and more differences in Ford’s behavior in first and second grade. He was very sensitive to loud noises and bright lights. He continued to struggle with fine motor skills and writing. Ford began to struggle academically, as he was unable to keep up with his work and was easily frustrated and distracted.

In 2006 Ford was tested and received his first diagnosis of ADHD. Although this explained his difficulties with paying attention during class, it still didn’t explain many of his other symptoms. I was told that ADHD medication could possibly help Ford with his attention problems. I was terrified to put him on medications because I didn’t want to change anything about him. I decided not to use medication and to try more diligently as a parent to help Ford where I could.

In 2007, during Ford’s second grade school year, he continued to struggle and his teacher suggested possibly getting his IQ tested. She felt that he might possibly qualify for special services. After Ford was tested, the teachers and I met to go over his results. Ford tested high on all areas except math, in which he tested in the normal to low range. Because of his high scores, he was not able to receive any specialized services. Once again we were at a loss as to how to help Ford.

At a parent teacher conference near the end of that school year, Ford’s teacher suggested that I research a disorder called Asperger

Syndrome, or “AS.” She had recently been to a conference and had recognized some of Ford’s behaviors as similar to that of a child with AS. I had never heard of this before but began research as soon as I got home. I can remember the first time I read the symptoms of a child with AS; I almost fell out of my chair. It was like someone had written an article specifically about my Ford. I was amazed and also afraid at the same time. It was such a relief to know what was going on with my son, but also a little scary, because I was faced with the truth that my child has a “disorder.”

In that same year, Ford was re-tested and was officially diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. I was so thankful that Ford’s teacher recognized some of his behaviors. It was because of this that I was able to learn the correct tools to help my son.

Now, with his official diagnosis, his teachers and I were able to put together a new teaching strategy to better suit his special needs. It was wonderful, and his grades improved. He earned a certificate for the A / B honor roll in third grade, which was an awesome experience for Ford. He was very happy to receive an award!

With my newfound knowledge and my new ability to understand and help my child, I thought my troubles were over. Unfortunately, they were very far from over, and in some ways they were only just beginning. But, first, let me give you a brief description of what Asperger Syndrome is, as I understand it:

Asperger Syndrome is a neurobiological disorder on the higher-functioning end of the autism spectrum. Symptoms can range from mild to severe. Some Aspies may exhibit serious deficiencies in social and communication skills. Their IQs are typically in the normal to high range. Because they are typically naïve, those with AS are often viewed by their peers as “odd” and are frequently a target for bullying and teasing. They have a strong desire to fit in socially and have friends, but have a great deal of difficulty making or keeping friends.

many Aspies will become overly obsessed with certain subjects, such as mushrooms, plastics, atoms, etc. They will become so engrossed in these subjects that they talk of little else or think of little else. For this reason it is difficult for them to socialize with others who don’t share their enthusiasm for such things.

Aspies may appear to be distant or without any emotion. But Aspies feel very strong emotions, only in a different way. They live in a very literal world, so even emotions are shown in a literal sense. One of the most beautiful things about my son is his ability to love unconditionally.

Ford does not understand normal social cues. Ford sees the world in black and white, so to speak. He thinks so literally that even small innuendoes can confuse him. For instance, if I were to tell Ford we have to “eat and run,” Ford would finish his meal and take off running.

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By Laurel Dillard Ford does not typically break rules. He can’t understand why anyone else would break the rules, so he may try to correct someone by explaining that they had broken a rule or by tattling. He does not understand how anyone could be mean to another person or try to hurt another person on purpose. He does not understand selfishness or ego. All of these things are what make me absolutely adore him, but they are also the reason why he is a target for bullying.

When Ford becomes over-stimulated by social pressure he “melts down.” Ford’s meltdowns are fairly mild but can be very distracting to a teacher and very comical to some students. He flaps his hands, holds his hands over his ears, and lets out a loud wailing cry. Things that cause Ford to “melt down” are kids picking on him, his inability to understand or do his work correctly, or if he thinks that he has done something wrong. Ford will not break rules on purpose. This brings me to Ford’s most difficult year of all -- 4th grade.

Ford’s 4th grade year was a nightmare. He came home most days crying because he had been made fun of or picked on. He was called names like retard, dork, annoying, and worse.

I can remember picking Ford up from school one Friday afternoon, and he was actually happy and smiling. He was bouncing on the balls of his feet and flapping his hands together. (He does this when he is happy.) Ford told me that he had asked a boy in his class if he could play with him and be his friend. The boy told him “no,” but said he could play with him on monday. The boy instructed Ford to meet him at the monkey bars the following monday and he would be his friend. my heart sank, as I knew that this boy was more than likely making fun of Ford or just trying to get rid of him for that day. All weekend long I heard Ford talking about how he couldn’t wait until recess on monday so he could play with his new “best friend.” Just as I had feared, Ford met me after school on monday with tears in his eyes. He explained that the boys were only teasing him and said that they wouldn’t be friends with a retard.

Tears of a child with a broken heart could possibly be one of the saddest moments a mother can face with her child. Ford’s heart was broken and so was mine. I held him and we both cried.

That same week I was met by Ford’s teacher, who explained that Ford continued to be a problem in class, disrupting the other students’ work. The teacher was frustrated with his outbursts and meltdowns.

near the end of the school year I received a phone call from one of Ford’s teachers. She explained that Ford was in trouble for shouting out answers during a test. Several students had provoked Ford to shout out the answers, and all of the boys were in trouble. His teacher was calling me to let me know that the other children involved were going to be paddled. my heart broke because I knew that Ford would not have broken any rules on purpose. I also knew that if I did not allow him to be punished along with the other children, he would possibly be ridiculed by the other students. To this day I struggle with my decision to allow him to be punished. Ford still will not talk to me much about that day. He only described that it felt like bees had stung him on his bottom. It may have been the most difficult thing I have ever done. I am sure that the teacher

struggled with punishing him as well. my heart hurt for my son who I knew was an amazing child

with an amazing heart! I understood the teacher’s frustration, as she also had 30 other children in her classroom, but I knew that the more frustrated she became, the more he would struggle. She told me that the other kids in the classroom had learned how to provoke Ford into having a “meltdown.” It had become a game for some of the students, and they would laugh at him. He was removed from the classroom on a regular basis. His 4th grade year couldn’t have ended soon enough for both of us. He was becoming more and more depressed and withdrawn with each passing day. I was frustrated and confused about what to do. How do you help your child make friends? I could help him with all of the other things, but fitting in and making friends was

something I just didn’t know how to help him do.

