Proper social

Etiquette

WHAT IS ETIQUETTE?

As a literal translation , etiquette simply means a collection

of little reminders to help people understand how to behave in

various situations…

Etiquette ensures that people know what society in general

expects; it provides standard rules for appropriate behavior.

The purpose of etiquette isn't to put on a show for the benefit

of others with appearances and facades.

Etiquette involves an attitude of respect and concern toward

others to ensure that everyone feels valued and comfortable.

If someone lacks an understanding of basic etiquette, he

might feel uncomfortable in social situations.

With this discomfort, he might experience embarrassment or timidity

that puts him at a disadvantage.

With a solid foundation in etiquette and manners, a person

can feel strong and confident, even in new or unfamiliar

situations.

When a person has strong social skills and understands how

to treat others respectfully and politely, he can navigate

virtually anything.

WHY IS ETIQUETTE IMPORTANT?

During meals

At parties or social events

While having a conversation with a teacher

When meeting a new girlfriends parents

During an interview

Moving to a new neighborhood

Starting a new job

Many, many, more…

Proper etiquette is important in several social situations;

the following slides will cover some basics that can be

valuable in various circumstances.

NAME SOME SITUATIONS WHERE PROPER

ETIQUETTE CAN BE BENEFICIAL

A-Men remain standing until women are seated.

B-Women and men take turns one by one; first a woman sits,

then a man.

C-Everyone stands and waits for the host to be seated. Then,

all sit.

TRADITIONALLY, HOW SHOULD MEN AND

WOMEN TAKE THEIR SEATS IN A

RESTAURANT OR AT A DINNER PARTY?

"Traditionally, men remain standing until women are

seated.

This is an especially nice gesture when guests are of

different generations, such as grandsons showing

courtesy and respect to their grandmothers.

Men assist women with their chairs unless the waiter

or host does."

A-MEN REMAIN STANDING UNTIL WOMEN

ARE SEATED.

A-As soon as you are served.

B-When the people on either side of you have been

served.

C-After everyone is served.

AT MEALS,

WHEN SHOULD YOU START EATING?

"Wait until everyone is served before starting to eat

in a private home or restaurant.

For family meals, the mother starts first. Guests

should wait for the hosts. No one should leave the

table until everyone is finished."

C-AFTER EVERYONE IS SERVED.

A-Lay the knife and fork across your plate with the

handles at four o'clock.

B-Place your utensils next to each other, on the

tablecloth, above your plate.

C-Position your utensils on your plate so that the

knife and fork form an "X".

AT THE END OF THE MEAL, WHAT SHOULD

YOU DO WITH YOUR KNIFE AND FORK TO

SIGNAL THAT YOU HAVE FINISHED EATING?

Lay the knife and fork across your plate with

the handles at four o'clock (think of a clock

face) to signal that you have finished eating.

A-LAY THE KNIFE AND FORK ACROSS YOUR

PLATE WITH THE HANDLES AT FOUR

O'CLOCK.

A-Only between courses.

B-While you are eating.

C-Never.

WHEN IS IT ACCEPTABLE TO PUT YOUR

ELBOWS ON THE TABLE?

Never say never. Contrary to popular belief,

elbows on the table is acceptable between

courses or after everyone has finished eating,

but never during the meal.

A-ONLY BETWEEN COURSES.

Proper posture at the table is very important .

To show that you're alert and engaged, don't slouch.

Make sure to sit up straight, with your arms held near your

body. Never hang your elbows heavily on the table when at a

formal dinner.

POSTURE AT THE TABLE

A-Announce to everyone, "I 've gotta go to the toilet."

B-Say, "Excuse me for a moment, I ' l l be right back."

C-Say nothing -- just leave.

D-Sit quietly and suffer until the meal is over.

DURING THE MEAL YOU NEED TO VISIT THE

RESTROOM. WHAT DO YOU DO?

Publicly announcing bodily functions is crass.

If you gotta go, you gotta go -- just leave with

the minimum amount of fuss.

A quiet "Excuse me for a moment, I'll be right

back" is sufficient.

B-SAY, "EXCUSE ME FOR A MOMENT, I'LL BE

RIGHT BACK."

True or False?

It is important to be on time for school, work, meetings, events, and

other social occasions.

The obvious answer is True- being late consistently makes you

unreliable… says you clearly do not respect other people’s time , only

yours.

But…

When it comes to dinner parties or social gatherings at someone's

home, it is common to arrive 5-10 minutes late to be sure the

host has had time to get everything set up.

BEING ON TIME

It takes 30 seconds for a person meeting you for the first time

to form impressions about you, your character, and abilities.

Always be prepared to look and sound your best:

You’re always “onstage”

Good grooming is essential

Smile and make eye contact

You never get a second chance to make a first impression!

HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO FORM A

FIRST IMPRESSION?

Job opportunities, relationship possibilities, invitations to

social events, and your mental health and self-esteem are all

inextricably linked to how you present yourself to the world.

Grooming is simply one of those things that there is no excuse

not to take time and effort with.

Name some basic components of being well

groomed and discuss their importance.

Hair, teeth, skin, nails, body odor, clothes, shoes, etc…

GOOD GROOMING

AND PERSONAL HYGIENE

Stand up or remain seated?

Stand up

Look them in the eye?

Always, good eye contact shows confidence and focus.

Give a high five, a fist bump, or a firm handshake?

A firm handshake

A firm handshake conveys confidence, assurance, interest

and respect

WHEN BEING INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE

SHOULD YOU:

PAIR-UP

AND PRACTICE A PROPER HANDSHAKE

Make sure your handshake is f i rm, not a dead fish grip. However, you don’t want to crush the other person’s hand.

Make sure you don’t have food or grease on your hands. You want the person to remember you, not what you ate.

I f your hands are sweaty, give them a quick nonchalant wipe on your pants.

When you of fer your hand, look the person in the eye and smile.