Etiquette

Foundations for Success book

Page: 355

ICEBREAKER

1.You are given M&Ms on a plate.

2. You must eat the M&Ms on a plate with your fork

Reflection• How do you usually eat M&Ms?

• How did you feel as you tried to eat your M&Ms with a fork?

• What foods do you eat one way in public, but eat another way at home?

Introduction

What is Etiquette?

What you will Learn Key Terms

What you will Learn

I will know the proper etiquette

for various events

Key Terms• Protocol: A code of precedence in rank and status and of correct

procedures in ceremonies; a form of etiquette observed in ceremonies; combination of good manners and common sense that allows for effective communications.

• Receiving line: A group of people, including the host and honored guest, who stand in line and individually welcome guests attending a function, at a formal reception.

• Repast: A supply of food and drink served as a meal.

• Sorbet: A fruit-flavored ice served for dessert or in between courses as a palate refresher.

• Stag: Unaccompanied by someone of the opposite sex; traditionally, a man who attends a social affair without escort of a woman.

• Stilted: Stiffly or artificially dignified or formal; pompous; lofty

• Tines: Slender pointed parts of a fork; prongs

Key Terms• Comradeship: Companionship• Curtly: Rudely brief or abrupt, as in speech or manner• Dining-in: A formal military dinner for military members only• Dining-out: A formal military dinner to which non-military guest

are invited• Etiquette: A code of behavior based on rules of a polite society• Martial: Of or relating to army or military life• Monopolize: To take exclusive ownership or control• Palate- The sense of taste• Place Cards: A name card for a formal dinner

Sequence of Events• 1800- Pictures/ Mix and Mingle• 1900- Receiving Line• 1915- Posting of the Colors and Pledge of

Allegiance• 1920- Opening Remarks• 1922- Cadet Creed• 1930- Toasts• 1935- Reading of the Military Ball History• 1940- Invocation• 1945- Buffet Dinner• 2045- Introduction of Guest Speaker• 2046- Guest Speaker Remarks• 2110- Closing Remarks• 2120- Retire the Colors• 2115- Administrative Notes • 2130- Music and Dancing

Pictures/ Mingle

Pictures- Fill out the form and pay up front.

As you Mix and Mingle Introductions - Example: LTC Marsh I would like you to meet

my date…. I am…

- If you are stag you introduce yourself

Receiving Line• A group of people, including the host and honored guest attending a

function, as at a formal reception.

• All Cadets and their guest go through the receiving line.

• Ladies precede gentleman

• Gentleman introduces the lady first, then himself to Adjutant

Examples:

- Do: CPT Mann I would like you to meet my date…. I am…

- Don’t: What’s happenin’ I am… this is… oh I am…hey dude this is…

• Stag: Unaccompanied by someone of the opposite sex; traditionally, a man who attends a social affair without escort of a lady.

• If you are stag you should introduce yourself to the Adjutant

• Adjutant will announce your name to the host as you step in front of them.

• Give a simple greeting

- Example: Good evening, nice to meet you

Seating Females/ Males

• Gentleman do not sit down until all the ladies at the table have been seated

• He should first seat his guest, then seat other ladies if needed

• Pull out the lady’s chair, then seat her by gently pushing the chair under her.

• If a lady leaves the table, the gentleman who seated her should rise. As she returns the gentleman should rise again.

• Do not touch anything on the table, not even a napkin, until after the blessing.

Posting of the Colors• Cadets in uniform should stand at

attention

• Face stage where colors are posted

• Present arms during the Pledge of Allegiance those in civilian attire - hand over heart

• Everyone recites Pledge

• Remain standing to recite the Cadet Creed

Toasting Someone will stand to make a toast,

saying…” Ladies and Gentlemen, I propose a toast to the United States of America.” Everyone replies, holding drinks up, “To the United States.” Then to the President, Army, and JROTC. Next, we toast “To the ladies.” (After they are seated.)

Methods, Manners, and Courtesies of

Eating

Punch

•American Style •European Style

There Are Two Different Eating Styles

American Style

• Cutting food should be done by holding the fork in your left hand, tines down with your index finger on the back of the fork, secure the food being cut with knife, which is held in your right hand. Cut in front of fork, not behind. After cutting a few pieces place the knife on the plate and put the fork in your right hand. Also known as the zigzag method.

How It Looks:

European Style

• Hold fork in your left hand and the knife in your right hand. Cut and eat with your fork, tines down, while still holding in left hand.

- Only one bite of food is cut and eaten at a

time.

- When not using your fork, rest it diagonally on

the left side of the plate with the tines down

close to the center of the plate.

Silverware

• After you have used a piece of silverware, do not place it back on the table.

• Do not leave a used spoon in a cup; place it on the saucer.

• Place all silverware on your plate after you complete eating.

• Leave unused silverware on the table in its proper position.

• If you drop silverware, do not pick it up until the meal is over.

Napkin• Do not tuck the napkin under your belt or wear

it like a bib.

• Napkins are for dabbing lips, catching spills, and covering sneezes.

• Before taking a drink of water, or any beverage, wipe your lips with your napkin to avoid smearing the glass.

• If you leave the table during dinner, say “Excuse me, please.” and place your napkin on your chair.

Basic Table Manners• Take small bites

- Do not chew with your mouth open

- Do not talk with your mouth full• If you burp, say “Excuse me”• Elbows, hats, gloves, cameras, purses, and sunglasses do

not belong on the table• Your hands should go no further over the table than

necessary to eat and pass things.• If you cannot reach something, ask for it to be passed with

a please and thank you• If you drop something, leave it on the floor until the meal is

over.

How To Eat:

How Not To Eat:

Table Talk• Do

- Keep conversation light

- Answer respectfully when addressed

- Be a good listener

• Don’t

- Talk too quickly or too slowly

- Yell or curse

- Interrupt

- Ridicule or laugh at an unfortunate remark or

someone’s mistake.

What to Wear: Males

• Males in JROTC wear the Class A uniform. The Class A jacket must be worn until the dancing starts.

• Males who are not in JROTC should wear a tux or suit.

What to Wear: Females

• All females should wear a formal Dress

• School dress codes apply

If your Military Ball date is not a cadet in JROTC please teach

them Etiquette

Review

1. Tines are the slender pointed parts of a fork.2. A gentleman does not sit down until all the ladies at the table have

been seated.3. CPT Mann I would like you to meet my date…. I am… is the wrong

way to introduce yourself and date4. A gentleman introduces himself first, then his date to the adjutant 5. There are five toast made during the military ball6. On the table there will be two glasses; one for water and one for

wine.7. The American style of eating is also known as the zigzag method8. Only one bite of food is cut and eaten at a time with the European

style of eating.

• True or False

Review

9. Place all silverware in your cup after you complete eating.10. If you leave the table during dinner, say “excuse me, please,” and place your napkin on your chair.11. If you cannot reach something, ask it to be passed with a please

and thank you.12. When talking at the dinner table make sure to be loud and be heard

by your table.13. Males in JROTC wear the Class A uniform. The Class A jacket

must be worn until the dancing starts.14. Females may wear a dress that does meet the school dress code.15. When a cadet is STAG the cadet should introduce themselves

throughout the night.

• True or False

THE END