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EVENT{FULL}Monthly updates from your {FULL} Life community

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Memory care expert shares tips for copingDuring the recent grand-opening activities, noted author Anne Hill, JD, shared personal experience and invaluable insights with a standing-room-only crowd. The presentation included Anne’s top 10 tips for coping when facing the onset of Alzheimer’s disease or other dementia in a loved one. Anne’s tips have come from her own experience, as her mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease Sept. 12, 2001.

1. You have to change. Your family member can’t change.

• The hippocampi process everything—smells, vision, balance, etc. With dementia,

messages aren’t delivered.

• Signs of early-stage dementia include diminishing short-term memory (repeating questions), personality changes (as the frontal lobe changes), and isolation.

2. Learn to act (or how to react).

• Dementia is brain failure; it’s not dissimilar to heart failure/kidney failure/liver failure, etc. Except, it’s your brain, which controls everything. We don’t scold people for having heart failure; they can’t help it. The same is true for people with a dementia.

• Ninety percent of communication is nonverbal,

so watch yours. For example, avoid sighing or concealing your feelings.

3. A good mood is your best ally.

• Learn how to keep it (and get it back).

• Identify six ways to get your loved one back to a good mood. (It might be eating cookies, talking about cats, the children or grandchildren, swearing, getting a treat at Dairy Queen … just identify six ways: You’ll need them.

4. Never argue!

5. Develop a thick skin.

• You’ll need a thick

From Halloween costumes to beanbag baseball with local children, it’s been a fun, full fall.

Enjoying autumn fun

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Sharing the {FULL} Life!

Featured: Cottage 27

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Featured: River Lodge home 325

Offers: 1,065 square feet, one bedroom, one bathroom, den, view overlooking water feature, award-winning River Lodge, easy river access, and gas fireplace

It’s a great way to celebrate the season. We invite you to visit and share the joy, friendship, and fun—discover all that’s offered at Touchmark. Happy holidays to you and yours!

(cont.) skin for the times your loved one yells at you, “I hate you!”

• Never respond in kind.

6. Help your loved one role shift gracefully.

• People with dementia become less able to do things. Find kind ways to exit a situation that allows the person to maintain his/her dignity.

7. Build two teams:

• The first one is for your loved one. The team could include the doctor, dentist, neighbor, social worker, religious advisor, etc.

• The second one is for you: Your doctor, dentist, counselor, social worker, good friend (who is a listener and not a solver), etc.

8. Use your teams.

9. Network, so you don’t lose yourself.

• Keep up with your book clubs/music/whatever interests you and allows you to nurture yourself.

10. Remember the good times—and know there will always be more.

Bonus tips:

11. Treat caregivers well.

12. I tell staff when I speak with them, “Treat family members well.”

The Cascade Business News featured Touchmark’s new service. Read the story online: http://www.cascadebusnews.com/news-pages/e-headlines/4544-touchmark-unveils-memory-care-wing.

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Preserving life stories for the future

Resident Mildred Rochelle wanted to pass on her life stories. So she loved it when her two granddaughters asked her write down the family’s history. Ever since that request, Mildred has been working on her legacy book. She’s documenting facts, writing down memories, and going through her mother’s and grandmother’s old trunk looking for photos.

Then Touchmark offered a class, called Stories Connect Us, which helped Mildred explore even deeper the topics of family and career. “I’ve always been very family oriented,” says Mildred, who shared some highlights from her legacy story.

Mildred had an impressive career in education and holds a bachelor’s degree from Pepperdine University and a master’s from the University of California Los Angeles. After living in California and Tennessee, Mildred moved to Bend to be closer to her daughter.

“I traded the ocean for the pine trees, and that’s not so bad. I love Touchmark, the wonderful staff and people I have met here.” Mildred is a firm believer that anyone can be happy where they want to be happy, because it is all a state of mind.

Mildred Rochelle has been participating in Touchmark’s Stories Connect Us class, which helps people record and pass along memories.

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Marge Coalman, EdDVice President of Wellness & Programs

Celebrating the possibilities

“‘Why not’ is a slogan for an interesting life.” – Mason Cooley, professor and aphorist

Year’s end brings a time for reflection and shared memories. All of the holidays and holy days for people of faith have celebratory events and traditions. Often the gifts of the spirit, friendships, family relationships, victories, and losses are remembered.

As 2014 approaches, many ponder, “What’s next?” Perhaps the better question is, “Why not?” Things on the bucket list might be due for a move to the action list.

Healthy aging means nurturing curiosity, passion, and imagination. Lifelong learning, community service, volunteerism, adventures, and new beginnings are characteristics of Touchmark champions.

To learn more about champions and share your individual talents, strengths, and skills, contact a member of the Full Life team. Continuing to grow and succeed in self-determined goals is the essence of active aging.

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Contact a Full Life team member for additional details, including registration, transportation information, and participation requirements.

First week in December Join us for Christmas and holidays decorating. We will have the trees up and ornaments available for decorating. Enjoy hot drinks and treats. Watch the calendar for locations and times.

Thursday, Dec. 5, 10 am Informational session on the Oregon Telecommunication Device Access program. Terrace Lodge Lounge.

Friday, Dec. 6, 11 am Jingle Bell Walk for Arthritis at Touchmark. We’re hosting an indoor, one-mile walk through the hallways of the Terrace and Cliff Lodges. Registration is $10 for the Touchmark walk and includes registration for the walk in downtown Bend on Saturday, Dec. 7. Bring a nonperishable food item to donate to a local food bank. Drop off at any lodge.

Friday, Dec. 6, 4 pm Bells of Sunriver Performance. Terrace Lodge Forum.

Saturday, Dec. 7, 10:30 am Join the outdoor walk on in downtown Bend, sponsored by the Arthritis Foundation. Invite your friends and family. All are welcome.

Monday, Dec. 16, 2 pm Armchair Traveler goes to Russia. Watch a video and sample food from Russia. Hear from residents who have traveled to this interesting country. Terrace Lodge Forum.

Tuesday, Dec. 17, 5 pm Brew Crew will visit Broken Top Bottle Shop.

Thursday, Dec. 19, 11 am Touchmark Connections Support Group will meet on in the Four Seasons Private Dining Room. Anyone who is caring for a loved one with memory issues is invited.

Thursday, Dec. 26, 5 pm Christmas Holiday Dinner with a Russian theme.

Tuesday, Dec. 31, 7 pm New Year’s Eve Celebration with the Alley Cats.

See the full calendar of events online: TouchmarkBend.com/pdf/community-event-calendar.pdf.

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