During the summer I spent a great deal of time praying about what

to do for Ford. I researched the possibility of home schooling. Unfortunately, I couldn’t afford to quit work and stay home with him. I also came to the conclusion that taking a child who has social deficiencies out of a social setting isn’t really helping

him. I felt like he had to face the challenges that he would face to prepare him for life outside of school and home.

middle school is a challenge for neurotypical (normal) children and even more of a challenge for children with a disability. Ford does not respond very well to change, and the change from elementary school to middle

school is pretty major. I was a nervous wreck. I always try to stay positive with Ford, even when I am an emotional mess on the inside, because I don’t want to upset him, but the weeks leading up to the first day of school were extremely scary and emotional for me.

About a week before Ford’s first day of school, he received a postcard in the mail from his new teachers, ms. Renee Boatman and ms. Kristin Whitsett. The little postcard was sent to all the students and simply stated how excited they were to start the new school year and meet all the new students. It instructed the students and parents about the open house as well. Ford was ecstatic! not only was he happy to receive mail addressed to him in the mailbox, but he was happy that his teachers were excited to meet him. He carried that postcard everywhere, letting everyone know that his teachers had sent him a letter and couldn’t wait to meet him. He was positive that they must have been told that he was a good boy. During his open house he walked up to his teacher, holding his postcard and said, “I got your letter.”

Any anxiety that he had leading up to that day was gone because of a little postcard from his teachers. I think they probably never imagined the impact that this little postcard would make in Ford’s life. It was personal to Ford, and it made him feel special.

“He does not understand howanyone could be mean to anotherperson or try to hurt another person on purpose.He does not understand selfishness or ego. All of these things are what make me absolutely adore him...”


I was a nervous wreck on the first day of school. I tried very hard to stay positive, but I struggled as memories of the last couple of years haunted me. I cringed as I drove to pick Ford up that first day. To my surprise he was smiling and bouncing. He told me that school went great! He said that his teachers were really excited to have him in their class. He was a happy kid. Over the next few weeks it was the same thing: Ford came home happy, loving school and loving his teachers.

One morning he missed his bus. He was upset because he just knew that ms. Whitsett would miss him if he was not there or was late for class. I can’t even begin to describe how it feels to have a child who had gone through what he had gone through the past few years be excited and anxious about going to class.

Ford has even made friends this year. One girl made him a mushroom out of clay and gave it to him as a gift because she knows that he loves mushrooms. He was so proud of this little gift. He was beaming with pride when he pulled it out of his bag to show it off to his family. The look on his face and the sound of pure joy in his voice was priceless, and it was a moment that I will never forget.

When I was finally able to meet with Ms. Whitsett and Ms. Boatman at Ford’s parent-teacher conference, I couldn’t even begin to explain to them enough what they had meant to my family. I knew that it wouldn’t be possible for me to describe the difference they had made in my child’s life. I found myself rambling and fumbling over my own words. I am pretty sure the only words that they were able to understand were “Thank You,” over and over.

They talked to me about how much they enjoyed Ford. They still had some trouble with him paying attention and getting distracted, but they asked for my input on helping him in those areas. They explained that they had talked to the other children in their classrooms and helped them to better understand Ford. They helped foster friendships and encouraged the other children to accept Ford even though he is different. They said that all of the kids seem to really like Ford, and they have all been pretty good with him.

These are not things that are written in a lesson plan or required by state standards. These are acts of love and kindness done by teachers who truly care about their students. These are the kinds of things that change the lives of our kids. These teachers have changed the life of my son by the little acts of kindness that most people don’t even notice.

God answered my prayers! He answered my prayers with amazing teachers who took time to get to know Ford. I’m sure that they still struggle with him paying attention and getting distracted, but they love him and he loves them. They have made such a huge difference in not only his life, but mine. There is no better feeling on earth in my opinion than to see your child smile with a happy heart. With the help of some very special teachers and a wonderful school at Southwest middle School, I have a happy child and I will forever be grateful.

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My Middle School ExperienceThis year has been a pretty great year so far. I have good

teachers and good friends and they all understand me. As time passes, days get better and better. my greatest friend is Olivia. She is very nice and kind. I have four very special teachers: ms. Boatman, ms. Whitsett, ms. Wygal, and ms. Wiggins. They are all very kind to me. ms. Whitsett I think is my favorite because she knows how much I like mushrooms and she lets me talk about them and even draw pictures of them. She helps me with things that I don’t understand and makes it easier for me to understand. She is more like a friend to me than a teacher. I try hard not to ever give any of my teachers trouble especially ms. Whitsett.

ms. Boatman is my homeroom teacher. She is very nice to me also. She really understands my problems and tries to help me when things get hard.

There are some kids who are mean to me. They always think that I am annoying and they tell me to shut up. It makes me feel terrible and angry on the inside but I try not to keep that feeling very long because it could affect me in my surroundings.

ms. Whitsett helped me learn not to let anyone get me down. I try really hard even when I am upset to think about better things. Every day that I go into ms. Boatman’s class and ms. Whitsett’s class I give them both a hug because it makes them feel good and I want them to be happy because they make me happy inside.

Having Asperger probably won’t be fun in life but it’s who I am inside that matters. So being different is not always a bad thing. There is a bright side to being different. The world would not be very much fun if everybody was the same. Even though some kids might make fun of me I know that I have friends and teachers that care about me and I can talk to them. I know that I can even talk to my Principal mr. Denny and he will understand. Southwest middle School is the best school.

I’m ok with the fact that some kids have an easier time doing things because I am not going to be upset or jealous of them. I feel happy for other kids when they can do things that I can’t. I feel happy with what I have and for the things that I can do well.

I will cherish this school year for a very long time because I have a lot of friends and a lot of teachers who like me.

I have Ford for math and science. He is a special young man. He is very bright, especially in science. I always tell him that he’s my little scientist and is going to make an excellent science professor one day!

Ford loves to share his knowledge with his classmates and me. Although he could teach us all kinds of things about mushrooms and decomposers (his favorite), rocks and minerals, plants and animals, the best and most precious thing that Ford teaches us all is love.

