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Mindset

Are you at Cause or Effect?

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Mindset

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Table of Contents Mindset 3

Are you at Cause or Effect? 3

Cause and Effect Cycles 4

Choosing to be at cause 6

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Mindset

Are you at Cause or Effect?

Every day you have a choice. You can choose to be at cause for your life in spite of the circumstances or you can be at the effect of those same circumstances.

One of the most common issues faced by people in their lives and leadership is life happening. How you respond makes a difference.

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Cause and Effect Cycles

Do you want to be at cause for your life, or at the effect of life happening to you?

If you genuinely want the latter... read no more, you are in danger of gaining the former. Are you like a thermometer? Reacting to the external environment?

Or, are you like a thermostat, changing and adapting and controlling what you can control to change the environment?

I need to emphasise to you, that there is no right or wrong here. Both being at cause and being at effect exist simultaneously. We cannot ever be completely and solely at cause for ourselves.. Whilst both cycles exist and we cannot NOT be at some effect of the outside world, it is recognizing that WE HAVE A CHOICE to make.

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Cause and Effect Cycles

Consider an everyday challenge or issue you deal with and tick the box on the side of each decision step that is typical for you. Be completely honest with yourself. This is not what you would “like to be like” this is

how you really are: Typically I take action anticipating a change in the external environment

Typically I react to something external happening

When facing obstacles I will experiment as many times as needed until I overcome the obstacle.

When facing obstacles I look for and find ways to adapt until I avoid the obstacle.

I strive to get the results I desire.

I am content when I get “good enough” results.

I deliberately celebrate when I have overcome the obstacle and gotten the desired results.

I am often disappointed with the results I get and myself.

I make sure that I learn from the experience and consider how this will help me in the future.

There is nothing that I can learn from the experience. What happens, happens. What will be, will be.

Most this side? You are more at cause

Most this side? You are more at effect. Where can you choose to be more at cause?

Let’s check where you are, most of the time. Now it’s obvious which one you perhaps “should” be, but that’s not the question. Where are you most of the time now?

Be honest with you. If you are even tempted a little to “cheat” – you are cheating yourself, not me. It doesn’t matter to me. It’s your life, not mine. But if you think that you can fool you, then you’re at the effect of something, I’m just not sure what exactly.

Many of your more automated routine avoidance of responsibility habits are not your fault exactly. Well, they are, but you can, if you choose, blame your parents for many of them.

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Mindset

Choosing to be at cause

Reacting and avoiding obstacles always appears to be the easiest option. What the sign doesn’t tell you is that one is a highway, the other a treacherous mountain pass suitable for goats.

4 steps

Work in pairs

Share with your “coach” your biggest negative voice. COACH – work through the steps with your buddy.

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Changing from Effect to Cause Mindset

Step1. Learn to hear your effect mindset "voice." "Maybe I don't have the ability. Are you sure you can do it?"

"What if I fail—I’ll be a failure"

"People will laugh at me for thinking I had talent."

"If I don’t try, I can protect myself and keep my dignity."

Have you heard your inner voice with these or similar statements? Learn to hear your inner Effect

Mindset voice.

Obstacles will be there whatever you decide and whatever you do. When you meet a setback, your inner

voice might say:

"This would have been a snap if I really had the ability"

"I knew this was risky. Now everyone knows how useless I am"

"If I back out now and make excuses, maybe I can regain my dignity."

When criticised you may hear yourself say:

"It's not my fault. It was [something or someone else's] fault."

"Who do they think they are to tell me..."

Or maybe someone is giving you constructive feedback but you hear:

"You are a great disappointment. I thought that you were clever and talented but now I see that you are

not."

Step 2. Recognize that you have a choice. Realise that how you interpret challenges, setbacks, and criticism is your choice. You can interpret them in

an effect mindset as signs that your fixed talents or abilities are lacking. Or you can interpret them in a

cause mindset as signs that you need to ramp up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself, and expand

your abilities. It’s up to you.

So as you face challenges, setbacks, and criticism, listen to the fixed mindset voice and...

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Step 3. Talk back to it with a cause mindset voice. As you approach a challenge:

THE EFFECT-MINDSET says “Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don’t have the talent.”

THE CAUSE-MINDSET answers, “I’m not sure I can do it now, but I think I can learn to with time and effort.”

EFFECT MINDSET: “What if you fail—you’ll be a failure”

CAUSE MINDSET: “Most successful people had failures along the way.”

EFFECT MINDSET: “If you don’t try, you can protect yourself and keep your dignity.”

CAUSE MINDSET: “If I don’t try, I automatically fail. Where’s the dignity in that?”

As you hit a setback:

EFFECT MINDSET: “This would have been a snap if you really had talent.”

CAUSE MINDSET: “That is so wrong. Basketball wasn’t easy for Michael Jordan and science wasn’t easy

for Thomas Edison. They had a passion and put in tons of effort.

As you face criticism:

EFFECT MINDSET: “It’s not my fault. It was something or someone else’s fault.”

CAUSE MINDSET: “If I don’t take responsibility, I can’t fix it. Let me listen—however painful it is– and learn

whatever I can.”

Then...

Step 4. Take the cause mindset action. Over time, which voice you heed becomes pretty much your choice. Whether you

take on the challenge wholeheartedly,

learn from your setbacks and try again

hear the criticism and act on it is now in your hands.

Practice hearing both voices, and practice acting on the growth mindset. See how you can make it work for

you.