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Dating Relationships. Grade 12 Family Studies. Dating vs. Courtship. In the past instead of dating, couples courted. Courtship is all about looking for a marital partner. What is dating?. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Dating RelationshipsGrade 12 Family Studies
Dating vs. Courtship In the past instead of dating, couples
courted. Courtship is all about looking for a
marital partner.
What is dating? Spending leisure time together for the
sake of enjoyment, without any intention to marry in the near future.
Stages in a Dating Relationship› Random Dating: no commitment beyond
date itself› Casual Dating: still no commitments but
expectations exist about spending more time together.
› Steady Dating: monogamy
Why do we date? Socialization
› To develop appropriate social skills.› To practice getting along with others in different
settings. Recreation
› To have fun and enjoy the companionship of others.
› To try new and different activities. Mate Selection
› To see others in many different settings.› To compare the personality and characteristics
of many people.
Attraction What is it that attracts you to someone
else? Dependent on a number of factors:
› Family background: Interests and personality traits of parents
› Past experiences› Physical appearance› Social status
DATING: Principles of Attraction
We are generally attracted to: People who make you feel as able,
attractive, and worthy as you are. People who seem popular with your
friends. People who can satisfy a particular need People who remind you of pleasant
experiences. People who remind you of positive
relationships in your home environment.
DATING: Principles of Attraction
**You can also be repelled by people who remind you of negative experiences**
Definitions Homogamy: Marrying similar people in terms of
their social or cultural characteristics Heterogamy: Marrying people different in social
or cultural characteristics (opposites attract) Endogamy: Marriage within a group Exogamy: Marriage to partners from other
cultural groups Hypogamy: marrying someone of less age,
height or socio-economic status Hypergamy: marrying someone older, taller or
higher in socio-economic status.
END OF DATING NOTES!!! On to some case studies …
DATING RULESImagine you are a parent …. We will now take a few minutes to
discuss how parents may feel about certain dating situations, using the case studies.
You Are the Parent CASE STUDY #1: Your daughter comes home from a date and is
upset. When you ask her what is wrong, she explains that her date took her to a party where he got drunk. She was very frightened as he drove her home. How would that make you, as a parent, feel?
You Are the Parent CASE STUDY #2: Your son comes home from a date
and confides in you that his date seduced him. How would you feel? What would you do?
You Are the Parent CASE STUDY #3 It’s 11:45 pm. Your daughter runs in the
door crying. After you calm her down, she tells you that her date raped her. How would you feel? What would you do?
You Are the Parent CASE STUDY #4 Your daughter comes into your room to talk to
you late one night and says: “Mom, Dad, I’ve been waiting for the right time to tell you this, but there just doesn’t seem to be a right time. I think I’m pregnant.” How would you feel? What would you do?
You Are the Parent CASE STUDY #5 A car full of teens pulls up in front of
your house and honks the horn for your son/daughter. Just as she/he is leaving the house, you see beer cans in the rear window of the car. What would you do?
You Are the Parent CASE STUDY #6 Your son is really infatuated with a girl at
school. Every time you have seen this girl she has been wearing revealing clothing. Does this concern you? What would you do?
If You Were the Parent… What rules would you have for your
teenager? What would keep them safe?
What about your rules?
What dating rule are you going to live by when you go off to college or move out on your own?
ValuesReview: › Values are the principles that we believe in and that should guide our behavior.
› What we value has a big impact on who we date.
Dating We usually depend on our friends and
families to introduce us to eligible partners.
North Americans are increasingly turning to dating services to assist them when they are no longer meeting people who interest them.
Assignment: Part 1 Write up 10 of your own personal rules
and responsibilities relating to dating behaviors. Behaviors need to comply with your personal values and that protect yourself.
Assignment: Part 2 Using your 10 values, make a personal
ad for yourself (similar to one that may go on a dating site).
Include a little bit about yourself and what you are looking for in a partner. You may also include what you are NOT looking for but try to make it as positive as possible. Do not focus on the negative.
AbbreviationsList of single-letter abbreviationsThe following are examples of singleletter abbreviations used in threeletter acronyms (TLAs).
The first letter describes the personseeking.
D: Divorced F: Female G: Gay M: Male (or Man) M: Married S: Single T: Transgender W: Woman or Widower
Middle letterThe middle letter represents theethnicity of the person posting the ad.Can be replaced by 4, standing for ("seeking", "desires", etc.). A: Asian B: Black H: Hispanic J: Jewish or Japanese L: Latino or Latina W: White
Last letter C: Couple F: Female M: Male (or Man) T: Transgender W: Woman