Ford treats everyone he meets with love and respect. He doesn’t get jealous of others or have pity on himself because he is different. Instead, Ford embraces who he is, knowing that who he is on the inside is what matters most.

Ford speaks so highly of his teachers and friends here at Southwest middle School and talks about how lucky he is to have them. However, it is we who are truly blessed by knowing him.

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Searcy High School’s reputation as a soccer power keeps growing. The boys’ teams have won the last four 6A state championships in a row, and the girls’ teams have won 6A state championships three out of the last four years.

The coaches give a lot of credit for their teams’ successes to Searcy’s city sports program, which has included soccer since the 1990s. Walter “Bronco” King, soccer coach for the Searcy High boys’ team, said that soccer players who begin playing the game as children are well-developed players by the time they reach high school. “The city coaches give the kids experience and knowledge,” he said.

The 2010 boys’ team had four all-state players, four all-conference players, four second-team all-conference players, and an honorable-mention player.

Coach King said that prospects for the 2011 season this spring are good, with nine starting players among the 12 seniors who are returning. “We have three quality captains in Isai Garcia, Steven Seitz, and Andrew moore,” Coach King said. “We have good experience and leadership.” He will have a varsity squad of 20 players and a junior varsity squad of 17.

Coach King gets help in coaching the players from Randy Harriman, an assistant who has been with the team since its inception. Harriman is a sports trainer and helps in the spring with afternoon practices.

Other team helpers are Dr. Bill Gibbs and Robert West. Dr. Gibbs has helped for 11 years, since the second year of Searcy High’s soccer program. He and Robert West work with boys in city competition in the fall in order to get them ready to help the high school team during the spring. Bill Gibbs also helps with spring practices after school. Joe Giezeman helped coach goalkeepers in 2009-2010.

Coach King expects that teams in the conference from mountain Home, Jonesboro, Texarkana, and El Dorado will try hard to keep Searcy from winning a fifth straight state championship this year. non-conference teams who will be strong competitors for Searcy are Bryant and Cabot.

Cindy Emfinger, who started the Searcy High girls’ soccer program and was head girls’ team coach during the 2007 and 2008 state championship years, agrees that Searcy’s “excellent youth soccer program benefits high school soccer.” She said that in her 10 years of coaching, the girls’ “worked hard and gave the game everything they had.”

She remembers the 2007 and 2008 teams as “ blessed with great skills and heart.” She is pleased that four girls from those teams are

now playing college soccer at Harding, Langston, the University of Arkansas at Little Rock, and the University of Central Arkansas.

Larry Stamps, who was the assistant girls’ soccer coach for five years, is now coaching the girls’ team. In 2009, the Searcy girls’ team was the runner-up to mountain Home for the 6A state championship. The Searcy girls bounced back in 2010 to take their third 6A state championship in four years. Two of the girls were all-state players, and eight were all-conference. mcKenzie Clark was the most valuable 6A player in the state in 2010.

Coach Stamps is grateful that his athletes get to “play all the time in the off-season” and that they get good experience by playing in the city soccer program before playing in high school. “Starting in the Searcy sports program makes a world of difference,” he said.

Six seniors on the 2010 team have graduated, and Coach Stamps is holding try-outs to replace them. Prospects for the 2011 team include two players who have moved into the Searcy district and two promising freshmen. Coach Stamps expects girls’ teams from mountain Home and Jonesboro to be Searcy’s main competitors in the conference this year.

John moon assists Coach Stamps by working with the team’s defense, and Bart mcFarland runs drills in practice and helps goalkeepers. Joe Giezeman helped train goalkeepers in 2009 and 2010.

The Searcy High School soccer teams get good support from Searcy. One father of a soccer player who graduated in 2010 said, “So many people really care.”

Chuck Oliveto, whose son, Trey, was a senior on last year’s boys’ team, organized events such as “Senior night” after the last home game. Senior players and their parents were introduced and the seniors announced where they were going to college. There was also a soccer banquet at the end of the school year. During the season, Oliveto contacted families about changes in game times and also furnished other information that the coaches wanted them to have. Both Coach King and Coach Stamps were impressed that parents made snack bags for the players to enjoy on soccer trips.

Coaches, players, parents, and many other fans are hoping for another state championship season for both Searcy High School soccer teams in 2011.

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Walter “Bronco” King, coach of the Searcy High School boys’ soccer team

Larry Stamps, coach of the Searcy High School girls’ soccer team

The Searcy High School girls’ soccer team and their coaches smile after winning the 6A state championship in 2010.

Coach Walter “Bronco” King and the Searcy High School boys’ soccer team display the latest 6A state championship trophy that they have won.


In OctOber of 2007, David mathews, pulpit minister for the Downtown Church of Christ in Searcy, Arkansas, and his wife Debbie were heartbroken as they watched their son Adam and his wife Rebekka grieve the loss of their newborn son Josiah. Having spent 35 years in ministry working with those in crisis, David and Debbie were determined to find a way to help those suffering from devastating loss. They teamed up with Houston area businessman Roger Thiltgen, who unexpectedly lost his 17-year-old son, Jeffery, in 1999. Joined by Roger’s wife Sarah, the team began to dream of providing help for those who have experienced devastating loss, and The Spark of Life Foundation was born.

The Spark of Life Foundation is a 501(c)3, non-profit organization that hosts a 4 day, 3 night retreat at Tanglewood resort on Lake Texoma. Participants engage in intensive group interaction and specific exercises addressing grief that are geared towards individual support. David and Debbie mathews, along with Rusty and nancy meadows, facilitate all retreats. Both couples are certified grief recovery specialists.

The retreat, in addition to being informative, is also meant for relaxation, rejuvenation, and reflection. Participants enjoy temporary escape from the everyday stresses and concerns in the beautiful wooded shoreline of Lake Texoma. All of this is done to restore hope that although life may never be the same after a devastating loss, it can still be rich and fulfilling.

Retreats are also open to those who work with grievers and wish to learn more about how to effectively help those hurting. ministers, church leaders, and therapists add a great deal to the retreat weekend, and are then able to return home better equipped to help those in need.

The Foundation’s commitment to healing is so strong that they believe no grieving heart should be denied the experience of a Spark of Life retreat due to lack of funds. There is absolutely no charge for those who attend. All food, lodging, and materials are provided. The only expense participants incur is the cost of travel to the resort. Although the majority of participants who attend have lost children, Spark of Life realizes loss occurs in many different ways, and any who are hurting due to loss are welcome to the retreats.

Judy Hoggard, who serves on the Board of Directors, and her husband Phil, Elder at the Downtown Church of Christ in Searcy, lost their own son Jay in 1992. The couple has been an integral part of the foundation since it’s beginning. During this difficult time in their lives, they found that help available for those grieving was inadequate. Judy notes that, “There were few resources for families, especially couples, to deal with a loss of that magnitude. I

wish a resource like Spark of Life had been available to us during those days.”

The Foundation has seen significant growth during the past year. “The response we have received has been incredible,” says mathews, who also serves as Executive Director for the Foundation. “We’ve been blessed by the opportunity to touch lives, and blessed by those who want to financially contribute to what we’re doing. God is doing a great work here, and we hope more people will want to become involved.”

The Spark of Life Foundation not only hopes that hurting individuals and families come and attend their retreats, but also that generous donors can be found to allow continued healing in the lives of those who are hurting.

For more information about Spark of Life, to register for a retreat, or to make a donation, call 501-207-1368, or visit them on the web at www.sparkoflife.org.

Contact: mike Woodall, Lead Consultant FaithWorks Consulting Group

[email protected]

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I n October our beagle buried my husband Randy’s wallet in the backyard; we were certain of it. He was notorious for this behavior, having lost clothing, remote controls and glasses in

the past. However, in spite of all our attempts to find the wallet, including raking, digging, etc., we had not been able to locate it. All the contents were replaceable with the exception of Randy’s son Aaron’s ID. He has carried it with him since Aaron passed away a few years ago and was very upset about losing it. I cannot tell you how many times he searched the backyard for it.

One morning not long ago, Randy was in the backyard picking up toys and noticed something on the ground, only to pick it up and find that it was Aaron’s ID. He looked around and found a few pieces of the wallet and a few more chewed up cards. The only one unharmed was the ID. now for the God Wink... Aaron died 10 years before on that same date! Finding that ID has turned a very sad day into one that has shown us how God can still bring a smile to our hearts.

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.”— Henry Ellis

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n the last twelve months, White County has had two deaths due to domestic violence. The answer to preventing these senseless deaths seems easy to outsiders.

“Why doesn’t she simply leave her abusive husband? Leaving should be easy, shouldn’t it?” But, according to the White County Domestic violence Prevention on its Hope Cottage website (http://hopecottage.info):

“It is safer for her to stay than it is for her to leave. Because the batterer needs to control his victim completely, he cannot allow her to leave the relationship. He loses his control if she is not present. This is the most dangerous time for her, and when most women are killed by their abusers. Her risk of serious injury or death increases 75% when she leaves or tries to leave.”

As the Executive Director of the White County Domestic

violence Prevention Kaye Candlish knows those statistics all too well. The non-profit agency, organized to serve White County victims of domestic violence, owns and operates Hope Cottage, “a shelter for battered women and their children who are fleeing abusive relationships.” The WCDVP first began in 1995 and one year later, recognizing the need for a shelter where local women could seek refuge, Hope Cottage opened in a temporary location. The present site opened a few years later in an undisclosed location to protect the women seeking shelter there.

“When people think of a shelter, they get the image of a warehouse with wall-to-wall bunk beds,” Candlish says. But for those who have been to Hope Cottage for the first time, they always express astonishment, noting the shelter is not what they had pictured. Great care has been taken to make sure Hope Cottage gives off a homey atmosphere with bright colors decorating the walls and bed linens. After all, the shelter is a refuge and its temporary residents should be made to feel welcome, at peace and, most of all, secure.

Feeling secure is something most of the women (95% of the time victims are female) who come to Hope Cottage have not felt in some time. Abuse knows no boundaries: affluent, poor, young, old, married, dating, non-educated, and degreed. Unfortunately, it may take the typical victim 7 – 16 attempts before the victim will make leaving their abuser permanent. Despite the emotional, economic, psychological and physical abuse exerted on the

victim by her abuser, fear for her life or that of her children’s lives prevents many victims from leaving. She may blame herself, feel unable to make a move due to financial dependency, or she simply believes she has no one or nowhere to turn. It is vitally important for women to know that there ARE options.

Hope Cottage maintains a 24 hour hotline: 501-278-HOPE (4673) and confidentiality is paramount. Anyone can call and they can do so collect. Normally, that is the first point of contact with victims. “many victims will even call back several times before they come in,” Kaye relates. “They can’t just walk out [their] door. If they tried to break [away], they will pay for it if they return. They establish trust with us [by calling more than once.]” Hospitals and police will also call Hope Cottage on behalf of victims and the staff is happy to make that trip to pick up those women to provide a new beginning, a new hope.

Some women have a little window of time to plan their “escape” – he’s not around, so she has time to pack a case and make the call. That is not, however, the norm. Some women have left with little warning, at a moment’s notice, showing up with literally nothing but a nightgown or less than a dollar to their name. While most women are between the ages of 16 to 24, one of the oldest victims was in her late 70s. For older victims time has not stopped the abuse, rather the abuser just doesn’t have to exert himself as much to keep her in control as he did in the earlier years.

while many women come alone, women are welcome to bring their children to Hope Cottage. The facility has four bedrooms, allowing the staff to assign each woman who comes to them a bedroom; however, during peak times (the facility normally averages 8 women each month) guests may be asked to share a bedroom. Kaye explains those times of shared space, “We’re not going to tell anyone, ‘Sorry, we’re full.’ If someone is in danger, I may have to tell them, ‘I have sleeping bags’ or ‘You may have to sleep on the floor or a sofa,’ but we’re not going to leave them out there in danger.” The women do their own cooking and cleaning and are responsible for their own children’s care, but they also find themselves working out chore schedules with other women in the shelter to alternate their duties and help lighten the loads.

most women stay 30 days or less. Attorneys in Searcy and at the Center for Legal Services in Little Rock have volunteered their services to represent victims in pro bono divorce cases and help is provided in obtaining protection orders. The part-time staff of seven volunteers assists in numerous ways: moral support, onsite

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support at the facility, assisting in job searches, organizing classes in interviews and social skills and money management, as well as transporting guests to various appointments.

Since its opening, Hope Cottage has housed between 1,500 to 2,000 individuals and the success stories are what drive the volunteers to aid each person that calls for help. Seeing former victims become self-reliant, self-sufficient single parents supporting their children in a safe home environment makes it all worthwhile. Hence the reason Hope Cottage’s doors are open every single day of the year including holidays, 24 hours a day.

Looking for a way to make a difference in Searcy and White County? Hope Cottage certainly never turns down financial donations, but non-monetary donations providing everything these women might need while in the shelter and beyond are vital. The most needed items are whatever you might need to run a household: housewares, dishes, flatware, sheets, towels, cleaning supplies, paper towels, toilet paper, feminine pads and diapers. But, perhaps the biggest need at Hope Cottage is volunteers. While volunteers are carefully screened due to the vulnerability and privacy issues involved in the work there, little else could be as rewarding in helping to change someone’s life. Part-time volunteers are needed to man the hotline, transport women and children, read and play with the children whose lives have been turned upside with fear, anxiety and anger.

Call the hotline at 501-278-HOPE (4673) to donate your time, even an hour each week, to donate supplies or to donate money. But, most especially, please call the hotline at 501-278-HOPE (4673) if you are a victim of domestic abuse. There is hope for a better life and it begins at Hope Cottage.

Paper TowelsBatteries ( AA, D)Furniture PolishDish Soap BleachSpray DisinfectantUnderwear ( 12 and up)Floor CleanerPocket CalendarsAlarm ClocksZiploc Bags

Bar SoapBody WashDisposable Latex Free Vinyl GlovesCoffeeLaundry DetergentFlashlightsKitchen/Bathroom CleanerTrash BagsNon Perishable Food Items:(Canned goods, cereal, macaroni and cheese, tuna...etc.)

hope Cottage can always use the following donations:

You can bring the donations to the Searcy Livng business office at 812 S. Main St. and we can call Hope Cottage to pick them up. PLEASE mark on bags or boxes

that the donation is for Hope Cottage.

Golf tournament Support Hope Cottage by sponsoring a team

or hole at our annual Golf Tournament! Go to SearcyLiving.com for more information about

this and other charitable tournaments.

A display on the court-house lawn, recently,

featured silhouettes: each one representing a lost life due to domestic violence in

Arkansas.


The Searcy Living Foster Care Boutique is simply a room in the Searcy Living business office where you - the community - can drop off donations for foster children and others in need, and DHS case workers and foster parents can stop by at their convenience and pick up clothes for these children. Our office is located at 812 S. Main St. in Searcy.

Most Needed:

• Socks and under clothing

• Size 5-8 pants - girls

• Volunteers to sort. We always need volunteers

to sort and if you are available please do

not call - just show up during our volunteer hours. Our volunteer

hours are between 1pm and 5pm.

Hope...Believe

Edwin Sherwood and Leena Doolabh volunteer tosort and organize the Foster Care Boutique.

Thank you again to the First Christian Church in Searcy! They

have been an invaluable resource to the Foster Care Boutique!

Thank you to all of our camera

shy donors and volunteers!

Thank you to the youth from one of the Methodist Churches in Searcy for volunteering to sort clothing.

Thank you for the donation from Family & Friends Consignment *

Gifts * Furniture

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For a daytime or weekend trip close to home, there are few places more lovely to travel than mountain view, Arkansas. It has become our favorite place to visit on days when we have nothing planned but being together, which is our favorite thing to “be.” mountain view offers more than just a scenic drive and Folk music, although those are two of the most popular reasons to travel there. I’ll give you a “trip on a thankful” from the “Leckie perspective.”

Whether you like swimming in a clear creek, picnics in the park, the best pizza in the state of Arkansas, shopping in “junk-tique” stores around the downtown square, or listening to live music on the courthouse lawn, mountain view is a great destination. Head north on Hwy. 16, going straight through the one stop sign in Pangburn. Travel about a mile past Wilburn school, where you’ll turn right on Dry mountain Road. Dry mountain Road ends at a stop sign (which appears to be pretty much out in the middle of nowhere), where you’ll continue straight across the road to a dirt road (maybe ¼ of a mile long). At the end of that dirt road, you’ll come to another stop sign at Hwy. 25 (Heber Springs Road north). Take a right on Hwy. 25 and travel through Drasco. Don’t blink or you’ll miss Drasco! A few miles past Drasco you’ll come to Wolf Bayou where you’ll turn left on mountain view Road (Hwy. 5). This highway is curvy and hilly, but the closer you get to mountain view, the more pleasant the drive becomes because the highway is smooth and new. Once at Mountain View, finding your way around is simple. People from the area are kind and willing to give directions to wherever you want to visit.

Our favorite places to visit are Sylamore Creek (Creek swimming at its finest! Small fee per carload to swim in the crystal clear water. Large bath houses with HOT water and also

pavillion for picnics), Blanchard Springs Caverns (largest living cave in the world, I think; fee per person to go on a guided tour; take a sweater or jacket as it’s very chilly feeling in the summer), Tommy’s Famous Pizza (THE best pizza in the state; the owner is from memphis, and he’s quite colorful; they only serve pizza and BBQ; open at 3 P.m.; very casual), and the city park, where you can picnic or swing, or walk around the beautiful steps to the natural amphitheater and music on the courthouse square (Saturday evenings beginning at about 7 P.m.). There’s also an Ozark Folk Center where you can experience the art and music of mountain view and also a unique store called The Iron Works. We normally go straight from Tommy’s Famous to the courthouse square, buy ice cream from one of the several food vendors located near the courthouse and just walk around, listening to the different styles of music. People bring their own instruments and sometimes play ’til the wee hours of the morning. Be sure you bring a lawn chair if you plan on listening for long. There are also shops where instruments are sold if you get there early enough (even one with a friendly cat that looks like part of a merchandising display). There are common places to eat as well (for those who aren’t quite so brave) such as Sonic, Hardee’s, and Pizza Hut, as well as retail stores such as Walmart Supercenter.

You can travel through Heber Springs if you prefer to drive more, but the “shortcut” prescribed above should only take about an hour and 15 minutes. If you’ve never been to mountain View, you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find this treasure in your own backyard. Happy travels!

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Okay, so how does a church with a $100,000 a year budget manage to support outreach programs totaling more than 22% of its income? How does it go from giving 3% to 22% plus? This is what we did at First Christian Church.

The first thing is to always remember that most things which are worthwhile don’t happen overnight. We who seek changes need to be very patient in our desires. Until others see the same vision we have, we will only frustrate ourselves if we think we can force our views upon them.

We must formulate a plan of action that will lead to the results that we understand God would have us accomplish as a local church. In our case, we started with a modest list of programs which we would include in our annual budget and then established an annual amount for each one. As the desire of the congregation was to help families locally, this was where the bulk of our initial budgeted support was directed.

The leadership of our church understood that outreach can never fully be limited, but should have a universal basis, which is first local, then state, then national and finally to an international basis. Ultimately, it was up to us to prayerfully discern the direction of the financial support we provided.

Our next step was to promote our vision to our congregation. We did this through our Sunday school, worship services, and monthly newsletters. not only do we encourage our congregation to tithe, but to give love offerings to those specific ministries which have a special meaning to them personally.

As stated previously, it takes time for people to catch the vision. We began with only three budgeted programs that we supported. That list has increased to currently eight programs, plus a gradual increase in the total amount budgeted. Because we do support some programs that are not a budgeted ministry, we actually provide assistance to fourteen ministries, besides such things as spiritual support and care packages to some service personnel serving in combat zones.

Last year we had over $22,000 in budgeted funds and love offerings go toward meeting outreach needs. Our desire is to be righteous stewards of what God has provided. Among those receiving these outreach funds are the following:

The purpose of Christian giving is the same as the purpose of Christian living. We were “created for the glory of God” (Isaiah 43:7). We are to “do all for the glory of God” (I Corinthians 10:31).

Christian living must include Christian giving! Genuine Christians, who are submitting themselves to the Lordship of Jesus Christ and are listening to God in obedience, cannot help but express the character of God’s nature in giving. There will be no need to beg or persuade these Christians to give. no genuine Christian can say, “Well, it’s just not my nature to give.” As Christians we are “partakers of the divine nature” (II Peter 1:4), and God’s nature is a giving nature. As God lives in us He gives through us. Such is Christian giving, the expression of God’s grace!

“Oh, no! The preacher’s talking about money again. Hold on to your pocketbooks. It seems like that is all the preacher talks about these days... money, money, money!”

To even address the subject of Christian giving causes some people to be leery of the motivations and intents of the speaker or author. “What is his angle? What is in it for him?” It is tragic that such a glorious privilege as Christian giving should

By Wes Keith

Before getting into this article concerning the importance of churches supporting local needs physically and financially, there are several points I want the reader to clearly understand. The first is that as a member of the body of Christ, each congregation must do what it is directed to do by the Holy Spirit. Secondly, there are many ways in which the body can accomplish God’s will for it. And finally we do not claim to have the ‘magic formula’ for you, but humbly submit that what we have done has worked for us. ~Wes Keith

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be cast into such suspicion by the misrepresentation of the subject in many religious environments today. Yes, there are a host of hustlers competing for the Christian dollar. That is why we should know what and to whom our tithes and love offerings go.

Since God is the owner and giver of all things, we are but trustees, managers, stewards of Another’s goods. God entrusts some things to us... whatever He can trust us with. It is not “my” home, “my” car, “my” money, or even “my” child. I must avoid being “possessive.” I am just a trustee of God’s possessions. In fact, I do not even “possess” salvation or eternal life; if I did I most likely would misuse or lose it. Christ, who is “Life” (John 14:6) and is the Savior, possesses me! I am just a vessel for the functionality of God, the function of the Creator within the creature.

The God who is operative in me is a giving God. His operative nature of giving is called “grace.” Christian giving is an expression of God’s giving nature expressed through His people unto His glory. This means that Christian giving is not merit-giving. It is not something I do that so pleases God that it prompts Him to get into action. Our giving does not make merit-points with God. We cannot buy spiritual favors with God. no one can buy their way into life or into heaven or into God’s good favor. no one can “pay off” their guilt of sin and self-concern with guilt payments.

In matthew chapter 6, Jesus makes it clear that we are never to give to make a show! Then in matthew chapter 25, we are reminded that we who do well in giving to our needy brothers and sisters in fact did it for Jesus. my hope and prayer is that all Christians will look prayerfully at the way we are helping the needy of our world.

Wes Keith is the Pastor of First Christian Church, Searcy, Arkansas.

T he vW Club in Searcy has just three members, but it is ready to grow. So, if you are interested in volkswagens, you might like to join David English,

Jeff Spearn, and Leroy Young at the new Pizza Hut at 6 p.m. on the first Tuesday of a month. Each of these three charter members have restored classic cars that they drive and take to vW shows. They love their Beetles.

Beetle fans owe something to an old nazi enemy, Adolph Hitler, for vWs coming into being. As early as 1933, Hitler wanted a car that would carry five people, go 62 miles an hour, travel 33 miles on a gallon of gas, and cost only 1,000 German marks. Ferdinand Porsche, who was not a nazi, designed a four-cylinder, 22.5-horsepower engine for Hitler’s specifications, and volkswagens were commissioned to be built in 1942-1943.

David English has two 1970s vWs. One is a 1971 Type 3 (Square Back) car that looks like a station wagon. A couple of years ago, he saw that a volkswagen was for sale in Michigan. He flew up there, bought the car, and drove it back to Searcy. It is a 1974 Super Beetle, also known as a Karmann Ghia. He says it is low to the ground and has a stronger engine and a wider wheel base than his other vW. He is working on the Karmann Ghia this winter.

His older VW placed first in five car shows in 2010. In a car show at Jonesboro, all three Searcy vW Club members were winners.

“my volkswagen convertible is fun to drive,” David said. “Working on a Beetle is a self-rewarding experience. Parts are easy to get, and you don’t have to be a mechanic (to do the work).”

Jeff Spearn’s 1957 ragtop volkswagen has been featured on the cover of “volks World” magazine. It has been judged Best of Show in many competitions. Jeff bought the car 15 years ago from a farmer who had the car in his corn crib in Iowa. “It was going to the trash dump when I bought it,” Jeff said.

It took Jeff about 12 months to restore the half-century-old car. He has modified it so that it has 200 horsepower instead of its original 36, and a five-speed transmission instead of four-speed. He has also built in a fifth gear into its transmission. You would be correct if you have concluded that Jeff must be an engineer. He works for Eaton in Searcy. David English said that Jeff Spearn is known in vW circles around the country for his engineering prowess.

When he goes drag racing, Spearn can cover a quarter-mile in 12.98 seconds. His vW can go 106 miles per hour. Jeff said that the car has been featured in two magazines: “Hot

vW” and “volks World,” an international magazine. There’s no doubt that he did an excellent job in restoring a car that was headed for the junk yard. When asked if the car is now one of the best of its kind in the country, Jeff replied, “It’s one of the better cars in the mid-West.” He goes to 20 or so vW shows a year, and he wins the top prize about 90 percent of the time.

He said, “There is a family atmosphere in being around vW folks. You enjoy the fellowship, and everyone has a story to tell.”

Leroy Young was just 18 when he got a 1955 Beetle in 1961. He drove it until he traded it in on a new 1966 vW, which he drove for six years. In 1972, he bought a new Super Beetle. He still has it.

He said that he and his wife, Rachel, were proud of their new car and kept it in their drive-in basement in Springfield, MO. “It sat for three days,” Leroy said. “Then our oldest son, who was three or four at that time, found a paint brush and painted the right side of the car green.” Fortunately, the paint was latex and came off without too much trouble.

In 1973, Leroy hooked a camper trailer behind his

vW and took his family on a great American vacation. They visited the Grand Canyon in Colorado, Las vegas in nevada, and Disneyland in California. It was quite a trip, and the vW performed beautifully.

“You can work on a volkswagen because they still make the parts,” Leroy said. He thinks it might be possible for a person to build a car from parts that can be ordered. He also excels in competition. In November, he got a first-place in the 1969-and-newer custom class in a show at Fort Worth. He has also done well at recent shows at Conway and Eureka Springs in Arkansas and in Springfield, Missouri.

(From left to right in the photo: Leroy Young, Jeff Spearn, and David English and their vWs.)

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Fashion Colors this season

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large scarf. Especially favored in men’s lines.

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The photo shoot was so much fun. Thank you Kimberly Brackins for the wonderful pictures.

Thanks to all of you for letting me experience such a wonderful day.”

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by Carly Kester

“There was nobody there. There has always been somebody there to greet me. After every trip I’ve taken, it’s either been Ma or Pops, a friend, a girlfriend, or, once, even a professor. But not that night. Nope. All that welcomed me was the humid evening air of Charleston, South Carolina, the rancid smell of urine leaking from the stalls of the train station’s restrooms, and a scruffy looking man gripping a plastic cup half full with coins. That night, I was greeted by a totally new world.”

These are the opening lines in Adam Shepard’s book “Scratch Beginnings.” Shepard graduated from merrimack College in 2006. Shortly after graduation, he went on an adventure to determine whether the “American Dream” is real or unattainable. Fed up with people his age complaining about how little they had in life, he decided to do an experiment that would show what it took to work his way up to being “self-sufficient.”

He left his hometown with nothing but $25, a duffel bag, sleeping bag and the clothes he was wearing. In order for him to be successful, he would have to obtain a furnished apartment, a car and $2,500 in one year.

Along the way, he lives in a homeless shelter with all types of people, works at a job picking up dog poop, works construction in ridiculously hot weather, eventually gets a moving job, where he makes enough money to finally move into the attic of someone’s house, and eventually moves into an apartment with a roommate with little consideration for his personal belongings.

In just six months, Adam completes his goal, having an apartment, a truck that works, although it can be started with a screwdriver, and a little over $5,000. There are people out there who have taken control of their life situations and made them into something so much bigger and better than before.

One example of someone taking a risk to accomplish a goal is Bill Gates. Gates started out at Harvard learning skills in computer science but took a risk by dropping out to pursue software development. Shortly after, he helped develop a programming

language that was bought by mITS (micro Instrumentation and Telemetry Systems).

Henry Ford is another instance of success through hard work. He failed twice at establishing a motor company before he was finally able to help develop an industry with one of the first assembly lines in 1903. Ford’s perseverance and innovation paid off when nearly half of Americans were driving his cars in 1918.

Stories like these should inspire us to work hard to accomplish our goals. Even though it is scary to leave everything you know behind in order to start a new experience, you shouldn’t be afraid to take risks to do great things.

I experienced this feeling firsthand when I started going to Harding as a freshman. I knew, literally, a couple of people who went to Harding. I basically had to start over: make new friends, develop new relationships, learn how to follow college class schedules and adjust to being about 600 miles from home.

now that I’m a senior, I realize that my coming to Harding was one of the most important decisions I’ve ever made. While I’ve been homesick for the majority of my time in Arkansas, it has forced me to mature and learn how to take care of myself instead of rely on my parents to support me.

Probably the most important things I’ve gained are the friendships I’ve made. I couldn’t imagine not knowing the people who I’ve become friends with over the last four years. And if I’d gone to a state school in Indiana like my high school friends were doing, I probably would’ve focused on my friendships with them instead of getting outside my comfort zone and making new relationships.

Fed up with people his age complaining about how little they had in life, he decided to do an

experiment that would show what it took to work his way up to being “self-sufficient.

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If I had gotten too scared to come here, I never would have had the same learning experiences or the chance to realize more about who I am, and I definitely wouldn’t have gotten to develop my faith as much as I have.

What I’m trying to say is, don’t let your fears paralyze you into not doing something new. If everybody let fear control them, we wouldn’t have microsoft or Ford today.

Also, don’t be afraid to fail; failing is what comes before learning experiences. Even if you’re setting out to do something that might seem trivial, don’t get discouraged if you fail a few times before you reach your goal. After all, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Obtaining certain goals is not easy, especially if it involves changing yourself or your life situation. I’m sure Adam Shepard would tell you that it takes determination, hard work and planning to reach goals you set for yourself. But, if you are doing what you were meant to do in life, you will succeed.

Everyone has a purpose. You might not know what your purpose is yet, but just because you’re not a doctor or a lawyer or a surgeon doesn’t mean you can’t make a difference in your own life and in the lives of others. You can change someone’s life by being a garbage man, a janitor or a cashier at mcDonald’s. All it takes is a kind word or a bright smile. And who knows? Maybe you could influence the next Adam Shepard.

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Millions of people are fighting every day for a chance at living the American Dream.

And it begins at a young age. Some are blessed to be born into fortunate living circumstances, while others are dragging behind from the beginning. Some virtually have their futures laid out for them, while others need to do a little more searching. Sure, there comes a time where each person must step up and take control of their own destiny, however there are measures

that can be taken to expedite that process.

Charities abound. Everywhere. So many people want to help.They give time, money…whatever resources they can offer.

And others don’t.

It’s time for more people to step up, to release their inner hero. no donations wanted. Just time. 2, 3 hours a week is all it takes, and you can make a HUGE difference in the life of a

child. Take him or her to a ballgame, to the movies, to shoot hoops. Read to them, help them with their homework, teach them algebra (and then teach me). You’re gonna love it.

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Have you ever heard the expression, “He’s as old as me-thuselah!”? Genesis 5:27 tells how old that is: methuselah lived to be 969 years old. Now, the first question that runs through a person’s mind is, how is that possible? Did they have special food or something good to drink? Was he on a special exercise program? Or maybe he used one of those special drugs from a drug company to maintain his long life. The first part of the answer to that question is that in any era of history, God set the limiting factor on how long someone could live. We do not really know the limiting age set by God at that time or if anyone lived to be older than this, be-cause it just does not say. It is also pretty evident by looking around us today that the age limit has been set considerably lower, since no one seems to be living beyond the 120 years achieved by Jeanne Calment listed in the Guinness book of records.

The second limiting factor of living a good long life would be obeying the laws of the universe set forth by God. This would range from obeying parents to not testing gravity by jumping off a 1,000-foot cliff. It is also as basic as the things we eat and drink. Genesis 1:29 says, “And God said, ‘Be-hold, I have given you every herb-bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the Earth, and every tree, which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.’” This appears to be another universal law that was estab-lished early on in history for the survival of a long, healthy life. It is interesting to note that as I was looking for infor-mation regarding methuselah, I did not see any information regarding companies like Bayer, Pfizer, Johnson & Johnson, or novartis for the secret to a long, healthy life.

At this point, you may be wondering where I’m headed on this line of thinking, so just follow me on this... Let’s say patient A comes in. During the course of discussing how to maintain and heal the body, I mention herbs or whole food and whole food supplements to aid the body in healing. Pa-tient A may stare at me with a glassy look of disbelief and might even appear to have seen the green-eyed monster. People have been brainwashed so long that they do not feel that we can live a long healthy life unless we are constantly bombarded with drugs. One person summed it up very well by saying it this way, “The misinformation has been there so long the truth no longer sounds logical.” Hippocrates, the father of the medical profession, was credited with saying, “Food is my medicine.” So, it’s evident that he didn’t pair food with the green-eyed monster.

I am not saying that I am in favor of going back to the horse and buggy instead of riding in airplanes, nor am I say-ing that there is not great value in medicine in our current society. I will go further to say that it would be hypocritical of me to say so, since we use the services of excellent medi-cal providers and use medication when necessary. However, it is equally crazy when we throw out the natural laws set forth by God. In an article by Barbara Starfield, MD (en-titled, “Is the United States’ Health Really the Best in the World?”), Dr. Starfield states that there are at least 225,000 deaths per year due to medical treatment; and further states this is the third leading cause of death in the United States. Her findings were published in the Journal of the American medical Association. Could it be that the odd look we give when thinking of herbs in healing so effectively planted in our minds is driven by the almighty dollar? A survey of the top 20 drug companies in 2008 revealed that the earnings reached 500 billion dollars for that year. Do you think they want us using herbs and whole foods in healing?

After a survey of the Bible and reading Dr. Starfield’s re-port, I’m lead to believe that the answer to the title of this article is that methuselah did nOT partake of the products of a drug company to live his long and healthy life. The whole point of the article is to get people back to using their mind, and understanding that God has put special things on this Earth for our use and to promote health and vitality. It does not lessen the benefits of healthcare in our day and time, nor does it diminish the value of herbs and food. They both can coexist in our society for the betterment of all who will use them properly.

Health with Timothy R. Kamerman, D.C.

About the WriterDr. Tim Kamerman is the founder of The Chiropractic Care Clinic on Hawkins Drive in Searcy. If you have any questions, comments, or would like to schedule an appointment with Dr. Kamerman, please call (501)268-2273.

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On The CoverOn the cover, newlyweds Jonathan and Beverly

Edwards reside in Searcy. They were married in October of 2010 and enjoy bicycling and the outdoors together. Jonathan is a marriage and family therapist while Beverly is owner of B.E. Weddings and an Administrative Assistant at Downtown Church here in Searcy.

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A memorial to five local officers who gave their lives defending their homes, families and neighbors is being erected on the grounds of the White County Law Enforcement Center, to be built entirely by donations. The total cost of the monument is expected to be $6000.00. County officials have approved placement of the memorial on county property at the front entrance of the sheriff’s office.

Donations can be mailed to Lt. Jeff Langley at the White County Law Enforcement Center, 1600 E. Booth Rd., Searcy, AR 72143. For more information call him at 279-6279.

The following is information about the five officers in White County who have died in the line of duty:

J.D. HastingsOn September 7, 1899, Beebe City marshall J.D. Hastings died from wounds suffered days earlier (September 3, 1899) when stabbed by a drunken man. Hastings was not able to fend off the attack while trying to arrest the suspect. Abe Pipkin At 4:30 a.m., April 5, 1977, Beebe City marshall Abe Pipkin, 71, was found by a newspaper carrier after being hit about 20 times with a blunt object by a burglary suspect at Dotson’s Pharmacy, 110 north main. Pipkin died en route to a Little Rock hospital. Daniel Phillip LongstreetDaniel Phillip “Danny” Longstreet was assassinated on the morning of march 14, 1997, while sitting in his patrol car in Higginson, where he was a police officer. The shooter silenced Longstreet to keep the officer from testifying against him in another case. John ZieglerJohn Ziegler, constable of Bald Knob Township, was killed in a traffic accident march 19, 1998, while responding to a call of a child in respiratory distress. George Clifford Griffin Sr.On June 17, 2005, George Clifford Griffin, 48, was on his way to assist another officer when his patrol car collided with another automobile. Griffin, a deputy with the White County Sheriff’s Office, died June 21st in the hospital.

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